Helping high achieving Christian men have more intimate marriages. Start with episodes 1-4 for an introduction. Traditional marriage counseling, couples therapy, couples counseling and even Christian marriage counseling will tell you that a good marriage is based on compromise. Validating feelings. Sacrifice. I tried that for years. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work. That’s why most couples who go through marriage counseling are the same or worse off after. BUT, in my studies in neuroscience at ...
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Acknowledge One Way You Have Hurt Your Wife (Thursday Challenge)
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Tuesday we talked about how to help your wife feel safe. Acknowledge that you’ve hurt her… And make the appropriate changes. Today you’ll acknowledge 1 way you’ve hurt your wife, which will help start the healing process. (If you want help on knowing what to do after that to make your changes last, book a call to see if our program is the right fit…
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How To Help Your Wife Feel Safe In Your Christian Marriage
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How To Help Your Wife Feel Safe In Your Christian Marriage If your wife is saying she doesn’t feel safe… Either with her words… Or by distancing herself from you emotionally or physically… It’s time to increase the safety in your marriage. How do you do that? Not by telling her you are safe… But by SHOWING her. By getting into her pain and making t…
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Connect With Your Child Today [Thursday Challenge]
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Today’s challenge is to find a way to connect with your child. If you have more than one child, choose the child that it’s most difficult to connect with. And, find a way to “meet them where they are.” A great way is to join them in something that they already enjoy. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. Reply to this post with the results of your c…
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What To Do When Your Child Rejects You (Especially In A Divorce)
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Today I have a special interview with Cathy Himlin, LMFT from Himlin Consulting. Cathy specializes in helping parents, primarily fathers, navigate their relationships with their children during and after a divorce. Whether you are concerned about losing your children in a divorce and want to make the transition as smooth as possible… Or just want t…
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Choose A Healthy Emotional Release [Thursday Challenge]
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Tuesday we talked about releasing emotions in a healthy way. Today, choose 1 emotion… And choose 1 healthy way to release it. Then, let me know what you choose. And, if you try the release, let me know how it went. Watch on YouTube here. (Lorena new link here for YouTube) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eY13pnVVwwo (Lorena new links here for YouTub…
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How To Control Your Emotions In Your Christian Marriage Relationship
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Do you find yourself… Avoiding your emotions… Pretending like you’re OK when you’re not… Or wanting to avoid seeming anxious, sad or angry in front of your wife? A lot of us as men think that emotional strength is about not “letting emotions get to us.” But, emotions are like farts. They need to be RELEASED. And ideally, in healthy ways that don’t …
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Think of 3 reasons why your wife is RIGHT to create distance from you. How have you been a poor choice for her? Then, work on those 3 reasons. Make yourself a better choice. And, for a complete system to make yourself a great choice, join Strong Men Strong Marriages. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally …
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How to Save Your Christian Marriage Alone
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When you’re trying to save your Christian marriage… But your wife doesn’t seem to be trying… It can be very frustrating and defeating. You can feel lost and unsure of what to do. And, men often make significant mistakes when they try to save their marriage alone. Learn what those mistakes are… And what to do instead… In today’s episode. Watch on Yo…
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If you’re trying to save your marriage, you are probably praying for help. And that is a good and proper thing to do. AND, it’s also necessary to do MORE than pray to save it. It’s like praying to become a doctor. You can pray for it… But unless you go to medical school… It won’t happen. The same is true here. Definitely pray for your marriage. AND…
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Probably the most effective prayer to save your marriage is this. Pray to feel God’s love for you at a DEEP level every day. As you FEEL that love from Him… It will FILL you… Make you less needy, more compassionate, and more loving… And therefore more attractive. As a bonus, pray to see and love your wife as God does too. This video and this book h…
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If you’ve been on the fence about joining Strong Men Strong Marriages… It’s time to get off the fence and apply. CLICK HERE to apply today. I’ll hear from you soon. Dr. MikeBy Mike Frazier, MD
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How To Save Your Christian Marriage In 3 Simple Steps
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If your wife is talking about separation or divorce… Or you need to save your marriage from being roommates for the next 30 years… There are 3 simple steps that will take you from feeling disconnected and stuck in your marriage… To having the fun, passion and intimacy again. Learn what they are in today’s episode. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Ma…
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Thursday Challenge - What Are Your Plans For Mother’s Day?
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OK. You have 3 days until Mother’s Day. What are your plans? Reply on LinkedIn and let me know! Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. Reply to this post with the results of your challenge! P.P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife,…
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How to Make Mother’s Day Special for Your Wife
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Mother’s Day is this Sunday… And it’s a great chance to show your love and appreciation for your wife. Most moms feel like they’re not doing a great job, or at least could be doing better. This is your chance to show your wife just how much you and your kids appreciate her. Show love and take leadership. That’s what’s ATTRACTIVE to your wife. Get s…
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Thursday Challenge - Make And Keep A Promise
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From now on, each Thursday you’ll get a challenge to apply the material from Tuesday’s podcast. For this week the challenge is: Make and keep a promise. It can be big or small (though I recommend small), and it can be to yourself or someone else. Follow through on that promise… And reply to this email to let me know how it went. What was the prom…
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Self-worth is your inherent value. You have it just because you exist. God loves you and is pleased with you just because you exit. Self-esteem is the overall thoughts and feelings you have about yourself. Both of these are more about THINKING and FEELING. Self-confidence, on the other hand, is about DOING. You build self-confidence by… *Making a…
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Last week we talked about increasing your self-worth. Your self-worth is your inherent value, which doesn’t ever change and is great and infinite as a son of God. Your self-esteem is your relationship with yourself. In other words, your thoughts and feelings about yourself. Most high achieving guys have the mindset of “I can do better.” This is a m…
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How To Increase Your Self-Worth In 3 Simple Steps
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I used to believe that I had to work to be worthy. That my self-worth was determined by what I accomplished. And, I still fall into that trap sometimes. But it is a trap. Because no matter how much you accomplish… You can always accomplish more. Instead of this trap, try the 3 simple steps in today’s episode. *See yourself as a beloved son of God…
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How To Find Internal Peace And Acceptance
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For most of my life, I’ve felt like I need to achieve to be valuable. I haven’t really felt like I could ever rest. I was either “growing or dying.” The last few weeks have shown me that this isn’t really what God intends or wants for me… or for you. Instead, we can find rest in knowing we are Sons Of The King. That we are loved, accepted and forgi…
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Use Teamwork To Stop Viewing Porn - Interview With Emmanuel and Bekah Guarino From Team Vulnerable
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Today we get to meet Emmanual and Bekah Guarino, founders of Team Vulnerable. You’ll hear their story of how Emmanuel: -Struggled with pornography for YEARS -Eventually shared his struggle with Bekah -Found a way to work as a team to help Emmanuel overcome pornography… to the point that he doesn’t really feel tempted at all to view it Watch on YouT…
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How To Earn Secure Attachment In Marriage
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Last week we learned about the problematic attachment styles in marriage. Today we’ll learn what we need to do to earn the secure attachment that we want in marriage. Secure attachment looks like: -A good balance between “me” and “we” -Feeling confident that your needs will be met -Expressing your thoughts and feelings and listening to your wife’s …
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Problematic Attachment Styles In Marriage
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You may have heard of the different attachment styles. Avoidant. Anxious/Ambivalent. Disorganized. And secure. Many high achieving men were brought up in avoidant, anxious/ambivalent or even disorganized homes. They learned the lesson that they need to figure things out on their own… and they did. That helped them be very successful in business and…
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How To Stop Unproductive Conflict In Your Marriage
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Every marriage has conflict. In some marriages it’s very emotional and volatile, with screaming matches. In others, it’s buried under the surface with one or both spouses silently resenting the other. In others, one spouse wants to talk things out, while the other wants to avoid the conversation. Whatever your pattern is, there’s a reason for it. A…
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How To Boost Testosterone Naturally - With Jason Sani From The Manhood Experiment Podcast
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Recently I got my testosterone checked. I found that my total testosterone was normal, but my free testosterone was low. This got me started on a path to try to figure out how to increase both free and total testosterone NATURALLY. Because testosterone replacement therapy SHUTS DOWN your body’s natural production. Jason has a long history of helpin…
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My Wife Stopped Wearing Her Wedding Ring - What Should I Do?
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When your wife takes off her wedding ring… It can signal a BIG alarm. Most men will either try to ignore this (while silently fearing what it might mean)… Become passive aggressive to “pay her back” for not wearing her ring… Or confront her in an angry way. Fortunately, there’s a better response that can lead to MORE intimacy and connection. Learn …
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There are scientifically proven ways to let our emotions flow in healthy ways. Those are: -Breathe -Name -Feel -Deal Learn more about these… with a specific example… in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotio…
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How To Feel Emotions Without Causing Problems
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I used to be afraid of emotions. And really, I still am a little. From what I saw, when people got overly angry, they broke things or hurt people. If they got overly sad, they got depressed or even suicidal. If they got anxious, they froze and didn’t accomplish anything. I certainly didn’t want to do this, and so I took the approach of trying to “t…
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3 Questions To Ask To Create More Intimacy Untitled Episode
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Here are 3 questions to ask if your wife is talking about a subject you’re not that interested in: -How did you feel about that? -What did you think about that? -Why do you like that/why is that important to you? Try to understand her thoughts and feelings, as that’s what real mental and emotional intimacy is. Try them out today! Watch on YouTube h…
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How To Listen To Your Wife When You’re Not Interested In The Topic
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When your wife starts talking about… -TV shows -Social media -A problem with her friend It can be easy to check out. You think “I don’t really care about this.” And so, you either PRETEND that you’re interested… Let your mind wander… Or don’t listen at all. But, you can actually use this as an opportunity to create MORE connection and intimacy. Lea…
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The day after Valentine’s can be pretty disappointing. But, at the end of the day, we get to choose how we live. And, according to Jesus, the best way to live is to love God, love our neighbors, and love ourselves. So, choose to love well today. Love God by thanking Him. Feel God’s love by remembering what He’s done for you. Love your wife by doing…
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I don’t often laugh at my own titles, but I have to say, this one was pretty good. Valentine’s Day is tomorrow. It’s a day that we celebrate romantic love. Depending on where your marriage is… That idea may be quite depressing. BUT, you can STILL make Valentine’s Day great. By taking the EMPOWERING stance of choosing to love well. Learn how to do t…
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When your wife is saying she might want to leave… It’s easy to try to scare her or guilt her into staying. Unfortunately, people don’t really like to be around people who scare or guilt trip them. So, stop doing that! Learn more about how to do that in today’s episode. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. (Loren…
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How To Make It Hard For Your Wife To Divorce You
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If your wife is talking about separation or divorce… You want to make it hard on her to divorce you. Some guys think that means telling your wife all the negative things that will happen if she divorces you. Telling her it will hurt the kids, hurt you, hurt her financially. Telling her God doesn’t want her to do this. Unfortunately, this only makes…
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Take a minute and answer that. What do you think God thinks about you? Your answer to this question can either lead you to feeling not good enough… Or empower you with incredible self worth. Learn how to let it empower you in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man wh…
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As a high achieving Christian man, there are a lot of people you might be trying to please. Your wife, your kids, your clients, your church members, your community… and God. That’s a lot of people, with a lot of different opinions. It just won’t be possible to make all of them happy. So, should you just “make yourself happy” and say “screw you” to …
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Believe it or not, there’s a great app that will help you build your emotional vocabulary, intelligence and strength. That, in turn, will allow you to have more empathy for your wife. When you know what you’re feeling, it will be a lot easier to relate to what your wife is feeling. You’ll be able to share your emotions (be known), and understand yo…
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How To Develop More Empathy For Your Wife
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Maybe your wife has told you that you don’t have much empathy. As a high achieving man, that’s likely true. We have often learned to shut down our emotions in order to “get things done.” While this helps in business, it creates major issues in our marriage. Learn how to stop telling people to “get over it…” And start practicing the empathy that lea…
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You may have tried a lot of things to stop using pornography. Here are the steps that have helped the men I’ve worked with (who have often tried many of the “traditional” programs): -Integrate your sexuality -Learn to manage your thoughts and emotions when you have the urge to view pornography -Reward yourself for having urges and not acting on the…
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How To Regain Trust After Pornography Use
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I’d say 100% of the men I work with either have struggled or currently struggle with pornography. This definitely breaks your wife’s trust in you… But also breaks your trust in yourself. That leads to low safety in the marriage, which leads to superficial communication and low sexual intimacy. Learn how to restore trust after pornography use in tod…
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How To Restore Communication After It’s Been Lost
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If you’re struggling to have meaningful communication in your marriage… A list of “what to say” just isn’t going to cut it. There’s a deeper reason why your communication has dried up. Until you address that, your wife won’t WANT to communicate with you. Learn how to fix the deeper issues that have created communication issues in your marriage… So …
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The Best Love Language For Your Marriage We all need to feel loved, valued and accepted. The best favor you can do to yourself… and your family… Is to love, value and accept yourself. Learn the tip I’m using now to do that in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man wh…
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Why The 5 Love Languages Are Not Working For Your Marriage
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The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman is a best selling marriage book. And, it has great concepts that can help you and your wife understand each other better. BUT, used the wrong way, the 5 Love Languages can actually make things WORSE in your marriage. If you’ve been trying to give your wife: -Words of affirmation -Physical touch -Acts of service …
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On today’s episode we’ll cover: -How to navigate an in-home separation -How to evaluate whether your behaviors are manipulative or not -What to do if your wife has filed for divorce Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional …
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Want sex with HER, not just sex. Don’t approach it with “I’m horny and she’s my only moral option.” That’s not attractive to anyone. Cold, warm, hot. Use flirting and touch to bring her into a zone of thinking more about sex. Integrate your full brain. Use your physical desire, your emotional admiration for her, and your choosing her as your life p…
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Sexual Strength In Marriage Sex is what makes a marriage relationship special. But, what we thought our sexual relationship might look like before marriage… And what it looks like once we’re married… Can be very different. Learn how to build your sexual strength so that you can… -Avoid turning to pornography or other negative outlets for sex -Appro…
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What is the most important physical thing you can do to be more attractive to your wife? According to 500 Christian wives, it’s just this. Look good, smell good. Get more details on this on today’s episode. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful C…
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Physical And Financial Strength In Marriage
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Strength across all areas is attractive to your wife. As men, we often overly focus on physical and financial strength as the measure of success. And, while women do value physical strength… It’s not quite in the way you might think. Same with financial strength. More money doesn’t necessarily mean more attraction. Learn how to build these strength…
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I never liked the word “need” in relationships. In fact, I’ve often taught that “neediness is unattractive.” However, I’ve come to believe a little differently. It’s true that for our internal needs, such as feeling good enough, we can’t rely on our wife. We need to find other resources for that. Because if we do rely on our wife for these internal…
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How To Build Emotional Strength In Marriage
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I used to think of emotional strength as never being overwhelmed by emotion. I didn’t want to be “too emotional.” I thought that was weakness. I wanted to be ruled my reason, not my emotions. However, being unable to really feel emotion is actually emotional weakness. Or numbness. Or deadness. It keeps you from really experiencing life. It also kee…
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