Productivity? Ehh, maybe later. Procrastination makes you crater. Thrashing can stop you, Overwhelm drops you. What if you had a translator? procrastination this could be because you’re overwhelmed, thrashing, or unmotivated. We’ll cover the first 2 of these today. (Motivation was covered in WCML 118: Peaceful Productivity 3: Peaceful Motivation, e…

Bea’s gonna talk; you should heed her. And tell all your friends who are readers To pick up her new book, And give it a look, To find out the 9 types of leaders. Beatrice Chestnut gives us an overview of the 9 different leadership styles, and for each Enneagram type, 1 example of how knowing your type can make you a better leader. Who is this for? …

“Productively manage your time.” Sounds like a steep uphill climb. But that is fallacious! You can feel spacious, And slacking need not be a crime. “not enough time” is a polite lie aligning your time with your priorities WCML 068: Wild Crazy Meaningful Death, with Caitlin Doughty pathfinding reminder: boil shoulds and have-to’s down to wants It’s …

Ben Saltzman has done an inspection Of how type sabotages connection. So listen up now To learn how to allow More intimacy and affection. How each of the 9 types sabotages relationships in a different way – and what quality is needed to stop doing that! Ben has a special offer just for listeners of our podcast (that’s you!), going deeper into how y…

Productivity? Self-flagellation. But only if you feel stagnation. Begin at the root And the rest follows suit: Help yourself feel motivation! we do what we most want to do (triple soul) why this is helpful – e.g. resistance to habit, procrastination, thrashing goals vs. intentions. does “goal” mean strict and rigid? if so then set an intention inst…

Enneagram Study Group: Pace and Kyeli dive into The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri. bridging the spirituality and psychology of Type Three, the Performer. Previous episodes in this series: WCME 031: Introduction to the Spiritual Dimension of Type Three (Essential Law, Essential Harmony, Essential Hope) Our previous podcast a…

Productivity isn’t traumatic If you make it less vague and erratic. Don’t push and don’t force, Instead, set the course, Then accomplish things on automatic! when it’s good to be on autopilot and when it’s dangerous. habits vs. practices (autopilot vs. mindful) habits got a bad rap “morning routines, morning autopilot, was what I have used, ever si…

Please welcome with grace and aplomb A guest who is simply the bomb. As you will soon see, He knows NLP And the Enneagram. Welcome, Tom! Tom Condon explains how NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) can be used with the Enneagram to help you change your stale patterns. Visual squash “What would be 3 good reasons to keep this reaction?” Moving inner vo…

Productivity? Better beware. I’ll compare, which will lead to despair. Instead of this struggle, How ’bout a nice snuggle? Let’s start off with peaceful self-care. making peace with productivity “I am hard on myself when I feel unproductive.” survey question. half the class agreed and the other half… strongly agreed. tapes rewriting tapes. you can’…

Rosemary Hurwitz teaches us how each of the nine types has a Wellness Map: how the Enneagram’s stress and security points can guide us away from our unwell tendency and towards our “heaven on earth.” “God doesn’t ask us to be perfect. God asks us to be in conscious process.” -Rosemary Hurwitz 1: Good Reformer “Not my problem” 2: Loving Giver “Givin…

2017 is nigh here; Let’s shift to a much lower gear. We’ve always preferred To choose just one word To set our intent for the year. Pace’s previous words of the year: acceptance, annihilation, surrender, pantry, easy mode Kyeli’s previous words of the year: courageous, open, mermaid, epic How easy mode has shaped Pace’s 2016 How epic has shaped Kye…

I learned quite a lot on each day, And made some great friends by the way. And all this despite Being quite old and white – Get hype for the great IEA! Helen Palmer: “Your type is an adaptive strategy to keep you secure in the world.” -Helen Palmer Identity feels like choosing but it’s really automatic When I get triggered, instead of reacting outw…

If to thine own self you are true, If there’s nothing you wish to undo, You won’t fall apart. You’ll have your whole heart, And that means you’ll have your whole you. all 9 limericks” “God doesn’t care about the size of your cookies.” -Kyeli WCML 087: “If you’re not going to devote yourself to it 24/7/365, why bother?” a kyriarchical memeplex! Than…

Here are my takeaways from the panel on the three instincts, with panelists Russ Hudson, Mario Sikora, Beatrice Chestnut, and Tom Condon. Russ: The instincts are energies in the body. Behaviors are symptoms. You want balance. Dominant instinct is your jet fuel for how you lose connection with your essence. Mario: Clusters of evolutionary behaviors.…

I must keep the beast under guard, In a cage always minded and barred. If the beast were set free, I fear I would be As awful as Jean-Luc Picard. A bad person + a conscience = a good person A selfish person + a filter = a considerate person A selfish person is a kind person who is not getting their needs met Praetor Shinzon from Star Trek: Nemesis …

Here are my takeaways from Sylvia Haskvitz’s talk at the IEA 2016 Conference. It’s not about being right or wrong, it’s about needs. I made a list of every bad thing my dad had done to me. We talked. His perception was completely different. Go from “Us vs. Them” to “What are the needs?” Request vs demand. Need + person = request. A demand is when y…

“Get out there and give it your best! Your friends are all being oppressed!” What if I’m too stressed, Or madly depressed? What if I need to just rest? WCML 109: First, become okay. Afterward, you can deal with everything else. WCML 059: Self-care is a form of social justice, with Marsha Philitas Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! …

This episode’s new consultation Is with Karl, about organizations. If his book you read, You’ll learn how to lead, So prepare for a brief demonstration. Karl explains how the Enneagram can be used in Organization Development (OD). As an example, a manager can increase retention by knowing how team members of different types can be motivated – or de…

An endeavor on which much depends Is the process of making new friends. So let’s deconflate And recalibrate: First, figure out what one intends. First, get clear on exactly what you’re looking for. Second, figure out where and how to ask. Third, ask. Hangoutability Heartconnection Favoraskability The surprising power of “New in town” WCML 049: Wild…

A pre-conference day about science, Some differ, some shrug in compliance. There were brilliant quotations, Some great conversations, And one patriarchal defiance. Here are my takeaways from the IEA 2016 Pre-Conference Day with Russ Hudson, Mario Sikora, and Jack Killen. Belief vs. inquiry Interested is a heart quality. Actively receptive in your m…

Due to all of our movin’ and panickin’ We have the brainpower of mannequins. So here are the tales Of the trips and travails Of our Lansingward moving shenanigans. The tale of our move to Lansing and all the hijinks that have ensued, along with our hard-learned lessons. WCML 058: Technically accessible but not really Video tour of our new house Tha…

So Maartje’s a stoic Type Four. Her hurricane’s not a downpour. When her feelings abound, She tamps them back down, And stuffs them inside of a drawer. Thank you, Maartje, for sharing what it’s like to be you! If you enjoyed this episode, would you be so kind as to leave us a review? You can find us by going to the Podcast page in iTunes and search…

When you’re losing your shit in the fray, You must throw your perfection away. Let go of tough stuff And embrace “good enough”. Priority One: be okay. Our shortest podcast ever, with a simple but important message! Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to Wi…

There once was a Chestnut named Bea Who divided each type into three. It explains why some Fours, While they’re wanting what’s yours, Cry an ocean, and some punch the sea. Beatrice Chestnut is the queen of subtypes. So we’re thrilled to have her on the show to complete our in-depth tour of all 27 subtypes, and talk about how you can find out your o…

There’s two people in the same room, Each toe-tapping to their own tune. Here in New York, We call that a fork, And together time, we call a spoon. being intentional with your time The Power of Now Finnish and Japanese Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends t…

There once was a Chestnut named Bea Who divided each type into three. It’s a whole lot of fun, And explains why a One Might be hard on themself, or on me. Beatrice Chestnut is the queen of subtypes. So we’re thrilled to have her on the show to continue our in-depth tour of all 27 subtypes! The subtypes of Type 8: sp: Satisfaction/Survival so: Solid…

Our friendship never has wavered Though we lived even closer than neighbors Soon we have to adjourn So let’s share what we learned From our time together here at the Wayward Ever wanted to live with us for a year? Well now you can – vicariously through Kelly! All 3 of us will share what we’ve learned from living together during 2016. #thewaywardhou…

There once was a Chestnut named Bea Who divided each type into three. It explains lots of tricks, For example, why Six Sometimes wants to fight, sometimes to flee. Beatrice Chestnut is pretty much the queen of subtypes. So we’re thrilled to have her on the show to talk about why subtypes are awesome, and to begin our in-depth tour of all 27 subtype…

Do you go with your logic so capable, Or trust in your faith that’s unbreakable? What we do and say Is to ask and to pray For the signs to be made unmistakable. Here’s an update on our house hunt, and what we’ve learned about guidance, logic, and love in the process. Also, Project Runway. Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you e…

Start with a few deadly sins, Then add two, just for shits and grins. Now call it a “passion” with words out of fashion And that’s where our story begins. Cherie asks: “What if you don’t feel your Passion is true for you? I really do not identify with avarice. Does anyone else of any type have this issue? I feel healthy boundaries are important, bu…

Emma, with whom we’ll consult, Is a lovely and awesome adult. And if you’re concerned, She’ll share what she learned From spending six years in a cult. (And Kelly I rashly insult.) A high-demand group is a group that makes high demands on your time and attention, also sometimes your money, your beliefs, or even your body. Some of them are cults. So…

Enneagram Study Group: Pace and Kyeli dive into The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri, bridging the spirituality and psychology of Type Four, including: WCML 098: Shame (and how to heal from it) “my emotions are the whole story” being the eye of the hurricane WCML 086: If social media doesn’t light you up, ditch it! how to snea…

Emma, with whom we’ll consult, Is a lovely and awesome adult. And if you’re concerned, She’ll share what she learned From spending six years in a cult. (And Kelly I rashly insult.) A high-demand group is a group that makes high demands on your time and attention, also sometimes your money, your beliefs, or even your body. Some of them are cults. So…

Enneagram Study Group: Pace and Kyeli dive into The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri. bridging the spirituality and psychology of Type Four, as well as: how Freudian psychology doesn’t apply to many modern families how the lack of knowledge of the Enneagram, plus the usual error, has influenced the history of psychology physic…

When you’re thinking about an addiction, You think of a common affliction Like smoking or booze. You can also abuse Control, or tattoos, Or paddling canoes, Or visiting zoos, Or watching Tom Cruise On Netflix, or news, Or cooking great stews, Or futzing with hues, Or looking for clues, Or standing in queues, Perusing reviews, Intent to amuse, Victi…

Enneagram Study Group: Pace and Kyeli dive into The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri, bridging the spirituality and psychology of Type Four, as well as nature vs. nurture and self-worth vs. entitlement. Previous episodes in this series: WCME 027: Introduction to the Spiritual Dimension of Type Four (Essential Origin) If you en…

A decision: you’re feeling divided. You’d like to be lucidly guided. One way you can know What to do, where to go, Is admit you’ve already decided. Sometimes we agonize for weeks, months, or years over a decision that we’ve actually already decided. Here’s how you can shorten your agony loop! The “ka-chunk” feeling reading the writing on the wall W…

The Enneagram’s the Wild West. Each sheriff says they know what’s best. Throw out what’s untrue, Find what works for you, And don’t get too stressed ’bout the rest! In the Enneagram community, there are lots of self-proclaimed “experts” who contradict each other. How can you choose who to learn from? Pace Explains who to trust WCML 099: Deconflate!…

If you want to learn how to apologize With a method that doesn’t antagonize, The first step: undo What’s expected of you. Be intentional! Then you can customize. “I am unharmed” “I prefer it” The worst apology ever What do I get out of being right? Lying Lester and Honest Hal Live apology practice “I’m sorry, but” Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy…

The advice “Do self-work!”, oft dispensed, Is so true, but resistance gets tensed. Would it not be hype If you could use your type To work for you instead of against? “Personality Judo” is getting the power of your personality type to work for you instead of against you! Eventually we’ll all become enlightened and we won’t have any resistance to do…

We’ve stumbled, we’ve triumphed, we’ve blundered. We’ve held hands, we’ve learned, and we’ve wondered. Today, here’s the best of 3 years, all compressed, To celebrate podcast 100! How have we grown spiritually over the past 3 years? How has our business changed over the past 3 years? Kyeli’s epic healing journey treasure hunt How has our attitude t…

Our guests today: Aine and Kelly. As clever as Machiavelli. But minus the treason. And that’s just one reason They’re famous from here to New Delhi. Aine Ni Cheallaigh teaches us about the instinctual variants of the Enneagram, and we figure out Kelly, Kyeli, and Pace’s instinctual stacks. Highlights: The 3 instinctual variants: Self-Preservation, …

Fear says, “If you were sedate, you would die.” But let’s get one thing straight. You still have your good sense Even when you’re not tense. They’re two different things: deconflate! fear vs. good sense forgive vs. forget kindness vs. doormat WCML 025: The Superior Worf Hypothesis romantic partner vs. one who meets all my needs good parent vs. heli…

Misidentifications can be so confusing: Sebastian’s a three. Or a seven. Or two. Let’s find out what’s true. We’ll learn… and might even agree. We talk with Sebastian about his type. Before the show, he didn’t know whether he was a 2, a 3, a 4, or a 7. Listen and find out, and also learn about how to tell a 3 from a 7. If you enjoyed this episode, …

If you would like invincibility from shame, fear, and irritability, The only way you Can achieve this is through Compassion and vulnerability. Brene Brown guilt vs. shame sex Why I hate compassion sword theory how to heal from shame how to speak in non-shaming ways moral theory (with examples from Star Trek) Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meani…

When first ascertaining your type, It’s natural to grumble and gripe. It shows how you’re skewed, And you’d rather elude it than face it, but now let’s get hype! Jessie asked us, “What about when you kinda don’t like your type? What if you don’t appreciate it?” Here’s our answer. What it really means to not like your type The true jewels and the fa…

Due to imminent landlord romancing, Our location will soon be advancing. There might be extremes From miraculous dreams, But we’re probably moving to… WCML 056: The cycle of guidance Kyeli’s miraculous dream nurashkijerrahi.org “Don’t let the hurt of the past prevent the growth of the future.” -Ellie di Julio Kyeli’s shamanic vision What to do when…

A Three’s known for wheelings and dealings, Whereas Fours have intense and deep feelings. But if each can persist Instead of get pissed, Their great love can shatter all ceilings. Podcast listener Jenna wrote in to ask us about relationships between Threes and Fours. We know a lot about that particular combination, so here you go, Jenna! The Four c…

Sometimes, you can handle it all. Other times, you curl into a ball. These lows and these highs Are both caused by your size: Sometimes you’re big, sometimes you’re small. What do we mean by “bigness” and “smallness”? How to become bigger How to get a bigger mech suit Empowerment Compassion Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you…

We talk with Jeffrey about their experience of being a Four. A self-proclaimed digital whore, An author, a speaker, and more! They’re sparkly, they’re queer, And we’re happy they’re here! So please welcome Jeffrey, a Four! look at me, don’t look at me an envy reality check Buddhism identifying with the longing drama vs. transformation Social vs. Se…