Hi There! I'm Dr. Becca Ballinger, Child Psychologist, Modern Parenting Expert, and mom to two wonderful young adults. This podcast is where I share my best advice and strategies for Modern Parents who want to raise young people who are happy, healthy, moral, motivated, and feel confident to pursue their natural talents and passions. Because I work with young people and their families every day in my Southern California private practice, I know the topics that interest today's parent the mos ...
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Are you dragging your feet about having the sex talks? Do you wish someone would just tell you what to say to your tween (or any age kid) about this important part of life? You are in the right place. I’m Amy Lang, a sex and parent educator, and in my frank (really frank), opinionated, and full of swears advice-column style parenting podcast, I answer real questions from real parents about the talks. I also provide topic-specific scripts so you can sound like a pro. Most episodes are a potlu ...
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87. Toughen Up or Validate? Why You Need to Rethink How You Respond to Your Child or Teen’s Distress
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Stop Jumping In! The Simple 3-Step Strategy That Will Transform How You Handle Your Child’s Tough Moments Ever find yourself caught between trying to solve your child or teen’s problems or pushing them to “toughen up”? You’re not alone. Most parents struggle to find the right balance, especially when their young person is upset, stressed, or overwh…
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Crazy sex-talk on the playground and at lunchtime!
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Want to invest in your child's future? Check out one of these! Or snag my book, Sex Talks with Tweens and get a ton of scripts.By Amy Lang, MA
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86. Let’s Fix Your Child’s or Teen's Sunday Scaries (Because Mondays Don’t Have to Be a Battle)
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Does your child or teen seem perfectly fine on Saturday, only to become moody, anxious, or withdrawn by Sunday afternoon? Maybe they start complaining about school, feeling overwhelmed, or even develop those familiar headaches or stomachaches. Sound familiar? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’re tackling the Sunday Scaries head-on. Whether it’s…
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85. Want to Stop Your Child or Teen’s Anxiety Spiral? Here’s How!
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The Tool That Will Change How You and Your Child or Teen Handles Anxiety Does your young person's anxiety feel overwhelming, and you’re not sure how to help them? You’re not alone. Anxiety is becoming a bigger challenge for kids and teens every year, and as parents, we often wish we could wave a magic wand and just - poof! - make it disappear. Now,…
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84. YOU Are Your Child or Teen’s Biggest Influencer - But Are You Squandering That Opportunity?
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Do you ever feel like social media influencers, peer groups, or the latest TikTok trends have more sway over your child or teen than you do? Are you worried that your young person’s self-esteem, mental health, and habits are being shaped by the world outside your home? If you’re nodding right now, friend, you’re not alone. Here’s the good news: By …
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83. The Tough Truth: 5 Habits That Will Transform Your Parenting Game
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Boy, I’ve seen it ALL when it comes to parents—and today, I’m sharing some truths that you NEED to hear! If you’ve ever felt like you’re just not doing this parenting thing right, you’re not alone. I get it—I hear this from parents all the time: “Just give me a playbook I can follow.” Well, Friend, that’s exactly what I’m doing in this episode. I’m…
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82. How to Get Your Reluctant Child or Teen to Join an Extracurricular Activity
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You know your child or teen would benefit from an extracurricular—but they flat-out refuse to get involved. Now what? Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered. In this episode, we’re tackling one of the toughest parenting challenges: how to motivate a reluctant child or teen to join an extracurricular activity. Whether it’s fear of failure, preferring to …
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81. The Secret to Helping Your Child or Teen Make Friends: And Why It Matters More Than Ever
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What if I told you that the secret to your child or teen’s academic success, confidence, and overall happiness isn’t just about their grades -- but about the quality of their friendships? That’s right—this episode dives deep into the often-overlooked but absolutely crucial role that friendships play in your young person’s school experience. It’s ea…
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80. Your Ultimate Back-to-School Prep Kit!
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Access The Back-To-School Prep Playlist 7 Resources By Clicking HERE This episode is a game-changer for busy parents like you. I know the start of the school year can feel like a whirlwind, but I've got you covered. This isn’t just another podcast episode – it’s a challenge. I’ve curated the ultimate back-to-school playlist and packed it with free …
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79. Ready, Set, Success: 3 Steps to Rock the New School Year
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Are you experiencing “Back To School Dread”? You know, that sinking feeling that this year will be just a frustrating repeat of the last? This year CAN be different for your child or teen – and it’s easier than you think. In this episode, I’ll show you how three simple focus areas can transform your entire school year from chaos to calm, from stres…
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78. Knowing These Science-Backed Strategies About Creativity and Curiosity Will Improve Your Child or Teen's Motivation, Confidence, and Love of Learning
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What if I told you that you’re missing out on a simple parenting hack that could skyrocket your child or teen's motivation, confidence, and mental health? This episode is about to blow your mind and change the way you think about creativity and curiosity in your young person's life. I used to think creativity was something you either had or didn’t.…
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77. Why Your Tween or Teen Pushes You Away (And How to Pull Them Back In)
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Why Does My Teen Push Me Away? Do you feel like your tween or teen is pushing you away and you're left wondering why? You’re not alone. In this episode, we're diving deep into why your young person might be creating distance and what you can do to rebuild your relationship. You’ll feel better after listening to this episode because you’ll realize t…
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76. 10 Clues Your Discipline Approach Needs an Upgrade
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Ever feel like your discipline strategies just aren’t working, no matter how hard you try? If I had to guess, I’d say you’ve experienced moments where your child or teen's behavior seems to spiral out of control, despite your best efforts. Those times when the rules you set are ignored, the consequences don’t seem to stick, and you’re left feeling …
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75. From 'Are We There Yet?' to 'Best Trip Ever!' – Vacation Tips for Families
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Is your dream family vacation turning into a nightmare of sibling squabbles or teen moodiness? We’ve all been there – those vacations that were supposed to be great but ended up in misery. This episode is your ticket to transforming those potential disasters into unforgettable, joy-filled adventures. Join me as I share proven strategies to ensure y…
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74. Finding Purpose: How to Help Your Tween or Teen Find Meaning in Life (Even If You Don’t Go To Church)
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Is your young person feeling lost, wondering what the point of it all is? In today's episode, we tackle a challenge many parents face: helping their child or teen find a sense of purpose in life. It's all too common for young people to feel like life is just an endless cycle of meaningless tasks: going to work, doing boring work, coming home to pay…
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73. Want Your Rules To Stick? The Best Parenting Advice No One Ever Told You
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What if I told you that the reason you often give up on enforcing a household rule with your child or teen is because they're using science against you? And what if, by understanding this science, you could finally stop giving up RIGHT BEFORE they give in? In today’s episode, I'll show you why you're giving up too soon when your child or teen pushe…
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72. Stop Feeling Manipulated By Your Child or Teen By Using These 4 Proven Strategies
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Today, you’ll discover how to stop feeling manipulated by your child or teen using four proven strategies. This episode is a masterclass in understanding and managing emotional manipulation. You'll learn about the science behind why parents get caught in these cycles and, most importantly, how to break free. Dr. Becca Ballinger shares the four key …
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71. Yes! You've Got To Start Planning For Your Summer Now - And Here's How
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Summer's coming, and I know what you're thinking: How long until I'm secretly wishing for school to start again? This year, I want you to flip the script! Summer isn’t just about avoiding the summer ‘brain drain’ or surviving until fall—it's your golden opportunity to focus on your child or teen's natural strengths, deepen family bonds, and create …
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So long and thanks for all the calls! Plus 20 tips for the sex talks from Sex Talks with Tweens -- Episode 200
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Hiya! Here are a bunch of ways you can stay in touch with me! Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Resources Birds & Bees & Kids Bookstore is here. My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention, and even some videos you can watch with your…
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70. Parenting with Heart: The PEACEful Approach to Discipline
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Ever feel like your discipline approach is more of a mess than a success? Let's flip that script! If you're worried about being ineffective, crushing your child or teen's incredible spirit, or if tensions are high - it's time to introduce some PEACE into your routine. My 5-point PEACE plan isn't just about keeping order; it's about empowering your …
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Librarian needs script for teachers who are complaining about sex ed books and lesbian moms need to buy condoms for their kid and need some pointers -- Episode 199
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This episode's notes! Amaze video: How to Use Condoms Effectively A Brief Guide to Choosing the Right Size Condom Unite Against Banned Books How to Talk About Book Bans with Friends, Library Patrons, and More: Book Censorship News BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources …
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69. Setting Boundaries: The Tough Love Your Family Really Needs
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Think setting boundaries is just about laying down the law? Let’s flip that idea on its head. In this episode, I'm diving into something truly eye-opening—the reciprocal nature of boundaries. This isn’t your typical chat about rules and limits. It’s about understanding that when you teach your child or teen to respect others’ boundaries, you empowe…
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68. 4 Ways To Motivate a Child or Teen Who Could Care Less
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You asked...and I answered. After last week's episode, many of you wrote to me to tell me that you wanted to use the strategies discussed in the last episode, but you're dealing with a VERY unmotivated child or teen. Well...consider that problem solved! In today’s episode, I dive deep into 4 strategies for igniting a lasting spark of motivation in …
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How to make all your convos with your kids short and sweet! With Mary Willcox Smith -- Episode 198
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GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode's notes! My guest star Mary Willcox Smith! Her book, The MicroStep Method for the Overwhelmed Parent is terrific! Get a free chapter here. BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and …
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67. Yes! Your Child Or Teen CAN Improve Their Grades With Only A Few Months (Or Weeks!) Left In The School Year
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Feeling like it’s too late to turn your child or teen's school year around? Think again! Discover the inspiring story of how I helped a family transform their sons’ academic paths, boosting grades, confidence, and attitudes with only weeks to spare. In this episode, I weave the journey of working with this family into a powerful narrative, showing …
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Explaining STIs to kids under 10 -- Episode 197
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GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode's notes! Health officials recommend more syphilis testing after U.S. newborn cases skyrocketed in 2022 What are STDs? BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other reso…
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Boy masturbating in mom's bedroom; should you buy condoms in front of your kids; and is a body pillow OK for my teen? -- Episode 196
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GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode's notes! Good old Amaze has great videos on masturbation (and more)! Show your kids ages 9+. Masturbation Females and Masturbation Birth Control Basics: Condoms, The Pill and The Patch Anime Body Pillows! Check some out here. BBK B…
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66. Raised By a Narcissist Parent? Move Forward As a Happier Individual And a More Effective Parent With These 10 Steps
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If you were raised by a narcissist parent, then this episode is your key to breaking the cycle and forging a healthier, more joyful parenting path. In today’s episode, I dive into a topic that hits close to home for many: overcoming the impact of being raised by a narcissistic parent. This journey is about more than understanding your past; it's ab…
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65. Is College Right For Your Young Person? New Information You Need To Know
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You cannot afford to miss today’s episode. I’m about to share insights that could dramatically shift your perspective on one of the biggest decisions facing your family: the journey to and through college for your teen. In a world where the value of a traditional college education is being questioned more than ever before, understanding the right p…
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GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode's notes! The Meaning of Sex Positivity, Explained - My pal and colleague Nadine Thornhill is interviewed for this article! She's fab. Check her out here. Peggy Orenstein BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & Ho…
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64. 4 Categories of Life Skills You Can't Ignore Teaching Your Child or Teen
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If you're a parent, you've likely pondered over how to best prepare your child or teen for the world beyond school walls. You might even feel the pressure mounting as you wonder how to tackle this monumental task. But what if I told you that embedding essential life skills for your child or teen into your daily routine could be straightforward, imp…
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63. Redefining Obedience: How To Go From Blind Obedience To Mutual Trust
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Ever found yourself at a loss when your tried-and-true phrase 'because I said so' falls flat with your child or teen? You're not alone. As parents, we've all been there, stuck in the cycle of demanding obedience without truly connecting with our young person. It's a frustrating, often ineffective method that leaves both parties feeling misunderstoo…
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The Valentines Edition: Telling a 6 year-old they can have a "girlfriend" as long as they get good grades; helping tweens navigate crushes; and are trans kiddo romantic sleepovers damaging? -- Episode ...
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GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even som…
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62. The Secret to Being a Happy Parent: Why Embracing the ‘Gain’ Changes Everything
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Is that all the progress you've made? If you've sometimes had this thought about your child or teen, then today's episode is a must-listen! Today's episode is all about turning that thought on its head, using a concept called the Gap and the Gain. This is a mindset strategy that's easy to use - and packs a HUGE punch too! This strategy shows you ho…
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61. How To Help A Child or Teen Who Feels Different From Everyone Else
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Navigating the journey of parenting a child or teen who feels "different" from their peers is a topic close to my heart. If you've ever found yourself wondering how to support your young person's unique qualities, or how to empower them to embrace their individuality - this episode is crafted especially for you. In today's heartfelt discussion, I'm…
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60. From Trends to Teachable Moments: How To Navigate Popular Culture with Your Young Person
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>> Click here to get the episode guide that compliments what you'll learn in today's episodeBy Dr. Becca Ballinger
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59. Every Parent Makes Mistakes: How To Forgive Yourself AND Repair Your Relationship With Your Child or Teen
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Click HERE to get the Episode Guide. Has a parenting mistake left you feeling guilty and unsure about how to move forward? You're not alone. This episode is all about understanding that mistakes are a part of the parenting journey. It's not about being perfect; it's about learning, growing, and recovering from those missteps. Today, we're focusing …
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Sugar dating with Casey O'Roarty and Christy Keating -- Episode 193
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GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! Joyful Courage with Casey O'Roarty The Heartful Parent with Christy Keating BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full …
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58. How To Encourage Your Child or Teen to be Independently Self-Motivated
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Transform Your Young Person's Motivation: The 4-Stage Journey to Self-Driven Success! Are you watching your child or teen meander through life with minimal drive? It's time to turn the tide! In this pivotal episode of The Modern Parenting Solutions Podcast, I unveil the final secret to unlocking your young person's independent self-motivation. Disc…
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Neurodivergent kid struggles with impulse control and gal can't keep her hands out of her pants -- Episode 192
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GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! Helping Women Period - provides FREE period products for homeless and low-income bleeders. BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube c…
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57. Beyond Lazy or Entitled: Understanding Your Child or Teen’s Natural Motivation Personality
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Are you puzzled by what truly motivates your child or teen? This episode is a game-changer in understanding and harnessing their unique motivational powers! Discover the seven motivation personality types and identify which one resonates with your young person. This isn't just about learning these types; it's about transforming your approach to par…
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How to tell adults to respect your kids' body-boundaries -- Episode 191
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GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes!By Amy Lang, MA
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56. Unlocking the Power of External Motivation: Reward Ideas for Motivating Kids and Teens
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Are you struggling with the challenge of motivating a child or teen who doesn't seem to respond to the traditional rewards, such as extra screen time or taking away their cell phone? You're not alone, and this episode is your guiding light to transform your approach to your child's motivation. 📌 In This Episode, You’ll Discover: [6:42] Building the…
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Funny sex talk stories from Huff Post part 2 -- Episode 190
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GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! 31 Too Real Tweets about Parents Having 'The Talk' with Their Kids - Huffington Post BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel…
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55. Three (Bad) Parenting Habits That Destroy Your Child or Teen's Motivation
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Feeling overwhelmed by your young person's lack of motivation? Struggling to inspire them to reach their full potential? If you're nodding along, desperate for a change, this episode is your beacon of hope! You're not alone, and today's episode is the first in a series dedicated to revolutionizing your approach to your child's motivation. Get ready…
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GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even som…
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My two superpowers, Thanksgiving, and talking about Two-Spirit people -- Episode 187
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GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! These folks do a great job of explaining the two-spirit identity. A terrifc list of books for kids and teens! Two-Spirit and Indigiqueer Children’s and YA Book Lists BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say…
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Funny sex talk stories from Huff Post part 1 -- Episode 189
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GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! 31 Too Real Tweets about Parents Having 'The Talk' with Their Kids - Huffington Post Sugar Dating podcast BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resourc…
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4-year-old obsessed with private parts and a funny story about getting caught in the act -- Episode 188
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GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! RAINN.org - To find a child advocacy center in your area Consent Parenting for support for surviors. Consent Parenting for support for surviors. Savvy Parents Safe Kids for general info to keep kids safe. BBK Bookstore is …
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54. How To Expertly Handle Toddler Tantrums, Teen Moodiness, and Extended Family Drama During The Holidays
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Navigate Holiday Mayhem with Style: Say Goodbye to Stress and Hello to Joy! 🎄✨ Dreading the holiday meltdowns, teen mood swings, and family feuds? Wish you could glide through the holiday chaos with the grace of a figure skater and the cool of a winter breeze? Well, if you're nodding along and thinking, "Yes, please!", you're in the right place! Yo…
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