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What is emotional intelligence? How does emotional intelligence make you a better lover, leader, parent, or friend? What is mindfulness? How do you negotiate a win-win agreement? What is the easiest way to calm your stress symptoms at work? How do you speak to a narcissist? What is anxiety? What are the symptoms of depression? Psychologist and coach Greg Hamlin takes up questions like these and more. He offers skills, tools, and steps for less stress, more emotional intelligence, more satisf ...
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More than 1 in 10 adults in the U.S. experiences a panic attack during any 12 month period. Dr. Greg Hamlin uses a simple illustration that helps explain panic attacks to those who have never had them. Panic attacks come in many awful varieties and yet rarely are they dangerous. This episode is about demystifying panic attacks in order to set the s…
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The research of Dr. John Gottman has spanned over 40 years and lays claim to the most scientific understanding of what makes couples happy together and what breaks them apart. In this episode Dr. Hamlin discusses Gottman's famous "Four Horsemen" as patterns of communication and how to use them in a dating relationship. Unless these 4 negative commu…
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18: The Express Train Through the Grief Tunnel
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Disappointments are a part of life. The smaller they are, the easier it is to "just get over it." But major loss brings disappointment to a whole new level. When loss has a magnitude that is earth-shattering we also find that our coping mechanisms are shattered. The death of a loved one, the loss of a relationship, and even intangible losses can le…
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People with mild paranoia often have difficulties in relationships. Their trust issues take a particular form. They are suspicious, quick to read between the lines, quick to assume that the person speaking with them has a hidden motive. At times, they will accuse others of having thoughts and intentions that are not there. It creates anger, frustra…
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What does it look like to have a friend who is also your mentor? What is the value of being mentored by someone who your friend? In this episode Dr. Hamlin reflects on one of his own friendships to illustrate a few defining principles of mentoring friendships. In the context of friendship, a mentor is an encourager and a witness to the forward move…
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15: Three Common Frustrations with Friendships
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Someone once said that friends are God's apology for making families. Indeed, friendships can be one of the treasures of being human. But friendship involves a relationship and relationships always have problems or challenges. In this episode Dr. Hamlin describes three frustrations that often arise between friends. Of course, understanding these fr…
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14: Ten Characteristics of Real Friendship
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What is a real friendship? Are there actual characteristics that you one can pinpoint to evaluate whether or not a friendship is worth keeping? In this episode Dr. Greg Hamlin briefly comments on these questions by outlining 10 features of satisfying friendships. This is part one of a periodic series on the nature of emotionally intelligent friends…
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Do NOT Tell Your Child This at Graduation
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It's everywhere. It's in greeting cards, songs, TV shows, and movies. And it saturates graduation speeches. It's the myth that says, "You can be anything you want to be. Just follow your dreams." There's only one problem: it just ain't so. In this episode, Dr. Greg Hamlin briefly outlines the compelling reasons why we should stop telling our childr…
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What is all the fuss about mindfulness and mindful meditation? Dr. Greg Hamlin briefly describes what mindfulness is and how it enhances emotional intelligence. He then explains three ways that mindfulness can increase your happiness by helping you to tune in to what is positive, store up positive memories, and reduce the time you spend on negative…
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11: How a Narcissistic Boss Causes Stress and Burnout
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In previous episodes Dr. Hamlin has discussed emotional burnout and what to do about it. Earlier episodes touched on narcissism and how to speak to a narcissist. The current episode brings these two topics together: burnout and narcissism. What is a narcissistic boss? If we understand the key characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder, it…
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Various forms of social anxiety are common in the workplace. Even highly successful people can suddenly find a particular work situation becomes a trigger for high anxiety or even panic. One such situation is the conference call or business meeting. Many people find themselves with sweaty palms and crawling skin when they are about to give a status…
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Learn four steps for dealing with burnout in your life after weeks and months of prolonged stress. In the previous episode, Dr. Greg Hamlin outlined the key characteristics of burnout and it's causes. In this episode, the focus is on what to do about it. Using emotional intelligence to recover from burnout means (1) recognizing it; (2) facing it; (…
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People who experience burnout don't necessarily work harder than those who avoid it. But people who have the emotional intelligence to recognize burnout in it's early stages are able to pace themselves more effectively. Most importantly, people who understand burnout are in a position to be significantly happier, despite being in a demanding job. I…
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One of the big reasons why people choke in a job interview is due to nerves. People get so worked up with anxiety and worry while preparing that they end up not being at their best. One of the fastest ways to calm yourself is to simplify the task of preparing for an interview. In this episode, Dr. Greg Hamlin briefly explains how to use emotional i…
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#6 The Hidden Anxiety Mechanism inside OCD
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What are obsessions and how are they different from compulsions? Can obsessions and compulsions ever be good? What is OCD? What are the various forms of OCD?Dr. Greg Hamlin briefly explains an easy way to get a handle on these questions. The key is to have a clear understanding of what an obsession is and how compulsions appear to relieve the tensi…
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Good communication skills don't come naturally. But they can be learned. Sadly, whatever communication skills we've learned often get tossed out the window at the very moment when we are needing a clear head. But conflict resolution does not need to create distance between two people who love each other. Anger management skills can be practiced tog…
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Dr. Greg Hamlin briefly explains the two major characteristics of the narcissistic personality type. He then offers some tips for how to communicate more effectively with individuals with narcissistic traits or full-blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder. This is an audio-only replay of a video that Dr. Hamlin posted on his Steps for Change You Tu…
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In this episode, Dr. Greg Hamlin briefly explains what assertiveness is and what it is not. There really is a way to be assertive and still be a decent human being. He also explains why assertiveness is good for us to practice. Knowing your needs and how to communicate your needs effectively is a key aspect of emotional intelligence.…
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Developmental Parenting is Easier and More Effective
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Parenting with emotional intelligence involves being mindful of the stage that your child is in. Dr. Greg Hamlin briefly discusses three illustrations of how parents can pay attention to the needs of each stage of a child's life. Parenting with with developmental needs in mind makes for decisions that you can live with while helping your child grow…
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An Easy Way to Understand Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD)
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Dr. Greg Hamlin explains a quick-and-easy way to understand Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) and offers tips for parenting a child who is easily distracted. By understanding ADD, both parent and child increase self-awareness, an important aspect of emotional intelligence.
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