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Lara Currie is on a mission to transform the way we communicate with one another. The workplace doesn't have to be the source of conflict and discord. She'll teach you how to have open and honest communication with people, how to navigate conflict, and how to deal with the difficult "stuff" we all encounter in this ever increasingly defensive world. www.difficulthappens.com Difficult can happen anywhere, so Lara is here to make sure you know exactly how to create positive communication, decr ...
 
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Do you ever wonder how a workplace turns toxic? It doesn’t happen all at once, and it doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Like a pot that slowly boils there are a lot of steps along the way where you can stop the chain reaction of events before the workplace turns toxic. When blame, exaggeration, and generalizations are used in a conflict communication get…
 
On top of everything else that you have had to deal with this past year, now loneliness is on the rise, and the impact of loneliness on you and the work you do is impactful. Douglas Nemecek, MD, chief medical officer for behavioral health at Cigna says that the impact of loneliness on your health is equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day and is …
 
Our best self makes all the plans but she doesn't always show up to implement them The world is full of information, a plethora of knowledge is just a Bing search away, psych, we all use google. Yet with all this information at our fingertips, we can know a thing, understand it, but when it comes to implementing, it’s not as simple, we can have a h…
 
This is a juicy episode filled with the way’s that you can use stories in your everyday work life, from the boardroom to the stage. Carol and I talk about everything from our personal struggles and successes to the DNA of the feminine, from speaker hijackers to why Emma should stop watching Law and Order SVU. Carol tells us how she uses the three-a…
 
Well, some difficult S*it just happened. In 176 weeks of recording the difficult happens podcast, I have never missed a publication. It’s time for me to model the very behavior I talk about. We will all go through some … stuff in our lives and I want you to do the same when you encounter some really difficult stuff, take care of yourself and your f…
 
Everyone, at one point in their life, has experienced a compliment that did not sit right. Either it was way too personal, or it felt a little backhanded. That's why we're tackling whether or not compliments are toxic! When we break down compliments, we can see that it depends on a variety of factors; Who is giving the compliment, the context, and …
 
"Knowledge is when you learn something new every day." We learn learn learn all day long but do we take enough time to apply? I love to learn, and learning the concepts is one thing, but implementing is another. This brings us to the one thing that we all need that we cannot do without. Something paramount to implementing better ways of communicati…
 
What kind of energy do you give off? Do you find yourself expressing more masculine attributes or feminine? This concept of masculine and feminine has been around a lot, and we are beginning to see it take hold in the entrepreneurial and small business fields. Someone who is more focused and driven is seen to have stronger masculine traits, while m…
 
Have you ever found yourself engulfed in a project, focused on the little details like font or style, and before you realize it, hours have passed? Guess what? You were distracted. Distracted does not always mean bouncing from one task to another or getting lost on Facebook when you should be working on a report. You can be hyper-focused on a task …
 
When you think of someone who's being assertive, what comes to mind? Do you see someone who is direct and confident, or do you see someone who is confrontational and forceful? Have you ever been accused of being “aggressive”? Was it a valid critique or was it an attempt to shut you down? Assertive communication is often confused with being aggressi…
 
In a world that is increasingly growing more visual, how do you keep up? Younger and younger generations are becoming more socially competent in understanding differences in the "true-self" and "Instagram-self," but what about information spread online? 86% of people are now what is known as a "visual learner." Infographics and other visual aids ar…
 
Do you consider yourself a loyal person? Do you expect loyalty from your friends? On this episode of Toxic or Not, we are tackling loyalty. Many see loyalty as a black and white issue. You're either loyal or you're not, when in reality, there is a lot of room for the shades of gray. I conducted a (very unscientific) poll gathering information on wh…
 
Who likes to talk about money? Money and finances can be a minefield. How much should I charge? What are my costs? Do I really need this? There is a lot to contemplate! There is a lot of advice out there, stalwarts preach that we should put money into an IRA or 401K, that we should do this or don't do that, and not question it. But know what? That …
 
Have you ever worked someplace and only realized, looking back, that it was a pretty toxic place? Sometimes figuring out that we are working in a toxic company, or with toxic people is difficult. So ask yourself, are you being treated unfairly, or are you just needing "thicker skin"? (spoiler alert - if it’s toxic for you, it’s toxic to you) A few …
 
“I do not think that word means what you think it means” -- The princess bride. The term “self care” has joined the ranks of other terms that have been watered down, co-opted, or re-defined to the point that it means nothing. I have noticed a concerning trend with self care, it has been used to manipulate, bully, and has been productized and sold. …
 
Have you ever used the phrase "I'm not like other women"? More often than not, we use this phrase to really say, "I'm not like the stereotype that has been placed on women." Spoiler alert - none of us are. Women have been trained to be the caretakers of other people's feelings, and when we deviate from that, especially professionally, it can lead t…
 
“In order to build a rewarding employee experience, you need to understand what matters to your people.” -- Julie Bevacqua How good are you at reading the room? Do you consider yourself to be a Workplace Meteorologist, someone who is able to read the temperature? Or do you need a little assistance to see the writing on the wall? When working with t…
 
“Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, "What else could this mean?” -- Shannon L. Alder Summary: Drama in the workplace is inevitable. Sometimes situations don't seem fair. How many times have you seen or know of someone who received a promotion or a raise at work and can't help but wonder…
 
“Vulnerability sounds like truth and courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” -- Brené Brown Opening our true selves and exposing our thoughts, dreams, and shames can be a frightening experience. Trading our comfort for courage and opening ourselves up to public judgement often leads us to a Vulnerability H…
 
Have you ever been scrolling through Facebook or Instagram and see those little affirmation posts? What’s your first reaction? Have you tried them and found that they don't really work for you? You're not alone. Affirmations for self-care, love affirmations, black women empowerment affirmations, etc., are some of the most popular "affirmation for" …
 
“Boundaries are a part of self-care. They are healthy, normal, and necessary.” -- Doreen Virtue Do you ever feel like you’re being taken advantage of? A coworker, boss, or even a friend asks more and more of you. It could be anything from your time, work product, or even your attention that they seek and when you tell them no, they keep pushing. Yo…
 
“Our authentic power is found in our truth. This is the place that shows us how to give what is so very good about ourselves.” -- Jeanne McElvaney Now that you can recognize dysfunctional situations and manipulation tactics, What do you do? Well, now you work on reclaiming your power! Out of each of the Four Pillars of Empowerment, reclaiming is pr…
 
“Blame is a clever trickster. At its root, blame is a form of fear that helps us avoid accountability for our lives.” -- Debbie Ford Can’t help but wonder why someone refuses to accept doing something wrong, even something small? When blaming a person or system, your assigning responsibility for a fault or a wrong. However, feelings of fear or emba…
 
“With a new day comes new strength and new thoughts.” -- Eleanor Roosevelt Guess what?! This is a very special episode of Difficult Happens because I am celebrating The 3 YEAR Anniversary since starting the podcast! With your support, we have made it to over 100 thousand downloads. In the beginning, I jumped in with both feet trying to give everyth…
 
Ever wonder how you can become more productive? You schedule your tasks every day and try to balance your time but fall short of your goals. There are three things that entrepreneurs know to help be more productive from understanding cycles to the impact of task-shifting. Entrepreneurs are a unique type of leader, they have learned when to shift be…
 
Have you ever had a client flip from a Dr. Jekyll to a Mr. Hyde? Everything was going along fine and then suddenly their behavior started to change to evasive or defensive. In most cases, they’re experiencing a triggered reaction. But what caused it? Was it something you said or did? Is something else going on? Are you triggered? These triggers and…
 
Sometimes we don’t get a choice on whether or not to be a leader. When you run a small business, you will frequently be put into the leadership role where, inevitably, you will have to deal with difficult situations and personalities. Do you have the right support you need to deal with it effectively? The support needed can range from general busin…
 
What red flags have you missed? When starting out, you can be caught up in the excitement of the job or dynamic and excuse behaviors while in the moment. A little thing here, a little thing there, it is easy to miss all these little signs. But hindsight is 20/20 and eventually, you’ll see the writing on the wall. Now it is becoming more important t…
 
Why would anyone work in a toxic environment? A toxic workplace doesn’t crop up out of anywhere, it is created, moment by moment and action by action. Every day there are news stories about bosses and bad behavior and environments that became unbearable. Have you ever wondered how these environments became so toxic and why people stay? As it turns …
 
Manipulative toxic behavior is on the rise. There are studies, books, blogs, and podcasts full of information about this trend. But without this one thing, all the information and skills you consume won’t work. Business owners know it, leaders know it, and successful people display it. On today’s episode, what you need to effectively combat manipul…
 
To be an impactful leader you need more than just good management techniques, you need good people skills. Being aware of what motivates, encourages, fosters, and grows a productive team is something that is learned in the trenches of interaction - where leaders are born. Being a young leader comes with its own set of struggles, on today’s episode …
 
If you put two people in a room and there will be 4 different points of view. Like the old adage goes 'the definition of a dysfunctional family is more than one person". Similarly, when you work with a team of people the dynamics are a lot like that of a family. Like a family, individuals can fall into patterns of behavior that impact the whole tea…
 
Do you have a practice? I’m not talking about Spanish, piano, or handwriting practice I’m talking about a routine that you intentionally set up that helps you achieve a specific, measurable goal. When you have an intentional practice, that you implement in a routine way, it becomes a habit. We are creatures of habit, and if we don’t drive the train…
 
Did you do some re-prioritising last year? With all of the unexpected ‘unprecedented events’ last year a lot of us have reprioritized the way we work and play. Many found this past year super productive while others, not so much. We don’t often think about productivity until we are either feeling overwhelmed, or starting a new year. Productivity an…
 
In Ariana Grande’s song Thank You; Next, she runs down some relationships she has had and what she has learned from them, how she has found wisdom and gratitude even in those that did not work out as planned. Lessons don’t always come in life-changing monolithic events, like a pandemic, or a job change, which are those moments where there was a mar…
 
Manipulative people have an arsenal of tactics they will use against you. Blame-Shifting is one of the big ones. When it is used by a boss or co-worker, it can create a toxic environment quickly, one that, if the manipulator isn’t stopped, will only get worse. In order to combat the blame-shifters tactic, we will shine the light on the many forms o…
 
Jerky’esque behavior is rampant these days. Shocker (not). Rude, jerky, manipulative behaviors are dysfunctional coping skills learned and practiced over their lifetime and were born from their family of origin. It’s time to take your Happy back! Hold firm to your boundaries and be treated with respect. Today, we dive into how the bad behavior inte…
 
Summary: When a manipulator starts spinning their tale it can feel like you are being tossed in a word salad! One thing that all manipulators have in common is that they use words to obfuscate, influence and control, also known as ‘Magical Speaking’. Have you heard the tapes between Amber Heard and Johnny Depp? One thing these tapes make clear, asi…
 
Oprah, Will Smith, & my Mom, all had an impact on the topic of today’s episode. Whether you have experienced a major life blow, like a divorce or a job change, or a more minor slight like a negative comment or angry road incident, it makes you mad and can be hard to get over it. On today’s show, we talk about how to ‘Get over’ tough things and move…
 
No one likes that feeling of disappointing someone, or when someone didn’t live up to your expectations, this time of year, and this year in particular, there is a LOT out there to find disappointment in. Did you know that there are two types of disappointment? How do you tell the difference? Nobody likes that sinking feeling you get in your gut, y…
 
www.difficulthappens.com What changes have you experienced this year? We are in a time ⏳of (that dreaded phrase) unprecedented change, some changes have led to greater awareness, some changes we will be happy to see the back of. In this episode, we take a look at the changes 2020 has gifted us & how to have gratitude in hard times. What you’ll hear…
 
We have all made decisions that we later regret. The question is, did you learn the lesson you needed to learn from that miscellaneous regrettable decision? Ever turned down a great job because of a shinier one on the horizon? Have you been silent when you should have spoken up? I have done both! In today’s episode, I share some cringe-worthy momen…
 
You know that one person who really pushes your buttons? Who gets under your skin? Yea, that’s the one. Everyone has experienced an irritating person, that one dude who sits on your last nerve, or that mom on the PTA who pushes your buttons, or your teenager when they are bored or just exist as a hormonal mess :) Today we explore why someone pushes…
 
Think positively, everything happens for a reason, the Universe will take care of it, it will all just magically disappear, it will go away. Have you noticed this type of messaging out there? These vapid empty platitudes, in essence, say absolutely nothing. Toxic positivity is cropping up all over the nation right now, I’m sure you’ve seen it on yo…
 
Is unintegrated anger impacting you? Anger is a powerful emotion, whether it's yours, or someone else's being directed AT you. Righteous anger can inspire and spark change when channeled effectively. So what do you do about anger? How do you identify, integrate, and express your anger in an effective way? My client Leslie Lyons joins me today to di…
 
There are markers along the timeline of our lives. Moments that mark a change, a significant event, or a vivid memory. Like anchors that signify that after this moment, we became different than we were in the moments before. Holding your child for the first time, when a loved one dies, quitting a job you needed but could no longer tolerate. When sh…
 
Some people just push your buttons, but why? Manipulators are masters at it, toxic people do it, and those with immature or dysfunctional communication styles both push your buttons and get defensive. Have you ever thought about what is really going on when your mood instantly changes and someone drives you up a wall, rattles your cage or peeves yo…
 
Has anyone ever used the silent treatment with you? Have you ever been ghosted by someone? It feels awful to be on the receiving end of someone else’s loud silence. At best the silent treatment is an immature behavior used by immature and manipulative people. At worst, it is a weapon used by abusers to punish their victims. Whether the person in yo…
 
https://difficulthappens.com/ Have you ever heard the adage if you want to know who you are, look at your 5 closest friends, or show me who your friends are and I will show you who you are? I have learned that there are certain types of friendships we all need in our lives, friendships that are essential to help us be better, and do better, and hel…
 
“Oh what a tangled web we weave; When first we practice to deceive!” -- Sir Walter Scott Have you ever wondered how people fall for cult leaders? Or why people fall time and time again under the bad influences in their lives? Most people are trusting. You don’t go around expecting people to lie, but when you put your trust into someone who has only…
 
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