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This podcast is for LDS women with a spouse addicted to pornography. I am Jolene Winn and I am an active member of the LDS faith, a certified Life Coach through The Life Coach School, and the wife of a wonderful man who was once addicted to pornography. I am now on a mission to go find other women who are in the same situation. Women who are struggling to address emotions and thoughts they've never had to face. Women who want to understand their situation, who want to love their husband like ...
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The Reframe is a podcast about life on a path of self-improvement and growth in the 21st century. You’ll find interviews, discussions, and conversations that will help you to learn from the experiences of others. Connect with Tres Winn here: https://linktr.ee/treswinn Connect with Tres here: https://linktr.ee/treswinn Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thereframewithtreswinn/support
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Your primitive brain is keeping you alive. But today I'm going to teach you exactly HOW your brain is doing that-and how it can often be to your detriment. Not only will you learn more so that you can learn how to change it, it will also help you understand more about what's going on in your husband's brain too! Click here to join me for today's FR…
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A sunk cost is an investment you can't get back. Today I'm applying that idea to emotions and relationships and diving into what happens when you have an emotional sunk cost and what you should do about it. Join me next week for me FREE live, one day event! In this class 'How To Solve Your Husband's Pornography Problem" I am going to teach you how …
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If you don't feel confident in your body-this is for you! I am dissecting what confidence in your body truly is AND how to change it! p.s. You don't have to lose any weight to do it! Want to join for this week's Body Confidence Master Class? Click here! You'll get lifetime access to all the replays and be able to join us for any live calls! Join to…
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Did you know there are two types of body weight? There's the actual physical weight of your body that you measure. And then there's the emotional weight of your body that is added based on how you think and feel about your body. Today I'm talking about the second kind-how it affects us, and how to change it-along with why it's so important to do so…
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We are all full of potential energy. It's what's stored inside of us, waiting for us. It's what's possible in our lives. But we are often stuck there. Just in the potential. And today I'm talking about what's keeping you stuck in potential energy, what's preventing you from actually having what you want in your life-and how to change it! If you're …
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Do you ever get annoyed by all the text messages and emails from shops alerting you to sales and information? Yeah, me too. But, at one point, you opted in to receving them...and that's exactly what's going on in your brain too. Today I'm talking about how that happens with our thoughts and feelings and how you can change it! Also, it's Rob's birth…
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Do you feel resentment toward someone in your life? Maybe it's your spouse for his pornography problem, or your mom for making you take piano lessons, or your car because it's always unreliable...today I'm giving you a taste of what I taught in my "Healing Resentment" master class and going into what resentment is and the main causes of it! If you …
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Do you feel resigned to your situation? Like it's not something you can change and you just have to live with it? I get it. Today I'm diving into what resignation is and why it's a lie-yup. I said it! I'm going into the difference between resignation and acceptance and how to shift into acceptance! Come join me in coaching! Click here to get full p…
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It's time to celebrate! Over the last 6 months I have coached some incredible business clients inside an intimate business mastermind! And today I am honored to share with you Shelby's story! Not only is she an incredible coach who's personal story inspires me immensly (which she shares in this interview), she has also seen incredible growth over j…
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It seems like your husband's pornography problem is causing all of the issues you are facing...but what if that's not true? And what if that's the best news ever? Today I'm using my concepts from my Sociology degree and talking about the difference between when one thing CAUSES another to happen (and what that means) versus when one thing is CORREL…
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What if you want sex more than your husband? What if he wants sex more than you do? How do you navigate that? That's what today's episode is all about! Inspired by a conversation with a listener on Instagram, this is covering exactly how to handle this situation (and why it's so hard in the first place!) Come join me in coaching and let's get you m…
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Have you ever thought "When I'm a parent, I'm never going to do___" or maybe you've thought, "It's too hard to keep doing this in my marriage. I just have to stop". That's what today's episode is all about! This is what I call emotional overcorrecting. I'm diving into what it is, and why it's a problem so that you can actually get back to where you…
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Do you feel like you just don't care anymore about something? Maybe it's your husband's behavior, maybe it's your body, maybe it's a different relationship...what do you do then? Today I'm going to tell you exactly what to do and why this is happening. And how to change it. click here to see my Youtube channel! Ready to take all of this and start a…
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I am SO honored to have a guest and colleague Frank Rich on this episode! He is vulnerable and powerful in telling his personal story of how he went from being introduced to pornography at a young age to being addicted to it as an adult to finding freedom from it now! He now helps men conquer their own pornography addictions by helping change them …
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What is solid self love? And how do you develop it? And why do we even care if we do? Why is it important? Today I am asking (and answering) all of those questions with my friend and fellow coach Marci Owen! She is the self love coach and is launching her brand new container for coaching called the Self Love Lab tomorrow! If you resonate with her m…
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There are two types of grudges and today I'm teaching you both! Let's dive into what a grudge is, how to know if you are holding a grudge, and why it's so important to notice! If you want help letting go of your grudges, then come join me in my Healing Resentment Master Class. I am opening up a limited number of spots for this class and if this is …
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If you don't feel like your husband is an emotionally safe person for you to open up to-this is for you! Or maybe he USED to feel safe but now he doesn't...or perhaps you just don't feel safe feeling emotions in general. Today I'm talking all about what emotional safety is, why it's important and who the BEST emotional safety person is for you!…
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I reached an upper limit in my belief this week and I want to talk to you about it. I'm sharing the whole experience and teaching you what an upper limit is, how I worked through it, why our brain wants to create it, and sharing a HUGE breakthrough thought that will help you with your own. Happy Easter ladies! I love you! Join me for a week of FREE…
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Have you ever thought that you don't want to get your hopes up? Me too. Today I'm diving into what hope really is and why our brain doesn't want to get our hopes up. But I'm also going into how you can change it if you want to! Join me! Come join me for a week of free coaching! I am hosting Coach Week next week and I would love for you to come! Thi…
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This is a celebration episode! I asked y'all for YOUR wins and transformations and I am sharing your responses to help celebrate the progress and work you've done! THANK YOU for inspiring me each week and remember that it's important to not just focus on how far you have to go but how far you've come! Celebrate your wins daily and keep going! I lov…
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Maybe the bulk of the pain of a past experience is gone, but what happens when we don't deal with all of it 100%? That's when we have residual pain. Today I'm talking about what that is, why it's so important to realize, and the 3 main ways that it affects you if you don't deal with it in a healthy way. Come join me! Ready to let go of the residual…
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Last week we talked about responsibility...and here's part two. This is all about what YOU have responsibility for, what that looks like, AND why it's so imporant to understand! If you truly internalize this one concept, it can change everything about your life and your healing! Don't miss out on the details about upcoming master classes! Head to m…
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Today I'm bringing you a conversation I had with Jenn Zingmark-the resident divorce coach expert! This is where we talk about ALL things divorce and what the struggles are with it, why it's so important to work through your personal emotional stuff, and the best way to do it. She is so vulnerable and opens up about her own divorce journey and has s…
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How are pornography and sex connected? And what are you supposed to do if your husband's pornography problem is affecting your sexual relationship? Today I'm diving into what pornography is, what it is designed to do, how it's related to sex, and the two different cycles that someone watching pornography is going through. You'll also learn exactly …
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Our primitive brain is often generating a victim behavior without us really noticing it. Here's two ways it does and why it's so important to notice. Plus, a very popular (and socially acceptable) way you could be perpetuating a victim mindset without realizing it! Come join me for Valentine's Day! I am hosting a 3 day Galentine's Coach-A-Thon and …
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People pleasing is where you change yourself or do what you think other people want you to do so that you feel a certain way. People pleasing yourself is where you change yourself or do what you think you "should" do so that you feel a certain way. But let's dive into what that looks like and why that's a problem... For 3 days only I am offering 1:…
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What is faith? And where does it fit into all of this emotional work? And why does it even matter? Today might be my favorite episode yet. It's all about what you believe and the secret that creates transformations. Come join me in my coaching program this week for my brand new Faith Master Class! Monday-Thursday at 4pm est you can join me live as …
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Resolutions aren't actually about what we think they are. Today I'm diving into what they're about and how you can guarantee you'll always hit every resolution you set. If you're tired of setting the same resolutions every year, I have the perfect class for you! Inside my program this month I am hosting a brand new Master Class all about GOALS! Joi…
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What's the difference between letting go and giving up? And what if you feel like giving up? How do you switch? This week I had a few experiences that I'm sharing that have highlighted this for me and I want to share what I'm learning. I'm still learning how to let go. Join me. Merry Christmas ladies! If you want the best Christmas present ever, co…
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Is there something in your life you want to change or stop doing? Maybe a habit you want to break or an interaction with your spouse that always happens that you don't like? Maybe you have a belief about yourself you are tired of holding onto? This is for you. Today I am going to teach you a tool that is one of the most helpful in changing any beha…
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Stressful schedules, in-law gatherings, school parties, triggering situations...the holidays can be difficult to navigate. So today I am offering my best tips and advice on how to handle the holidays so that you can actually ENJOY them instead of just feeling stressed out! I want to send you a Christmas gift! If you join my program throughout Decem…
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Have you heard that addicts need to hit rock bottom before they reach out for help? Well, turns out we are a lot more like them than we think! Today I am talking all about what rock bottom is, how we usually think about it, and how we have our own rock bottom to be aware of. Spoiler alert: Rock bottom isn't necessary to create change. Come join me …
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Today I am going over HOW you actually process your emotions and WHY it's the most vital skill you could learn. I am outlining the 3 main ways we typically respond to emotion and why they aren't what is best for the life we want to create. This is the one skill that has enabled me to confidently face my future without fear so tune in! Come join me …
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It feels like you are fighting, barely treading water, and it's exhausting, right? Today I want to offer how you can take all that energy, all that fight inside of you and apply it in a different way to get far greater results. It's time to fight smarter, not harder. Come join me for a free Course Preview of the "Becoming Unbreakable" course! Click…
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We say we want certain things-to lose weight, change jobs, be more present with our kids, heal from our husband's pornography problems-but are we making the decision to create that result from our primitive brain or our pre-frontal cortex? And why is that so important to clarify? Today I am discussing all of that after a little self reflection exer…
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This last 12 months have been the hardest months of my life. But they are also what has made me unbreakable. Today I am talking about why it was the hardest year and how I faced it to become who I am today. I am teaching a brand new course on Becoming Unbreakable this month in my coaching program and I want you to come. I am reserving 20 spots for …
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When we experience trauma, our brain responds in a way to prevent us from getting hurt again. Which is great. However, when this programming is run unchecked, it can actually lead us to creating a mentality that leads to isolation and pain. Let's talk about it. Don't know how to process your emotions? I can help! Inside my coaching program this mon…
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Do you have a certain date that's painful? Or maybe a memory that always brings up negative emotion? Maybe it's your anniversary or your birthday or the date you found out about all of your husband's pornography problems. If so, this is for you. I'm diving into WHY this happens and HOW to fix it. Permanently. Come coach with me for free! Next week …
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Do you feel really vulnerable with your husband? Or even just by yourself becaue of everything you've gone through? In this episode I am going to teach you what it means to be vulnerable and what vulnerability truly is. Come join my next free class! How to Re-Connect with your spouse after betrayal trauma. October 30 @ 11am est! Click here to sign …
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