In this episode, John talks to Shaun Galanos (The Love Drive) about various topics including fear of missing out (FOMO), polyamory, dating rejection, and attachment styles. They highlight the importance of communication, emotional regulation, coping with dating rejection, and redefining what rejection means. They also touch on the current obsession…

In this episode, John reads a story, "My P*ssy Knows Things," that explores the impact of past relationships on present behavior and emotional well-being. He also dives into the concept of grieving the loss of a relationship, the importance of accepting and processing associated emotions, being resistant to therapy, the transformation that occurs w…

In this episode, John debriefs with Sarah and Meredith about the most recent TAT retreat on the drive home. They all talk about what their role is, their revelations running the retreats, the lessons they've learned in each retreat, the importance of breath work, how therapeutic cooking is, how to calm down your nervous system, and much more. Learn…

In this episode, John talks about love. He defines what his definition of love used to be, and what it is now. He also talks about ways to know if you love someone, feelings to look for, how real love is about embracing conflict - not jumping ship the second things start to feel hard, and much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastch…

In this episode, John interviews Todd Baratz, a male sex therapist, about love and intimacy. They discuss the concept of 'losing your mind' when falling in love and the challenges that arise in relationships. They also touch on the importance of therapy and how childhood experiences shape our relationships. Todd shares his personal journey about ho…

In this bonus episode, John has an encouraging message for those going through a break up. He opens up about break ups he's been through, lessons he's learned from each, and gives tips on how to break through your break up if you're currently going through one. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…

In this episode, John starts with a list of "Johnisms" before answering listener's questions. John gives advice on what to do if you have feelings for a friend, how to rebuild trust in a marriage after it's been broken, and how to handle finding your significant other's secret Tinder account. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.c…

In this episode, John talks about poor habits, how we all have them, and how taking small steps towards breaking the habits is more successful than stopping the habits cold turkey. He also talks about being depressed when life feels "boring," and how to that leads to feelings of wanting to escape. He dives into how those feelings can be linked more…

In this episode, John talks about how doing a life audit on yourself will help strengthen the relationship you have with your partner and others. He explains how the more you focus on yourself, the more you'll be able to bring to the table with others, and walks through the process of what giving yourself a life audit looks like. Learn more about y…

In this episode, John brings on Dr. MC McDonald to discuss the concept of awe and the science behind joy. They explore the importance of finding joy in small moments, activating the hope circuit in the brain, and also debunk some misconceptions about what brings joy, such as affirmations. They emphasize that joy is not a silly or frivolous emotion,…

In this episode, John answers a listener's question after they've emailed him for advice about their current relationship. He dives into avoidant attachment styles, and gives advice on how to know if you're attachment style is to blame for feeling "suffocated" in the relationship, or if you're only feeling this way because deep down you know that y…

In this episode, John Kim and Luci Lampe discuss the concept of conscious self-pleasure and its impact on personal growth and relationships. They explore how shame and societal conditioning can hinder sexual expression and the importance of approaching self-pleasure with presence and mindfulness. They also touch on the differences between male and …

In this episode, John explores the importance of redefining our definitions of love as we grow and change. He shares his old definition of love from his twenties and contrasts it with his current definition. He also highlights how our definitions of love are always changing, the challenges and beauty of love, and the importance of aligning definiti…

In this episode, John talks about how to express your needs, and show up in your relationship when you're fighting. He discusses the importance of knowing what is healthy vs unhealthy ways of showing up during conflict, and gives examples of what each looks like. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…

In this episode, John records a live podcast in his TAT Circle community where he answers listeners' questions, and does a deep dive on attachment styles. He talks about the honeymoon phase of a relationship, what's really happening when you feel like your attachment is being activated, and how to tell if it's your attachment style that's being tri…

In this episode, John talks about thought patterns, and why we find ourselves stuck in negative thought patterns more than positive ones. He dives into different steps to take when you find yourself spiraling, and how to practice wanting things loosely. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…

In this episode, John and Vanessa talk about recovering from codependency. They talk about the steps you need to take, such as having awareness and setting boundaries, what recovering from codependency really looks like in your life and relationships, and how recovery doesn't happen overnight. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.…

In this episode, John focuses on cheating and infidelity. He discusses common reasons why people cheat, including anger or revenge, falling out of love, feeling unappreciated, lack of commitment, sexual desire, and situational opportunity. He emphasizes the importance of taking ownership, processing emotions, drawing boundaries, seeking therapy, an…

This is a final apology episode for ghosting you all, where you can find me, and a sneak peek of the first episode of my new project, Voicemails to Dad, where, you guessed it, I leave voicemails to my recently deceased father. You can find my writing on substack here: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/ You can find the Voicemail to Dad podcast here…

In this episode, John does a deep dive on three different ways you can elevate your partner and relationship by being curious about your partner and their experiences, championing their story, and asking them how you can work on fulfilling their needs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…

In the final episode of the Red & Green Flags in Dating series, John talks about how important having capacity for yourself and others is in your relationships. He defines what capacity is, gives examples and what it looks like in action, and explains the difference between having a healthy vs an unhealthy amount of capacity in dating and relations…

In this episode, John does a deep dive on the second C of Red & Green Flags in Dating, communication. John discusses what healthy and unhealthy communication looks like in relationships, and what red flags you should look for that shows someone does not communicate well in the early stages of dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastc…

In the first episode of a three part series, Red & Green Flags in Dating, John breaks down the three most important C's in dating: connection, communication, and capacity. He defines what connection is, gives examples of what healthy and unhealthy forms of connection are, and discusses red and green flags to look for in connection when you're first…

In this episode, John talks about how to be open to love after your heart has been broken. He dives into how practicing opening your heart up in your relationships is an exercise you need to practice daily in order to create the opportunity to heal and grow from your break up. He also talks about forgiveness, treating yourself, closure, finding peo…

In this episode, John reflects on his 51st birthday and shares his revelations and insights about life. He discusses the importance of self-reflection, accepting oneself as a 'B-side', the value of movement and fitness, the power of asking for what you want, the significance of friendships, the importance of finding peace, the process of closure, t…

In this episode, John answers a listener's question, and discusses the reasons why people cheat, including emotional disconnection, curiosity, and unhappiness within oneself. He also addresses the issue of ghosting, the fear of having difficult conversations, the importance of exploring patterns in relationships and understanding one's contribution…

In this episode, John explores the different dimensions of intimacy, including emotional, spiritual, mental, passionate, physical, and energy intimacy. He emphasizes the importance of creating a safe space for emotional vulnerability, engaging in meaningful conversations, and practicing empathy and compassion. He also highlights the significance of…

In this episode, John brings on Mark Groves to discuss his book 'Liberated Love' and the journey of relationships. Mark shares his personal experience of going through Relationship 1.0 and 2.0 with his partner. They discuss codependency, the importance of self-erasure in relationships, the role of the nervous system in relationships, and the signs …

In this episode, John gives us a list of unhealthy behaviors we mistake for love in dating and our relationships. He talks about why we're attracted to unhealthy behavior, and does a deep dive on how we might exhibit some of these behaviors in current or past relationships without realizing it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices…

In this episode, John talks about the challenges people face when they stay in a relationship after infidelity. He encourages people who are in this situation to ask themselves a very important question: why are you staying in this relationship? Especially when there hasn't been any growth, or change on the other person's end. Learn more about your…

In this episode, John talks to James Rhee about his journey as a Korean American and experiences in leadership. He shares the story of the red helicopter and how it impacted his perspective on kindness. James explains his philosophy of kindness in math, how he designs systems that reward true agency, the importance of joy and finding contentment in…

In this exciting episode, John hosts a panel with the speakers for the upcoming In Bloom: A Love and Relationships Summit. They talk about everything love and relationships including artificial intimacy, sex as a cultural and relational issue, emotional availability, and the practice of interdependence. The conversation also touches on communicatio…

In this episode, John shares his thoughts on the twenty things every man should have or have done by age forty. He covers a wide range of topics including: finding purpose, developing personal style, maintaining good credit, experiencing heartbreak, expressing love for other men, setting boundaries with parents, saving and investing, practicing for…

In this episode, John talks with Keila and Joe about their relationship history, communication issues, and recent conflicts. They also talk about the baggage from past relationships, the challenges of feeling safe and secure, external stressors, different social lives, and the pressure to be everything for each other. They also discuss the impact o…

In this episode, John talks about how complicated the aftermath of cheating is. He talks about the importance of not taking things personally, forgiveness if you want to repair the relationship, why people cheat, how to heal if you've been cheated on, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…

In this episode, John reflects on his personal growth journey through social media and the power of documenting one's story. He shares how he found his voice and embodied his potential through podcasting. John also discusses the importance of building a local community and serving others. He explores themes of love, relationships, acceptance, and t…

In this episode, John talks to Annie Undone about monogamous vs non-monogamous relationships. They talks about what non-monogamy is, what is looks like in a romantic relationship, what judgements surround non-monogamy, debunk myths about non-monogamy, how to be in a healthy non-monogamous relationships, and more. Annie is an artist and writer worki…

In this episode, John answers all of Vanity Fair's Proust questions, and does a deep with each answer. He shares vulnerable moments of his life by talking about his childhood, happiness and fears, his current state of mind and struggles, occasional lies he's told, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…

In this episode, John brings back the hosts of "Guys We Fucked," Corinne Fisher and Christina Hutchinson, to discuss the lasting influence of childhood on adult life, emotional vampires, the necessity of solitude for creativity, and their positive outlook on aging. They delve into how childhood experiences shape self-worth and emotional health, wit…

In this emotional episode, John and his retreat members get vulnerable and share their experience attending March's Miserable F*cks Retreat. They dive into why they decided to attend this month's retreat, what fears they have going through with experience with strangers, what feelings were brought up that they had to work through, and much more. Le…

In this episode, John talks with Zach Watson to discuss the topic of mental load and domestic labor distribution. They explore the challenges and controversies surrounding this topic, particularly in relation to men's responses. They explore the role of childhood experiences in shaping perspectives, the need for understanding and empathy, the chall…

In this episode, John does a live podcast with Nicole LePera (The Holistic Psychologist) where they talk about breaking old patterns and generational cycles, how to open your heart to yourself and others, what manifestation really is, getting in touch with our nervous systems, finding peace within ourselves, having empathy for our parents, masculin…

In this episode, John discusses the importance of embracing singleness as a time for personal growth and self-discovery. He challenges the notion that everything in life needs to be figured out and emphasizes the value of exploring oneself during periods of singleness. He also highlights the misconception that happiness is dependent on being in a r…

In this episode, John talks with Colette, a professional dominatrix, and discusses her work and the world of BDSM. She shares her definition of being a dominatrix and explains that her clients come to her to explore surrender and alternative sexuality. Colette also shares her immigrant story and how her upbringing influenced her career choice. She …

In this episode, John introduces his series where he reads excerpts from his book 'Single On Purpose' and provides commentary. He explains that the goal of doing this series is a commitment to engage with his audience and not 'sneak out the back' like he tends to do. John shares his personal experiences with loneliness, rejection, and losing onesel…

In this episode, John and Vanessa talk about how codependency impacts our relationships with others along with the relationship we have with our selves. They talk about what codependency and enmeshment looks like in our relationships, how attachment styles come into play, and how they have healed from their codependency issues with each other and o…

In this episode, John talks about how love evolves and changes as we grow older. In our 20s and 30s, love is about late-night conversations, romantic gestures, and finding self-value in another person. In our 40s and 50s, love becomes more about creating a shared space, being non-possessive, and prioritizing each other's well-being. He also talks a…

On this real couples session, Brianna and Tanner come back to discuss the changes in their drinking habits and the positive impact it has had on their relationship. They express their desire to work on individual goals, such as better communication and overcoming fear. They explore the importance of taking a beat before responding and understanding…

In this episode, John and Vanessa discuss various aspects of relationships and provide insights and strategies for building healthier connections. They draw from their personal experiences as licensed marriage and family therapists and individuals who have been in multiple relationships. They also cover topics such as codependency, loving without p…

In this episode, John talks about how how our hearts are always competing with our brains (logic). He also dives into how important living a heart centered life is, what that looks like in your every day, how to start living a heart centered life, and why you should stop holding in your pee (stop settling for discomfort). This episode is brought to…