Best The Arbitrary Podcast Show Podcasts (2024)

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Break Free From Arbitrary Rules: Cleaning Out Your Should Closet 12:31

1h ago12:31

12:31

This week we're diving into how "shoulds" sneak in and mess up our confidence, relationships, dating, and sex lives. Shoulds come from all kinds of places (society, religion, your grandma, that 2nd grade math teacher who said you had messy handwriting...whatever). They undermine us and our relationships, often subconsciously. Every time you let a "…

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Skip The Frustration By Understanding Attachment Styles 24:23

1d ago24:23

24:23

Everyone has an attachment style. Knowing yours will enable you to manage relationships effectively as an adult, not just react at people. You'll feel much more able to communicate your needs, and much more in the driver's seat of your own experience in relationship, if you understand your own attachment style. So join me while I break down the mai…

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Inside a Session on Emotional Desires: Asking For What You Want Without Shame or Blame 47:25

18d ago47:25

47:25

In this special episode, I let you listen-in on a live session with client Kris (with her permission!). She and I tackle the topic of owning our own emotional desires when we’re in relationship. Think of our emotional desires just like sexual ones. Sometimes we know them, sometimes we don’t. Sometimes we want to ask for something, but we don’t real…

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Better Sleep, Better Sex 19:22

1d ago19:22

19:22

Sleeping poorly really impacts your sex life. In today's episode we're going to look at this head-on. This is a super practical episode meant to offer concrete help. I'll share effective ways to sleep better, and what is reasonable to expect from yourself and your partner when there are sleep challenges going on. If you or your partner struggle wit…

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What Am I A "Yes" To (Even If I'm A "No" To Sex)? 11:48

1M ago11:48

11:48

It is super hard when you feel stuck in the Big No. You feel like you always have to say no to your partner. You may wish you wanted sex, but the truth is that you don't. There are loads of good reasons for that (see episodes 3 and 4 for many of them!). But it also just sucks to feel stuck there, worried about your relationship, worried if you'll e…

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How to Feel Better About Getting Rejected 40:04

1M ago40:04

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Today is all about how to build rejection resilience. How do you deal with rejection by default? How do you feel? How do you actually want to feel? We're going to dive into how to feel better when we don’t get what we want from someone. I’ll share the 4 options for responding to rejection. I’ll break down which ones undermine and which ones support…

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Ep 225 How to Stop Abandoning Yourself Part 2 50:34

1M ago50:34

50:34

What are you avoiding right now? What are the rules about doing it “right” that are keeping you stuck? Get unstuck, move out of perfectionism, avoidance procrastination and into action that feels good again. Build evidence in your skills and your ability to follow through with the things you care about by using Draft Mode in all your goals and inte…

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An Introduction to Sexological Bodywork: Interview with Rahi Chun 30:08

1M ago30:08

30:08

When you're struggling with your sexuality, it's important to understand the landscape of help and healing options available. Sexological bodyworkers are one type of sex professional that many people don't know about. They are particularly helpful for certain sex challenges, and can really be helpful for people with numbness, pain, or difficulty ac…

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Ep 224 How to Stop Abandoning Yourself (part 1) 36:51

2M ago36:51

36:51

You were taught to abandon yourself in small and discreet ways through your whole life and now, as an adult, you feel like garbage because you don't do the things you say you're going to or you don't "follow through" (go back to ep 223 to listen). In this episode, we give you the first 3 steps to stop abandoning yourself so make sure you grab paper…

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What Strings Are You Attaching To Sex? 23:42

2M ago23:42

23:42

This episode will walk you through the 5 main types of emotional strings we attach to sex that can really tank a couple’s fun together. I'll explain why this can be a hidden, but very common, reason for sexual avoidance. Then I’ll help you inventory this in your relationship and start looking at how to release the weight so you can have more fun, c…

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Ep 223 Are you bad at follow through? 33:16

2M ago33:16

33:16

What if you aren't actually bad at follow through? There are some sneaky rules about "follow through" that are making it impossible for your goals and dreams to become a reality. If you don't real about your complex life and the reality of living in survival mode the last 2-3 decades, you will never see or feel a difference. When you redefine follo…

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Flirting 101: Keys to Juicy Flirting for New & Long-Term Connections 28:48

2M ago28:48

28:48

Whether you’re partnered or not, flirting is such an important skill and one that most people don’t spend nearly enough time learning to do well. I sure didn't, but I was so excited to learn about how to flirt well. This episode will help you understand why it's important to flirt-- including in long-term relationships. Plus, we'll cover how to avo…

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Ep 222 Is THIS Keeping You Stuck? 42:27

2M ago42:27

42:27

I don't understand how this is something more people aren't talking about but there is a mountain of evidence showing this is a non-negotiable piece to a healing burnout and cPTSD. Humans are not meant to do life solo - we are co-creators, we rely on one another for feedback, encouragement, challenges and passing on wisdom. In this episode, Brandon…

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You're Not Dysfunctional and Why Comparing Yourself To Others Isn’t Helping You 19:56

2M ago19:56

19:56

Most of us don’t talk openly and honestly about our relationship and sexual challenges. So it’s no wonder that we look around us at everyone else and assume they are having great sex and easy relationships. Today we're talking about how that mistake can actually harm us. We're diving into the incredibly common habit of "Compare and Despair" as it a…

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When Reality is a Bummer: Dealing with Disappointment 24:02

2M ago24:02

24:02

Are you feeling disappointed about anything in your relationship or sex life? Disappointment in relationships and sex is super normal. Some disappointment is because the situation is really not working for us and we need to take some sort of action (like leave, have some tough conversations, or get help). Other disappointments are simply because it…

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Relationship Skills Part 2: Attuning to Your Partner 24:40

3M ago24:40

24:40

Attuning well to your partner feels great for both of you. It enables emotional intimacy, which makes sexy time way better and much more likely to happen. It's also key for the special kind of non-verbal communication required in physical intimacy. But how do we do it well? This episode will walk you through how to attune well to your partner. It w…

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Ep 221 Get Your Goals WITHOUT Burning Out 1:27:47

3M ago1:27:47

1:27:47

Working the hardest and the longest has NOT brought you the results you've been looking for. In this episode, we break down the S.H.E. Method and give you homework so you can move out of the hustle and grind pattern and finally focus your energy and attention on what matters. And there is a great question at the end that might resonate with you a l…

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Exploring BDSM: Interview with Femme Domme Coach Rose 45:23

3M ago45:23

45:23

This episode is a must for anyone diving into or interested in dipping a toe into the world of BDSM. We cover everything from basic definitions: what is BDSM? How is it different from kink? What are the differences among Dom(mme)/Sub play, Sadomasochism, and Bondage and Discipline? How do you find a local scene or partners? What are some things to …

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Ep 220 The Stakes ARE High 21:42

3M ago21:42

21:42

In this episode, I share from my heart about why I am so passionate about the work I do. I have been doing intense healing over the last year and something clicked in the last week making it feel easy breezy to share from my heart vs the overthinking, research based, data oriented place I forced myself to work from for years. If you want a shot of …

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Ep 219 Whose Dreams are You Working On Today? 48:11

3M ago48:11

48:11

In this episode, we talk about why your day has become about other people's goals and dreams, the questions Brandon and I habitually ask ourselves, and how Brandon's phone countdown timer has helped him ask himself: What can I do right now? What new choice can I make right now that is aligned with any of my goals? We dig into the difference between…

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Initiating Sex: Key Troubleshooting Questions for Couples 20:01

3M ago20:01

20:01

This episode helps couples troubleshoot problems around initiating sexy time. In it, I guide you through how to talk over two of the most important topics for you and your partner to cover: 1) How are we dividing up initiation and do we both like the split? If not, what kind of split might feel better to each of us and why? 2) Are the initiation st…

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Inner Critics Gone Wild: Boost Your Mojo & Improve Your Connections By Being Nicer to Yourself 27:15

3M ago27:15

27:15

If you regularly feel ashamed, defensive, less worthy than others, or underconfident -- that's your inner critic at work. You may not realize that an inner critic gone wild isn't just harming you, it's harming your relationships and sex life. All of us can be mean to ourselves occasionally, but when it's a regular pattern it makes us feel awful, ki…

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Arousal Styles: Which of These 3 is Yours? 22:30

4M ago22:30

22:30

This episode covers the 3 main arousal styles. Only one is commonly depicted in media, but all are very normal and very common in reality. Most people have one dominant and possibly a secondary. Knowing your arousal style is part of discovering the manual to your own turn-ons and very helpful for communicating with your partner about what you like.…

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Ep 218 Burnout & Allostatic Load 26:14

4M ago26:14

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How does burnout REALLY happen? What is happening in your body? What is happening in your everyday life that could be fast tracking you to burnout? In this episode, Tasha gets a little nerdy with some of the science of allostatic load, stress vs stressors and 4 specific actions you can start doing today to decrease the impact of stress on your mind…

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How to Support a Partner with Sexual Trauma 19:04

4M ago19:04

19:04

It can be hard to know what to do when you're partnered with someone who is starting to heal from sexual trauma. They may be pulling away sexually. You may be feeling rejected, resentful, and/or disappointed. You may want to support them, but not know how. Today we’re going to cover the key things you can do to support your partner’s healing and yo…

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Recovering from Trauma: My Process 48:21

4M ago48:21

48:21

This is a special one. It's both vulnerable and also really satisfying. I’m sharing my story of the 8 key processes that helped me heal from dissociation and PTSD that I accrued from various traumas, including sexual assault, child abuse, homelessness, bullying and harassment. It's never the same path for everyone, but I hope that this episode will…

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8 Core Principles of Consent & Why They Will Make You Super Sexy 24:46

4M ago24:46

24:46

Learn the 8 core principles of consent, why consent competence makes us all sexier and more respectful lovers and human beings, how to share and model consent principles with kids, and some advanced issues around consent for those interested in kink and/or BDSM. Here is the basic outline of the 8 core principles of consent: Ask first, rather than j…

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Orgasm Challenges with Partners: Early or Never, the Male Edition 29:29

5M ago29:29

29:29

If you're a person with a penis or partnered with someone with one, this episode will help you understand and solve some very common orgasm challenges for male-bodied people during partner sex: having orgasms sooner than you'd like ("premature ejaculation" or PE) or not at all. It will help you stop trying to extend your time to orgasm by thinking …

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More Orgasms with Partners: Vulva Edition 27:02

5M ago27:02

27:02

So you want to have more orgasms during partner sex? Awesome! This is a common goal for female-bodied people and I am 100% here for that. Women have much lower rates of orgasm during partner sex with men than their male-bodied partners do (and fewer orgasms than men think we're having). Lesbians don't have this problem, nor do women of all persuasi…

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Becoming Shameless: The Power of De-Shaming for a Happier You and a Better World 38:35

5M ago38:35

38:35

How would it feel to feel free from shame? Take a moment to imagine it. If you’d like to get closer to that, join me for Episode 11: Becoming Shameless. Everyone has shame and inhibitions we picked up from our culture or past experiences. Even those who mask it really well. It is absolutely possible to shed that baggage. It is a liberating process.…

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Ep 217 Waiting for the other shoe to drop 27:58

5M ago27:58

27:58

I wish I knew that part of healing and actually creating the life you want to experience - with joy, attunement, connection, authenticity and feeling safe in the space you exist in - wasn't all gamor and ease. There is a period of adjustment that I wasn't expecting and in this episode my intention is to pass along this lesson to you, to enable you …

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When & How to Talk About Sex with Partners 38:46

5M ago38:46

38:46

Episode 10 is all about when and how to talk to your partner about sex. If you're dating, considering dating, or in a relationship, don't miss this one. It will take the guesswork out and keep you from a lot of disappointment. Many of us spin out in worry about finding the "right time;" avoid talking about important sexual needs, desires, or challe…

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Getting Validation: How to Be a Star Not a Black Hole or Red Flag 41:36

6M ago41:36

41:36

Today we're talking all about where we get our validation, and what happens when we only look for it externally without giving it to ourselves. Ever get that feeling that you, or someone you're with, just can't really take in approval? Maybe compliments slide off uncomfortably, or they seem to do absolutely nothing for our self-image. Maybe we feel…

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Relationship Skills Part 1: Attune to Yourself First 35:18

6M ago35:18

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Episode 8 is the first in a series about Relationship Skills. We're starting with the fundamental skill of self-attunement. This is the simple practice of tuning into our emotional activation level to understand where we're at and what we're available for. It's simple, and doesn't take long. It is also a game-changer for your relationships, whether…

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Ep 216 Boundaries Then and Now 1:16:58

6M ago1:16:58

1:16:58

In this episode of The Boldly Becoming You podcast we travel back in time to the dark ages of our relationship. A time without communication. A time…without boundaries 😱😵😵😱 We cover: How the older you get, the more overwhelming boundaries can become How capacity but also the fear of being a burden, inconveniencing someone else and what we see other…

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Better Intimacy Through Simple Changes in Vocabulary 34:15

6M ago34:15

34:15

This episode will help you connect better to your own pleasure and your partners through simple changes to the words you use to talk -- and think -- about sex. I'll cover the impact of words on mindset, expectations, and emotions, and give you some options for new terms to try on to feel more free during intimacy. The episode outlines the socialize…

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Uncover and Celebrate Your Erotic Superpowers 34:20

6M ago34:20

34:20

In this episode, you'll learn why it's so important to understand your own erotic superpowers. We'll dive into the importance of owning your strengths when reaching for new goals. I'll help you identify your own erotic superpowers by explaining 16 common categories of them. The episode closes with an exercise to help you uncover, celebrate, and bui…

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Ep 215 You Are Unreliable 54:06

6M ago54:06

54:06

This one might hit you right in the trauma. You are sacrificing your time, energy and your future far too often for far too little. The reality is…you’re a problem, you’re a real problem. But so were we. In this episode, we talk about: Tasha and Brandon talk about the silent fight in sharing Instagram posts with each other How I kept telling myself…

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All About Erotic Emotions and Getting Curious About What Turns You On 40:30

6M ago40:30

40:30

This episode is all about the psychological side of sexual desire. Our brains are our biggest sex organs. They enable us to feel interested, excited, and satisfied. So a big key to sexual self-empowerment is knowing your own core desires – the erotic emotions we crave during sexual play. They aren't obvious, and many may be surprising. This is a bi…

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Ep 214 18,291 Steps 13:18

7M ago13:18

13:18

What started out as a fun, lighthearted exploratory adventure has turned into a journey to trust myself and my body after years of feeling untethered from it. One of the biggest disappointments in getting sick in 2014 and being officially diagnosed in 2017 with myalgic encephalomyelitis, ME/CFS, was that Brandon and I were told, "It's unlikely you'…

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Boosting Desire & Arousal By Finding Your Libido Blockers 37:57

7M ago37:57

37:57

Join me on a useful journey through the dark forest of libido blockers. We're going through a list of the top 11 types of 'brakes' I see getting in the way of arousal and desire. After all, you can hit the gas all you want but you won't go anywhere if you don't release the brakes. Here are the top issues we'll cover: 1. Genital pain and numbness 2.…

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Ep 213 The BEST List You’ll Ever Make 57:12

7M ago57:12

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If you’re a list maker, note taker, or a to-do guru then you KNOW that if it’s not on a list, it ain’t happ’nin. So then why oh why does everyone get all weird when we bring up the topic of Vision Boards? …is it maybe because they have been turned into this big scary expectation of happily ever after or else? Or maybe it’s because no one ever told …

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Burnt out Healers: Stop Trying to Prove Yourself 32:25

7M ago32:25

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This is for a very specific audience: neurodivergent healers who want to help people and want to work for themselves but feel like you have to PUSH and prove that you can be successful Sign up for the Do The Damn Thing waitlist: stan.store/whitneycatalano --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/whitney-catalano/support…

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Arousal & Desire 101: Foundations 27:35

7M ago27:35

27:35

This episode is the first in a series on arousal and desire. It will give you the foundation you need to understand the different types of arousal and start thinking critically about desire, so you can boost your experiences of both processes. We'll unpack how underlying cultural assumptions about sexual desire -- and the limited information we all…

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Ep 212 The power of Visualization could bring you…goats? 🐐 1:08:36

7M ago1:08:36

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In this episode, we get into the weirdly challenging concept of Visualization - what it really is, why it feels hard and what to do to make it easier AND more effective. As we battle our self-imposed timer we dig into our respective relationships with visualizing and goal setting…And we talked about goats, and to a lesser extent, chicken. Seats to …

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Mastering the Art of Attuned Touch for Deeper Connection 18:23

7M ago18:23

18:23

Unlock the superpower hidden within the simple act of touch. In this episode, I guide you through the transformative practice of Attuned Touch for better intimacy and connection. This is a game-changer for giving and getting affection, whether you're using it in a sexual relationship or not. It's an amazing skill for everyone, single or partnered. …

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Ep 211 Do you have the capacity to do more? 1:06:44

7M ago1:06:44

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In this episode we talk about a concept that is overlooked by almost everyone. Capacity. Where does it all go? Why do we think we have more of it than we do, and a few ideas that will get you thinking…”oh yeah, that does make me tired”. AND we give you a few tips to navigate this whole “capacity” issue. This is a big deal, because without understan…

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Play-Based Approaches for Better Sex and Connection 17:19

7M ago17:19

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Ever feel like your career leaves little room for the joys of your sensual self? Join me, in this first episode of Sex Help for Smart People, where you'll learn why it can be hard for even the most successful women to know how to get what they want in sex and relationships. In this episode, we're taking a radical departure from the ineffective meth…

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Ep 210 Big Goals, Big Stress, and a Countdown Clock 57:58

8M ago57:58

57:58

Earlier this week we asked the question: “What do YOU think is stopping you or standing in the way of you having what you want” In this episode, we dig into your responses and our own relationship with goals, success and how we completely shifted our focus to out of burnout and off the neverending treadmill of letdown and disappointment in ourselve…

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Ep 209 2024 Word of the Year and How to Use It 41:26

8M ago41:26

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I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but almost all of the 2024 new year content on social media is basically gone. That’s because all of that “New Year, New You” crap is all based on the idea of having everything PERFECTLY mapped out all before January 1st. At R & R, we know that expecting yourself to have your entire year perfectly planned and ready t…

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