Best Vern Tompke Podcasts (2025)

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879 - Vern Tompke: The Silent Battles Pastors Face 49:59

7d ago49:59

49:59

Why do so many pastors secretly struggle with pornography? Sathiya Sam and Vern Tompke explore this tough topic as Vern shares his personal journey through addiction, the pressures of ministry, and the power of confession and accountability. Together, they cast a vision for a more authentic church culture where pastors and their families can find r…

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Ep. 153 - Theme for 2025 18:18

4h ago18:18

18:18

We are starting a brand new group for 2025! This group will consist of 5-7 men who want to journey together throught the finding traction course. Our next group will be starting January 2025 on Wednesdays at 9 pm. Eastern. If you want more information on how to become part of one of these groups reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com. To …

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882 - New Years Resolutions That Actually Work 10:13

6h ago10:13

10:13

In this episode of the Man Within Podcast, Sathiya Sam discusses effective New Year's resolutions, emphasizing the importance of commitment over mere motivation. He shares personal experiences with resolutions, particularly regarding quitting pornography, and advocates for setting small, sustainable goals that lead to significant changes. Sathiya e…

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881 - Avoid These 4 Gateway Drugs To Pornography 11:37

2d ago11:37

11:37

In this episode of The Man Within Podcast, Sathiya dives deep into the sneaky traps that can derail your recovery journey. From the subtle pull of technology to the unexpected dangers of busy-ness, alcohol, and even fitness, you’ll discover how these “gateway drugs” can lead to relapse if left unchecked. With powerful personal stories and game-chan…

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Ep. 152 - Unleash the Man Within with Sathiya Sam 34:20

6d ago34:20

34:20

Today It is my priviledge to introduce a fellow recovery coach. Sathiya Sam has an inspiring story of how to walk free from porn and move towards a larger vision for one's life. Sathiya Sam's podcast is called "Man Within" and his recovery resources can be accessed at https://www.sathiyasam.com/ We are starting new groups all the time for 5-7 men w…

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880 - Do This To Quit Porn In 2025 10:05

6d ago10:05

10:05

Are you ready to make 2025 the year you finally break free from porn? In this episode, Sathiya Sam shares the ultimate blueprint to set yourself up for lasting success in recovery. Discover why celebrating small wins can fuel your progress, how to find the right mentor or system to guide you, and why imperfect action is better than no action at all…

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878 - Making The Most of Christmas 10:08

9d ago10:08

10:08

What if Christmas could mean more than just gifts and gatherings? In this episode, Sathiya dives deep into the heart of the holiday season, exploring the profound significance of faith, family, and purpose. Through personal reflections and powerful insights, he reveals why Jesus is the cornerstone of Christmas and how shifting your focus can unlock…

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Ep. 151 - Motorcyles Mouthwash and Magical Thinking 24:28

14d ago24:28

24:28

As we get ready for Christmas - I thought I'd fill our stockings with some random recovery ideas. Yes they are random - but in them hopefully you can find something to avoid being nice (not naughty) this holiday season! We are starting new groups all the time for 5-7 men who want to journey together throught the finding traction course. Our next gr…

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877 - Stress Will Ruin Your Holidays (Unless You Do This) 9:17

13d ago9:17

9:17

The holiday season is meant to be joyful, but it often brings hidden stressors, family drama, financial strain, work pressure, and even challenges in your faith. In this episode, Sathiya reveals how to navigate these obstacles with intention and resilience. Discover the power of a 'Green Zone Plan,' a proactive strategy to stay emotionally grounded…

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876 - Vince Miller: Discovering God’s Truth About Real Manhood 1:09:52

14d ago1:09:52

1:09:52

In this episode, Sathiya talks to Vince Miller to tackle the big questions men wrestle with in today's world. Together, they uncover the timeless challenges men face, explore the powerful connection between identity in Christ and true purpose, and offer fresh insights into the difference between cultural masculinity and biblical manhood. From navig…

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875 - 3 Keys To Avoid Holiday Relapses 9:37

16d ago9:37

9:37

The holiday season can be the most dangerous time for individuals in recovery from pornography addiction. In this episode, Sathiya reveals why pornography traffic spikes during the holidays, the subtle traps that lead to relapse, and most importantly, how to avoid them. Discover the practical strategies you need to build structure, stay connected, …

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Ep. 150 - Faulty Approaches Redux (with Matt Dobscheutz) 41:08

19d ago41:08

41:08

Last weeks' episode felt unfinished to me. I thought it would be great to have to have my fellow coach Matt Dobscheutz come on and add his thoughts to the topic of why some guys fail to achieve the recovery success they say they desire. We are starting new groups all the time for 5-7 men who want to journey together throught the finding traction co…

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874 - Why Every Man Should Want Challenges In His Life 12:09

20d ago12:09

12:09

Join Sathiya on this episode of the Man Within Podcast as he passionately discusses why every man should face challenges in life. Drawing on personal experiences and scriptural insights, he underscores how trials develop perseverance, character, and hope. Key scriptures from Romans 5:3-5 and James 1:2-4 highlight the importance of embracing and end…

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872 - Your Grandma Watches Porn Too 12:11

24d ago12:11

12:11

In this episode of the Man Within podcast, Sathiya Sam explores the intriguing subject of generational differences in porn consumption. Drawing on a 2022 study with over 5,000 participants, Sathiya discusses how technological and lifestyle changes have influenced porn use across different age groups. He also highlights specific genres linked to hig…

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Ep. 149 - 6 Recovery Approaches Bound to Fail 22:08

26d ago22:08

22:08

I have coached guys in porn recovery groups for many years. Over the years I have seen various guys try various things that have proven to be unhelpful in overcoming porn. In today's episode I explore 6 ways that I think that guys (even guys in groups) set themselves up to be unsuccessful in recovery. We are starting new groups all the time for 5-7…

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871 - Entering Your "Promised Land" 12:09

28d ago12:09

12:09

Join Sathiya Sam on the Man Within Podcast as he dives deep into the journey of entering your promised land. Drawing inspiration from the Israelites' story, he discusses the importance of believing in yourself, enduring hardships, and the significance of recovery. With personal anecdotes and biblical references, Sathiya empowers listeners to persev…

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870 - Stop Managing Your Addiction (Do This Instead) 1:10:59

29d ago1:10:59

1:10:59

In this episode, Steven Shields shares his powerful journey from managing addiction to finding lasting freedom. Together, we uncover the mindset shifts and practical steps that can lead to true healing. Steven’s story offers hope, actionable strategies, and a deeper understanding of the role faith, community, and vulnerability play in overcoming ad…

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869 - How To End 2024 A Clean Man 12:09

1M ago12:09

12:09

Sathiya welcomes listeners to The Man Within Podcast and emphasizes the importance of proactive recovery to end the year clean, challenging the listeners' common resolutions and encouraging them to start now rather than waiting for January. He provides actionable advice on coping mechanisms, reflecting on progress, and specific strategies to avoid …

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Ep. 148 - How Did I Get Here? 21:37

1M ago21:37

21:37

When I meet new guys I like to ask them this question "How did porn get embedded in your life?" Over and over again I hear some version of the same story. Today I want to talk about the process about how porn became a problem for you because it provides clues for how we can begin to journey out of it. We are starting new groups all the time for 5-7…

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868 - This Is Why You Can't Hear God's Voice 12:09

1M ago12:09

12:09

Join Sathiya Sam on The Man Within Podcast as he dives into a special Thanksgiving message, discussing the importance of gratitude and the intriguing concept of why you might not hear God's voice. Sathiya shares his personal experiences and insights on recognizing God's silent periods as times of observation and testing. This episode is perfect for…

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867 - Elise Micheals: Men Are Missing THIS When Finding Purpose 1:07:51

1M ago1:07:51

1:07:51

In this episode, Sathiya welcomes Elise Micheals, a dynamic coach specializing in supporting men through mental health challenges and personal growth. Together, they dive into Elise’s unique approach to working with men, her observations on modern masculinity, and how cultural shifts influence the male experience. Main Topics: 1- The Motivation Beh…

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866 - Two Best Kept Secrets of Nervous System Regulation 12:09

1M ago12:09

12:09

Join Sathiya on The Man Within Podcast as he shares two powerful yet little-known techniques to regulate your nervous system in our anxiety-filled world. Covering practical exercises like eyelid tracking and toe-tipping, this episode provides actionable advice for achieving a state of calm. Don’t miss out on these essential mental health strategies…

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Ep. 147 - Direct from Brazil 19:37

1M ago19:37

19:37

Vern has been down in Brazil working with couples around marriage and men in the area of recovery. Take a listen to some of his thoughts and screwups direct from the land down under (the other land down under) We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a …

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865 - Three Guaranteed Recovery Principles 12:09

1M ago12:09

12:09

In this episode of the Man Within podcast, Sathiya Sam explores the intriguing subject of generational differences in porn consumption. Drawing on a 2022 study with over 5,000 participants, Sathiya discusses how technological and lifestyle changes have influenced porn use across different age groups. He also highlights specific genres linked to hig…

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864 - Laterras R. Whitfield: God Used My Story to SAVE MARRIAGES 1:07:13

1M ago1:07:13

1:07:13

Laterras R. Whitfield shares his deeply personal journey of failure, redemption, and growth. As the creator of the Dear Future Wifey Podcast, Laterras unpacks his struggles with infidelity, divorce, and the hard-earned lessons that now inspire countless others to navigate relationships with honesty and integrity. Topics Covered: - The origin of the…

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863 - The Fastest Way To Get Divorced 12:09

2M ago12:09

12:09

In today's episode, Sathiya dives into the alarming data linking pornography use to divorce rates. He reveals that 56% of divorces cite a spouse's porn use as the primary reason, and that 70% of divorces are initiated by women, leading to a staggering conclusion that 80% of divorces initiated by women are due to porn use. Sathiya emphasizes the imp…

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862 - 99% of Men Are Addicted Because of This 12:09

2M ago12:09

12:09

In this episode of The Man Within Podcast, host Sathiya discusses the importance of addressing the root causes of porn addiction for long-term success. He shares insights from his recovery work and success stories, like a missionary who transformed his life. Sathiya explains how focusing on the root issues can lead to breakthroughs in other life ar…

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861 - Dr. Brandeis: Why Your T-Levels Are Crashing 1:01:11

2M ago1:01:11

1:01:11

In this episode, Sathiya discusses how factors like lifestyle, mental health, and aging can impact testosterone levels and erectile function. He dives into the common causes of low testosterone and erectile dysfunction, offering insights into how you can support your hormonal health. The effect of inactivity on testosterone production and overall h…

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860 - Is Masturbation a Sin? 5 Questions to Ask Yourself 10:59

2M ago10:59

10:59

Experience lasting freedom and get a free copy of The Last Relapse https://www.sathiyasam.com/books Is masturbation a sin? This question plagues many, especially those striving for a life of integrity and purity. In this episode, we tackle the often-taboo topic of masturbation, exploring its implications within a biblical context. We’ll discuss whe…

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859 - Confidence Is Not A Skill 32:50

2M ago32:50

32:50

Experience lasting freedom and get a free copy of The Last Relapse https://www.sathiyasam.com/books Learn why confidence isn’t just a skill but a natural byproduct of aligning with core principles. Explore the "Three A's of Confidence"—Alignment, Affirmation, and Accomplishment—and how focusing on these areas can help you develop lasting self-assur…

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858 - The Most Expensive Mistake I Made as an Entrepreneur 29:51

2M ago29:51

29:51

For this episode of The Man Within Podcast, Sathiya Sam reflects on some major updates and personal insights from his journey. Starting from recording in a basement with only his iPhone, Sathiya has seen the growth of his coaching program, Deep Clean, expand to a global team with a shared mission to help people overcome pornography addiction. In th…

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857 - Escape Porn Now! 14:40

2M ago14:40

14:40

If you're ready to start feeling like yourself again and desperate to restore intimacy in your key relationships, The Last Relapse will show you exactly how. In this insightful video, we dive deep into liberating yourself from various forms of addiction—whether it's pornography, social media, technology, video games, gambling, alcohol, or drugs. Ad…

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Ep. 146 - Before the Day After 16:21

2M ago16:21

16:21

November 5th is a big day - its Guy Fawkes Day, Vern's Birthday and yes - the American election. How deal with the big feelings that will follow the election can make us truly vulnerable to relapse. Vern walks through how we navigate these strong emotions. We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect arou…

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856 - A Porn Addiction Will DESTROY Your Life 20:17

2M ago20:17

20:17

If you're ready to start feeling like yourself again and desperate to restore intimacy in your key relationships, The Last Relapse will show you exactly how. Embarking on the journey to recovery is challenging, and managing the risk of relapse can feel overwhelming. This video provides essential strategies to help you stay on track and build a resi…

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Ep. 92 - The Hospital Church with James Reeves 45:55

2M ago45:55

45:55

How do you transition your church from a "shiny" facade to one that truly is a hospital for hurting broken people. James Reeves has done it and shares some of his insights with Vern. James is the author of the TwoFearless Video series - one for men and one for women which deal with healing from emotional wounds and trauma. They can be found here: h…

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855 - Ben Bennett: The 7 Emotional NEEDS Your Parents Never Met 1:02:52

2M ago1:02:52

1:02:52

In this episode, Ben Bennett returns to dive into the emotional needs that often go unmet in childhood and how these needs shape behavior well into adulthood. Ben, a behavioral specialist and advocate for mental health, shares insights from his research with his mentor, Josh McDowell, exploring how unmet needs like acceptance, safety, and validatio…

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854 - 5 Biblical Methods to Addiction Recovery from a Former Pastor 23:14

2M ago23:14

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Experience lasting freedom and get a free copy of The Last Relapse https://www.sathiyasam.com/books A former pastor explores how Biblical teachings can guide and support individuals seeking recovery from addiction. While the Bible doesn’t explicitly mention "addiction," it offers profound insights into overcoming compulsive behaviors and habitual s…

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Ep. 145 - Welcome to Plan B 21:30

2M ago21:30

21:30

There are two types of pathways we can walk in recovery - Plan A is the one we prefer and we have all tried it - unsuccessfully. This episode is about Plan B - and why we end up having to follow this route. We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a bet…

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853 - Were you exposed to porn from a young age? 11:12

2M ago11:12

11:12

Pornography might seem harmless, but its effects run much deeper than you think. From devastating relationships to harming your physical and mental health, the damage is real—and long-term. Are you prepared to face the truth? Topics Covered: The long-term effects of pornography on brain chemistry, relationships, and empathy. How pornography contrib…

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852 - Heath Evans: Most Christians Miss These 5 Pillars of Health 1:13:58

2M ago1:13:58

1:13:58

In this episode, Heath Evans shares powerful insights on the connection between faith and physical health. With a unique biblical perspective, Heath highlights why taking care of our bodies isn’t just about looking good but glorifying God with the strength and discipline He has given us. From understanding the importance of a holistic approach to h…

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851 - What Happens When You Quit Porn 23:17

2M ago23:17

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Experience lasting freedom and get a free copy of The Last Relapse https://www.sathiyasam.com/books Ever wondered how pornography affects your brain and behavior? In this eye-opening video, we delve into the neuroscience behind porn addiction and its profound impact on mental health and decision-making. Discover the four major ways pornography rewi…

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Ep. 144 - Porn Free Millennial 46:46

2M ago46:46

46:46

A big step of recovery is when you turn around and help guys who are not as far along the journey as you are. Mac is one of the guys I coach and he has created a great podcast that he shares with younger guys - it's called porn free millenial and you can access it here. https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/porn-free-millennial-podcast/id1688517945…

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850 - Why Your Addiction May Cost You Your Salvation As A Christian 22:01

3M ago22:01

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Experience lasting freedom and get a free copy of The Last Relapse https://www.sathiyasam.com/books Dive into a crucial conversation on addiction and salvation. We unravel what the Bible really says about addiction's impact on your spiritual journey and salvation, navigating this challenging topic with clarity and compassion. Topics Covered: - The …

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849 - Lorilee Binstock: Healing from Child Sex Abuse – My Journey to Recovery 53:58

3M ago53:58

53:58

In this episode, Sathiya welcomes Lorilee Binstock, a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, to share her powerful story of resilience and transformation. They explore her early experiences of trauma, the emotional and psychological toll it took on her life, and how she found the strength to begin her healing journey. Lorilee opens up about the key mo…

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848 - How Porn Affects Your Brain: 7 Secrets to Reversing the Damage 16:42

3M ago16:42

16:42

Experience lasting freedom and get a free copy of The Last Relapse https://www.sathiyasam.com/books If you're ready to start feeling like yourself again and desperate to restore intimacy in your key relationships, The Last Relapse will show you exactly how. Are you struggling with pornography addiction and seeking a way out? In this powerful video,…

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847 - How I Beat a 15-Year Porn Addiction & Found True Happiness 32:42

3M ago32:42

32:42

Experience Lasting Freedom and get a free copy of The Last Relapse https://www.sathiyasam.com/books If you're ready to start feeling like yourself again and desperate to restore intimacy in your key relationships, The Last Relapse will show you exactly how. Struggling with porn addiction? You're not alone. Gain insights into the journey from addict…

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846 - Justin McClure: Mastering the Art of Saying No 1:06:20

3M ago1:06:20

1:06:20

In this episode, Sathiya and Justin dive deep into the world of entrepreneurship, personal growth, and sobriety. Justin shares his journey from struggling with addiction to becoming a successful entrepreneur and author. Tune in as they explore the mindset needed to juggle multiple responsibilities while maintaining focus and productivity. Key Insig…

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Ep. 143 - What is Your Primal Question? 25:18

3M ago25:18

25:18

What is the Primal Need which drives your behaviors, informs your fears and causes you to reach for your medicine jar? (porn) In this episode Vern asks the question "If porn is our favorite solution, then what is the primal question we are seeking to answer or problem we are seeking to solve? If you are interested in reading the book, 7 Primal Ques…

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845 - Preston Smiles: From Scarcity to Abundance - A Mindset Transformation 57:46

3M ago57:46

57:46

In this episode, Sathiya welcomes Preston Smiles, author of Spiritual Millionaire and a transformational coach, to discuss how shifting your mindset can unlock true abundance in your life. From personal growth to financial freedom, Preston dives into the power of aligning your thoughts and emotions to create holistic success. His inspiring journey …

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Ep. 91 - Sam Black on Church Culture 36:53

3M ago36:53

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Sam Black works with churches at one of my favorite companies - Covenant Eyes. In this free ranging conversation we talk about why he joined Covenant Eyes, his book "The Healing Church" and what sort of churches provide a safe place and a safe process for healing. We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time conn…

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