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Being able to share your experiences of coercive control and domestic violence in a way that is credible is imperative if you are dealing with any larger systems or trying to get support from friends and family. And this is something survivors of abuse struggle with. In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast we look at not only the importance of sharing a credible story, but the common challenges that survivors face and then some practical steps that can be taken to improve the level of credibility that you can gain when telling your story. Some of the top challenges are: The myths and misconceptions about domestic violence that lead to bias The timeline of family court and other evaluations do not allow for healing to happen before a survivor needs to tell their story The trauma responses that arise when sharing the narrative Survivors sharing context before their key points, concerns or asks Some of the ways discussed to become more credible: Use “rocks in a jar” for all communication Find ways to regulate your nervous system Use the support of others to find places and people where it is safe to be safe Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 143: Silenced No More: How Loraine Marshall Beat a Defamation Case and Found Her Voice 46:35

9 days ago46:35

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How often have you felt voice-less and silenced as a survivor of coercive control and domestic violence? Survivors are voice-less when living in the relationship with their abuser. They also often do not get a chance to speak their truth in family court or within any other larger systems either. And so when you are in a place where you want to be heard and decide to make things more public, it is possible that your abuser will do anything and everything to silence you again. This is what happened to my guest, Lorraine Marshall. She received defamation charges against her after writing her book titled, “Post Separation Abuse. Betrayal and Abandonment. What Type Of Man?” So, if you have ever been in a place where you want to be an advocate for other survivors by writing a book or having a podcast or Youtube channel you will need to learn how to protect yourself just in case. Lorraine Marshall shares her story of abuse, how she was silenced, and how she was able to beat the charges filed against her. Loraine Marshall is a self-published author and survivor of hidden emotional abuse that was revealed to her post-separation. If money was not a concern, I would buy a home and run a retreat to help women in recovery from trauma after any of the three Ds in relationship endings. Connect with Loraine: Book - Post Separation Abuse. Betrayal and Abandonment. What Type Of Man? UK - https://amzn.to/3NBlQbx US - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B1RVQQDH Blog - https://successwithloraine.com/when-four-months-turns-into-four-years/ https://ko-fi.com/lorenkeelingauthor https://www.youtube.com/@successwithloraine/podcasts Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 142: Inside the Broken System of Supervised and Therapeutic Visitation 33:00

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Supervised visitation and therapeutic visitation are meant to provide safety and structure for children and families navigating complex custody dynamics. But what happens when there are no regulations, inconsistent oversight, and a severe lack of training among those facilitating these visits? In this episode, I share real-life stories, my experiences getting trained, and the major concerns with how these services are currently being implemented. I’ll break down: What supervised and therapeutic visitation should look like The risks of unregulated or poorly structured visitation services Why documentation, training, and therapist collaboration must be prioritized What we can do to bring awareness and demand better oversight If you’ve experienced supervised or therapeutic visitation—or have concerns about how it’s being handled in your case—this episode is for you. Referenced Links: Episode 44: The Myth of Parental Alienation: What is it really? Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 141: The Shame Was Never Yours: Healing from Vicarious Shame After Abuse 23:05

23 days ago23:05

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Even though you’ve left the relationship, do you still feel embarrassed when you remember the way your ex treated others? Do you find yourself cringing at memories of their public outbursts, apologizing for their past behavior, or worrying that others judge you because of them? This lingering sense of responsibility is called vicarious shame—when you feel embarrassed on behalf of someone else’s actions, even though you weren’t the one who did anything wrong. In this episode, we explore: ✔️ Why vicarious shame lingers long after leaving an abuser ✔️ How abusers used it to manipulate and control you ✔️ The emotional toll of feeling responsible for someone else’s behavior ✔️ Steps to stop carrying their shame and fully step into your own healing Vicarious shame is a tool abusers rely on to keep you second-guessing yourself, isolating from support, and feeling like you need to "fix" things that were never your fault. But the truth is: You are not responsible for their actions—then or now. Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 140: Acceptance and Agency: How to Find Your Power in the Midst of Coercive Control with Karen McMahon 42:20

4 weeks ago42:20

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What if the key to your post-separation freedom wasn’t fighting for control, but letting go of what’s beyond it? Imagine reclaiming your energy by focusing only on what you can control, even in the face of narcissistic abuse or coercive control. How might that shift your healing journey? Our guest Karen McMahon is a divorce coach specializing in supporting survivors of narcissistic abuse. Karen shares how to move from helplessness to empowerment. Together, we explore: The power of accepting your current reality and identifying what is truly within your control. How the 7 Layers of Energy Blueprint can help you shift your mindset and reclaim your agency. Practical steps to transform feelings of powerlessness into purposeful action. If you’re ready to let go of the struggle and embrace a new kind of freedom, this episode is for you. Karen McMahon is a High Conflict Divorce Strategist, Certified Divorce Coach and Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce. She began divorce coaching in 2010 after recognizing that the pain of her divorce led her on a transformational journey into a powerful and unexpected new life. Karen leads a national team of divorce coaches in supporting men and women around the world to become calm, clear and confident as they navigate divorce. Karen is also the host of the acclaimed Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, and co-author of ‘Stepping out of Chaos: Turning Pain to Possibility”. Website: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/media IG: https://www.instagram.com/journey_beyond_divorce/ Podcast: Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast - http://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/journey-beyond-divorce-podcast/id1261400624 Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 139: When Abuse Follows You: Recognizing Coercive Control Outside of Romantic Relationships 29:08

5 weeks ago29:08

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You are likely listening to The Rising Beyond Podcast because of coercive control and abuse within a romantic relationship. Unfortunately coercive control often shows up in other relationships as well and can have long term impacts on your mental health and wellness and can interfere with your healing journey. Many of my clients have experienced what they often call a “test” of their healing. This is when they encounter a narcissistic and abusive person in another area of their lives. In this episode we dive into how coercive control and abuse can show up in the workplace, in your family of origin, and within friendships. We touch on how to assess for these relationships in other areas of your life and what you can do to minimize their negative impacts on you. Family of Origin, Referred Episode: Episode 19: Boundaries: I get to decide who’s in my life Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 138: Going Pro Se in Family Court: How to Represent Yourself and Protect Your Kids with Casey Brinkman 39:11

6 weeks ago39:11

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If you are a survivor in the battle ground of family court, would you say that your attorney is representing you well? Do you feel heard? Or maybe you do not have the financial means to even hire an attorney. And so you find yourself going pro se. Representing yourself in family court. This can be extremely scary and it is possible that you will be able to do an even better job going pro se than with an attorney. On this episode of I have a conversation with Casey Schreiber-Brinkman on how she was able to turn her case around to finally be able to protect herself and her children when she got rid of her attorneys and became pro se. Casey shares her best tips for representing yourself well as well as what a family court coach/consultant can do to help you on this journey. We discuss the importance of documentation, knowing your rights, doing the right research, how to get evidence in as evidence, and more. About Casey: Casey is a dedicated protective mother who spent nearly five years navigating the complexities of the family court system. For just under three years, she worked with an attorney, but it wasn’t until she took on her case pro se in the last two years that she was able to truly have her voice, and her children’s voices, heard. Through her persistence and determination, Casey successfully turned her case around to protect her children, a journey that sparked her passion for helping other protective moms facing similar challenges. Connect w Casey: Tik Tok: @pro.se.strategies IG: @prosestrategiesLLC Email: prosestrategies@gmail.com Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 137: Reclaiming Your Life: How to Heal When the Abuse Isn’t Over 24:17

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Have you ever felt like your entire life is consumed by the chaos of post-separation abuse? What if I told you that there’s a part of you—a healing self—that can exist outside of the constant stress and conflict? And what if you could nurture that part of you, even in the middle of everything you're facing? There is the delicate balance between the part of you that is stuck in survival mode—managing the daily chaos of post-separation abuse, family court battles, and co-parenting with a toxic ex—and the part of you that is yearning to heal, grow, and reclaim your life. This episode will help you understand and separate these two selves so you can protect your energy, find moments of joy, and ultimately integrate these parts of yourself to live more fully. We’ll also share powerful mindset shifts and practical strategies to help you navigate this complex journey. If you’ve ever felt like you’re losing yourself in the chaos, this episode is here to offer you hope, clarity, and actionable steps toward healing. Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 136: A TikTok Revelation: Mita Begum’s Journey to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse 39:13

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When you finally realize that you are being abused in your relationship and that your partner is a narcissist, it can hit you like a ton of bricks. In this episode, I have a conversation with Mita Begum on her experience of realizing that she had been in two different abusive relationships after watching a video on Tik Tok and what she did to start getting her power back before even leaving her relationship. She shares the steps she continues to take as she heals and helps other women heal and find their power. We also talk about: How domestic violence does not discriminate and how she did not fit the “picture” of a victim How your family of origin and culture can make you more vulnerable to finding an abusive relationship The difficulties of breaking a trauma bond and what helped for her Tips to finding your power and sense of self About Mita: Mita is a passionate advocate for personal growth and empowerment, holding certifications as a Life Coach, Mindset Coach, and Domestic Violence and Abuse Specialist. She is the founder of Glowing Beyond, where she helps individuals reconnect with their mind, body, and soul while guiding abuse survivors to reclaim their power and transition into healthier, thriving lifestyles. With 16 years of experience as a makeup artist, including working as a celebrity makeup artist for clients like four-time Olympic gold medalist Hayley Wickenheiser, Mita’s expertise extends to empowering women through both inner and outer transformation. Her work has been featured in magazines, multiple podcasts, and community platforms. As the host of The Glowing Beyond Show, Mita shares her journey of overcoming depression, anxiety, and abuse through self-acceptance and inner work, inspiring others to embrace their own power to thrive. Connect with Mita: glowingbeyond.com IG: @mindsetcoachmita FB: https://www.facebook.com/share/1Wi6oBteBf/ Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 135: The Power of Creative Expression in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery 25:03

9 weeks ago25:03

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Explore the transformative power of creativity as a tool for processing emotions and reclaiming your identity after abuse. Learn how engaging in creative expression can help rewire your brain, improve your mood, and reconnect you to your true self. We’ll dive into: Why creativity is particularly powerful for survivors of trauma. Insights from The Body Keeps the Score on how trauma affects brain function. How creative outlets like art, writing, and movement can help you reframe your story and build resilience. Overcoming perfectionism and embracing the healing power of the creative process. This episode includes real-life examples of creative healing and actionable steps to start your own creative journey today. Key Takeaways: Creativity engages the right side of the brain, enabling you to process trauma in ways that words alone cannot. Artistic expression can help you find new strengths, reframe your narrative, and celebrate progress in your healing journey. You don’t need to be an artist—just willing to explore and experiment. Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 134: Triggers 101: What They Are and How to Navigate Them as a Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse 25:39

10 weeks ago25:39

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We’re diving deep into the world of triggers. A common and often overwhelming experience for survivors of trauma and abuse. We’ll explore what triggers are, why they happen, and how they can actually become opportunities for healing and growth. Whether you’re just beginning your recovery journey or you’re further along, this episode offers practical tools and validation to help you navigate triggers with confidence and compassion. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Understanding Triggers: What they are, how they relate to the brain and body’s fight/flight/freeze/fawn responses, and the difference between triggers and flashbacks. Common Triggers: Examples like certain sounds, behaviors, or phrases that may remind you of past trauma. Recognizing Triggers: Learn how to identify early signs of being triggered and track patterns using a “trigger tracker” journal. Managing Triggers in the Moment: Techniques like grounding exercises, deep breathing, and creating a personalized “calm kit.” Growing Through Triggers: How to reframe triggers as milestones in your healing journey and use them as data to guide therapeutic work. Key Takeaways: Triggers are a normal part of recovery and not a sign of failure. Grounding tools, when practiced consistently, can help regulate your nervous system. With mindfulness and support, triggers can illuminate unresolved trauma and help you move toward healing. Call to Action: This week, choose one grounding tool like deep breathing or the 5-4-3-2-1 technique, and practice it daily. Building this habit can make it easier to manage triggers when they arise. Related Episodes: Episode 133: Polyvagal Healing with Erica Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 133: You Can’t Think Your Way to Healing: Full Bodied Healing for Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse with Erica Bonham, LPC 52:01

11 weeks ago52:01

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Why is it that we can understand the abuse we suffered, understand why we are hypervigilant, and yet not see the progress we are hoping for on the healing front? The trauma of an abusive, narcissistic and coercively controlling relationship affects survivors in such a way that we cannot just think our way out of it. Your brains and nervous systems have been re-wired to protect you and your survival at all costs. And your nervous system will not give up those strategies of survival just because you now understand the abuse. This abuse is held in our bodies as well. So we need a full bodied, holistic approach to healing and this is what I am talking about with Erica Bonham, LPC today. We discuss the different ways in which trauma is held in our bodies and she shares some practical tips and skills you can use today to start to lower your hypervigilance and fight, flight, freeze, and fawning responses. Erica shares her passion in helping survivors heal and how she is offering this healing to a wider audience in her new book, Always Enough, Never Done. Erica Bonham is a certified EMDR clinician, consultant and trainer, and is a licensed professional counselor and nervous system regulation coach in the state of Colorado. She aspires to be a catalyst for change, justice, growth, evolution and all around badassery. She specializes in abuse recovery, trauma related to social injustice, and spiritual abuse. She incorporates her training as a yoga instructor and mindfulness practitioner to deepen clients healing of their bodies and specializes in somatic and attachment EMDR, Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy, and ego state work. She is a published author and speaker. Connect with Erica: AVOS practice website: www.avoscounseling.com To order the book, Always Enough, Never Done, the accompanying workbook, course, and/or join coaching calls: https://www.avoscounseling.com/coaching-packages Download Erica's Free Polyvagal Toning Guide with a BONUS of 6 guided meditations: https://www.avoscounseling.com/freebie Follow Erica on social: http://m.facebook.com/avoscounseling https://www.instagram.com/avoscounseling/ https://www.tiktok.com/@ericabonhamsomaticcoach?_t=8sEnEoat3zH&_r=1 Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 132: New Year Survival Guide: Creating Goals When Co-Parenting with an Abuser 28:25

12 weeks ago28:25

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If you’re a survivor navigating family court, co-parenting with an abusive ex, and just trying to make it through another day, goal-setting might feel like an impossible task. Even though it is a new year, you are expecting the same old BS from your co-parent and the family court system. In this episode, we explore how to set meaningful goals for the year ahead—even when life feels like it’s stuck on repeat and the container you’re in does not seem to be changing. Drawing inspiration from the book 10X Is Easier Than 2X , I share how thinking bigger —instead of smaller—can help you create radical change, even in challenging circumstances. We’ll contrast 10X thinking with the more traditional SMART goals and “1% better each day” theories, highlighting the pros and cons of each approach. Most importantly, I validate the very real feeling that if you’re low on energy or hope, these big ideas might feel overwhelming or out of reach. And that’s okay—we’re meeting you where you are. This episode focuses on balancing outside-the-box thinking with the strategies you already know work for, as well as putting energy into what is in our control: Navigating family court more effectively Parenting and co-parenting in high-conflict situations Protecting your energy and mental health Whether you’re ready to dream big or simply looking for small steps to regain control, this episode offers practical, compassionate guidance to help you move forward in your unique situation. cJHs2fzYlu5CvCQx080x Referenced Links: Episode 128 - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/16201738-ep-128-when-hope-feels-out-of-reach-for-domestic-violence-survivors Book: 10x Is Easier Than 2x: Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 131: How Pursuing Your Dreams Can Jumpstart Healing from Abuse with Lola Reid Allin 43:24

13 weeks ago43:24

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One of the most devastating consequences of coercive control and domestic abuse is the stripping away of the victim’s identity and sense of self. The emotional and psychological abuse leads victims to feel incapable of doing even small tasks that may once have felt easy, let alone the belief that one can follow their dreams. What if finding a way to take that first step towards your dreams could catapult your healing? On this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I talk with Lola REid Allin on how following her dreams to become a pilot allowed her to escape her abusive marriage in a time when it was shocking for a woman to leave her husband. In this episode we also discuss the harmful culture in the male dominated profession of aviation and what leads to this harassment and “boys club” culture. Lola shares her reason for writing her memoir, HIGHWAY to the SKY: An Aviator’s Journey. It is a way that she can bring light to the many women’s issues that prevent women from living out their dreams. About Lola: Lola Reid Allin is a survivor, former Airline Transport Pilot, pilot examiner, and the first female flight instructor at two flight schools (BC & ON), and the first woman to fly the Twin Otter (DHC6/300) for a scheduled air service, commemorated on the Wall of Women in Aviation History at the Bush Plane Museum in Sault Ste Marie. In addition, she is a SCUBA Dive Master, and an award-winning author and photographer whose work has appeared in many notable local, national, and international publications, including National Post, Globe & Mail, Toronto Star, National Geographic, Santa Fe Centre for Photography, Verge Magazine, & Grapevine Magazine. To promote the role of women in aviation and to encourage other females to consider aviation careers, Lola is a speaker with the Northern Lights Aero Foundation & the Eastern Ontario 99s Education & Outreach Committee. In 2022, she and Robin Hadfield, the International 99s President, created the New Track Scholarship, an annual award for female pilots. Connect with Lola: https://www.lolareidallin.com/ https://www.facebook.com/Lola.Reid.Allin.Pilot/ https://www.instagram.com/lola.reid.allin/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/lola-reid-allin-77662220/ https://x.com/Lola_ReidAllin Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 130: Survivor Struggles, Legislative Wins, and Family Court Failures 23:23

14 weeks ago23:23

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What can we learn from all that happened in 2024? In this episode, I share some of the top themes that I have seen throughout the year based on the most listened to podcast episodes, my communications with the other advocates fighting for survivors of coercive control and domestic violence, and most importantly the clients and community members I have the honor to walk alongside every day. I have seen parallels between the podcast episodes that had the highest engagement and that of the typical healing process from abuse. I also discuss the changes legislatively that have happened in 2024, as well as the increased awareness and media coverage of our family court crisis. I also share the common struggles of the survivors I am working with currently. While we have done a better job working together this year, we still have a long way to go including improvements in accountability and enforcement, transparency, and leading people to take the next step when we are doing work to bring awareness to family court and domestic violence issues. Offer your input on what you want to know more about in 2025 - https://us20.list-manage.com/survey?u=7d2b7e1333294299a48cf04aa&id=fd5c41ccdf&e=07c24158c9&mc_cid=a6957ae7b5 Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 129: AImee One Year Later: Fighting Loneliness and Saving Time for Survivors of Abuse with Anne Wintemute 41:21

15 weeks ago41:21

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Post separation abuse resources are still scarce even though it is no longer a secret that abuse continues after a victim leaves the relationship. Feeling like you are on your own as you read and respond to your co-parent’s messages in your co-parenting app or as you search through hundreds of messages to find that one thread that your attorney has asked you to find by the end of the day is common for survivors dealing with post separation abuse. The Rising Beyond Podcast first introduced Anne Wintemute, the co-founder of Aimee says, the AI companion for survivors of domestic violence in Dec 2023 when this resource was just getting off the ground. A year later, AImee is helping tens of thousands of survivors every month and we wanted to follow up to chat about how this tool continues to help combat the challenges post separation brings and some interesting themes that Anne is seeing with their users. We explore the time and money saved by using Aimee and how "Aimee" combats the loneliness and isolation that survivors experience by offering 24/7 support, from co-parenting advice to emotional validation. Listen now to see if Aimee could be a helpful tool in your post separation abuse tool box. Anne Wintemute is a post-separation abuse consultant and co-founder of Aimee Says, an Al tool for survivors. Her work strives to bridge the gap in understanding that allows perpetrators of abuse to act within a culture of tolerance. Previously, Anne was a Head of School at an independent elementary in Denver. Checkout the app - https://www.aimeesays.com/en/home Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 128: When Hope Feels Out of Reach for Domestic Violence Survivors 21:12

16 weeks ago21:12

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Navigating the family court system with an abusive ex can feel like an endless, uphill battle. And with our current system broken and the current state of our world, the idea of “finding hope” and positivity may not feel possible. In this episode, we explore how to find steadiness and strength when hope feels out of reach. Instead of relying on external outcomes, we discuss how cultivating resilience and persistence can empower you, and how creating personal anchors can offer daily stability. These tools are practical, actionable, and within your control—helping you stay grounded, no matter what challenges arise. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why “hope” can feel misplaced in the family court system and what to focus on instead. The power of resilience and persistence in staying steady through the process. How to create and use emotional, physical, and mental “anchors” for daily grounding. Practical examples of resilience-building practices and anchoring techniques. How to integrate persistence and anchors for long-term stability and self-empowerment. Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 127: Stuck in Your Head? The Role of Emotions as You Heal from Abuse with Bre Wolta 45:49

17 weeks ago45:49

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Do you ever feel like you are stuck in your head? It may mean that you need to get out of your thoughts and into your body and emotions. On this week’s episode we do a deep dive with Bre Wolta, a relationship coach and certified EFT practitioner, on her experiences leaving an abusive relationship and the invaluable lessons about boundaries, self-worth, and the illusion of "potential land” she learned on her healing journey. She explains how clinging to hope can keep you anchored in dysfunction, and emphasizes the importance of emotional recognition and processing. Discover the transformative power of the "analytical buoy," and how allowing yourself to feel the full range of emotions, from grief to anger, can be healing. While it is important to understand what you’ve gone through it is just as important to allow yourself to feel what you’ve gone through. Healing from abuse takes both. Bre Wolta, EFT and The Clearing Work™ Certified Practitioner, is a Relationship Clarity Coach who is passionate about helping women heal from the mindf*ck of toxic relationships so that they can securely attach and finally experience healthy love. Bre's own toxic relationship healing journey, and her ability to hold safe space allows her to walk alongside clients as they find clarity and build trust from within, rekindling the most important relationship of all: the one they have with themselves. Connect with Bre: Website: www.brewolta.com Podcast (Heartbreak to Healing: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships): https://link.chtbl.com/nGsnWVzZ Episode 25 "What To Do After The Breakup: 4 Steps to Help You Move Through The Grief & Heartbreak Of A Narcissistic Relationship" - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/25-what-to-do-after-the-breakup-4-steps-to-help-you/id1714991254?i=1000655949382 Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBd9yoGwfdc-m5RhAUolGwg IG: @‌lucid.living.with.bre Mini Course: Find Yourself Again - https://www.brewolta.com/find-yourself-again. Use code Podcast10 to receive 10% off Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 126: Can Narcissists Change? What Family Court and Survivors Need to Know 26:55

18 weeks ago26:55

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What does the family court system and other systems need to know about the realistic time it will take someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) or those who are high on the continuum of narcissism to actually change? That is if they are willing to change. And if you are struggling to leave, hoping that your partner will make the changes they have promised, what do you need to know? In this episode I critique and summarize an article that hooked me in several years ago called “10 Stages in the Treatment of Narcissistic Disorders: Narcissists can slowly change, with appropriate therapy and a lot of effort.” This article suggests 10 stages for the clinical “curing” of NPD. I share the takeaways for those who come into contact with someone with NPD or someone high on the continuum of narcissism including how the family court system can learn from and make changes to their assumptions based in this article. I also discuss what is missing from the article and ideas for future research. Read the article here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-narcissism/201908/10-stages-in-the-treatment-narcissistic-disorders Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 125: Shining a Light on Family Court Failures with Rachel Pickrel-Hawkins and Erin Siegal 54:06

19 weeks ago54:06

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Transparency is a requirement for any meaningful change in our family court system for survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse. This is extremely apparent when you hear the horror stories of survivors day after day of their time and retraumatization in family court. And just recently, the curtain has been pulled back to allow the world to see what is really going on when a survivor of domestic violence tries to protect her children in family court. Today I am talking with two survivors with their own horror stories who have both received media attention on their cases. Rachel Pickrel-Hawkins was recently in the news after being jailed for protecting her children. And while the media reported several things incorrectly (which will be corrected in this episode) it shed the light on courts ordering reunification therapy when there are significant concerns of sexual abuse with what turns out to be an unethical therapist. Erin Siegal’s case was in the limelight several years ago on her experiences with unethical and harmful court evaluators and other legal professionals. This case and reporting were at the start of the movement here in Colorado that allowed Kayden’s Law and other laws to be passed to help start court reform. She continues to be threatened with gag orders to silence her advocacy. We need to continue the momentum and continue to shine the spotlight on what is really going on in our family court system. So that survivors are not silenced. Where to find Erin and Rachel - Erin - https://linktr.ee/fortitudeflourish Rachel - https://www.tiktok.com/@mount.simon.minis?_t=8qQwZPeFfit&_r=1 https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550070298795&mibextid=LQQJ4d Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 124: Leveraging Your Expertise for Better Custody Outcomes in Family Court with Julie Nabors 48:18

20 weeks ago48:18

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Coercive control and dv thrive in secrecy and so for many reasons victims lose their voices in the process of these relationships. Once a victim has left they have to make the decision of what parts of their story to share and with whom. This is especially important when a victim finds themselves in the family court system trying to protect their family. When facing a divorce with your abusive ex partner it would seem that a trial is inevitable and based on research and the experiences of so many I've worked with, it's a crap shoot to whether your story will be heard or believed. What if there was another way? What if you as the survivor could use your expertise on your ex and your family to get a better deal in divorce? This is what we are discussing today; the different ways you can use your knowledge and voice to get a settlement agreement with your ex, even if only for some of the concerns, instead of leaving it all up to the cookie cutter decrees set by most family court judges. If you have a case that needs a custom plan due to things like substance use or abuse, then the tips and tricks in this episode may be exactly what you are missing. Julie blends professional insights with her personal story of navigating a high-conflict custody dispute. She avoids sharing too many specifics to respect her ex and children, she explains how her background in dispute resolution helped keep their family out of the courtroom, despite major challenges. Julie specializes in helping law firms enhance client experience (CX) through customized training and support. Outside of work, she volunteers to support parents navigating divorce, ensuring the safety and well-being of their children remain central. Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 123: No Accountability for Abusers: Is There Anything a Survivor of Domestic Violence Can Do to Change This? 23:18

21 weeks ago23:18

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Are awareness and education the best option for decreasing the rates of domestic violence and coercive control? While it is important, we have been bringing awareness to the public since 1987 and it doesn’t feel like a lot has changed. What I believe will have the most impact is accountability for those that perpetrate family violence and coercive control on others? And I am not the only one. But why isn’t it happening? In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I share my thoughts on why there is consistently no accountability for abusers in our larger systems and what you can do to improve the chances of seeing accountability in your case. We are focusing on the things that are within your control, looking at the logistical things that will make it more likely for your abuser to be held accountable to some extent and things you can do to take care of yourself during this journey when so much is outside of your control. Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 122: The Hidden Damage of Isolation: Restoring Brain Health After Domestic Abuse with Social Connections 18:48

22 weeks ago18:48

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Isolation as a tactic of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence is fairly well understood, however are there larger consequences to continued isolation post separation? Similar to the scores from the Adverse Childhood Experiences Scale (ACES), isolation has been shown to have long term negative impacts on your physical, mental, and brain health. In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast you will come along with me as I learn more about how the tactic of isolation can impair your brain’s ability to heal through neuroplasticity and impair its ability to form new connections. I take a look at: Why isolation is so helpful to the abuser to maintain power and control during the relationship as well as post separation The negative long term effects of isolation How social connections can be the number one tool for healing and getting your brain function back on track. Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 121: Abigail’s Story: Exposing the Hidden Truth of Officer Involved Domestic Violence 55:11

23 weeks ago55:11

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What is Officer Involved Domestic Violence? This is an area of advocacy where we have known to be a problem for years and it is unspoken; a “dirty little secret.” Bruce Bieber agreed to share his story as a way to move this issue into the forefront so that change might actually happen. Take care of yourself as you listen to this story. Abigail Rose Bieber, “Abby” to her friends and family, was the first of their three children to move to the Tampa Bay area. In short order, Abby became a Hillsborough County Sheriff’s Office Deputy where she served for four years. Both of her brothers are also in law enforcement. The Biebers have always been an incredibly close family and the pull to join their children in Florida was too great to resist so Bruce and Sarah retired and followed their three kids and grandkids to Florida. Seven months after moving to a home 1.5 miles from Abby’s house, Bruce and Sarah were planning Abby’s funeral. On January 29, 2022, Abby was shot three times in the head by Detective Daniel M. Leyden, also with the Hillsborough County Sheriff’s Office while they, along with two other HCSO Deputy couples, were vacationing in St. Augustine. Leyden killed himself. Since that fateful night, Bruce has been on a journey of grief, learning, discovery and advocacy – seeking to understand what went wrong and how to apply the lessons learned to the prevention of another death at the hands of a law enforcement officer. Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 120: Finding Validation After Narcissistic Abuse: Building Friendships That Don’t Keep You Stuck 20:28

24 weeks ago20:28

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What happens when you finally find that one or two people who actually get the narcissistic abuse that you have gone through and continue to go through post separation? Oftentimes you might find yourself sharing like water coming out of a fire hose. The validation and head nods when you are sharing your experiences just increase the amount you are sharing. And this is solidified when they are able to finish your sentences before you do. And while these experiences can be extremely helpful as you heal, the constant conversations around the abuse can create a relationship that is extremely limited. And you (and your new found friend) are more than the abuse you have endured. So how can you maintain this level of support while also creating relationships where you do not feel burn out and can move beyond the labels of being “survivors.” Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 119: The Typical Patterns of Abuse: Why They Continue to Work Post Separation with Nova Gibson 48:02

25 weeks ago48:02

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What is a typical pattern or blueprint for the relationship with a narcissist? Love Bombing happens first. Followed by devaluation. And then concludes with the Discard. And this cycle happens over and over again within the relationship leaving the victim confused, hurt and willing to do anything just to experience the good times again. But does this pattern happen after a victim separates from their partner? In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, Nova Gibson and I discuss this pattern and how it changes and what it looks like during post separation abuse. Nova shares her insight on why this patterns works so well for the narcissist before, during, and after the relationship. Nova Gibson is director, founder and primary counsellor of Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service and the go-to expert on narcissistic abuse recovery in Australia. She is the author of Australia's best-selling practical self help book of 2023, 'Fake Love - Understanding and healing from narcissistic abuse published by Harpercollins and the host of her own Podcast, Fake Love and Flying Monkeys. Nova has helped thousands of clients in Australia and around the world with one-on-one professional support. She lives in Brisbane, Australia. Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 118: Behind the Curtain: Exposing the Failings of Family Court for Survivors of Domestic Violence 23:45

26 weeks ago23:45

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What is it going to take for there to be real systemic change? The state of our family court system for survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse is horrific for so many families. And recently some of the unethical and biased decisions made by judges has had the curtain pulled back and has made it into the media here in CO. This episode is a rant and some of my thoughts about everything that has been going on in our family court system as I supported those working with Rachel Pickrel Hawkins, the mom who was sent to jail for protecting her children. And if you are feeling ignored or silenced because your case is not getting the support or attention that it deserves, I talk directly to you. Link to articles about the case: https://denvergazette.com/colorado-watch/reunification-therapy-colorado-child-abuse/article_96e08e26-66f4-11ef-b15c-ab5c4905bfc1.html https://denvergazette.com/news/colorado-mother-avoids-jail-therapy-dispute/article_7db23428-716b-11ef-ac35-73da23496db5.html Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 117: Reproductive Coercion with Lynn Stroud 36:23

27 weeks ago36:23

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How does a narcissistic and abusive partner get you stuck in a relationship? Most of the time it is through love bombing, moving extremely quickly, and coercing you into a larger commitment, like living together, getting engaged or married or having a baby. But what does it look like when the victim says “no?” Oftentimes the perpetrator will find another way, like with reproductive coercion. In this episode, my guest, Lynn Stroud and I dive into a lesser discussed topic where a perpetrator of abuse does all they can to get their partner pregnant leaving the victim in a precarious spot. A place where they need to make decisions that will impact their lives forever, no matter what choice they make. Lynn is a survivor of sexual assault, coercive control, narcissistic abuse, and reproductive abuse. She aims to educate the world about the danger of reproductive coercion. Lynn was fortunate enough to escape her abusers, but will continue to share her story in the hopes that better laws surrounding coercive control will protect others. Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 116: Choosing My Battles When Coparenting with My Narcissistic Ex 27:11

28 weeks ago27:11

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Is it easy for you to choose what battles to fight and what battles to let go of when you are co-parenting with your abusive and narcissistic ex-partner? Many of the survivors I have worked with struggle to make this decision based on the judgments of others, the self-doubt, and the weight that their decisions may carry for their children. In this episode, I want to guide you through some questions that you can use to assess whether the battle in front of you is worth fighting or not in a way that will keep your children safer and minimize the negative impacts on your mental health. We will also look at ways to respond to others when they do not agree with your decision. The questions are broken up into the following categories: Safety Implications Legal Implications Co-parenting/Day to Day Personal Boundaries/Healing/Moral Injury Episode References: Grab your FREE PDF of all of the questions discussed HERE . Episode 50: How Narcissistic Abuse Leads to Moral Injury Maslow's hierarchy of needs Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc If you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee . Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond: Rising Beyond Facebook Rising Beyond LinkedIn Rising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7 Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...…

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Ep 115: Understanding Generational Trauma and Its Role in Abusive Relationships 29:42

29 weeks ago29:42