123. Sven Erlandson

heCast: The Official Podcast of HeChangedIt

You may know Sven as the Badass Counselor as well as a 6-time author including his latest book "There’s a Hole in My Love Cup: The Badass Counseling Method for Healing the Soul & Unleashing Greatness.

Sven joins the heCast and shares his journey from being a fighter pilot hopeful to becoming a counselor, speaker, and writer. He emphasizes the importance of going through hard times and learning from them. Sven's upbringing in a home that prioritized listening and his mother's counseling work influenced his career path. He believes in the power of quitting when something doesn't bring joy or passion. Sven discusses the role of mindfulness in parenting and the need to let children find their own voice and passions. In this conversation, Sven discusses the importance of dewiring and rewiring children, teaching them to hear their own voice and make decisions based on it. He emphasizes the need for awareness and the courage to clean out one's own childhood shit in order to transform parenting. Sven also highlights the role of the parent in pouring love into and meeting the needs of the child, rather than expecting the child to meet their emotional needs. He advises slowing down, listening, and making the child feel heard, as well as encouraging them to trust their own voice and make good decisions. Sven also touches on the difference in coaching female and male athletes and the dynamic of fixing and listening in relationships.

Takeaways

• Hard times can shape and deepen our understanding of ourselves.
• Listening skills are valuable in counseling and personal relationships.
• It's important to follow your passions and not be driven solely by external expectations.
• Parents should allow children to explore and quit activities that don't bring them joy or fulfillment.
• Mindfulness and self-awareness are crucial in decision-making and parenting. Dewiring and rewiring children is essential for teaching them to hear their own voice and make decisions based on it.
• Awareness and the courage to clean out one's own childhood shit are crucial for transforming parenting.
• The role of the parent is to pour love into and meet the needs of the child, rather than expecting the child to meet their emotional needs.
• Slowing down, listening, and making the child feel heard are important in building trust and connection.
• Encouraging the child to trust their own voice and make good decisions is essential for their growth and independence.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Excitement

01:03 The Journey to Counseling

03:22 The Importance of Going Through Hard Times

04:43 Early Influences and Lessons

05:41 Learning Listening Skills and Counseling

06:34 Combining Ministry, Counseling, Speaking, and Writing

07:58 Sacrifices and Living Among the Homeless

09:18 Helping People Find Themselves

10:44 The Impact of Childhood Messages

12:36 The Importance of Mindfulness

14:23 The Balance Between Pushing and Quitting

15:22 The Influence of Parents and Environment

20:28 The Role of Mindfulness in Parenting

22:47 Analyzing Passion and Perseverance

27:56 The Danger of Imposing Parental Agenda

28:26 The Importance of Mindfulness in Decision-Making

30:19 Letting Go of Ego and Allowing Children to Find Their Voice

34:07 Balancing Parental Values and Individuality

35:31 Dewiring and Rewiring Children

38:02 The Importance of Awareness

39:22 Cleaning Out Childhood Shit

40:16 The Parent's Role

41:46 The Deliberateness and Care Required in Parenting

44:09 Changing Course and Apologizing

45:29 Slowing Down and Listening

48:19 The Power of Being Heard

49:44 Trusting Their Own Voice

52:58 Reassurance and Encouragement

56:33 The Difference in Coaching Female and Male Athletes

57:59 The Dynamic of Fixing and Listening

01:05:27 Connecting with Sven and His Work

01:09:10 Taking Action to Make the World Better Learn more about Sven here: ⁠https://www.badasscounseling.com/ Or Follow Sven on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/badasscounseling/ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://hechangedit.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ to download the app today! Thank you to our heCast Season 2 sponsor Innov8 Digital Solutions. Visit them today ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://innov8.ca/⁠