#188: Why Your Partner Doesn’t Just ‘Know’ What You Need – And What to Do About It

Love Shack Live: Helping Couples Rescue Their Relationships

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Do you feel like your partner should just know how to love you without you having to spell it out?

Ever been frustrated because your partner doesn’t instinctively know what you need? This common belief can lead to deep resentment and a pile of unmet expectations.

Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for those at a relationship crossroads, facing daily conflicts and emotional gaps, and aspiring to rebuild a genuine, lasting bond. I'm Stacy Bartley, joined by my co-host and lover, Tom, and our daughter, Brooke. Together, we're here to guide you on this journey.

Is it really unromantic to tell your partner what you need, or is it essential for a healthy relationship? Today, we uncover the truth about teaching your partner how to love you best and why it’s so important.

In this episode, we explore:

• The frustration of unmet expectations in relationships.
• Why clear communication is crucial.
• How to move from resentment to understanding.
• Practical steps to help you and your partner connect on a deeper level.

Feeling unheard or misunderstood in your relationship? Stay with us as we debunk misconceptions, share real stories, and provide actionable advice to strengthen your bond.

Join us to discover:

• The importance of communicating your needs clearly.
• How to create a loving recipe tailored to your relationship.
• Why effort doesn’t negate love but strengthens it.

Tune in now to transform your relationship and learn how to truly connect with your partner.
Timestamps:
03:43 The Recipe for a Healthy Relationship

05:23 The Reality of Emotional Understanding

11:22 The Headache Analogy

19:03 Balancing Contributions in Relationships

22:38 Inviting vs. Demanding in Relationships

24:56 Navigating Overwhelm Together

26:20 Empowering Conversations and Support

27:03 Debunking Relationship Myths

27:38 Effort in Relationships

35:15 The Importance of Asking for What You Need

37:11 Overcoming the Fear of Asking

42:01 Creating Spontaneity in Relationships

42:39 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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3. Relationship Conversation Cards: Enhance your communication and deepen your connection with our Relationship Conversation Cards. stacibartley.com/cards