#23 Compliments

Love Your Bod Pod

In this solocast, I talk about compliments and share about my niece, Emma.

Ever since she was born, I have become increasingly aware of my natural inclination to want to comment on her cuteness. And while it is a compliment, I can't deny my inner guidance system setting off alarm bells, telling me to comment on anything BUT her appearance.

Given the reality of our world, girls are bombarded with messages of beauty from the minute they pop out of the womb.
"oh you look so pretty" "your dress and bow are so cute"
This follows us throughout our lives, where appearances that fit the current ideal are highly regarded and praised. Which is why we go to such great lengths to achieve thinness and beauty.

What I have discovered is that complimenting appearance, and especially weight loss, even if well-intentioned, can cause more harm than good in the long run.

Ultimately they reinforce the oppressive narrative and collective cultural agreement that what matters most for women is their nice-to-look-at-ness. And it's a narrative I want to dismantle because it is not true.
Today on the LOVE YOUR BOD POD, I dive into compliments and when they can do more harm than good.

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