When you should NOT delete a girl's contact

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I've talked about before how it is normal and predictable female behavior for a girl to decline your invite to meet up once or twice before eventually acquiescing. A rookie error is to instantaneously delete a girl who declines your invite because you as the male hold yourself to being so non-needy and alpha. Guys will have their vehement disagreements about this. But I want you to hear me out because this will help you. Greater than 99% of the time, if a girl ignores your text, she is unreceptive to the interaction and doesn't carry interest. Don't make it about you. Often times women are just in a state and aren't open to any guy who approaches them. It doesn't matter who he is. But when a girl declines your invite, that's where things get more complicated. Guys will make the contention that if a girl is interested, she will just straight-up make the time to meet up - no questions asked: "Mike, don't kid yourself about this so-called notion of female deferral being 'normal.' If she's interested, she'll make the time. If she doesn't make the time, she just doesn't like you." But the same way on the cold approach much of the time you will not be able to judge a female's state of receptivity by what you observe on the surface, this too carries over into text. If a girl ignores you on the cold approach, then yes, greater than 99% of the time she's genuinely unreceptive. But plenty of girls who seem unreceptive on the initial approach will go on to exchange, and even hook up. So when you text a girl, sometimes she might seem unreceptive to the convo, and even decline you once or twice, but she's still open to the interaction. It's not a matter of her being less interested. It's just female biology. Females declining once or twice before agreeing to meet up is unrelated to whether you say, "When are you free" versus just proposing a date and time. Guys will have their differing viewpoints on which is better. My viewpoint, after many many thousands of texting interactions, is that it doesn't matter. Girls will decline/accept in a variety of circumstances. When the female declines you, it is important to recognize as the male that this is sometimes a type of "beta shit-test," where she's looking to see if you carry any fractional provisional qualities. If she declines your initial offer to meet up and you instantaneously delete her because you're so alpha and non-needy, then that demonstrates you wouldn't have provided for or stood by her anyway (which is true). This is exactly the type of male she wants to screen-out. The female is more than happy to screen-out males who won't provide. So if you're quick to delete after she declines with "Can't work," then you've failed her shit-test and, in turn, her test was effective at screening you out. However, if the male makes many tens of thousands of approaches and picks up thousands of contacts, he will begin to see female deferral as normal. He'll begin to say, "This is predictable female behavior. I expect the girl to decline once or twice before meeting up. That's not weird. I don't take that personally." Therefore, this high-volume, "hyper-alpha" male will be able to effectively bypass the beta-shit-test by essentially "faking" beta qualities...

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