How to Know if You've Been Lying to Yourself & Learn to Get Comfortable Being Honest With Yourself and Others with Charlamange Tha God

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Why is it challenging to acknowledge when you're lying to yourself?

How can one maintain a habit of honesty in daily life?

Today, let's welcome The Breakfast Club co-host Charlamagne tha God. He is a prominent media personality and New York Times bestselling author, best known for his candid approach to celebrity interviews and his advocacy for mental health. His latest book, "Get Honest or Die Lying," challenges readers to forego the superficial and engage in meaningful, transformative dialogue.

Charlamagne shares his insights on the societal detriments of small talk and why superficial conversations are not only a waste of time but also a significant barrier to meaningful human connection and understanding. He argues that the small, meaningless exchanges that fill our daily interactions should be replaced with deeper, more substantial dialogues that challenge, enlighten, and engage us on multiple levels.

With Jay, Charlamagne explores the psychological and social impacts of engaging in—or avoiding—small talk. He illustrates his points with personal anecdotes and experiences, including his own struggles and breakthroughs in striving for more genuine interactions in both his personal life and professional endeavors. He stresses the importance of being present in conversations, listening actively, and expressing one’s true thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to initiate deeper discussions

How to be honest in conversations

How to set personal boundaries

How to reflect on personal growth

How to encourage others to engage

This episode not only challenges listeners to evaluate the quality of their own conversations but also inspires them to make every word count in the quest for deeper understanding and genuine relationships.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

You can pre-order Charlamagne’s latest book, Get Honest or Die Lying here: https://www.simonandschuster.com/p/get-honest-or-die-lying-preorder

This interview was held at Soho Home at Soho Works 55 Water.

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

03:01 Why Small Talk Doesn’ Work

05:15 Be Honest About Your Feelings

08:00 How Do You Stop Being Offended?

09:27 Realizations During Therapy

12:14 Not Setting Proper Boundaries

13:32 Stop Being a People Pleaser

16:50 Online Oversharing

18:13 Detaching from Your Ego

20:23 Getting Caught Up in Lies

23:33 Passing Judgment on People We Don’t Know

29:09 Confronting a Cheating Father

34:48 In-Tune with Your Visions

39:21 Why Some Things Don’t Work

42:36 Successful But Unhappy

01:03:10 Don’t Make a Decision Based on Emotion

01:06:32 Don’t Confine Yourself In Small Boxes

01:13:24 Honest Conversations with Your Kids

Episode Resources:

• Charlamagne tha God | Website
• Charlamagne tha God | TikTok
• Charlamagne tha God | Instagram
• Charlamagne tha God | Facebook
• Charlamagne tha God | YouTube
• Pre-order Get Honest or Die Lying
• Black Privilege: Opportunity Comes to Those Who Create It

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