When Your Kid is Angry at You: Feelings First

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In this episode, I’m sharing a simple yet powerful strategy to respond when your neurodiverse kids are upset: “Feelings First.”
This response may be simple, but it is not easy. It requires us to allow and accept our child’s emotions WITHOUT trying to solve or fix their pain. And when they are blaming us for that pain, it also requires that we set aside our own defensiveness so we can respond to their feelings with true compassion and empathy.
Using the example of my daughter’s anger when I had to work on her birthday, I’ll demonstrate why this matters so much. Well talk about how “Feelings First” creates connection with our kids and helps them calm down faster. We’ll also talk about how this strategy makes it easy to model emotional maturity to our kids.
“Feelings First” is part of the “C” in the CALM method (Connecting with compassion). Once you take this pivotal first step, you can then use the rest of CALM (Assessing thoughts, Loosening your grip on unhelpful beliefs, Making intentional decisions) to manage your OWN emotional health.
This CALM method is how you can feel less stressed and more peaceful and self-confident as a parent.
If you’re struggling with mom burnout, guilt, or feeling like a failure, do not miss this episode! I guarantee this is the piece you’re missing.
Mentioned in this episode:

• From Overwhelm to CALM in Minutes: The Simple Question You're Not Asking Yourself
• 5 Unspoken Rules Every Working Mom Should Rethink
• The Power and Paradox of Emotion: Surprising Truths For Working Moms (Part 1)
• The Power and Paradox of Emotion: Surprising Truths For Working Moms (Part 2)
• the "How We Feel" App

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Chapters

1. When Your Kid is Angry at You: Feelings First (00:00:00)

2. Mother-Daughter Birthday Conflict Resolution (00:00:09)

3. Empathy and Compassion in Parenting (00:07:05)

4. Navigating Emotions With Compassion (00:12:02)

5. Emotional Maturity and Parenting Skills (00:19:58)

6. Personalized Coaching for Positive Change (00:30:01)