How to Never Find Love, with Esther Perel

Harvest Series

In this episode, I have the privilege of interviewing the fabulous Esther Perel in Kaplankaya. Recognized as one of today's most profound and innovative voices on modern relationships, Esther is fluent in nine languages and runs a therapy practice in New York City. She attended the Harvest Summit with friends, bringing immense joy and energy to the event. Eager to try every practice, Esther also delivered beautiful speeches. In this interview, we reflect on her 40 years of experience as a psychotherapist.

In this episode, we explore:

• [2:57]: Why are relationships so hard? Why isn't just loving enough? Esther delves into the complexity of modern relationships and the increased expectations we place on them.
• [4:55]: The perfect recipe to fail in your relationship and remain single for life, according to Esther.
• [8:55]: The fundamental reasons why people get together in the first place.
• [11:05]: With 40 years of experience, Esther has developed a keen intuition. She shares how she leverages it in her practice.
• [15:25]: An example from her practice: Should I break up with my dad? Esther offers insights into understanding and improving familial relationships.
• [18:25]: The overemphasis on psychotherapy's focus on what people lacked after Freud, and how this perspective has shifted.
• [20:55]: Applying Esther's approach to other fields like geopolitics or the business world. She provides a fascinating analysis of polarization and handling complex situations.
• [28:31]: Quick-fire questions to Esther, including how she practices being a good spouse and what she would do if she couldn't talk about relationships anymore.
• [31:37]: Harvest of The Day : a moment when Esther felt very connected with her family.

Stay tuned for insights that could transform your understanding of relationships and much more.

You can visit estherperel.com, a great resource for access to her game, her online courses, and innumerable resources to help you keep the spark of desire alive in your relationships.

You can follow us on Instagram at @HarvestSeries or @rose.claverie for updates.

Watch our podcast episodes and speaker sessions on YouTube: Harvest Series.

Credits:

• Sound editing by: @lesbellesfrequences
• Technicians in Kaplankaya: Joel Moriasi, Hanan Yasir, and team
• Music by: Chambord
• Artwork by: Davide d'Antonio

Harvest Series is produced in partnership with Athena Advisers and Capital Partners

Harvest Series Founders: Burak Öymen and Roman Carel