THE 100TH EPISODE!!! | Episode 100 The UnMothered podcast

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Let’s bring on my daughter on today’s episode and talk about the good, bad and better of moms! Bringing on my daughter can help us understand as moms how we can learn from daughters and the next generation. Listening to them helps us be the best moms we can be. Let us know how you like this episode! Please leave a review or send us a message over on Instagram. We would love to connect with you. Let’s Connect! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.…

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UnMothered Sons: The Hidden Wound Men Carry | Episode 105 21:09

12 days ago21:09

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In this powerful and emotional episode, we explore a topic that's often overlooked in conversations around childhood trauma — what happens when men are the ones who were never mothered? What does it look like when a boy grows into a man still carrying the ache of a mother’s absence, and how does that wound ripple through his career, his relationships, and his future family? Inspired by the shocking real-life story told in the documentary Con Mom , host Phylis dives into the haunting truth about what happens when a man is so desperate for a mother’s love that he overlooks red flags, ignores his instincts, and ends up losing everything — his money, his relationship, and his newborn son. What You'll Learn in This Episode: The emotional and psychological impact of being an "UnMothered" man Why unresolved childhood wounds can distort adult decisions The hidden ways men cope with abandonment and emotional neglect How silence around male trauma leads to generational dysfunction The importance of healing, open communication, and emotional honesty If you’re a man carrying the scars of being UnMothered, this episode is for you. It’s time to stop pushing through the pain in silence. Get support, speak your truth, and take the first step toward healing — for yourself and for the next generation. Let’s Connect! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.…

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Can You Save The Relationship With Your Mom? | Episode 104 23:10

19 days ago23:10

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Can you have a relationship with your toxic mother? The answer is easier than you think, and it’s totally up to you and no one else. Let’s explore different ways you could possibly have a relationship with your mother if you think it could work. Let’s Connect! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.…

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Life After You Break The Habits & Patterns of Old Beliefs | Episode 103 21:31

26 days ago21:31

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It’s time for you to create some healthy inner talk and stop believing the lies your moms have told you! In my past episodes, we talked about the different ‘types’ of mothers. Today, we are going to touch upon what we need to do to break away from these narcissistic, controlling, overly enmeshed moms. Let’s Connect! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.…

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Do You Have a Calling To Write Your Story? | Episode 102 33:31

5 weeks ago33:31

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Have you ever thought of writing a book? Is a memoir something that God is calling you to? He did for me, and it wasn’t something I ever thought I would do, but has become one of the best things I have ever done. If you are curious, listen to this episode and see if this will confirm what you have been thinking. If you need help getting started, contact me…I’m here to help! Let’s Connect! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.…

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Perfection & Control: Breaking Free To Find Peace with Christine Hoy | Episode 101 31:36

6 weeks ago31:36

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I had such a great conversation with our guest today! Christine Hoy speaks to women who feel overwhelmed by life's demands and the relentless pursuit of perfection. She had no idea that the emotional and physical burnout she experienced caring for her terminally ill mother would lead to a spiritual transformation in her own life. Answering God’s invitation to a year-long season of rest, Christine learned how to surrender control of her life and move from self-reliance to an ever-deepening trust in God. A Christian writer and speaker, Christine is on a mission to help other women experience this freedom from perfectionism and discover healing, restoration, and unshakeable peace in their own lives. She shares these life-changing lessons in her book Peace Beyond Perfection: Overcoming the Fear of Not Being Enough. Christine lives in West Michigan with her husband and their white lab, Zeus—and loves being “Gigi” to her two grandsons. You can connect with her at www.christinecarterhoy.com Let’s Connect! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.…

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THE 100TH EPISODE!!! | Episode 100 21:54

7 weeks ago21:54

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How did we get to 100 episodes on this podcast already? Well, come listen and celebrate with me as I walk back down to the beginning of this journey! Thank you so much for being such a great support! I appreciate all my fellow UnMothered's and can't wait to chat with you all for the next 100 episodes! Let’s Connect! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.…

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Were Some Moms Just Never Meant To Be Mothers? | Episode 99 27:55

8 weeks ago27:55

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We have probably all heard the statement, "some moms were just never meant to be moms" but is that true? If you think of the worst toxic mom in your imagination, what would she look like? Some things I’ve been reading (and a few I’ve experienced) are “ignored, abusive, gaslighting, and mentally ill.” These kinds of moms are vital to go “no contact” with. It would be for your safety. This is a hard episode, so I am warning you, that you might want to skip it if you might be triggered. For the rest of you, it might be a road map to explain some things that have been hard to answer. Let’s Connect! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.…

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Did You Grow Up Being The Mother To Your Mom? | Episode 98 26:30

9 weeks ago26:30

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Are you responsible for being the mother to your mother? When you have grown up with someone who is very manipulative and needy, it can in some ways feel good. What you find is that over time, it is exhausting and there is no end to what they take from you emotionally, physically, and mentally. You should be the child, NOT the mother! How do you break away from this needy mom who makes you take care of her? Listen in because I have had a front-row seat to this kind of mother! Let’s Connect! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.…

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Healing From The Impact Of A Controlling Mother | Episode 97 24:42

10 weeks ago24:42

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Let’s take a deep dive into the traits of a controlling mother. Did you grow up with a controlling mom and what exactly does that look like? How can it affect your self-esteem, decision-making, and relationships? While we may not be able to change our mothers, we can change how we react and set boundaries for ourselves. Drawing insights from Mothers Who Can’t Love by Susan Forward, PhD, we’ll explore the steps to healing, standing up for yourself, and breaking free from the emotional grip of a controlling parent. By understanding these dynamics, you can stop relying on your mom’s judgment for love, and begin the journey toward reclaiming your independence, building confidence, and forming healthier relationships for generations to come. If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need it. Let’s continue this conversation and work toward healing together. Key Takeaways: ✅ Your mother’s controlling behavior is not okay , and you have the right to establish firm boundaries. ✅ Seeking therapy and support can help you stand up for yourself and make independent decisions. ✅ It’s natural to make mistakes when learning to navigate life on your own—embrace them as growth opportunities. ✅ Surround yourself with supportive, safe people who uplift and encourage you. ✅ The goal is to recognize these behaviors so we don’t repeat the cycle with future generations. Let’s Connect! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.…

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Growing Up Resilient But Trusting In Love | Episode 96 26:57

11 weeks ago26:57

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Do you always have to be the strong one? Being resilient is a powerful trait, but when it comes to love and relationships, it can also create walls. Many of us learned to be tough because of our upbringing, but real connection requires trust. Don’t let old narratives convince you you can only rely on yourself. Love thrives on trust—both in yourself and the right people. Let’s explore how to find the balance between strength and vulnerability. Let’s Connect! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.…

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Is Your Mom Too Enmeshed in Your Adult Life? | Episode 95 28:01

12 weeks ago28:01

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Does your mom think she’s your best friend? Some mother-daughter relationships blur the line between love and control, with moms inserting themselves into every aspect of their daughter’s life—where they live, what job they take, and even how they dress. Often, this stems from a deep fear of being left behind or an unfulfilled need to relive experiences through their child. While their intentions may not always be harmful, the emotional toll can be overwhelming. This episode unpacks the signs of an overly enmeshed mother, the impact on daughters, and the challenges of setting boundaries. Breaking free isn’t easy, but recognizing these patterns is the first step toward reclaiming your independence—without the guilt. ✨ What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why some mothers struggle to separate their own identity from their daughter’s life ✔️ The subtle (or not-so-subtle) ways control and guilt come into play ✔️ Signs you have an overly enmeshed mother ✔️ The emotional toll—and how to break free ✔️ How to set boundaries while maintaining (or redefining) the relationship 📖 Quote from the Episode: "In a healthy relationship, the bond between a mother and her daughter is meant to be a flexible, malleable connection that can withstand distance, conflict, and differences." — Susan Forward, Mothers Who Can’t Love 💡 Final Takeaway: Breaking free from an over-involved mother can be tough, but true freedom comes from standing firm in who you are—even if it means weathering her disapproval. Your life is yours to live. Let’s Connect! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.…

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Understanding And Letting Go Of Your Mother Wound | Episode 94 22:58

13 weeks ago22:58

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It’s not that your mom doesn't love you, it’s that she doesn’t know how to love you. Have you ever found yourself wondering, ‘Does my mom really love me?’ It’s a painful question that many of us with difficult mothers have asked. In this episode, I dive into the emotional and psychological impact of growing up with a mother who couldn’t love the way we needed. Inspired by Susan Forward’s book Mothers Who Can’t Love , I explore how understanding your mother’s past and patterns can be the key to healing and breaking the cycle. If you’ve struggled with feelings of rejection, longing, or even guilt surrounding your mother-daughter relationship, this episode is for you. You are not alone, and healing is possible. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why the question isn’t "Does my mom love me?" but rather "Does she even know how to love?" ✔️ How generational trauma and unmet childhood needs shape our mothers—and us ✔️ The different types of emotionally unavailable or toxic mothers ✔️ Steps to start healing and freeing yourself from the emotional weight of your past ✔️ How to ensure you don’t repeat the cycle in your own family Resources Mentioned: 📖 Mothers Who Can’t Love by Susan Forward, PhD: https://bit.ly/3QhTRPs 📖 UnMothered: Life with a Mom Who Couldn’t Love Me: https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered 📚 My 6-week course " Patience & Grace" – A program designed to help women heal from toxic mother wounds: https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered Let’s Connect! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.…

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How Our Body Can Hold Onto Our Past Traumas | Episode 93 28:47

14 weeks ago28:47

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Our bodies and minds are such an amazing tool, but it can also be damaged by trauma. When that happens, we can be doing life through a failed truth. Let’s explore how trauma affects our bodies and how it is a real dilemma that most people would rather ignore than face. When we can get real about what our body is feeling during stressful situations, we can start to become the person God has intended. Then we can change the habits that have been keeping us stuck in a faulty reality. Looking to connect with other UnMothered’s? Join the PRIVATE Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity This podcast is on YouTube now! Go watch this episode: https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts Purchase a signed copy of my book: https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered The UnMothered Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.…

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The Truth Surrounding Generational Curses | Episode 92 19:15

15 weeks ago19:15