Episode 258: Creating a Sexual Connection that Lasts

Sex and Psychology Podcast

When a relationship is new, the sex usually comes pretty easy. However, as the years go by, partners often find that their sexual connection declines. This doesn’t have to happen, though. There are science-backed ways of creating and maintaining a sexual connection that lasts. In this episode, we’re going to explore the three characteristics of relationships that sustain intimacy, how to cultivate lust in long-term relationships, and much more.

I am joined by award-winning author Emily Nagoski. She wrote the New York Times bestselling books Come As You Are and The Come As You Are Workbook. Her latest book is titled Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections.

Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

• What do people actually want from sex, and why is that important to think about?
• Why is sexual novelty alone not quite enough to cultivate a strong connection?
• How is pleasure different from desire?
• How can creating an “emotional floorplan” make it easier for people to get into a lustful headspace?

Make sure to check out Emily’s website to find out more.

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