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Dr. Cheryl and Relationship Expert Bruce Muzik Talk Love Attachment Styles: Is Long-Term Love Dead? Part 4

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“Dr. Cheryl, what’s the secret to a long marriage?”

“Why are divorce rates so high?”

“How do I overcome conflict with my partner?”

This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the fourth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication.

Today, I welcome relationship expert Bruce Muzik. Dubbed “The Couples Whisperer,” Bruce is a world-renowned relationship repair specialist and the founder of Love At First Fight, a company dedicated to helping couples transform their conflict-ridden relationships into thriving partnerships.

Discover more about Bruce’s work at LoveAtFirstFight.com or watch his powerful TEDx talk HERE.

Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Bruce and Cheryl admit their best and worst qualities as a partner (03:03)
Long-term committed love isn’t dead or alive—it’s a journey (08:51)
Different relationships have varying attachment styles (21:21)
There are three developmental stages to relationship growth (37:53)
Long-term love is a skill that can be learned (51:34)
Today’s LoveByte (01:01:49)

Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!

Let’s Connect!

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Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

Dr. Cheryl and Relationship Expert Bruce Muzik Talk Love Attachment Styles: Is Long-Term Love Dead? Part 4

Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

published 3 days ago

MP3•Episode home

“Dr. Cheryl, what’s the secret to a long marriage?”

“Why are divorce rates so high?”

“How do I overcome conflict with my partner?”

Discover more about Bruce’s work at LoveAtFirstFight.com or watch his powerful TEDx talk HERE.

Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Bruce and Cheryl admit their best and worst qualities as a partner (03:03)
Long-term committed love isn’t dead or alive—it’s a journey (08:51)
Different relationships have varying attachment styles (21:21)
There are three developmental stages to relationship growth (37:53)
Long-term love is a skill that can be learned (51:34)
Today’s LoveByte (01:01:49)

Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!

Let’s Connect!

178 episodes

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Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join. (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Dr. Cheryl, what’s the secret to a long marriage?” “Why are divorce rates so high?” “How do I overcome conflict with my partner?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the fourth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. Today, I welcome relationship expert Bruce Muzik. Dubbed “The Couples Whisperer,” Bruce is a world-renowned relationship repair specialist and the founder of Love At First Fight, a company dedicated to helping couples transform their conflict-ridden relationships into thriving partnerships. Discover more about Bruce’s work at LoveAtFirstFight.com or watch his powerful TEDx talk HERE . Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Bruce and Cheryl admit their best and worst qualities as a partner (03:03) Long-term committed love isn’t dead or alive—it’s a journey (08:51) Different relationships have varying attachment styles (21:21) There are three developmental stages to relationship growth (37:53) Long-term love is a skill that can be learned (51:34) Today’s LoveByte (01:01:49) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect! Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Youtube…

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