28. Plotting your Next Chapter: Creating a Vision after Divorce Part II

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Welcome back to another episode of the Divorce Chapter Podcast! This week, we dive into part 2 of "Plotting the Next Chapter" as we continue to create a vision for our future.

In the last episode, we explored the concept of the "end of history illusion" – the tendency to reflect on how much things have changed in the past but how we struggle to envision detailed expectations for the future. This phenomenon affects us all, but for those navigating divorce, it's compounded by the loss of our expected vision for the future with our ex-partner.

In this episode, we are talking more about the importance of creating a vision for the future after divorce. And why it’s all the more important for us to rediscover our identity and values to create a blueprint for our future selves right? I go through working out our core values and applying these to each area of our lives with the Wheel of Life.

I talk through visualisation and vision boards (no, this is NOT woo woo) and then taking small steps towards our vision.

All whilst avoiding comparison fatigue and using envy to reinforce our own magic.

Takeaways

🌸The end of history illusion makes it difficult for us to imagine a future that is different from our past or present.

🌸Divorce compounds this struggle by removing our expected vision for the future with our ex.

🌸Rediscovering our identity and values helps us create a blueprint for our future selves.

🌸Using a vision board and the Wheel of Life can help clarify our vision and take action towards it.

I hope you love the episode.

Sarah 🌸

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Chapters

1. 28. Plotting your Next Chapter: Creating a Vision after Divorce Part II (00:00:00)

2. Why the end of history illusion AND our future being taken from us feels so hard (00:01:02)

3. Your blueprint.... because an acorn can only turn into an oak tree (00:04:22)

4. Finding the value in your values (00:06:21)

5. Actress or Mattress? Ha bloody ha! (00:07:56)

6. Soul identities.... our blueprint (00:10:28)

7. Wheel of Life (and the Spring Equinox) (00:12:54)

8. Bringing the vision to life (and no it's not woo woo) (00:17:38)

9. Tuning in.... like to the Top 40 (00:19:08)

10. Creating a vision board (old school or Canva) (00:21:01)

11. Taking the action on our vision (00:26:38)

12. Creating the right environment to make it happen (00:28:54)

13. Make envy work FOR you (00:30:46)

14. Keeping our brains safe (00:32:51)