What Happens When We're Untrustworthy (and how to stop betraying ourselves)

The Hilary Silver Podcast

Episode #8: "What Happens When We're Untrustworthy (and how to stop betraying ourselves)" of The Hilary Silver Podcast:

Introduction

In this episode, Hilary dives into the intricate dynamics of trust within relationships, emphasizing the often overlooked ways we may inadvertently betray ourselves and others. She discusses the distinction between factual honesty and emotional truth, and how failing to express the latter can deteriorate trust and intimacy in relationships.

Episode Highlights

• Understanding the foundational role of trust in relationships.
• Identifying the subtle ways we break trust without realizing it.
• The impact of not sharing our emotional truths.
• Practical advice on how to be more honest and trustworthy in personal and professional relationships.
  

Episode Breakdown

[00:00:01] - Hilary opens the discussion on the importance of being honest in relationships.

[00:00:36] - Introduction to the topic of trust as the foundation of relationships.

[00:01:00] - Discussion on building and breaking trust.

[00:01:17] - Self-reflection on personal trustworthiness.

[00:01:47] - Encouragement to consider how trust applies in personal contexts.

[00:03:01] - Exploration of factual honesty vs. emotional truth.

[00:06:02] - How unshared truths sabotage relationships at work.

[00:10:31] - Real-life examples of how we lie to avoid discomfort or conflict.

[00:17:01] - A case study on a couple dealing with smoking and trust issues.

[00:20:55] - Closing remarks on the importance of honesty and how to improve communication in relationships.
Listener Takeaways

• Recognize Trustworthy Actions: Be aware of the ways you might be breaking trust, even unintentionally, and take steps to become more trustworthy by aligning your words with your true feelings.
• Value Emotional Honesty: Understand that sharing your emotional truth is just as important as factual truth for maintaining healthy relationships.
• Communicate Clearly and Honestly: Encourage open and honest communication in your relationships to build deeper connections and trust.
• Reflect on Personal Contributions: Regularly ask yourself how you are contributing to either the strength or weakness of your relationships through your level of honesty and integrity.

This episode encourages listeners to be more mindful of their interactions and the importance of honesty in fostering genuine connections and trust.