Self-Deception, Love Addiction & Body Trust with Dr. Cortney Warren, PhD, ABPP

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Episode 106. Hey everyone! In this interview with Dr. Cortney Warren we cover the gamut of topics. Dr. Warren has an incredible amount of personal and professional wisdom to share with us, and to be honest, I had a hard time containing my excitement and making sure I asked everything I wanted to. She shares such wisdom about various ways our cultural context impacts the lies we tell ourselves, and this is truly at the core of doing the deeper work we typically need to do to live a life that feels fulfilling and right for us. We cover the topic of love addiction, which is relatively new to me and fascinating, both because it can help so many people understand what is a common experience and struggle for many people, and also because it has parallels and implications for the controversial topic of food addiction. She gives tangible advice on how to improve self-esteem, and be onto yourself when you start to lie to yourself. This is a great interview with lots of takeaways, can't wait for you to listen in! Who is Dr. Cortney Warren? Dr. Cortney S. Warren is a Board Certified Clinical Psychologist and Adjunct Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Health at the Kirk Kerkorian School of Medicine at University of Nevada, Las Vegas (UNLV). Having won numerous professional awards for her research, Cortney is an expert on addictions, self-deception, romantic relationships, eating pathology, and the practice of psychotherapy from a cross-cultural perspective. Her newest work is a self-help book that explores breakups through an addictive framework called Letting Go of Your Ex: CBT Skills to Heal the Pain of a Breakup and Overcome Love Addiction (2023). What to Expect in this Interview In this captivating conversation, we cover: 🕒 05:34-Dr. Cortney Warren's journey which included resigning from a tenure-track academic position to pursue a career in writing, speaking, and education, traveling and watching her mother engage in speaking engagements all over the world 🕒 12:05-How and why we are all liars and what to do about it 🕒 14:33- What Dr. Warren recommends working on first, before tackling how you are lying to yourself 🕒 23:17-What we can learn from other cultures as it relates to body trust (here we cover our distain for aging and the various differences from our culture to others in how we view people and how this impacts our sense of self) 🕒 26:38-How to acknowledge the reality of the valid and real pain and struggle people have, while also feeling empowered to be responsible for our choices 🕒 40:24-What is love addiction, why should we care about it, and how it relates to the controversy about food addiction 🕒 58:56-Some tangible steps you can take to stop lying to yourself so much 🕒 1:04:30-Dr. Warren's tips to help me like strength training (they were super good!), and so much more! “I know I shouldn’t focus on weight loss, but…” (Polarized Parts Alert!) Are you feeling unsure how to guide a client who wants to improve their relationship with food, but also wants to lose weight? We offer this super cool transformational exercise that can help your clients work to understand their polarized parts, build self-trust and listen to their intuition! This free PDF gives step-by-step instructions for doing one of my all-time favorite exercises (based on Internal Family Systems theory) to explore polarized parts. It will help clients get to know the parts of themselves without judgment, understand their intention, and create empowerment and harmony in their bodies. This is hands-down one of the best ways I’ve found to help support client autonomy and build self-trust at the same time. I can’t wait to share it with you! Sign up today to learn to use this innovative tool! How to Connect with Dr. Cortney Warren Social Media Links: Website: https://drcortney.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CortneySWarren