TLP406: Dream, Think, Do With Mitch Matthews

The Leadership Podcast

Mitch Matthews, a top success coach and host of the Dream, Think, Do Podcast, introduces his approach focused on ambitious dreaming, strategic thinking, and taking action. He underscores the importance of giving clients room to dream, followed by thoughtful planning and actionable steps. Mitch questions the prevailing hustle culture, promoting a balance between ambition and contentment, anchored in joy that aligns with core values. He advocates for valuing experiences over achievements, setting goals that foster feelings like joy, and rejects the notion of focusing on just "one thing," encouraging experimentation and learning instead. Additionally, he highlights the responsibility of true leaders in understanding and supporting team members through their personal struggles.

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Key Takeaways:

[05:32] Mitch shares about his program helping people dream big, think better, and take action. Despite initial hesitancy around the word "dream," the guest emphasizes its significance in the process. He highlights the importance of creating space for clients to dream, followed by thinking and doing. The focus is on experimentation and learning from experiences to help individuals discover their purpose.

[8:51] He shares a story of someone who didn't achieve their dream outcome initially but found fulfillment by incorporating more of what they enjoyed. The example of Shawn Askinosie, a trial attorney turned chocolate maker, illustrates the importance of experimenting and taking small steps toward one's passions. Shawn's intentional exploration led to the launch of a successful small batch chocolate company, showcasing the power of experimentation and gradual steps in discovering one's true calling.

[13:24] Mitch reflects on the contrast between the hustle culture's emphasis on constant activity and the idea of contentment. Challenging the notion that contentment is incompatible with ambition, he touches on the pursuit of consistent joy, which, unlike happiness, is rooted in core values and identity, transcending external circumstances. Mitch also emphasizes the importance of experiencing joy as a key aspect of personal fulfillment and success.

[15:07] He discusses the concept of "reset week" and introduces a strategy called the GET Method to chart a course for the year. Mitch emphasizes starting with gratitude, as it induces a positive state change. Instead of focusing solely on achievements, the approach involves considering what experiences one wants to have in the coming year. He also notes that many goals are driven by the desire for specific experiences, such as joy and satisfaction. By prioritizing these experiences alongside goals, individuals can enjoy the journey without solely fixating on checking items off a to-do list.

[18:21] Mitch reflects on the notion of waiting for the "one thing" and advises against this mindset. He shares his experience as a recovering perfectionist, highlighting that perfectionism is often misinterpreted as procrastination. Perfectionists may struggle with completing tasks until they find the perfect way, leading to delays. He also emphasizes the need to overcome perfectionism by acknowledging that there isn't just one perfect way, but rather multiple experiments and trials that can help individuals figure things out through momentum and learning along the way.

[21:54] He expresses a positive view of therapy, emphasizing its benefits and likening it to a necessary cleansing process. Mitch advocates for seeking a good therapist, comparing the therapeutic journey to dating and highlighting its value even in different seasons of life. Therapy often looks back to address past hurts, while coaching primarily focuses on looking forward, helping clients identify and achieve their desired future.

[25:33] Mitch stresses the importance of true leaders understanding their team members and assisting them in addressing personal challenges. He advocates for transparency and openness about seeking therapy or counseling, highlighting that discussing mental well-being is now more widely accepted and celebrated, especially among successful individuals.

[27:24] He emphasizes that being an introvert doesn't mean disliking people or being bad with them. In fact, introverts can make excellent coaches, as they often redirect the spotlight onto others by asking questions and focusing on their needs. The key is to understand how you restore and recharge after a challenging day.

[29:49] Mitch explains that he personally dedicates at least an hour each morning to spend time in nature, regardless of the weather. He highlights the importance of understanding how each person restores and recharges, emphasizing that not everyone needs to follow the same routine. For him, nature and spending time with his big dog play a crucial role in restoration. He advises individuals to identify how they restore and incorporate those activities into their daily lives. Additionally, he suggests introverts schedule appointments with their inner introvert on their calendars and create moments for solitude and self-care.

[32:27] He encourages embracing a new tribe while keeping the old one if it contributes positively. Mitch shares his experience transitioning from a corporate career to entrepreneurship, that there is a need for like-minded connections. He advises to intentionally surround yourself with a few new individuals on a similar path. Mitch also mentions that he started his Dream, Think, Do Podcast in 2015.

[35:54] Mich shares that he is celebrating 400 podcast episodes, sharing insights from both famous and everyday individuals facing challenges despite their achievements. He stresses that success doesn't eliminate life's complexities, mentioning Jillian Michaels as an example. Mitch also shares advice for leaders to engage in conversations that upgrade their tribe through dedicating just 15 minutes a day to intentional exploration, emphasizing the cumulative impact over a year.

[42:38] Closing Quote: Remember, the purpose of life is a life of purpose. -Robert Byrne

Quotable Quotes:

"Dreaming doesn’t come easy."

"Leadership is developing the ability to lead one-on-one and to lead groups of individuals who are all in disagreement."

"Dream first, think second, and then take action."

"We can never predict exactly how things will unfold, so we highly value experimentation and learning along the way, recognizing that sometimes things unfold as planned."

"Don't just quit."

"Take small steps of faith over time, experiment, and discover things."

"Seek consistent joy, as happiness can be transient and tied to circumstances. Identify the things that make you feel complete."

"Joy is bigger than your circumstance."

"Quit waiting for that one thing; start discovering things."

"Things always change, so you need to look at everything to make the best decision."

"I'm not perfect at it yet, but I'm improving every day."

“To have great life experiences and achieve joy, peace, and satisfaction, you must also eliminate some of that junk.”

“A true leader helps their people.”

“One of the best ways to assess whether you're an introvert or an extrovert is on how you restore.”

"Introvert people doesn't mean you don't like people."

“Introvert people tend to ask questions as a defense mechanism to get the focus off of us.”

“To have a new tribe doesn't mean you have to jettison the old tribe.”

"When you start doing new things, surround yourself with people who are doing something similar."

Resources Mentioned:

• The Leadership Podcast | theleadershippodcast.com

• Sponsored by | www.darley.com

• Rafti Advisors. LLC | www.raftiadvisors.com

• Self-Reliant Leadership. LLC | selfreliantleadership.com

• Mitch Matthews LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/mitchmatthews

• Mitch Matthews Website | www.mitchmatthews.com

• Encouraging the Encouragers Website | www.theencouragers.com

• Mitch Matthews Twitter | @mitchmatthews

• Mitch Matthews Instagram | @mitch.matthews