Losing James: A Military Couple’s Stillborn Story (part 1 of 2)

The Waiting Warriors Podcast

In 'Losing James: A Military Couple’s Stillborn Story', Austin and Michelle Bowler open up about their deeply personal experience of stillbirth. As a military couple, they also discuss the unique challenges they faced, from deployment to navigating the grieving process while apart from each other. This podcast is a candid conversation about loss, grief, recovery, and the often overlooked perspective of grieving dads. They also discuss the important role of advocacy after the loss and how to navigate life after such an experience. Listening to this heart-tugging conversation may provide comfort, commiseration, or insights for others who may be dealing with similar experiences.

Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Topic Reveal 00:15 Sharing Personal Experiences and Grief 00:56 Trigger Warning and Importance of Sharing Stories 01:39 Beginning of the Personal Story: Pregnancy Announcement 02:11 Deployment News and Gender Reveal 02:58 Uncertainty and Changes in Deployment Plans 03:11 Deployment to Chicago and Pregnancy Progress 04:25 Tragic News: Loss of the Baby 04:30 Immediate Reactions and Emergency Leave 05:41 Dealing with the Aftermath Alone 06:34 Support from Friends and Family 09:36 Unexpected Medical Complication: Placenta Previa 12:37 Coping Mechanisms: March Madness Brackets 14:38 Delivery and Miracle 16:02 The Miracle We Didn't Expect 16:56 Dealing with Loss and Grief 17:40 Choosing Burial and Planning a Funeral 19:32 The Pain of Going Home Empty Handed 20:25 The Struggle of Making Decisions in Grief 23:16 Returning to Work After Loss 27:48 The Importance of Acknowledging Grief 32:34 The Challenge of Postpartum Appointments 34:23 Advocacy and Change in the Medical System