Ep. 62 A Conversation About Boundaries (& How They Can Change Over Time) with John Romaniello

The Wright Conversations

By day, John Romaniello is a New York Times Best Selling Author and Founder of WellspringMEDIA. He is also an angel investor, media personality, and consultant, helping entrepreneurs improve their communication and increase their revenue through writing. On Instagram, he publishes content around kink, non-monogamy, and polyamory, and tries to get rid of the shame that many carry around sex.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today’s episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today’s episode, I’m joined by John Romaniello to talk about boundaries, limits, agreements, and protocols, and how those could change over time. We also talk about how to navigate unreasonable requests, when boundaries are irreconcilable, and how to say the hard things with compassionate candor.

In this Episode You’ll Learn:

• [01:16] A bit about John.
• [04:01] How does John know so much?
• [08:10] “Those who can’t do, teach?”
• [10:44] Defining boundaries, limits, agreements, and protocols.
• [14:48] Ultimatums vs boundaries.
• [18:43] Relationship boundaries.
• [20:43] Negotiating boundaries.
• [22:43] When it’s irreconcilable.
• [30:40] Updating boundaries.
• [39:22] Tightening a boundary.
• [43:02] Making unreasonable requests.
• [49:50] How to say the hard things.
• [56:02] John’s words of wisdom.

Quotes:

• “Boundaries are ways that we create an understanding of how we’re willing to be treated and what we’re willing to do if we do not get that treatment.” [12:22]
• “It is unreasonable, unrealistic, and most of the time unethical to expect people to be aware of a boundary you have not set.” [15:07]
• “You cannot make a boundary for a relationship by yourself.” [19:02]
• “If someone does not agree to your boundary, then it’s not an agreement.” [20:38]
• “There is always a kind way to tell a hard truth.” [50:41]
• “Boundaries are things that you don’t want to do, and agreements are things that you do to make sure that you don’t do the things you don’t want to do.” [56:11]

Connect with John Romaniello

Website: www.wearewellspringmedia.com.

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Instagram: @johnromaniello.

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Twitter: @thewrightrachel

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