#10 - Attachment Styles and Burdened Relationships

Healing Connections

Max and Liana really dive deep into attachment trauma and the ways we can heal it with awareness. Max goes right into it by giving a great overview of the different attachment styles and their effects on our relationships. He ties his learnings and personal experience and shares how he was able to bring a repair to his system. Liana talks about burdened and unburdened attachments and makes a pretty good case for the role society has in the way we form and maintain our important relationships. She brings to the table her perspective as a parent as well as gives an account of the harmful birthing practices. Max brings fascinating Ideal Parent Figure therapy and outlines conditions necessary for forming a healthy secure attachment. They conclude this episode by sharing several resources they found helpful on their journeys in healing their attachment wounds.
Resources:

Attached: Are you Anxious, Avoidant, or Secure? How the Science of Adult Attachment Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love
by Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller, M.A.
Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair by Daniel P. Brown and David S. Elliott

Trauma Through a Child’s Eyes: Awakening the Ordinary Miracle of Healing
by Peter A Levine and Maddie Kline
How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self
by Dr. Nicole LePera
Discovering the Inner Mother: A Guide to Healing the Mother Wound and Claiming Your Personal Power
by Bethany Webster
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
by Lindsay C. Gibson

Chapters

1. 4 attachment types rundown (00:01:02)

2. Traumatic absence of care (00:13:10)

3. Burdened parenting (00:18:10)

4. Ideal Parent Figure (IPF) therapy (00:24:48)

5. How birthing practices can damage relationships (00:31:24)

6. Relational nature of healing work (00:39:33)

7. Resources for attachment repair (00:45:08)