#59 - Sex, Anxiety, and Sex Anxiety

You Love & You Learn Podcast

If our sex life doesn’t match the steamy scenes from the movies, it can bring up a lot of anxiety: “am I with the right partner sexually?” “are we having enough sex?” “is our sex passionate enough?” etc.

And the ironic part is that all the pressure we place on ourselves and our sex life to be amazing can create the opposite outcome—feeling distracted and disconnected.

In this episode what I wish I learned about sex earlier (so I’d have lower sex-pectations) and how to show up intentionally when it comes to sex so it causes less anxiety.

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Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Emily Nagoski Ted Talk - How Couples Can Sustain a Strong Sexual Connection for a Lifetime: https://www.ted.com/talks/emily_nagoski_how_couples_can_sustain_a_strong_sexual_connection_for_a_lifetime
• Esther Perel Ted Talk - The Secret to Desire in a Long Term Relationship: https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship?language=en
• Come As You Are book - Emily Nagoski
• Mating in Captivity book - Esther Perel

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