A real girl talking about real sh*t! -From codependency and love addiction, to single parenting and situationships. Join me on my journey of self-development, self-healing, and spirituality discussed on a practical level.
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When your codependent partner wants to go back to their abusive spouse
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What do you do when your seemingly perfect partner wants to go back to their abusive ex? How do navigate dating someone going through a separation but not an official divorce? This episode is extra vulnerable and contains talk of things I have never discussed in my life (especially publicly). **Trigger warning- this episode contains talk around abo…
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Why “Therapy Speak” is Making Us All Insane & Why You Should Give the Nice Girl/Guy a CHANCE
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Hello fam, this episode talks about the toxic side of incessant “therapy speak” on social media (and life in general), and the discomfort that can arise when we meet a healthy/available partner. Also obviously some catch up on my life and personal journey navigating grief, trauma, diagnoses, and a new game changer relationship 🔥. I love you guys so…
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Recovering from Recovery/AA, grief, and another relationship fail
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This episode may ruffle some feathers of individuals in recovery/aa/na but I also don’t care and feel it’s important for those of us who choose a different route of healing to be able to share. I also talk about the multitude of grief of a passing loved one, AND story time! About why I decided to end a relationship with someone seemingly normal & h…
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Your situationship is LUST, not LOVE babe
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Hey guys! This episode I wanted to just catch you up with where I’m at and talk about the difference between LUST and LOVE. Lust is a lying bitch okay? 😂. Come find me and talk to me on stereo! https://stereo.com/codependentnshit
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The Stages of Narcissistic Abuse/Do You Make Men or Women your God?
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In this episode I go over the all too familiar and specific stages of narcissistic abuse, and also touch on the concept of making men or women our God, a.k.a idolatry. Spoiler alert: it’s the fastest way to forever be unhappy and unfulfilled. Love you Contact me directly with success stories, rants, connection, etc. at codependentnshit@gmail.com or…
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When You Find out the Narc has New Supply & Accountability for our Roles
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Hi Fam, this episode is about handling and coping with the reality of finding out your narcissist ex has a new supply (of course they do), why we aren’t victims & must take radical accountability, and also why I recommend 12 step programs as a means of integrative self-work and therapy. Love you ❤️ Contact me directly with success stories, rants, c…
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The only good thing about rock bottom is the only way out is up. Rock bottom might feel like an emotional thing, but sometimes it’s your life choices playing out as things you’d NEVER imagine you’d do. When is enough enough? This episode is about my personal experience with hitting rock bottom, and how to navigate it - which can only be done with r…
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“No Matter How Far I run, I Always End up Back Here”
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Hello fam, quick episode letting you guys know how/why I’m finally truly surrendering to what is, the reality of my situations, my addictions, my codependency, my grief, and entering rehab. I wanted to record this to let anyone else struggling to know how okay and NECESSARY it is to get help if you’ve realized for the last time that you can’t do it…
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How to Break the Trauma Bond(s) to Narcissists FOR GOOD
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WhatIn this bonus episode, I decided to openly share what’s truly working for me as I’m in this current process right now. I talk about tangible steps to begin to create an exit plan, and ultimately what needs to be done within us to not just break this trauma bond — but alll of them. Because we all know how easy it is to go find a new one with a n…
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How Easily a Narcissist Can Sneak into Your Life Even When You KNOW THE SIGNS
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This episode is full details and warning signs I ignored of my most recent relationship that winded up being with yet another person with highly narcissistic traits. I want you guys to understand that even with years of healing work and self awareness around this stuff, you still can easily fall into these relationships. That’s why FOLLOWING YOUR G…
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This is an episode of me gaslighting myself without even realizing it while recording 🙃
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This episode is about the seemingly ever growing current societal trend to try and label EVERYONE as a narcissist. Sure, there’s definite upsides of gaining awareness on these topics/labels - but are we over-doing it? Is it a new form of self abandonment to always be pointing the finger? 🤔 Do you like the show? Please leave a rating/review! Let’s c…
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In this episode I’m recapping a bit about trauma bonds because well, I think every write in I get is about trauma bonds and let’s be real - this entire podcast is based around them 🤣. I touch on ways to get out of them, why we need to get out of them, and share some of my personal experience with how I’ve gotten out of them. It can be done ☑️ Do yo…
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Getting Back on Track With Your Healing Journey
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Hi fam! A lot of this episode is about my Mom’s abrupt recent passing and how I’m coping with that/how I’m getting back on track with healing in the wake of tragedy/grief. Sometimes things happen in life that can throw us off track with focusing on bettering ourselves. I also touch on the Holistic Psychologists new book, and the power of the mind/t…
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Don’t Mistake Chemistry for Compatibility
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Hi guys! I’m alive! Just wanted to catch you up with why I’ve been MIA, and talk about why chemistry alone is NOT the recipe for a healthy dating dynamic. Compatibility is 🔑 to save yourself unnecessary pain/conflict! Do you like the show? Please leave a review! 🙏🏻 If you download the anchor app you can record a message to me/the show and I will ai…
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On this episode I’m going into the power of conscious inner dialogue and combatting opposing views/opinions a instead of making them mean so much to us. As individuals with codependent habits, we often will take on other people’s opinions and make it mean SO MUCH more than necessary. Thus creating internal misery, and even holding us back from our …
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Be a Gray Rock to Your Narcissist This Xmas
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Lololol just a short holiday episode for my peeps that understand the struggle of the holidays with dysfunctional/toxic family. WE 👏🏼CAN👏🏼 DO 👏🏼THIS 🤣😩 Do you like the show? Follow me on IG @ashrakes or @codependentnshit Email me at codependentnshit@gmail.com.
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Your Situationship is Probably a Trauma Bond/Limiting Beliefs/and God
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In this episode I just wanted to catch up with you guys, talk a little more about trauma bonds, situationships, and why I believe relationship with God is integral right now, and in regards to healing “limiting belief bonds”. Do you like the show? Follow me on IG @ashnrowan or codependentnshit Submit your stories, suggestions, etc to codependentnsh…
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Is it Love or A Trauma Bond? And Emotional Abuse
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What is a trauma bond? What is cognitive dissonance? Are you in an emotionally abusive relationship without even realizing it? These are important things to learn and have conscious awareness of to start attracting healthier relationships in the future. Do you like the show? Please leave a good rating and review. ❤️🙏🏻 If you have a story, a advice …
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Addicted to Relationships/Recognizing an Attraction b/c of Familiar Dynamics
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I’M BACK! ❤️ In this episode I just wanted to recap some stuff going on, talk about the impending apocalypse, etc. 🤣 but most importantly, address “addiction to relationships”. Why we shouldn’t shame ourselves once we find ourselves realizing we may be doing this, and why it throws our lives off balance. I also touch a bit on personal dating situat…
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Why I Don’t Think WAP is Female Sexual Empowerment/Are They Projecting? We are ALL Projecting
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SUP FAM ❤️ This episode is a little off typical topic, but I really wanted to touch on this and my opinion of WAP and why I don’t think it’s doing us any favors for progressing with women sexuality. ALSO - talking PROJECTION. And how altering it can be for our relationships to be conscious of how we ALL DO IT! 👏🏼 Do you like the show? Please leave …
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Loneliness in Healing, Codependent Friendships, & How to Point out Wounded Potential Partners
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This week’s episode is about overall healing of codependency, dealing with loneliness when you’re in the in between phases of losing friends, and also how to point out wounded partners BEFORE you get involved. 🙌🏼. Download the Stereo app to come chat with me live! Follow me @ashrakes to be notified of when I’m on 🎙 Do you like the show? Please leav…
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Can You Heal While in a Relationship?/Financial Stability does NOT Mean They are a Good Partner!
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Can you heal codependency while in a relationship? My answer is yes. In this episode I explain more about why, and also helpful starting points for you and your partner. ALSO - Are you putting up with fu*k boy/girl behavior just because a person FINANCIALLY has their life together? I’m getting real on this topic and why you need to see the reality …
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Announcement/Why You Don’t Have to Keep Dating Them Just Because They Don’t Treat You Like Sh*t
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Double episode week! I forgot to tell you guys that tomorrow (August 27th) the STEREO app is launching and I have partnered with them to be a content creator on the app! My first live sessions will be Aug 27th: 2:00 PST, Aug 28th: 2:00PST, Aug 31st: 2:00 PST, SEP 1st 2:00 PST, & Sep 1st 2:00 PST! Come ask me things and hear more stuff like you do o…
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Why Do We Like Bad Boys/How to Become Emotionally Available
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He has tattoos and takes 2 days to text back...are you in love?! Probably not Sis! In this episode I talk about why we typically are drawn to “bad boy” types, getting real about our attraction to them, and also how to become less emotionally unavailable/love avoidant. Because if you’re attracting emotionally unavailable partners, it’s because you a…
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Are They Really in an Open Relationship? /What is LOVE BOMBING?
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HI FAM I’M BACK AND HERE TO STAY 🤗 I would like to take this show in the direction of being a love/dating advice platform. If you’ve listened to the show, you know I’m extremely well versed in codependency, love-addiction, attachment issues, and conscious dating. And I’m a former crazy girl 🤣WRITE ME YOUR PROBLEMS! Let’s solve them! I assure you, t…
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Hello Fam, for now I am going to be taking a (likely indefinite) break from this show and launching a new Podcast soon. I will keep you updated on the details of that when it occurs. For now I will keep my old episodes up but this may change. Thank you all for the love & support through this chapter of my life. I sincerely hope you find your way an…
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What Not to Do On a Dating App/Are You Overly-attached?
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SUP FAM! This episode has some “what not to do” things if you are on a dating app (and actually seeking dating) and also a bit about over-attachment. I go through some sure signs of over attachment/involvement & ways to work through it. ❤️❤️ Do you like the show? Follow me on IG @ashrakes or @codependentnshit or shoot me an email at codependentnshi…
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This is a deep one! **Warning: This episode may trigger those in the New Age spiritual movement** Just have to be transparent with you guys on where I’m at, and how I’m navigating my journey home ❤️. If you want to connect with me directly you can find me on IG @ashnrowan or codependentnshit or shoot me an email at codependentnshit@gmail.com. 🙏🏻…
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Why I’m Leaving the New Age Spiritual Movement
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Tarot, crystals, manifestation, astrology, rituals, spirit guides...I got heavily into the new age spiritual movement as a guiding force to heal my codependency n sh*t. In this episode I explain why I’ve made the decision to leave this belief system/way of life BEHIND. ⚠️ Warning ⚠️ This episode may trigger you if you are still in the new age movem…
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Codependency & Having a Racist Ex Partner/Are You Addicted to Healing?
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Have you ever been with someone who did not share the same moral core beliefs as you? Do you feel guilty and ashamed for having done so? Don’t beat yourself up, it’s codependency. Also, are you exhausted with self-healing? Feel like you never heal “enough”? There’s a point where this stuff becomes counter productive. Accepting yourself now is the m…
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Just dropping this quickly while I have a moment because I do NOT support silence right now. I will be recording a full episode this week. Please stay safe and love one another 🙏🏻❤️❤️
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You Are Your Own Guru/Savior & “Why Did They Ghost Me?” Pt.2
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This episode I touch on the reality behind seeking others to “heal us”, etc., Why the spiritual healing community is starting to drive me bonkers, and I also do a listener question about being ghosted 👻 during the pandemic. Do you like the show? Let’s connect! Follow me on IG @ashnrowan or shoot me an email at codependentnshit@gmail.com. ✨Good revi…
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Hey guys, I just wanted to record something quick to update as to why I’ve taken a lil break from recording. Quick talk on “2020 expectation hangovers”, body issues, and quarantine realizations, etc.✨
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I’m personally attacking some of you with this one 🤣. I just wanted to get real on this topic because I’m sooo tired of seeing this pattern as our norm. Nice guys finish last” needs to be a thing of the past if we ever want to heal ❤️
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Why You Shouldn’t Feel Shame For Taking Care of Your Mental Health
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In this episode I’m talking about why societal stigmas are keeping us in a shame cycle about ourselves and only keeping us down and depressed. Stigmas like mental health, sex, cannabis, etc. are discussed and why being willing to be VULNERABE🔑 can unlock doors for us. ❤️ Do you like the show? Let’s connect! Follow me on IG @ashnrowan or codependent…
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Focusing on What We Can Control & Why You Should LET YOURSELF COPE ❤️
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Hello my loves! In this episode I touch on a few subjects. From self-proclaimed “modern spiritual gurus” insights right now, to this common theme we are seeing in social media that those of us at home should be in “create/expand/productivity mode”. ARE YOU STILL COMFORT EATING? Ok cool, me too. Also, I go through an emotional release technique step…
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Is it you? Or is it maybe a global pandemic? In this episode I’m talking alll about this topic. Is the person you were talking to being “weird” or “off? Please 👏🏼 relax 👏🏼 ! I’ll explain why and also why this applies all the time - pandemic or no pandemic. ✨DO YOU WANT TO WORK WITH ME ONE ON ONE?! I WOULD LOVE TO HELP YOU ❤️ I’M TAKING DIRECT CALL …
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What Do You Do When A “Situationship” Asks if You’re Seeing Other People - And Isolation StruggZ
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Hello my loves, here’s a self-quarantine random episode! 🤣 This episode is about what to do when someone you’re “situationing” (non-exclusivity) tries to ask if you’re seeing other people, and why neither of you should really be asking each other this to begin with. I also touch on being isolated with toxic family/partners right now, and reverting …
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WTF is Actually Going On? & Hypersexual Females
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Hi Fam! Are you feeling the quarantine blues? Because same. This episode is around feels & triggers with family/anyone/in general in the current times. ALSO - taking a dive into “hyper sexual” females, female sexuality in general, and my personal struggles with my sexuality and healing my shame around it 🔥✨. Do you like the show? Do you need suppor…
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Hi guys! I am going to be recording as many episodes as possible during this time. This episode is about using this time of isolation/overall slow down to realllly go within 🙏🏻. With all the intense energy everywhere, this is also an extremely important time to be conscious of codependent tendencies. Are you taking on other people’s emotions/stress…
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This mini-episode is about FEAR. And how being in fear of the current global circumstances is a choice. Stay conscious and present with yourselves and your own beliefs during these times please ❤️🙏🏻 Do you like the show? Let’s connect! Follow me on IG @ashnrowan or @codependentnshit or shoot me an email at codependentnshit@gmail.com…
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This episode is about beginning to date consciously while in your recovery/inner healing journey✨. Contrary to what some may believe, dating can be a TOOL in our journey - if we use it correctly and consciously. And it can be FUN! What? Dating? Fun?! Holy sh*t! 🤣 Do you like the show? Follow me on IG @ ashnrowan or codependentnshit 🏆 Submit your wi…
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This episode I’m touching a bit on narcissism/the current trend of narcissist label obsession, but mostly ADDICTION. Of all kinds. But major focus on LOVE ADDICTION as this is something I know a lot of you guys struggle with. ❤️ Like the show? Let’s connect! Follow me on IG @ ashnrowan or codependentnshit or shoot me an email at codependentnshit@gm…
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This episode is RAW AF AF AF (notice no background music lol) and I recorded it on a whim after my 2nd EMDR session. I felt called to share it with you guys ❤️❤️
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Are You Really an “Empath”? Or Are You Just Codependent?
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This week I’m discussing the difference between being an “empath” and being codependent. It’s easy for these to get mixed up, and it’s pretty obvious why. However, one is a lot more detrimental than the other! 🛑 There’s a fine line between the two. Do you like the show? Let’s connect! Follow me on IG @ashnrowan or codependentnshit or shoot me an em…
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How To Feel Great Being SINGLE & Call in What You Really Want ✨❤️
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Single for Valentine’s Day? Now is the PERFECT TIME to dive into celebrating the 👏🏼 most 👏🏼 important 👏🏼 relationship 👏🏼! The one with YOU 💖And that’s exactly how you will call in healthy - true - love with another 💝 Self-love is so much more than bubble baths and getting your nails done. LET’S GO DEEP ✨✨🥰 Do you like the show? Let’s connect! Follo…
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It’s my FIRST INTERVIEW EVER! 🎉 On this episode I interview Vanessa Grace (IG@ SoulAmplified). Vanessa is an expert in overcoming co-dependency both personally and professionally. She is a life coach and licensed therapist. Her expertise, kind heart and a dash of light humor help her clients heal the life experiences and trauma that created codepen…
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Why You Shouldn’t Feel Guilty About Your Shitty Ex
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Do you feel guilty about someone you were with in the past? Guilt is HEAVY. I just wanted to open up on this topic, get personal, and discuss why we gotta forgive ourselves 🙏🏻. Do you like the show? Let’s connect! Follow me on IG @ ashnrowan or codependentnshit Or shoot me an email at codependentnshit@gmail.com…
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Treating Codependency & Realizing The Way it Frames Our Perceptions
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So you’ve realized you may be struggling with Codependency...now what? How do you get help? How do you go about treating it? I wanted to do this episode because I get a lot of people reaching out to me who are new to Codependency. It’s a lot to come to terms with! It can feel overwhelming and SUPPORT in all areas you can obtain it will help ❤️. I a…
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