Best Commitment Phobes Podcasts (2024)

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Amplifying Love Between Men and Women with Matt Bockenstette 57:28

7h ago57:28

57:28

This summer I took an incredible 5 day training called 'Fierce Love' led by John Wineland, a speaker and teacher I've been following for years that leads men and women in the practices of embodied masculine leadership, spiritual intimacy and sexual polarity. IT WAS AMAZING! I truly feel changed on a cellular level. This immersion taught me the powe…

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Are Nice Guys Commitment Phobes? EP #57 29:03

1h ago29:03

29:03

There is one stereotype about the nice guy that he is needy and clingy and stays in a bad relationship no matter what. And yes, I’ve been guilty of that. But what about the nice guy that can’t commit? Can’t commit to a woman or a job or a hobby or even meeting your friend for dinner?By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

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"From Dating Disasters to Meeting My Person" 1:05:04

1h ago1:05:04

1:05:04

Anonymous from the episode, “The Classy Fckboy” returns two years later to share how she went from being the girl who got played by guys who weren’t looking for something serous, to finding her now-fiancé! She shares how she first met her fiancé (days after our last recording), red and green flags she saw along the way, what felt different in this …

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Learning Your Non Negotiables & Finding Your Voice 1:01:43

1h ago1:01:43

1:01:43

My fabulous makeup artist, Essie Cohen joins us for a fun and engaging conversation on her experiences with dating and relationships. She shares insights from her 9+ year relationship, becoming single at 31, and dating someone 10 years older. Essie talks about what it felt like to "start over" and where she began her journey. She also discusses her…

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Our Vows 19:00

3h ago19:00

19:00

Jake and I got married on June 1, 2024 surrounded by our families and closest friends. I'm so excited to share mine and Jake's vows with our SOP family 🤍 PS: Have tissues nearby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesBy Ilana Dunn

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I Got Engaged, Married, and Divorced in 10 Months 46:17

2d ago46:17

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I'm joined by a 32-year-old woman who opens up about getting engaged, married, and divorced in less than a year when she was 29. We hear how their relationship unfolded and how things were when they got engaged, along with how she felt throughout the engagement. She shares what her wedding night was like and what happened after that led to the divo…

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Trusting Your Timeline, Avoiding Situationships & Obsessing Over Crushes with Emily Bonani 57:27

4d ago57:27

57:27

Emily Bonani joins us for a hilarious and honest conversation about avoiding situationships, balancing dating while focusing on herself, and what it's like dating at the same time as her mom. We answer listener questions about not obsessing over relationships, how to not seek validation, and more. Follow Emily on Instagram and Tiktok @bananabonani …

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The Time I Was Slapped In The Face With A Sacred Dick EP #56 23:01

5d ago23:01

23:01

Recently I was complaining to my personal men’s group about being tired, about being disappointed in the ambivalence in some of the men I work with and men in general aren’t interested in self-development, and just uninterested in anything other than sex, sports and video games. I’ve been doing men’s work for almost 20 years both as a participant a…

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"How I Became Securely Attached" 51:18

9d ago51:18

51:18

I'm joined by Lok, a 37 year old male living in Boston, Massachusetts. Lok joins the podcast to share his experience going from a disorganized attachment style to secrely attached. He opens up about how at times he felt overly anxious and other times feeling overly avoidant, and what steps he took to work on himself and get to a place where he's co…

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Taking Back Your Life After The Breakup 1:10:31

11d ago1:10:31

1:10:31

My friend (and a woman I have looked up to for a literal decade) Kelley Fox joins us for an inspiring conversation on dealing with burnout, overcoming heartbreak, and navigating breakups. She shares her journey of being true to herself, offering insights on dating English men and her personal evolution from being anxiously attached to securely atta…

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How To Be More Optimistic and Less Pessimistic Nice Guy EP #55 16:54

13d ago16:54

16:54

Are you hard on yourself and others? Do you tend to criticize and judge harshly? Do you always see life as half empty instead of half full?By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

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"1000 Invisible Strings" 50:53

16d ago50:53

50:53

In this episode, our guest shares a joyful dating journey with her boyfriend that made her believe in the invisible string theory. They recount how growing up in neighboring towns on Long Island and sharing many mutual connections led to their eventual meeting on Hinge in January 2022. Despite numerous past connections, including appearing in the s…

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How to Meet Someone IRL with Liv Schreiber 1:02:43

18d ago1:02:43

1:02:43

Liv Schreiber, Founder of Hot and Social, joins us for an inspiring conversation on embracing authenticity and living unapologetically. She shares her journey of being true to herself, offering insights on confidently approaching someone in person and recounting the serendipitous moment of meeting her now-boyfriend in an elevator. She discusses str…

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Is ADHD Part of My Nice Guy Syndrome? EP #54 28:06

21d ago28:06

28:06

Are you a nice guy who has been diagnosed with ADHD? Or do you suspect you have ADHD? Why does it seem like every man with nice guy syndrome has ADHD too? In this episode we are going to break down just what is happening here and what are the differences between ADHD and nice guy syndrome.By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

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"My Transcontinental Movie-Worthy Romance" 41:58

23d ago41:58

41:58

In this episode, I'm joined by a woman who shares her experience of a transformative long-distance relationship spanning continents between Sweden and the US. She opens up about how they met and started their relationship, the challenges and joys of maintaining a connection across such distances, their journey over three years, and how the relation…

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“I Got Cheated On By A Homeless Man” 1:02:53

27d ago1:02:53

1:02:53

My friend and fitness instructor extraordinaire, Jill Goodtree, joins the pod today to open up about her multiple experiences getting cheated on and how she bounced back from each of them. Jill shares how she has created a life that she loves and how she would have to meet someone who really adds to her already filled cup in order to move forward w…

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Where To Meet Attractive Women If You Are Shy And Without Coming Across Creepy EP #53 17:59

28d ago17:59

17:59

Want to know the best and easiest places to meet attractive great women without dating apps or loitering around nights club? And especially if you are shy. Stick around for this episode Where To Meet Attractive Women If You Are Shy And Without Coming Across Creepy EP and I will reveal where you’ll find abundance of single women and hardly any compe…

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"All I Wanted Was To Be Wanted" 58:39

1M ago58:39

58:39

TW: Sexual assault I'm joined by Rafaella, a 23-year-old who opens up about entering a relationship during a phase of her life where she felt like she wasn't enough for someone to want to be with her. We hear how her insecurities led to unhealthy relationship patterns unfolding, including her being manipulated and emotionally and physically abused.…

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How To Improve Your Relationship With Yourself 45:11

1M ago45:11

45:11

Marianna Cuomo Maier, Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach and Founder of Grata Wellness, is here to help us learn how to thrive, not just survive. We discuss how we're all operating on autopilot and why it's so important to figure out what we want our lives to feel and look like. We chat about little changes we can make in our daily lives to …

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The Feminine Freakout! How To Bring Calm To Your Partner EP #52 24:46

1M ago24:46

24:46

Can you relate to this; you’re going along in your relationship, everything is fine and then you say something, something pretty innocent and maybe even a little funny. To you at least. And then suddenly like a dormant volcano erupting she explodes. Expletives are flying, accusations are being hurled and you find yourself like a deer caught in head…

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"Embracing My Values While Dating" 51:18

1M ago51:18

51:18

In this episode, I'm joined by Anna, a 28-year-old living in Calgary, Alberta. She dives into her journey of self-discovery and the challenges she's faced along the way. From dealing with breakups to navigating the dating scene with caution and staying true to her values. We also explore her experiences grappling with confusion around sexuality and…

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What I've Done About The Fear of "Losing Myself" in Intimacy & What That Taught Me About My Needs 23:50

1M ago23:50

23:50

In this solo episode, I talk about how in the past, the fear of losing myself made opening my heart and leaning into intimacy seem impossible. Join me as I explore the delicate balance between being there for another and self-preservation, and how prioritizing our own needs is essential to feel safe when we're opening ourself to connection or to be…

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WE'RE MARRIED!! 1:13:22

1M ago1:13:22

1:13:22

I'M MARRIED!! Today, my husband Jake joins me to recap our wedding weekend—from the nerves and hiccups to the sweetest moments and tears of joy. We spill all the tea about our rehearsal dinner speeches, the heartfelt moments from our ceremony, the joyous celebrations at our reception, and the epic after-party that kept the festivities going. Plus, …

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Episode 51 -How To Be Dumped Without Falling Apart 19:41

1M ago19:41

19:41

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari share their insights on handling breakups like a man. They discuss practical tips and strategies for navigating the end of a relationship with resilience and self-respect, helping Nice Guys keep their cool even when faced with heartbreak.By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

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“My Family Was So Messed Up, I Thought I’d Never Find My Person” 47:28

2M ago47:28

47:28

I'm joined by Danielle, a 31-year-old woman living in LA, who opens up about the trauma she went through due to her alcoholic father. She shares how she believed nobody would want to be with her because of what her family was like, and as a result, she closed herself off to finding love. We hear how she moved to Los Angeles to get a fresh start and…

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Breaking Free & Finding Love and Chaos On The Path Of Authenticity with Rachel Butts 1:09:31

2M ago1:09:31

1:09:31

Holy shh!! What a powerful episode! This week I interviewed Rachel Butts, a powerhouse, beautiful, radiant woman who has been a client of mine the past 3 years. Rachel, a former pastor's wife, bravely transformed her life from one of unhappiness and suppression to one of empowerment and authenticity. She opens up about her journey to reclaim her vo…

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10 Things I Wish I Could Tell My Single Self 58:55

2M ago58:55

58:55

On this solo episode, I open up about what I wish I could tell my younger, single, struggling self. I share insight from my experiences as a dater, dating coach, friend, and fiancé. We discuss knowing your worth, not letting someone’s disinterest impact how you view yourself, mindsets to approach dating with, future tripping, fixing people, and so …

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Episode 50 - Why Raising Your Standards Makes Nice Guys Attractive To Women and Money 25:51

2M ago25:51

25:51

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari explore the concept of raising your standards and how it can make Nice Guys more appealing to women and boost their financial success. They discuss the transformative power of self-respect and setting higher expectations in various aspects of lifeBy Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

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Can Guys and Girls Be "Just Friends?" 54:54

2M ago54:54

54:54

My friends Sammy and Glenn met as coworkers and became close “friends with nonsexual benefits.” Sammy and Glenn share how they’ve helped each other naviate dating situations by providing the perspective of the opposite gender, talking one another off the ledge when they’re spiraling, and hyping each other up IRL. We hear how they’ve grown as daters…

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How We Knew They Were "The One" 52:37

2M ago52:37

52:37

Jen Lauren is back on the pod and this time, she’s engaged. We’re commiserating about wedding planning, discussing how to set and maintain boundaries, and appreciating the little things about our relationships. We answer your questions about how we know our fiancés were the one, how we balance(d) our side jobs with our full time jobs, and how we re…

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Episode 49 - She's Pissed! Defending Against Her Ambush 17:09

2M ago17:09

17:09

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari dish out advice on how the Nice Guy can navigate those moments when his woman is feeling ticked off. They share tips and insights for handling conflict in relationships.By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

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"We Met & Broke Up At Work" 44:29

2M ago44:29

44:29

I’m joined by a 30 year old woman who opens up about spending a year and a half in a tumultuous on again, off again situationship with someone she met at work. She shares how things went from being blissful to confusing overnight, and how she never knew which version of him she would get when she would walk into work or spend time with him. We hear…

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What Working With Couples Before Their Wedding Is Really Like 53:45

2M ago53:45

53:45

Maya Sank (AKA Maya Moves AKA wedding dance instructor extraordinaire) joins the podcast today to share her experiences working with couples before they walk down the aisle. We hear what dynamics Maya sees among her clients, what it’s like working with bridezillas and groomzillas, and what qualities she sees amongst couples she admires. We hear how…

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Episode 48 - How To Deal With Her Flakiness 29:44

2M ago29:44

29:44

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari tackle the issue of dealing with a woman's flakiness, offering insights and strategies for Nice Guys navigating unpredictable behavior in their relationships.By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

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"BRCA Means Planning Your Whole Future at 26" 43:01

2M ago43:01

43:01

Emily Kellman (27) opens up about how finding out that she is a BRCA1 gene mutation carrier has impacted her life. She shares what the testing process was like and how she felt when she “tested positive.” We hear how she, her family, and her doctors worked together to determine the best path forward, and what her fears and anxieties have been like …

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Carley Fortune: Female Friendships, Right Person Wrong time, and Happy Endings 48:31

2M ago48:31

48:31

To celebrate the release of her new novel, “This Summer Will Be Different,” my favorite author Carley Fortune joins the podcast today! Carley and I chat about what we’ve learned about love and relationships from the characters and love stories in her three novels. We discuss how her childhood experiences shaped the characters and settings in her bo…

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Episode 47 - How To Attract Women Like A Gentleman 20:53

3M ago20:53

20:53

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari discuss why the Nice Guy often finds it challenging to attract womenBy Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

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“He’s Marrying (One Of) The Girls He Cheated On Me With” 52:00

3M ago52:00

52:00

I'm joined by a woman who opens up about how her nine-year relationship with her high school boyfriend that was filled with infidelity and emotional abuse finally came to an end. She shares how she held onto the idea of what the person she wanted him to be vs the person he was, along with how she became stronger because of what she went through. We…

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Stop Trying To Find "The One" with Jennifer Teplin, LCSW 54:01

3M ago54:01

54:01

I’m joined by Jennifer Teplin, LCSW and founder of Manhattan Wellness, joins the show to talk about how we can own that your 20s might not be the best time of your life, and that’s okay. We discuss the idea of who we thought we would be vs who we are, how to embrace where we’re at, and why you should never compare yourself to anyone else’s timeline…

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Vivir El "Matrimonio Interno" Atraves Del Tarot con Clara Maria Abad 53:13

3M ago53:13

53:13

Hoy en dia se habla mucho de las energias masculina y femenina que llevamos adentro, y como crear polaridad sexual con el otro atravez de la encarnacion de estas energias. Pero la verdad es que dentro de cada uno de nosotros estas energias no viven separadas, interactuan y son una pareja en si, un matrimonio. Hoy hablo con mi profe de Tarot Clara M…

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Episode 46 - WTF Is Your Why? 23:25

3M ago23:25

23:25

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari get real about the importance of discovering and owning your 'why'. They explore how understanding your purpose can fuel personal growth and lead to a more fulfilling life.By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

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"9 Ways My Dating Mindset Has Changed" 45:54

3M ago45:54

45:54

I’m joined by a 25-year-old listener who is wise beyond her years. She shares the various ways her dating mindset has changed over the past year (which she documents in a note on her phone). I don’t want to spoil them, but if you listen to one thing this week, let it be this episode! Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets…

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Learning To Love Yourself (Or Like Yourself) with Kayla Kleinman 48:56

3M ago48:56

48:56

Kayla Kleinman, book lover, introvert, and realistic wellness content creator joins the SOP family today. Kayla and I chat about learning to be unapologetically yourself, the difference between being alone and being lonely, and how to differentiate your feelings vs. your anxiety. We chat living alone, enjoying your own company, saying no to plans y…

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Episode 45 - Does Penis Size Matter? 25:45

3M ago25:45

25:45

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari break it down: they discuss how penis size truly isn't that big of a deal when it comes to women.By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

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“Being Single Has Been Life’s Most Unexpected Gift" 53:08

3M ago53:08

53:08

My friend Emily joins the podcast today to open up about taking a leap of faith and moving across the country. She shares the mindset that she had that allowed her to meet other people, say yes to everything, and create the life she wanted for herself. We discuss dating in NY vs LA, comparing yourself to your younger siblings, and making new friend…

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How To Manifest Your Future Partner 48:56

3M ago48:56

48:56

I’m joined by Carleigh Ferrante, writer and host of the dating and wellness podcast Mostly Balanced. Carleigh and I chat about how she went from being avoidant and fiercely independent to manifesting her now-boyfriend of over a year. We discuss how she maintained her independence in her relationship, why it’s important to look within when consideri…

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Episode 44 - 3 Things Men Get Horribly Wrong When Seducing Women 23:14

3M ago23:14

23:14

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari discuss how Nice Guys often struggle when it comes to the art of seduction, exploring the reasons behind their lame performance in this area.By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

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"He Wasn’t Capable of Loving Me" 52:22

3M ago52:22

52:22

On this Unfiltered, I’m joined by a woman who opens up about the year long relationship she was in where her boyfriend was unable to love her due to trauma from past relationships. She shares how he continuously told her he wanted to get there, how she remained patient, and how it became an elephant in the room and often prevented her from expressi…

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Getting Real About My Insecurities with My Brother Andrew 1:02:36

3M ago1:02:36

1:02:36

My oldest brother Andrew interviews me about my journey with Seeing Other People over the last few years. I open up about the imposter syndrome I've faced, my biggest challenges with my role, and what I fear people finding out about me. We discuss how I decided what parts of my life to reveal on the podcast, how I've grown from it over the years, a…

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Episode 43 - It's True. You Are Lazy. 22:59

3M ago22:59

22:59

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari discuss how Nice Guys often fall short due to their tendency to slack off and play it easy, holding themselves back from reaching their full potential.By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

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