Best Katrin Berndt Podcasts (2024)

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122. Are You Confusing Love & Respect with Obedience? 16:18

11M ago16:18

16:18

We all want partners who love and respect us. But does that also mean that they should obey us? In this week's episode, I talk about love and respect vs. obedience and why it's so easy to confuse the two. Even though obedience feels good, it does not have a place in a healthy, adult relationship. Life would be a lot easier if everyone just obeyed u…

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121. How to Be an Elite Girlfriend When Life Gets You Down 15:44

11M ago15:44

15:44

Expecting ourselves to be on top physically and mentally 24/7 is entirely unreasonable. Being an Elite Girlfriend is not about being super-human and never struggling with anything. In this week's episode, I share what it means to show up as an Elite Girlfriend even when life gets you down. Whether it's hunger, stress, lack of sleep, grief, PMS, or …

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120. Why Not Lose Your Shit (If Your Partner Deserves It)? 25:42

11M ago25:42

25:42

Is there a superior way of living your life regarding being calm and collected vs. emotional and explosive? Is one better than the other or can you just pick and choose which fits you? In this week's episode, we explore the possible pros and cons of the two and I explain how I personally decided what was right for me. Work with me: https://www.katr…

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119. The Forbidden Episode (Your Partner's Brain 101) 37:06

12M ago37:06

37:06

Your partner is not a problem to be fixed. They are not your child, your project, or your responsibility. And 9 times out of 10, we stay out of your partner's brain because you have no power there anyway. But in this week's episode, we do dive into your partner's brain. We explore how it works and how it might show up in your relationship. Understa…

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118. What to Do When Your Grumpy Behavior Is ALSO Reasonable 16:21

12M ago16:21

16:21

"I'm obviously triggered right now and all I want to do is ___... I know I shouldn't, but doing ___ is also reasonable in this situation! HELP!" Sound familiar? If you have ever struggled to decide whether or not to act on something because it's both unhealthy AND reasonable, this episode is for you. I give you my rule of thumb for situations like …

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117. 3 Questions to Ask Yourself BEFORE Acting On Your Trigger 20:29

12M ago20:29

20:29

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you are clearly triggered, you feel awful, you can feel the urgency inside of you to act, and you know exactly what you want to do to punish your partner in that moment? If so, this is the episode for you. I will walk you through three powerful questions to ask yourself in that moment that will help…

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116. 5 Personality Traits That Sound Lovely... But Are Unhealthy 29:01

1y ago29:01

29:01

One of my most important coaching tools when working with my clients is to never trust that we have the same definitions of what things mean. Good communication, healthy boundaries, love, empathy... what do all these things really mean? How we define our own positive (and negative) traits really matters and it's important to not mislabel your unhea…

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115. The Do’s & Don’ts of “Fake It till You Make It” 21:13

1y ago21:13

21:13

Fake it till you make it is nothing new. But it has always puzzled me when it comes to becoming a new and improved version of yourself. On the one hand, it doesn't help at all. On the other hand, it's one of the biggest keys in any transformation journey. Tune in to this week's episode to learn the do's and don'ts of faking it and what makes the di…

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114. A Little Life Update (Rebranding!!) 10:36

1y ago10:36

10:36

Ladies!! I have not forgotten about you. I promise. The season of change I've been in for a long time now is culminating and I'm making a lot of big decisions in my life and business. Listen to this episode to find out all about my new plan and then check out my brand new (tiny) Instagram account here: https://www.instagram.com/elitegirlfriendcoach…

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113. Why You Should Aim for Girlfriend Excellence (Over Mediocrity) 12:37

1y ago12:37

12:37

"I just want to feel better." Sound familiar? Then you're a lot like my clients who struggle to dream big and go after their fullest potential. In this week's episode, I talk about the benefits of setting big goals, aiming high, and deciding to transform your life completely rather than just tweaking what you've already got. That growth experience …

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112. What If It Turns Out I Was Right to Be Anxious? 19:57

1+ y ago19:57

19:57

I'm not taking any prisoners in this week's episode. It's time we have a serious conversation about "What if I'm right to be anxious and jealous?" I have a very firm belief about this thought and looking back at your past self, with 20/20 hindsight. I decided very early on in my journey that I would never think this specific thought, and in this we…

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111. When Changing Your Thoughts Just Isn’t Working 30:27

1+ y ago30:27

30:27

Your thoughts create your feelings and your feelings drive your actions. So if you want to change, you need to change your thoughts. Simple enough, right? Well... wrong. It CAN be that simple in very rare cases, but most of the time it requires a lot of hard work. And that's the hard work we are going to talk about in this week's episode. No more "…

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110. Toxic Relationship Advice You Shouldn't Listen To: PART 2 29:53

1+ y ago29:53

29:53

Social media is full of shitty relationship advice that usually just perpetuates the anxiety, jealousy, insecurity, and confusion that grumpy girlfriends struggle with. The advice we talk about in this episode is not objectively good or bad, but from the perspective of being a grumpy girlfriend, it does little to help. In this week's episode, I deb…

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109. Stop Hugging the Cactus: When Your Thoughts Are Causing You Pain 16:25

1+ y ago16:25

16:25

Are the certain topics in your relationship that just keep causing you pain? Frustration? Anxiety? All you want is for reality to be different than it is... because YOU ARE RIGHT. Your thought is true. And reality is just not playing along. In this week's episode, we talk about hugging the cactus. Something all humans do in their lives. But our cap…

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108. Triggered? Listen to This 15:06

1+ y ago15:06

15:06

This is a guided coaching episode that I recommend you listen to if you have been triggered by something in your relationship. The goal of processing a trigger like this is to flush the fight or flight response out of your system so you can access your intelligent brain again. We don't want to trust and act on our perception of reality when our emo…

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107. The Power in Being the Problem 21:42

1+ y ago21:42

21:42

Have you ever thought that your partner is the problem in your relationship? That their behavior is the problem that needs to be solved? Then this is the episode for you. We are never more disempowered than when we give someone or something else in our lives credit for being the "problem"... because that also makes them the solution. In this week's…

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106. Obsession vs. Love w/ Ron Cecil & Daniel Penner Cline 1:21:23

1+ y ago1:21:23

1:21:23

Do you ever feel obsessed with your partner? Does it feel good... or not so much? Could it even become unhealthy if it goes on for too long? A while back I got a question from a girlfriend who struggled to differentiate between her feelings of love and what felt like an unhealthy obsession. So let's figure it out together! In this week's episode, I…

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105. After All I've Done for You!? 20:31

1+ y ago20:31

20:31

You've heard of people pleasing... saying yes to things you don't want to say yes to in order to manipulate people's thoughts and feelings about you. But what about retrospective people pleasing? In this week's episode, I dive into one of the biggest grumpy girlfriend red flags that I see when working with my clients. The "after all I've done for y…

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104. Boundaries: A Grumpy Girlfriend Guide 27:29

1+ y ago27:29

27:29

No one has missed the importance of setting boundaries in life in order to stay safe and sound. But for a lot of grumpy girlfriends, this is an area of confusion, frustration, and trouble. Is it possible to set too many boundaries? Tune in to this week's episode to learn about what boundaries are, the most common boundary struggles for grumpy girlf…

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103. Why Wanting to See It Coming Is Ruining Your Relationship 18:55

1+ y ago18:55

18:55

Is your brain constantly looking for signs that your relationship is about to end? Are you on high alert for signs your partner is cheating on you? No matter what your partner does, do you always interpret their actions in the worst possible way? Then this episode is for you. How to Stop Being Grumpy: https://www.katrinberndt.com/video-series Conta…

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102. Stuck in Indecision? Create a Decision Container! 8:41

1+ y ago8:41

8:41

Spinning in indecision is the best way to waste time in your life and relationship. Yet we spin in indecision and struggle to make decisions because we are so afraid of making the wrong choice and wasting time. Ironic, huh? If you are struggling to make a decision in your relationship right now, try creating a decision container and go all in on an…

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101. 23 Thoughts to Make 2023 Your Least Grumpy Year Ever 7:23

1+ y ago7:23

7:23

Who we are, what we struggle with, and how we feel depends on the thoughts we think. So the only thing standing in between you and the girlfriend you want to be are the thoughts you repeatedly think and believe. Here are 23 thoughts for you to practice believing and finding evidence for in order to make this year your least grumpy year yet! Let's g…

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100. The Life of a Grumpy Girlfriend Boyfriend: Listener Q&A w/ Sonny 30:16

1+ y ago30:16

30:16

What is it really like to be the partner of a grumpy girlfriend? Pure misery? Or not so bad? Well, if you ask my boyfriend, it was a walk in the park. 'Cause he had no idea I was being grumpy, to begin with. To celebrate episode 100, I invited my boyfriend Sonny to join me and answer your most burning questions about his grumpy girlfriend-boyfriend…

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99. How I Overcame Anxiety & Stopped Overthinking: WWNPD? 13:41

1+ y ago13:41

13:41

A few years ago I was diagnosed with GAD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder. So I've struggled with anxiety a lot as an adult. But... today, I don't struggle with anxiety anymore. I don't struggle with overthinking. In today's episode, I share with you the thought exercise or the tool that I used to manage my overthinking and eventually overcome my inte…

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98. When to Change the Circumstance 15:37

1+ y ago15:37

15:37

Week in and week out, we talk about thought work, processing your emotions, and adjusting the way you think about things in your relationship. This week, we are going to talk about situations when you might not want to do the thought work! There are certain situations where you actually want to hold on to the way you think and feel, and just change…

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97. Real Talk: How I Feel About My Relationship After 48h On TikTok 24:10

1+ y ago24:10

24:10

Phew. I have been feeling so overwhelmed and sick of relationship content on social media these past few days (weeks) that I just needed to come on here and vent to you guys. If I'm feeling this way and I'm not even struggling in my relationship, I can just imagine how it must feel for you. You're at risk of getting whiplash from all the back-and-f…

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96. What Will Other People Think? 21:42

1+ y ago21:42

21:42

Do you ever get into arguments with your partner about things they should or shouldn't be doing because you worry about what other people will think? Then this episode is for you. Without being fully aware of it, other people's opinions play a huge role in our relationships, what we are okay with, and what we argue about. And this fear of judgment …

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95. 7 Relationship “Truths” That Fuel Your Anxiety 26:28

1+ y ago26:28

26:28

It's time to dive deep into relationship truths and assumptions operating in our subconscious minds. These truths were made up to create false safety and control in monogamous relationships, but what they're really doing is just fuelling your relationship anxiety. How many of these 7 "truths" do you subconsciously believe to be true? Work with me: …

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94. How to Fix Your Problem With Intrusive Thoughts 14:21

1+ y ago14:21

14:21

Intrusive thoughts are the worst. They just pop up out of nowhere and ruin your mood completely. I know you've tried not to think about the thoughts when they pop up, I know you've tried to police your brain... it just doesn't work. In this week's episode, I share my take on the "problem" with "intrusive" thoughts and offer you an alternative solut…

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93. Let's Practice Getting Cheated On 18:45

1+ y ago18:45

18:45

Welcome to your worst nightmare. In this week's episode, we are going to walk through the experience of finding out your partner has been cheating on you and see what happens. A lot of girlfriends ruin their good relationships because of the fear they feel about getting lied to and cheated on. So what better way to stop fearing it than to put yours…

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92. Fictional Coaching: Movie Night at Jack & Christine's 37:44

1+ y ago37:44

37:44

Christine is looking forward to a mid-week movie night with her love, Jack. But her brain has decided to put a halt to those plans. She starts getting grumpy and subconsciously chooses to run with it by gathering more and more evidence during the evening. Listen to this episode to learn how I would coach Christine through this situation and what I …

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91. Wanting Something vs. Having a Manual for Someone 16:48

1+ y ago16:48

16:48

We're allowed to want things from our partners and relationships, and we can be sad if we don't get them. But we also shouldn't have a manual for our partners and base our emotions on what they do or don't do. What exactly is the difference? In this week's episode, we dive deeper into Wants vs. Manuals and define the key difference between two conc…

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90. Fast Forward & Let It Go 20:48

1+ y ago20:48

20:48

Have you ever gotten upset about something in your relationship and later realized that it wasn't even a problem, to begin with? You're not alone. I myself had an experience just like this a few weeks ago. In this week's episode, I share the concept I call "fast forward and let it go", which helps you question if something is a problem or if it's j…

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89. Why We Prefer Fate, Intuition, & Gut Feelings Over Choice 16:31

2y ago16:31

16:31

Do you ever wish that your gut would just tell you what to do? Do you ever put your life in the hands of “fate” rather than making a decision? Do you ever refer to something being a need and therefore out of your control rather than asking for what you want? Then you're a completely normal human being. But what is it about these things that make th…

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88. Help! My Partner Has a Manual for Me! 25:34

2y ago25:34

25:34

Are there certain things your partner wants or needs you to do, and if you don't do them correctly they get upset? Then chances are your partner has a manual for you. And the tricky part here is that if you think they shouldn't have a manual for you and you think their manual for you is making you annoyed and upset... well, then you have a manual r…

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87. Your Partner's Only Job 13:55

2y ago13:55

13:55

What's your partner's job in your relationship? Is it to make you feel good? Keep you safe? Share all the daily chores? When we have a long job description for our partners, it makes it difficult for them to do everything right and thus making it difficult for us to be happy. We often judge the quality of our relationships based on our partner's ab…

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86. When You Want Your Partner to WANT to Do The Thing 18:57

2y ago18:57

18:57

Are there things in your relationship you want your partner to want to do, but they're just not that into it? Maybe they are happy to do it just to make you happy, but that's not what you want. Ugh, so frustrating. In this week's episode, I break down the key reasons you want your partner to want to do the thing (hint: it's not what you think) and …

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85. "I Have No Reason to Feel This Way" 21:46

2y ago21:46

21:46

"I have no reason to feel this way" is one of the most common sentences I hear from grumpy girlfriends all the time. We look at our partners and how they act and compare those circumstances to our thoughts and feelings... and get an error message. It just doesn't add up. In this week's episode, I break down what it means to have "no reason" for bei…

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84. 3 Choices Girlfriends Need to Make to Be Happy 14:35

2y ago14:35

14:35

What if we could boil down girlfriend happiness to three key choices you need to make on a daily basis? That's what I did in this week's episode. If you make these choices consistently and you practice genuinely believing in them, you will be able to finally enjoy your good relationship. Schedule Consultation: https://www.katrinberndt.com/ Contact:…

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83. How to Stop Obsessing Over Your Partner’s Ex 21:20

2y ago21:20

21:20

Are you struggling to let go of and move on from your partner's ex? You're not alone. The ex-issue is an extremely common source of grumpiness for a lot of girlfriends and in today's episode, I'll break it down for you. You might think that your unique ex-cocktail of information is the worst-case scenario and that other people have it much easier. …

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82. The "Logic" of Being Grumpy Towards Other Females in Your Partner's Life 23:12

2y ago23:12

23:12

Have you ever thought that you need to be grumpy, negative, and rude towards other females in your partner's life just to not give your partner any ideas? That perhaps, if you were to be kind, open, and positive you would be giving your partner the green light to "go for it"? Most of us don't consciously think this way, but it's an underlying belie…

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81. Toxic Relationship Advice You Shouldn’t Listen To 24:36

2y ago24:36

24:36

Social media is full of shitty relationship advice that usually just perpetuates the anxiety, jealousy, insecurity, and confusion that grumpy girlfriends struggle with. When you're not 100% happy in your relationship, most advice is simply to "dump them", but for those of us who realize that we are the cause of our unhappiness and not our partners.…

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80. Are You Blaming Your Partner for Your Boring Life? 16:20

2y ago16:20

16:20

Do you easily get resentful or upset when your partner is spending time with friends or on hobbies they enjoy? Do you feel lonely and attribute that to your partner not spending enough time with you? Then you might be guilty of blaming your partner for your boring, unfulfilling life. In this week's episode, I talk about how you being dissatisfied w…

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79. From Panic to Peace About Open Relationships with Former Client Katharina 56:37

2y ago56:37

56:37

This week, we are joined by my former client Katharina who came to me 9 months ago and wanted help processing her emotions and gaining clarity surrounding a pending open relationship with her boyfriend. In this conversation, we dive into the changes she has made, what she has learned through coaching, and her take on processing emotions and why it …

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78. Your Capacity to Have 2.0: Jealousy Edition 12:30

2y ago12:30

12:30

It's time to revisit the topic from episode 12, which is your capacity to have. This time I want to talk about it from a jealousy perspective and how our limited capacity to have actually increases our jealousy and makes it a lot harder to overcome it. If you've ever thought that "everything being fine" is too good and too easy to be true, this is …

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77. Grumpy Girlfriend Turned Relationship Coach with Former Client Allison Anderson 1:02:10

2y ago1:02:10

1:02:10

I have a special treat for you this week! Tune in to hear the story about my former client Allison Anderson who went from being a grumpy girlfriend herself, struggling with her partner's drinking habits, to becoming a certified life and relationship coach! We talk about the before and after, what it took to make these changes, the power of passing …

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76. How to Act Normal While Processing Jealousy 22:04

2y ago22:04

22:04

Okay, so you know you're supposed to process and allow the emotion when it enters your body so you don't freak out and take it out on your partner... But how the heck do you process the horrible feeling of jealousy in your body without your partner noticing something is wrong? In this episode, I explain to you why this question might be rooted in s…

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75. The Most Common Mistake My Clients Make 10:55

2y ago10:55

10:55

In this episode, I share the most common mistake that my girlfriend clients make when they first start working with me. This progress hack is also something you can practice on your own when coaching yourself. You'll never be able to guess what it is! Schedule Consultation: https://www.katrinberndt.com/girlfriend Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.c…

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74. Non-Judgmental Observation 101 17:47

2y ago17:47

17:47

Our human brains have a habit of labeling things as good or bad, right or wrong, great or stupid. This is a very useful feature in a lot of situations, but when it comes to personal development, it can often get in the way of the progress we want to make. This week's episode talks about non-judgmental observation and why it's the key to making sign…

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73. High Quality Thoughts 13:22

2y ago13:22

13:22

The quality of your thoughts will determine the quality of your life and relationship. If you are thinking really low quality, complaining, grumpy, indulgent thoughts... well, that will be reflected in your results. In this episode, I offer you some high-quality thoughts to think that will help you expand your mind, help you find solutions, and emp…

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