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We deeply desired a marriage based on God's design: two people coming together as "one flesh," but we had no idea how to do it. We tried and fell flat many times, going through many dark seasons. We wondered when the oneness was supposed to begin. Renewing grace and love in our marriage wasn't an easy process, but now, more than 20 years later, our marriage is thriving, and Brad is a licensed counselor, and Kate is a relationship coach. We work with couples and individuals who want to discov ...
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Overcoming Relationship Hurdles Together with Lindsey Lautsbaugh
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Send us a Text Message. Discover the hidden challenges young married couples face today with our special guest, pastor Lindsay Lotzbaugh, who brings her wealth of experience from pastoring, missions, and motherhood. Lindsay opens up about sensitive topics like pornography, communication issues, and the critical lack of support systems that many new…
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Navigating the Mission Field and Family Life with Chris Lautsbaugh
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Send us a Text Message. What does it take to navigate marriage and family life while serving as a missionary? Get ready to glean invaluable insights from seasoned missionary and pastoral minister Chris Lautsbaugh, who brings three decades of experience to our discussion. We promise you'll learn about the unique challenges and rewards of raising chi…
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Turning Dark Years into Light: Lessons from Barb and Mark Case
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Send us a Text Message. What if understanding your partner's childhood wounds could transform your marriage? Join us as we sit down with Barb and Mark Case, a couple who have spent 35 years navigating the ups and downs of life together. They share their candid journey from the blissful early days of their marriage to the financial strains and signi…
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Transforming Love: Marriage Ministry with Scott & Jenny Means
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Send us a Text Message. Join us as we sit down with our dear friends Scott and Jenny Means to explore their incredible journey into marriage coaching. Scott shares his path from worship leadership to creating a curriculum that intertwines spiritual principles with marital relationships, a journey that has deeply enriched his and Jenny's marriage. D…
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The Sex Education Every Couple Needs with Paul & Lori Byerly
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Send us a Text Message. Unlock the secrets to a fulfilling marriage with esteemed marriage educators Paul and Lori Byerly. With an impressive 39 years of marital experience and 27 years dedicated to intimacy education, they share invaluable insights from their journey, including the creation of TheMarriageBed.com, their influential blogs The Genero…
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Send us a Text Message. Imagine dreaming big dreams with your partner and creating a safe space for vulnerability and shared aspirations. In this episode, we delve into the profound impact of supporting each other's passions, even when they seem unattainable. This isn’t just about fulfilling dreams; it's about the journey of dreaming together and t…
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Charting the Course Through Empty Nest Transitions and Beyond
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Send us a Text Message. Have you found yourself staring across the breakfast table at your spouse, the cacophony of children's laughter now a distant memory, and pondering, "What's next for us?" That's the conversation Brad and I wade into this week, navigating the waters of marriage and parenting with an honest look at the empty nest years. We dis…
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Sailing the Teen Tide Without Sinking Your Marital Ship
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Send us a Text Message. Remember when your kids were just a glimmer in your eye, and it was all about you and your partner's adventurous, romantic escapades? Fast forward through a blur of diaper changes and teen drama, and you might find your marriage playing second fiddle to the demanding orchestra of parenting. Join us as we chuckle and commiser…
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Parenting the K-5's Without Forfeiting Your Marriage
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Send us a Text Message. Raising kids isn't just about the ABCs and 123s; it's a complex dance that can trip up even the most in-step couples. In this episode, we open up about the parenting hurdles that can either trip you up or strengthen your stride. We discuss everything from the decision-making behind how many activities to do to disciplining w…
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Safeguarding Spousal Intimacy Against Toddler Tornadoes
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Send us a Text Message. Discover the secret to keeping your marriage alive and kicking, even when toddlers are ruling the roost. Brad and Kate, with their treasure trove of marriage counseling and relationship coaching wisdom, invite you into a world where your spouse doesn't become a stranger amongst the diapers and tantrums. We're pulling back th…
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Send us a Text Message. Welcome to our marriage and parenting series. This week, we tackle the challenge of adjusting your marriage to pregnancy and infants! Each stage of parenting can tug at the seams of even the most resilient unions. The profound shifts in identity that come with pregnancy and how a new baby can reshape the couple's dynamic und…
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Send us a Text Message. We unravel the stigma around this fiery emotion, sharing stories from our marriage to showcase that anger isn't the enemy – it's the mismanagement of it that wreaks havoc. We want to transform how couple's perceive and navigate the complexities of anger, aiming to foster an environment of love and respect that withstands the…
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Send us a Text Message. You've tried to get your spouse to get some help with you, and for whatever reason they aren't ready. Is it worth going to marriage coaching alone? Today we try to tackle this listener's question after our "How Do I Make My Spouse Get Help" episode. Before you just take the easy answer, "of course" there are some pitfalls th…
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The Fruit Was Sweet To My Taste: Let's Talk About Oral Sex
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Send us a Text Message. We get asked questions about oral sex all the time. In this episode, we share insights and have a frank conversation to cut through the discomfort and get to the heart of why this topic is so frequently a challenge. We examine the concerns and curiosities that arise, underscore the significance of honest communication, and s…
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Send us a Text Message. We hear it all the time: one spouse desperate for help and the other refusing even to consider going. We peel back the layers of resistance that often shroud the path to relationship coaching, exploring why it might be happening and what you can do to help. Support the Show. Still Becoming One Facebook Instagram Twitter…
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Send us a Text Message. Navigating the waters of sexual intimacy in marriage can often feel like we're trying to decode a mysterious language. How do you pursue your husband? How do you cherish your wife? This heart-to-heart isn't shy about addressing the pressures and expectations that color our perceptions of sexual intimacy. We're tearing down m…
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Why Don't We Help Marriages? What the Church Gets Wrong Series
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Send us a Text Message. Isn't there more to marriage than premarital and divorce care? Don't you think there should be? We talk about our time in marriage ministry and give some suggestions on what the local church can do to overcome this glaring hole in the "big C" Church's care of marriages. Support the Show. Still Becoming One Facebook Instagram…
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Let's Talk About Sex: What the Church Gets Wrong about Marriage
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Send us a Text Message. For far too long, the Church has either ignored or villanized sexual intimacy, but God designed sex to be GOOD. In this heart-to-heart exchange, we dissect the often misinterpreted signals sent by church teachings that leave many feeling lost in their marital beds. We confront the realities of desire, intimacy, and the vital…
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Ignoring Marital Abuse: What Church's Get Wrong Series
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Send us a Text Message. Too often, we hear tearful stories about how a church or pastor ignored the signs of abuse or even participated in the manipulation of Scripture to justify the abuse in marriage. In today's episode, we tackle this ugly side of how the church can miss abuse while they are trying to support marriages. We look at sexual abuse a…
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What The Church Gets Wrong About Marriage
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Send us a Text Message. Welcome back to Still Becoming One. As we launch into the exciting premiere of season three, we are launching into a series on what the church gets wrong about marriage. All too often we hear from people who have been hurt by their church when they try to get help for their relationship. We are going to look at why this is h…
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Embracing Love's Imperfections: A Guided Advent Journey
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Send us a Text Message. As the holiday season wraps us in its festive embrace, it also unwraps layers of emotions for many of us navigating the complexities of love and relationships. Our latest podcast peels back the intricate layers of the emotional challenges couples may face. We delve into the art of attunement, stressing the importance of tuni…
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Searching for Joy: A Guided Advent Journey
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Send us a Text Message. Join us, as we embark on a fascinating exploration of an often misunderstood emotion - Joy. We're not talking about the fleeting happiness that comes with a new toy or a promotion, but rather a profound inner joy that is unshaken by life's ups and downs. Let's journey together! Support the Show. Still Becoming One Facebook I…
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Send us a Text Message. We're here to unveil the truth about the festive season - it's not always filled with joy and happiness or peace, and that's perfectly fine. We invite you to journey with us as we pull back the curtain on our own experiences and challenges during this time and how we've learned to be authentic with our emotions. We dive deep…
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Send us a Text Message. Advent is supposed to be a time of preparation for Christmas. We are launching a 4-week series to look at the four themes of advent, hope, peace, joy & love. But we aren't just sticking with the easy, fluffy parts of these emotions. We're diving deep into the complexities of heaviness. This week we are tackling hope. Hope is…
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Send us a Text Message. Have you ever thought about what it really means to be your spouse's biggest fan? This episode was more of a challenge than we thought! We will take you on an intimate journey through the highs and lows, joys and pains of our marital journey. Our candid conversation will make you rethink what it means to truly support your s…
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Cherishing your Spouse as the Gold Standard
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Send us a Text Message. What if the person you vowed to love and cherish became your standard of beauty and the one against whom all others are compared? On this episode of Still Becoming One, we grapple with this powerful notion and the role it plays in maintaining attraction in marriage. A candid remark from a listener inspired this exploration -…
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Voyage of Love: Enriching Your Marriage Through Small, Consistent Steps
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Send us a Text Message. As we disembark from the Hot Holy Humorous marriage cruise, we reflected on the journey couples undertake to enrich their relationships. This week, we're sharing our revelations from this extraordinary experience, casting the spotlight on brave couples willing to step out of their comfort zones and focus on strengthening the…
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Send us a Text Message. What if your marriage could be as joy-filled and light-hearted as it was when you first started dating? What if the key to reconnecting and reinvigorating your relationship was simply reintroducing the joy that initially brought you together? Let's unwrap these and discover how to find or rekindle the intimacy of Joy in your…
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From Stress to Strength: A Marriage Guide to Navigating Stress
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Send us a Text Message. Imagine if you could turn the stress in your relationship into a strength, a bond that keeps you united even in the face of adversity. This continuation of our mental health in marriage series hits every couple and we'll share practical advice and strategies on how to tackle external stressors and stay strong as a team. We a…
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Weathering Grief Together: Becoming One Through Grief & Loss
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Send us a Text Message. Grief is a storm we all must weather. Yet, it's a journey as distinct as the individual. This comforting and insightful conversation explores how this universal emotion can uniquely impact a marriage. From unmet expectations to the diverse ways each partner processes it, we delve deep into this intimate territory of how we a…
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Battling the Shadow: Building a Marriage through Depression
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Send us a Text Message. Walking with a spouse who is struggling with or living with depression can be taxing on your marriage. We share our personal experiences and offer you a toolbox on how you can continue to grow in a healthy marriage through depression. Support the Show. Still Becoming One Facebook Instagram Twitter…
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Navigating the Storm: Addressing Anxiety in Marriage
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Send us a Text Message. Feeling a sense of unease in your own skin and in your own home? You're not alone. Anxiety can slither into marriages, subtly changing the dynamics and behaviors, and often leaving a trail of bewilderment in its wake. We crack open the different faces of anxiety, its triggers, and the often detrimental changes it can bring a…
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Journey through the Peaks and Valleys: Mental Health in Marriage
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Send us a Text Message. Struggling with mental health issues within a marriage can feel like tackling a mountain without a roadmap. But what if we told you, you're not alone, and there are ways to navigate this rocky terrain together? Welcome to our conversation about the realities of mental health issues within marriage and the tools to traverse t…
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Exploring Desire and Sexuality with Jay Stringer
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Send us a Text Message. We are thrilled to bring you a compelling conversation with our special guest, Jay Stringer. As a renowned therapist, minister, researcher, and author, Jay brings an enlightening take on the profound connections between our sexuality and healing. We deep dive into his book "Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Path to…
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Send us a Text Message. Spiritual Abuse. The manipulation and coercion that all too often happens within the church. Neglecting people's stories and the damaging tendency to invalidate people's experiences. The church's stance on avoiding divorce often induces manipulation and outright trauma - even from well-meaning pastors. Support the Show. Stil…
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Open The Window: Using the Window of Tolerance in Marriage
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Send us a Text Message. We all have a window of tolerance, and understanding your own and your spouse's can give you good insights into your marriage conflicts. Brace yourselves as we delve into this fascinating concept, exploring how it significantly impacts our ability to cope and our entire family dynamic. Have you ever wondered why we react so …
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Admitting It vs. Owning It : Taking Marriage Resolution Deeper
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Send us a Text Message. Admitting to something is NOT the same as Owning it. In this episode, we unpack the power of owning mistakes in marriage. Many couples get stuck in this stage of admitting a wrong and wanting it to just go away, we try to unravel how admittance is a stepping stone, yet ownership is the actual journey towards genuine honesty …
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Send us a Text Message. Is obligation sex intimacy? We pull back the veil on the often misunderstood topic of sexual intimacy within the Christian marriage, dissecting the unhealthy stigmas often associated with this divine expression of love. We candidly discuss the detriments of the twisted metaphor of sexual responsibility embedded in religious …
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Send us a Text Message. Have you ever found yourself exhausted by your church? If so, you are not alone. We, navigate this treacherous terrain of church fatigue and share about our own experience of fatigue. What causes church fatigue? What do you do if you have it? How can you avoid it? Join us for a discussion and let us know what has caused your…
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Send us a Text Message. Are you taking enough care of yourself? Now's the time to pause, reflect and reassess. We discuss the challenge of identifying what self-care truly means rather than resorting to ineffective coping mechanisms that simply suppress our true needs. Our conversation is centered on the importance of intentional engagement in self…
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Fighting Fair: Part 3 Ending The Conflict
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Send us a Text Message. In the final episode of the Fighting Fair series, we share insights on how to navigate conflicts and bring them to a close in a way that fosters intimacy and trust. Join us as fight our way through this one but end up giving you some practical tips on how to actually end conflict before they just become another elephant in t…
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Send us a Text Message. Can conflict truly be a source of growth and intimacy in your marriage? Discover how to master the art of tackling disagreements as a team, transforming heated moments into opportunities for connection. Uncover valuable and practical strategies for navigating conflicts and fostering healthier, more empathic conversations wit…
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Fighting Fair: Mastering Conflict in Marriage
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Send us a Text Message. Ready to transform your conflict resolution skills? Join us in this episode as we share insights from our own 24-year marriage journey on how to navigate disputes and grow closer together. Discover the power of understanding your own conflict style, how your family background influences it, and the nuances of avoider and pur…
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From Marriage Events to Lasting Growth: 5 Steps to Make It Stick
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Send us a Text Message. Ever felt overwhelmed by the challenge of implementing the lessons learned from a marriage event or new resources? You're not alone! Join us as we recount our experiences from a recent marriage event we hosted at our church and discuss how to approach such events with hope while acknowledging that change takes time. We share…
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Send us a Text Message. When sexual harm or betrayal enters your marriage, couples often struggle to find a way to move toward healing. It is essential to not ignore these important issues, but these difficult realities of broken sexual intimacy does not mean that your marriage is doomed to fail. Support the Show. Still Becoming One Facebook Instag…
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What's Ok In Sex? With Julie from Intimacy In Marriage
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Send us a Text Message. Many Christian couples want to know what is right and wrong in sexual intimacy. Maybe you grew up hearing sex was wrong and dirty, and now shaking those feelings is hard to do. Julie sets out 4 boundaries for Christian marriages and then talks about all the freedom those healthy boundaries can bring. Just a hint, sticking to…
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Send us a Text Message. Continuing our sexual intimacy series, we are going to take a look at what happens when sex just seems to disappear. Why does it happen? What can you do about it to talk to your spouse about the issue? What steps should you take if you were like one of our listeners who wrote to say, "we haven't had sex in a year?" Support t…
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Pursue Your Desires: with J from Hot Holy Humorous
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Send us a Text Message. Sex is not transactional, or at least it is not supposed to be. Sex is not just an act; it is a dance of connection between you and your spouse. Learning how you can pursue your spouse and express your desire for them in a healthy way is a monumental challenge for many couples. This week's special guest J Parker from Hot Hol…
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Send us a Text Message. For years we ran a 10-day challenge on our blog, One Flesh Marriage. There were tremendous positives and, yes, even a few negatives of this crazy challenge. Join us as we walk down memory lane and share how you might join in the fun too! Support the Show. Still Becoming One Facebook Instagram Twitter…
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Send us a Text Message. Every couple desires a deeper connection. Join our conversation with Scott & Jenny Means, our dear friends from Heaven Made Marriage. We discuss how you find a path towards oneness in marriage and how to avoid the onramps toward greater separation. Support the Show. Still Becoming One Facebook Instagram Twitter…
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