Being amazing in the bedroom starts well before you engage in foreplay with your partner. It starts with YOU and expanding your self-awareness. Having a focus on improving your awareness and energy levels has a direct impact on your capacity to connect with yourself more intimately. It’s this connection which is the name of the game when we talk ab…

Most successful organizations have guiding values that every employee can get behind and align with. This alignment is a real game changer for synergy. When we take this approach to our personal lives, we begin to prioritise what matters most in our lives and adjust our energy accordingly. Where our focus goes, energy flows. In this episode, we unp…

Why am I here? What are my unique gifts? What are my passions? What’s my purpose? If we don’t ask ourselves some big existential questions we might find ourselves living without passion and doing the things that we don’t like doing. However, when we ask good questions we get good answers. And men operate optimally when we have some direction. In th…

Are you doing too much? Does life feel hard, like a struggle? Have you stopped believing in a cause or stopped having fun? Have stress and exhaustion become normal states of being for you? If so, you’re not alone. We men get stressed when the demands of life feel greater than our ability to handle them. Our bodies become filled with stress hormones…

What does it mean to be a man? What does it mean to be a son, a brother, a husband and leader? In this episode, we will redefine what masculinity is as we recognize that over the years our society hasn’t really done a good job at explaining this concept. We dive deeper into the importance of mentors in different areas in our lives so we can have a …

Gents: did you know that one of the most common experiences we men have is fear? We all carry some fear of change, criticism, being alone, or—the mother of all fears—death. But we prefer not to talk about it. We pretend that it’s not there. Even if we are all scared creatures, and we don’t fear the same things or experience fear in the same way — w…

Men often believe they can “fake it til they make it” with confidence. They’re wrong. The world is full of people who have fancy cars, houses, money and/or 15” biceps. These men are on overdrive - busy chasing milestones, promotions or “living” at the gym. Why have we struggled with real confidence for so long? For starters, it's because we were ne…

Gents, do you know what the single BIGGEST barrier to our success is in life? Can you guess? Hint: It’s not a lack of ability. It’s not a lack of effort. Rather, it’s the feeling that the things we want are beyond our self concept, our idea of who we are. It’s this one idea or belief that limits what we find to be appropriate for ourselves and what…

Do you feel guilty when saying “no”? Have you avoided setting limits with someone in order to avoid someone’s strong reaction, i.e. anger? Do you watch what you say, so other people don’t feel “hurt” or “upset” by you? Do you hold back or repress your reactions to avoid confrontation...but later feel resentful and embittered? Then you might need to…

By Eugene

As men, we’re often taught that we’re only as good as our last performance. Western culture quietly implies that “being a man” means “proving” ourselves, especially in our careers. But then why is it then that leaders, entrepreneurs and athletes get convinced that they’re not closing enough deals, getting enough done, or winning enough — even when …

In this episode, Eugene & Nico take the listener down a fun life inventory exercise and the currency is all about energy and self-awareness. Like Shakespeare’s “To be or not to be”, in this case the question is rather simple: “Does this reduce my energy or does this raise my energy”? Better energy translates to an improved mindset; with an improved…

Welcome to Big Hairy Chats, the little corner of the internet for modern men trying to do good in a busy world. Drawing on lessons from their lives, Eugene Vassilas and Nico DiMattina share proven principles to help listeners enhance their energy, tame their busy minds, perform under pressure, befriend fear and navigate sex. In this episode, you’ll…