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Heal from Infidelity is a podcast dedicated to teaching women how to heal their lives from the inside out after betrayal in their marriages. Life Coach Andrea Giles combines her own personal experience and coaching wisdom to help women move past their biggest hurdles of learning to trust themselves (and others) again. She will teach you how to create a life you never dreamed possible. You’ll be amazed at what you are capable of when you learn how to powerfully help yourself. For more informa ...
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Relationship expert Idit Sharoni, LMFT is bringing you invaluable relationship advice to help your relationship thrive. Idit is a couples therapist in Miami, Florida running Relationship experts - a successful private practice and an online Infidelity Recovery Program . She takes pride in helping people improve their relationships or heal after infidelity. This show is all about un-complicating and demystifying social messages about relationships while offering easy-to-apply tips and ideas a ...
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Hey guys, this podcast is specifically for singles! I want you guys to know that you are not the only ones out there single. In this podcast you will here from multiple single people like you and me. I hope that this podcast provides insight along with some laughter. Thanks for listening! Xoxo, Raye
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Three Myths and Three Truths About Infidelity | Ep #140
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In this episode, I cover 3 common myths circulating about infidelity, and 3 truths to counter them. With a lot of conflicting information out there, it can be quite confusing to navigate a clear path forward. By applying the principles discussed in this episode, you will be able to more clearly identify your own path and what is best for you. Regis…
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Episode 081: A Guide to Joint Recovery When Infidelity Strikes Both Ways
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In this episode of the Relationships Uncomplicated podcast, host and affair recovery expert Idit Sharoni, LMFT delves into the intricate process of navigating healing when both partners have been unfaithful. Titled "A Guide to Joint Recovery When Infidelity Strikes Both Ways," Idit explores the complexities of mutual infidelity, where betrayal isn'…
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Most of my podcast episodes have been geared toward women who have experienced betrayal, but this one is for the men. First I address men who have been betrayed by their spouse/partner. I cover how betrayal affects men differently than women and why that is. Second, I address men who have betrayed their spouse. In my many years of coaching, I have …
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Growing up, we all take on behaviors that we use when our safety feels threatened. In this episode, I will be covering five strategies we use to try to get back a sense of safety. While these behaviors are common and we all participate in some (or all) of them at times, you’ll learn why they will ultimately not get you what you want. There may be a…
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While we all want to be in relationships that are trusting and loving, at the root of it all what we really want is to feel deeply chosen. In this episode, I’ll share different examples (both personal and from clients) where the strong desire to know you are being chosen drives forward courageous action. I will also share how in order to feel deepl…
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5 Lessons from 5 Years of Coaching | Ep #136
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After having conversations with hundreds of people from all over the world in my five years of being an infidelity coach, there are some patterns, trends and truths I have learned. In this episode, I share those 5 truths and how they have changed some of my views around infidelity. This is one you do not want to miss as it may change some of your v…
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In a world that celebrates independence, it can seem like “weakness” to build relationships that require vulnerability. With “cancel culture” being rampant, it goes against the messages of the day, especially after infidelity, to fully lean in to building something that will last the test of time. In this episode I go over two common ways we relate…
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People-pleasing and Infidelity with Sara Fisk, Part 2 | Ep #134
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In the 2nd of this 2 part series, Sara Fisk and Andrea go deeper into people-pleasing. They go into more detail about how people-pleasing tendencies can put relationships at risk, and how stopping people-pleasing can help relationships heal. You will learn: How we are all deeply wired to people-please How it is likely affecting you post-infidelity …
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Episode 080: How to Rebuild Trust After Cheating: Earn It!
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If you and your partner are navigating the challenging journey of affair recovery, understanding how to rebuild trust after infidelity is crucial. In this episode, we delve into the intricate process of earning back trust that has been lost in a relationship. Join us as we explore the evolution of the concepts of blind trust versus open-eyed trust,…
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People-pleasing and Infidelity with Sara Fisk, Part 1 | Ep #133
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Do you struggle with people-pleasing? Is it getting in the way of making clear decisions for yourself in the after-math of infidelity? In this 2-part series, Andrea and Sara Fisk talk all things people-pleasing. You will learn: How we are all deeply wired to people-please How it is likely affecting you post-infidelity to people-please How taking re…
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Rebuilding Your Life After Infidelity with Lauren | Ep #132
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In this episode, I interview a former client, Lauren. Be prepared for an episode you will go back to again and again as there were so many gems and truths in her words. Lauren not only shares in depth her personal story with her spouse's infidelity, but she shares her journey of coming back to herself after years of feeling like she wasn’t enough. …
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How do you define healing? If you think it means never hurting again, you can be setting yourself up for even more pain in the future. In this episode, I cover various ways we can sabotage our own healing, and clearly define what it actually means. You will also learn how to evaluate how far you have come, and what to be focusing on next. When we l…
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How to Change Relationship Dynamics | Ep #130
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After infidelity, it is easy to fall into the trap of trying to take control of the healing and recovery of your partner. In this episode, you will learn why this is not a healthy, long-term solution and what to try instead. We will cover: Differences between men and women and why our healing looks different Why learning to create more internal saf…
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Sometimes we can use popular opinion against ourselves. We can listen to the opinions of others, rather than deeply searching our own hearts for what is true. In this episode, I use a powerful analogy to teach you how to do your own “investigating” into what is true, beyond what outside sources may tell you. You will learn how to see the full scope…
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Financial Infidelity with Tracy Coenen | Ep #128
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Romantic infidelity and financial infidelity often go hand in hand. Money is frequently spent on the affair partner, and in high-control relationships, spouses can feel like they have no say about where the money goes. In this episode, guest Tracy Coenen and I discuss: Hidden money Financial rights for stay-at-home moms Divorce settlements Financia…
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Infidelity is one of the few things that can change everything, forever. There is no going back. How we deal with the “after” in infidelity is crucial. It presents an opportunity to change old patterns, learn new ways of being, and new ways to interact with one another. In this episode, you’ll learn how changing up the old patterns will serve you, …
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Do you often feel like you “should” try to stay after infidelity? Or maybe you feel pressure from others telling you to leave because, as the saying goes, “Once a cheater, always a cheater?” In this episode, I shine a light on how to listen for what is actually true for you. Other well-meaning people will always have their opinions, but in the end,…
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In this follow up to my last episode, “Intrusive Thoughts,” I go into more depth as to how to navigate the thoughts that seem to take over and rob you of your peace. I share two points that will help you gain some traction and direction the next time an intrusive thought shows up. Point one is about how intrusive thoughts can keep us stuck in the p…
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Episode 079: How Can Someone Who Loves Me Betray Me?
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In this intriguing podcast episode, the topic of love and betrayal takes center stage, prompting us to explore the complex dynamics that arise when the people we cherish deeply hurt us. Idit Sharoni hosts her team of experts in order to shed a light on this topic. She begins with asking Alana Tokayer, a Marriage & Family Therapist and Program Speci…
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Do you struggle with intrusive thoughts? These are the ones that pop up, seemingly out of nowhere, and can derail your whole day. In this episode, I cover where these thoughts come from, and how to process them so they no longer have a hold on you. You will learn a strategy that will: Help you bring more awareness to the thought Give you direction …
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What happens when something you believed as true is challenged? Or when you make up your mind about something and immediately doubt it? Does it mean you made the wrong decision, or is something else happening? In this episode, you’ll learn all about cognitive dissonance and how it is an indication that something is out of alignment for you. It may …
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After infidelity, the decision needs to be made whether to stay or go. But for most people, that is only half the decision. Many people go through life being physically in a relationship but emotionally out. Some leave marriages physically but cannot separate themselves emotionally from their spouse, so they don’t really move on. In this episode, I…
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When you think of yourself, do you identify more with being someone who has been traumatized, or as someone who is incredibly resilient, despite your trauma? Humans all experience trauma. It is inescapable. But what we forget is that as humans we are built to be resilient, and to rise above our trauma- not get stuck in it. In this episode, you’ll l…
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Most of us understand the importance and significance of courage. It is an emotion that can help us to look at hard things in our lives. But if we are unwilling to take action based on our feeling of courage, we end up right where we started. In this episode, I share some ideas pertaining to infidelity about some of the ways we need to not only hav…
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How much pressure do you put on yourself to “Keep the Peace”? Maybe there are things you don’t say because you don’t want to create conflict. Maybe you just stuff things down rather than speak up and make others uncomfortable. In this episode, I discuss the concept of keeping the peace and where it often backfires. What if there is something better…
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In the aftermath of infidelity, it can feel like your life has been blown up, and our spouse sometimes does not seem to understand how much their choices impacted us. This episode discusses the importance of knowing that our spouse “gets it” in order to really move forward and build trust. I also discuss growing our capacity to look at ourselves an…
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Self-advocacy with Samantha Nielsen | Ep #117
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In this episode, I welcome guest and self-advocacy expert, Samantha Nielsen to the show. If you have ever struggled in knowing how to speak up for yourself, this episode is for you. Samantha shares her own experience with watching herself shrink and be miserable until it became unbearable. She had an amazing transformation and completely changed he…
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Do you often wonder how you’ll know the difference between a truth and a lie? It is a common question after infidelity, since the very nature of infidelity includes deceit. In this episode, I share a powerful analogy that will help you discern for yourself between truth and error. You will come away from this episode wiser, more in tune with your o…
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In this lost and found episode, I share a story of recently losing my child in Disneyland and some profound lessons that came from that. I came away from that experience recognizing clearer than ever that we are not meant to do life alone, especially the hard part. In an intense situation, helpers came. Kindness was shown. I want this for you, too,…
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Episode 078: Can conventional couples therapy help you heal from infidelity?
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Have you wondered whether conventional couples therapy can help you heal from infidelity? Is it effective for infidelity recovery? Do you want helpful options in the aftermath of infidelity or an affair recovery? You aren’t alone. Unfortunately, there isn’t much information out there to truly educate struggling couples. Though it seems that convent…
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In this episode, you’ll learn how grandiosity can lead to affairs. If we think we are better than others, we tend to excuse our behavior and make exceptions for ourselves. You’ll learn what grandiosity is and how it can show up for the betrayed partner as well as the one who betrayed. You’ll have a clear understanding of how the mindset of grandios…
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Are there things in your life you want to change? Do you want your spouse to change? In this episode, you will learn the fast-track to how to really, deeply, fundamentally change. Instead of just believing that you can’t change or that you are simply a failure in aspects of your life, you’ll understand why change has not “stuck” in the past, and ho…
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There is a lot of discussion about infidelity, but what about fidelity? What does it even look like to live in a high fidelity marriage? In this episode you will learn about five elements that have to be present to have a high fidelity marriage. Even if you have already experienced infidelity, fidelity can be learned. It can become your new reality…
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One of the main questions we have after experiencing infidelity is, “How do I know it won’t happen again?” In this episode, I teach about risk as being inherent in relationships and how to avoid taking risks with an unlikely return on investment. You’ll learn what questions to ask yourself to gauge just how much risk you are taking, and when it is …
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Episode 077: The Undetected Cause of Infidelity
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You don’t want to miss this article. In fact, I can’t believe we haven’t talked about this before. Why? Because this topic is too important to skip. What I’m about to share with you has a way of hiding in the shadows of too many relationships… First, you probably know that infidelity happens for all kinds of reasons. Sometimes it has to do with the…
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Have you ever wondered if what you experienced is infidelity? For some situations, there is no doubt. But for many others, there is a lot of nuance. In this episode, you’ll learn exactly what infidelity is. When you have the words to define your experience, it is empowering. You are able to see more clearly why your experience felt like a violation…
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Often times, in an attempt to avoid temporary pain and discomfort, we avoid hard conversations, stuff down our own feelings and hide how we really feel from others. In this episode, you’ll learn about how to create long term healing by practicing the concept of sustainability. By looking down the road at what we may have to deal with if we put thin…
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This episode is all about why we excuse bad behavior. Whether it be from our kids, spouse, co-workers, boss, etc., there are reasons we allow people to treat us the way they do. When you know what to look for and how to deal with the discomfort of teaching people how to treat you, life gets a whole lot easier. Most of us are conflict-averse and put…
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2022 was one for the books for me personally. I started the year with a new baby, launched a new program, and grew in ways I didn’t know I needed. In this episode, I share my biggest lesson from the year: one that, when practiced, can bring relief and peace even in the midst of uncertainty and discomfort. The lesson is around the concept of duality…
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In a world that praises extreme independence, many of us don’t know how to help each other calm our nervous systems. We may even think it is co-dependence to try to help each other in this way. In this week’s episode, we will take a deep dive into what it actually means to co-regulate, and how it can bring deep healing. We will also take a look at …
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In my years of coaching, one thing I have heard too many times to count is, “I don’t like conflict.” My clients use this as a reason to not take bold action, not speak the things that need to be said, and ultimately to hide from discomfort. In this episode, I cover conflict with a new lens; one that helps my clients lose their fear about stepping i…
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For many people, D-day, or discovery day (the day they found out about their spouse’s infidelity) is a heavy, traumatic day. When they have the anniversary of that day coming up, it can fill them with dread. In this episode, I’ll be sharing ways to think about discovery day that can bring relief, and even hope. It does not have to be an awful day. …
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Resentment. This is an emotion I see in almost all of my clients, whether they be the one who was betrayed or the one who did the betraying. While it is a common emotion that many of us struggle with, it can be deadly if left unchecked. In this episode, I’ll cover where resentment comes from and why it can be so tempting to hold on to it. You will …
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Many would agree that infidelity can be one of the most painful experiences to endure. In this episode, rather than taking that statement at its word, I dive into the impact of infidelity and the ways it affects us. Just like all things in life, there are some things that are out of control, and some that are very much in our control. Even with inf…
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After the Affair with Luke Shillings | Ep #101
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In this episode, I interview Luke Schillings about his personal experience with experiencing and healing from infidelity. He has used his own painful experience to now work with men who are navigating that space. Listen for some amazing wisdom of how to let go, heal, and move on. Luke is a 40 something father of two who recently escaped the 9-5 to …
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The Best of Heal from Infidelity | Ep #100
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To celebrate 100 episodes, tune in to hear snippets from the top 5 episodes thus far. You, my dear listeners, have been a delight to show up for, and I want you to know which episodes have been the most listened to. You may just learn that others are right where you are, and that you are not alone in struggling with the same things. Thank you for y…
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A question I get asked a lot is, “Will it always hurt?” For most people, infidelity is one of life's experiences that can shake up your very foundation. It can be hard to imagine a time when it doesn't hurt every day. In this episode, I share not only the good news that you won’t always hurt, but steps to take to make sure you don’t. Your healing d…
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When you think of the future, do you feel a sense of foreboding, or hope? Much of what you anticipate can be traced to past, unresolved experiences with your partner. In this episode, you’ll learn what probably happened and didn’t happen before the infidelity that is creating problems now. Once you understand what is happening and what you can do a…
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After infidelity, it can be really easy to feel like your spouse owes you something. He needs to make it up to you, right? It makes sense that one might feel this way, but in this episode you’ll learn how this attitude can keep you from the very things you want most - peace, calm, and healing. Entitlement is also what can set some people up to chea…
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Validation is something we all enjoy as humans. We want to feel connected, heard, and seen. For many of us though, especially if we were shot down a lot as kids, we grow into validation dependence and have difficulty functioning if someone is not constantly telling us how great or right we are. In this episode, you’ll learn the difference between h…
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