Best Books For Sexual Purity Podcasts (2024)

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Chapel Probation s4: The Horny Chapel #4- Marriage and Relationships After Purity Culture 1:24:08

4d ago1:24:08

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This week, Priska and Scott dive into marriages and intimate relationships, sharing their own experiences and talking about the harms done by purity culture that keep people from experiencing real connection and wholeness. We share some deeply personal stories and details of our own lives while unpacking all the trauma in general. The Horny Chapel …

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Episode 15: What Is James Dobson Up To Now? 1:02:01

5d ago1:02:01

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James Dobson continues to operate his media empires to this very day, so today Jake and Brooke take a break from his books to look at his more recent activities. This may come as a shock, but he hasn't been up to anything good. Important Links: Register to vote or check your registration: https://vote.gov/ Find your ballot and get involved: https:/…

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Chapel Probation s4- Blake Chastain: Author of ExVangelical and Beyond 1:27:57

11d ago1:27:57

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Long before most of us were a glint in the eye of today's deconstruction world, Blake Chastain created the Exvangelical hashtag and Facebook group, giving the world the title and the framework for the good, bad, and the ugly of all things related to deconstruction. He also started the Irreverent Media Group bringing together so many great podcasts …

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Chapel Probation s4- Desiree McCullough- From SBC Pastors Wife to Sexual Empowerment 1:19:44

18d ago1:19:44

1:19:44

Earlier this year, I read an amazing piece in the Huffington Post about a woman who was once a pastor's wife who left the church and ended up opening up her marriage to explore dating and sexuality for the first time. I immediately thought this woman would fit in beautifully with our Content Warning community...only to discover she had actually bee…

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Episode 14: The Strong-Willed Child (1978) 1:05:05

19d ago1:05:05

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"The Strong-Willed Child" is the gift that keeps on giving. Like herpes. This episode, Jake and Brooke explore the ideologies that undergird this wretched text, as well as all of Dobson's work more broadly: obedience. There's a lot less spanking in this one, it's infuriating for different reasons! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://u…

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Chapel Probation s4: Horny Chapel #3 Keiko Agena Talks Purity and Gilmore Girls 1:15:54

28d ago1:15:54

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This week we are joined by a special guest, our dear friendKeiko Agena. Keiko is best known for her role as Lane Kim on the show GilmoreGirls, but she is also a writer, artist, and beloved member of our AAPI artsand activist community in Los Angeles. With her own real-life evangelical pastto draw on, she goes deep in analyzing her Lane Kim role as …

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Chapel Probation s4- Hannah Lee: Korean American Church, Ski Pants Demon, and Purity Culture Survivor and Artist 1:18:34

1M ago1:18:34

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Hannah Lee knew early on that life inside of her Korean American church was far too restrictive for her. And even though she felt that church life was deeply embedded into life as a Korean American, she saw its limitations as a curious, passionate person who valued art and people outside of the church. From her mom trying to exercise demons who wou…

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Episode 13: The Strong-Willed Child (1978) 1:13:45

1M ago1:13:45

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Did you enjoy that break from Dobson? Thinking about how we can make the world a better place for everyone? That was nice, huh. Anyway, that's not what this episode is. Today Jake and Brooke are talking about perhaps THE Dobson book, "The Strong-Willed Child" and talking about what the hell Dobson means by "strong-willed". Check out "The Worst of A…

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Chapel Probation s4- The Horny Chapel Episode 2 1:25:15

1M ago1:25:15

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In this second episode, we're still introducing ourselves, and we compare our experiences as Asian Americans from different generations and in different kinds of churches. But there are still incredible similarities between our experiences...bad ones, mostly. Scott's experiences as a Gen X-er in the 80's was less intense than Priska's Millenial exp…

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Chapel Probation s4- Marla Taviano Returns to Talk Poem Art Therapy and Terrible Christian Men 1:20:57

2M ago1:20:57

1:20:57

Marla Taviano returns this week to talk about how her latest book of poetry, Poem Art Therapy, can help all women who've been through terrible marriages and divorces in the christian world. Just as her White Girl Learning work reflects Marla's journey as she decolonizes her mind regarding race, Poem Art Therapy reflects her clap back against patria…

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Episode 12: A Better Way Forward 1:08:26

2M ago1:08:26

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Let's not talk about James Dobson, for once! After spending 3 long episodes talking about the plague known as "purity culture", today Jake and Brooke explore what an actually healthy model of relationships and sexuality can look like. Be ready to hear the words "penis and vagina" a bunch of times. Citations: Braun-Harvey, D., & Vigorito, M. A. (201…

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Chapel Probation s4- Clare McIvor- Australian NAR Homeschooling Survivor 1:15:44

2M ago1:15:44

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Clare McIvor grew up in the toxic Christian Nationalist movement known as the New Apostolic Reformation. This included all of those damn 7 Mountains, and it forced her to deny all of the natural aspects of her humanity. After fighting to get out, she has educated herself and armed herself with knowledge and courage to fight against that world and i…

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Chapel Probation Collab- The Horny Chapel Episode 1 1:26:00

2M ago1:26:00

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The first episode of the Horny Chapel, a collaboration with Priska of the Two Horny Goats podcast. We introduce this limited series with a look back at our youth and early adulthood and break down the ins and outs, so to speak, of purity culture. And we talk about where this series will go in the coming episodes. In the end, we hope to help everyon…

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Episode 11: I Kissed Dating Goodbye 1:08:06

2M ago1:08:06

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Today we are reading our first non-Dob book, though unfortunately his spirit remains with us. This book will help you not become a childless cat lady or whatever, because it wants to tell you the right way to have a relationship. I'm sure things all check out this time and there's nothing bad in this episode at all. Citations: Joshua Harris’s apolo…

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E-256: Public Reading of Scripture - 1 Peter 21:46

2M ago21:46

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Jason simply reads the entire letter of 1 Peter as he climbs a dark and difficult part of the narrowtrail!Holy Bible, New Living Translation, Copyright © 1996, 2004, 2015 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.- - -If you'd like to connect with Jason ...Em…

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Chapel Probation s4- Sheila Chappelle- Freed-Hardiman Pastor to Deconstruction Mentor 1:16:38

2M ago1:16:38

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Sheila Chappelle has come such a long way from being a student at an oppressively high control school that had a wild counter culture. She had to remove herself from this environment and ultimately this religion altogether to overcome her finely honed skills of keeping secrets. But she's overcome that by getting sober and transitioning into her tru…

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Chapel Probation s4- Seth- Deconstructed Because of Bob Jones III 1:13:04

2M ago1:13:04

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Seth survived 2 years at Bob Jones only because he figured out how to actually live life. But this required a significant amount of deception and rides in trunks of cars, so it was just a matter of time before he asked himself if all the effort was worth it. When he challenged the school's racist prohibition of interracial dating, arguing directly …

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Episode 10: What is Purity Culture? 1:08:37

3M ago1:08:37

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Let's get into it, what an absolute nightmare. On this episode, Jake and Brooke break down what exactly 'purity culture' even means, down to its rotten roots. Horrifying histories, awful anecdotes, and blood-boiling beliefs abound in this one. Citations (hyperlinks do not work on every platform) About the AIDS quilt Abstinence-Only-Until-Marriage P…

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Chapel Probation s4- Peter Hull- The Chapel Probation Champ of Grace College 1:17:40

3M ago1:17:40

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We're back with a traditional Chapel Probation episode talking to Peter Hull, a Gen X dude who almost never went to chapel while at Grace College. He only stayed for 5 semesters, but he got a taste of shitty christian higher ed. We talk purity culture and the struggles of finding oneself after faith in the aftermath of Grace College. Here's a link …

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Chapel Probation s4: Christa Brown- SBC Abuse Survivor and Activist for Justice 1:13:04

3M ago1:13:04

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Christa Brown was a victim of horrible sexual abuse as a child by her SBC youth pastor. This took place in what she calls, "Baptistland," and this is the title of her incredible book. She writes unflinchingly at her childhood filled with abuse at the hands of said pastor and her family members, but she also pulls herself out of Baptistland to becom…

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Episode 9: Bringing Up Girls 1:06:59

3M ago1:06:59

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James Dobson does it again: he wrote another book that makes me want to crawl out of my skin and die. The hits really don't stop coming, huh. This time, we are reading the toxic sludge known as "Bringing Up Girls". This is the start of a series about Purity Culture, the Evangelical philosophy that says holding hands is basically the same as having …

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Chapel Probation s4- Dave Galvan: Pentecostal Worship to a Life of Real Music in Community 1:25:50

3M ago1:25:50

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I knew Dave Galvan as a friend and bandmate for many years before I learned that he grew up in a strict Pentecostal church. And I learned in this episode that Dave led worship with a black Les Paul copy at that church. Epic. When you know people outside of religion, you can just live and enjoy life, so I was a little anxious making Dave go back thr…

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Chapel Probation s4- Mark: The Pentecostal to IVCF to War to Goth Club Pipeline 2:13:42

3M ago2:13:42

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Ever since I started this podcast, I've wanted my friend Mark to come on to tell his story. But even more has happened since early 2022, so I'm actually glad he finally agreed to come over and do this. It's a story of a common upbringing in high control pentacostalism to the lighter theologies of Inter Varsity Christian Fellowship at the beginning.…

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Episode 8: How I Became an Evangelical 1:10:13

4M ago1:10:13

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Let's get personal! On this episode, Jake takes Brooke and Jordan through his experience becoming an Evangelical in order to understand how anyone could get sucked into Dobson's obvious lies. We talk about everything from AWANA to Adventures in Odyssey, from bell choirs to Christian rock bands, from racist chipmunks to youth group lock-ins. Music f…

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Chapel Probation s4 Erica Smith- Sexual Healing After Purity Culture 1:12:23

4M ago1:12:23

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Sex educator Erica Smith did not grow up in Purity Culture, but she has learned about how damaging it is for men and women and for society. She has dedicated her life's work to helping people heal from their patriarchal pasts that stunted their development as sexual humans and move forward to explore their bodies and their sexuality. With a deep un…

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Chapel Probation s4- Taz Ahmed: Art, Activism, and Islam for Social Justice 1:14:04

4M ago1:14:04

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The first non-Christian guest on Chapel Probation! Hear Scott's pal Tanzila (Taz) Ahmed tell her story and talk about her life of advocating for human flourishing. Her poetry will rock you to the core, and you'll hear her performace from the 2016 AAPI Heritage event at the White House during President Obama's last year. And whatever you know or don…

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Episode 7: James Dobson Hates Me 58:50

4M ago58:50

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Happy pride month, heathens! Today, Jake and Brooke are joined by our first very special guest: Jordan! Together, we are taking a step back to marvel at Dobson's illustrious career as a professional homophobe. We trace Dobson's denial of homophobia, his active homophobia, and the hydra of political organizations he has created. Turns out, sometimes…

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E-255: The Guys Who Do Best At Porn Recovery - Part 2 - Conversation w/Matt Dobschuetz 1:17:26

4M ago1:17:26

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On this episode, I'm back talking with my good friend ... the Dobber (Matt Dobschuetz) from the Porn Free Radio Podcast. This is Part 2 of our conversation about "The Guys Who Do Best At Porn Recovery." I received a lot of positive and encouraging feedback from our listeners regarding Part 1 ... and if you think Part 1 was good, then just know that…

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Chapel Probation s4 Abraham Kim: Korean PK- Badass Drummer 1:24:28

4M ago1:24:28

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When you are the son of a big-time Korean pastor who suffers from narcissism and rage, christianity and life are filled with trauma and despair. But Abraham Kim found music and drums early on to help him deal with life, drumming his response to violence at home and oppression in the church. And he found his way out with the help of Talbot (Biola) a…

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E-254: The Guys Who Do Best At Porn Recovery - Part 1 - Conversation w/Matt Dobschuetz 1:10:13

4M ago1:10:13

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On this episode of The GRIZ Podcast, I have another incredible conversation with my good friend Matt Dobschuetz (the Dobber). Matt is best known as the Host of The Porn Free Radio Podcast. He is also an Author of the book "Porn Free" and a Recovery Coach at RecoveredMan.com We talk about the guys who do best in porn recovery. What are some of their…

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Chapel Probation s4- Episode 100 with traci kato-kiriyama 1:36:24

4M ago1:36:24

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If you've read my book, Asian American Apostate, you know how important traci is to me. She's important to a lot of people, really. But she met me when I was still trying to be a Christian, and she helped me become the person I am today. So it makes sense to have her be the guest for the 100th episode of Chapel Probation. You'll hear her story, her…

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Episode 6: Bringing Up Boys Part 2 1:04:38

4M ago1:04:38

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Here's where things get interesting. In this episode, Jake and Brooke explore Bringing Up Boys from a cultural perspective, then do a deep dive into one of the most harmful chapters James Dobson has written - and that's saying something. There's stuff in this episode that will shock you, I promise. (Is it in bad taste to make a conversion therapy j…

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Chapel Probation s4- Ross Montgomery 1:17:54

5M ago1:17:54

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Ross is the real deal. Solid human who sees all the things we need our White men allies to see. Do I go a little overboard praising him? Sure. Am I sorry about that? Hell no. Anyone who steps away from privilege to engage in the complexities of other peoples' lives is awesome in my book. Throughout Ross's christian life, he challenged assumptions a…

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Chapel Probation s4- Pastor Trey Ferguson 1:15:25

5M ago1:15:25

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Pastor Trey is the author of Theologizin Bigger from Lake Drive Books, and he is a solid human. From a wild college experience at the University of Miami, Trey found himself at a fundamentalist seminary and eventually dropped out. He found a home at a much more open-minded seminary and now is a pastor and social media presence, pushing back at the …

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Episode 5: Bringing Up Boys - Part 1 57:44

5M ago57:44

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Buckle up boys and girls (and NO ONE ELSE!), things get unhinged this time around. Jake and Brooke talk all about Dobson's commercially-successful trash fire called Bringing Up Boys. There's cringe, there's trauma, there's holy bones - this episode has it all. Sources: "Animal Sex: How Anglerfish Do It" (2015) from LiveScience.com Studies about how…

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Chapel Probation s4 Lisa Christy (Grove City College) 1:11:04

5M ago1:11:04

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The first full episode of Season 4 has Lisa Christy from Grove City College. She got duped into going to this Libertarian and Presbyterian school and ended up staying. She found community in the "rebel" crowd and started a significant sports revolution at the school. Chapel Probation is part of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dauntless Media Collective⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join the …

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BONUS: What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women - Uncut 1:33:14

5M ago1:33:14

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This is the full conversation between Brooke and Jake of "What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women" - a title I hope to never say or write again. This episode is for the podcast aficionados who want 90 minutes of uninterrupted Dobson talk. So if you're a masochist, enjoy! New episodes resume next week :) Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creator…

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E-253: Contentment Is Learned The Hard Way! 1:23:09

5M ago1:23:09

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Do you ever struggle with being content with where you're at and with what you have? Sometimes I definitely do!God wants us to be content in Him no matter what our circumstances are in life, but that's something that must be learned, and guess what? ... It's not learned by staying in your comfort-zone. It is only truly learned the hard way ... we h…

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Chapel Probation s4- An Introduction to the Podcast 52:00

5M ago52:00

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And we're back. Heading into the 100th episode. This one is #95. We look back on some clips, bits, and songs of the past 3 seasons as we look forward to the shenanigans coming in season 4. Chapel Probation is part of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dauntless Media Collective⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dauntless Media Discord ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠for more conversation with all the podcast co…

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Episode 4: What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women - Part 2 51:01

5M ago51:01

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We back to finish out Dobson's confusing and upsetting book What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women. In episode 1 we covered women's top 4 problems (according to Dobson): low self-esteem; fatigue; loneliness, isolation, and boredom; and lack of romantic love in marriage. Today, we are covering the rest of them and trying to understand why D…

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Episode 3: What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women - Part 1 44:40

6M ago44:40

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I'm just as frustrated with this title as you are, I promise. In this episode, Jake and Brooke talk about Dobson's feminist manifesto, What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women. I'm sure we are all so glad to have Dobson mansplain women's problems to us, I'm sure he's super insightful about it. Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https:…

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E-252: The Importance of Your Inner Self-Talk 52:38

6M ago52:38

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On this episode, I talk to you about the importance of your inner self-talk. We humans are constantly talking to ourselves because this is how we try to make sense of the world, relationships, work, God, faith, pain, stress, etc. It’s how we try to figure out the best way to cope and navigate through life. You may not realize it, but you’ve been ta…

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Episode 2: Dare to Discipline 1:18:33

6M ago1:18:33

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In this episode, Jake and Brooke dive into Dobson's first book, Dare to Discipline, aka the reason you were spanked as a kid. And oh boy, Dobson comes out swinging in this one. Content warning for: child abuse, violence, and overly long explanations of operant conditioning. References and further reading: APA Resolution on Physical Discipline of Ch…

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E-251: 10 Training Methods for Godliness 57:17

7M ago57:17

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In 1 Timothy 4:7, God commands us to "train" ourselves for "godliness." It's something we must do to ourselves.My brothers, becoming a godly man won’t just happen. You have to train yourself ... and training means you have to be intentional, you have to prioritize it, put forth effort, sacrifice, and remain committed … day after day … week after we…

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Episode 1: Who is James Dobson? 55:28

7M ago55:28

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On this premiere episode, Jake and Brooke travel through the sordid history of Dr. James Dobson, clinical psychologist turned Evangelical figurehead. Join us as we begin to discover all of the many reasons why I hate James Dobson. Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/mood-maze/trendsetter License code: 9OT2MTBHWWSRZP5S Hos…

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REPOST: After Hours #5 Keiko Agena (Gilmore Girls) and Shin Kawasaki- Heroes of the Asian Kids at APU 49:36

7M ago49:36

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Despite this episode containing some incredible music by Shin and the presence of Keiko, a bonafide Gilmore Girl and TV/Movie star, very few people heard this, comparatively. So before season 4 gets going, I wanted to give newer listeners a chance to hear from two of my favorite people on the planet: Shin Kawasaki and Keiko Agena. Even as the show …

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REPOST: After Hours #3 Jenny Yang- The Acclaimed Actor and Comedian Remembers...APU? 35:04

7M ago35:04

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Repost in honor of The Brothers Sun, a series that was just cancelled despite being hugely popular. All the love to Jenny Yang. Before Jenny Yang became a big-time comedian and Buzzfeed sensation, before she became a writer for television, and before she was cast as one of the stars of The Brothers Sun, a Netflix dramedy starring Michelle Yeoh, Jen…

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E-250: Thoughts for Young Men - Part 4 - J.C. Ryle 1:04:09

7M ago1:04:09

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On this episode, we wrap up our series from J.C. Ryle's outstanding book, "Thoughts for Young Men." Specifically, we'll be looking at Part 4 of the book where he gives what he calls, "Special Rules for Young Men" .... and he gives 5 of them. By God's help he tells young men to do the following ...1. Break off every known sin.2. Shun everything whic…

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New Collab Coming Repost: Chapel Probation s3- Priska- From PK to the Two Horny Goats Podcast 1:19:58

8M ago1:19:58

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UPDATE: Get to know Priska if you haven't already. She will be collaborating with Scott to bring you a BIPOC-centered, AAPI-flavored podcast about leaving evangelical Purity Culture. Coming soon! About 11 years ago, I went to a Tuesday Night Cafe and saw a young woman in her early 20's perform there for the first time. Priska's voice and playing fl…

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E-249 - Thoughts for Young Men - Part 3 - J.C. Ryle 1:06:38

8M ago1:06:38

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On this episode, we dive back into our series from J.C. Ryle's outstanding book, "Thoughts for Young Men."Specifically, we'll be looking at Part 3 where he gives what he calls "general counsels to young men" .... and he talks about 6 things in particular ...1. Getting a clear view of the evil of sin.2. Seeking to become acquainted with our Lord, Je…

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