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Are you a coach who's afraid to use the "T" word (Trauma) on your calls? Or you that trauma is a thing, that it happens, but not much more (because you’re not sure if you want to know more)? If any of this resonates (or you just want to know more about how, as coaches, we can support clients carrying trauma), this podcast is for you. Bringing our lack of understanding into the light is necessary to support ourselves—and clients—during calls. Now coach, I am NOT HERE to induce fear or paralys ...
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Heal from Infidelity is a podcast dedicated to teaching women how to heal their lives from the inside out after betrayal in their marriages. Life Coach Andrea Giles combines her own personal experience and coaching wisdom to help women move past their biggest hurdles of learning to trust themselves (and others) again. She will teach you how to create a life you never dreamed possible. You’ll be amazed at what you are capable of when you learn how to powerfully help yourself. For more informa ...
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This podcast is for anyone who wants to overcome pornography for good. It will teach you about your brain and how to completely quit a pornography habit, 100% shame-free. If your ideal life doesn't include a porn habit, then this is the show for you. Visit sarabrewer.com to learn more about overcoming pornography for good.
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188. Abusive Attitudes and Behaviors with Lindsay Poelman
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To dive into abusive attitudes and behaviors, boundaries, and worthiness wounds, I’m joined by Lindsay Poelman this week. Lindsay started as a betrayal trauma coach for women whose husbands view porn and is now a facilitator for Trauma-Informed coaches. She’s here to shed light on how worthiness wounds can contribute to abusive attitudes and behavi…
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Boundaries and Self-Sovereignty with Lindsay Poelman | Ep #151
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Are boundaries hard for you? Do you struggle to know when to be firm and when to let up? In this episode, I interview expert Linsday Poelman about boundaries, how to think about them, and what to try if you struggle to set them. You will leave with a concrete way to check in with yourself as you become more autonomous in your closest relationships.…
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One of the biggest misconceptions about having a porn habit is that if you’re experiencing unwanted pornography use, you’re lacking strength, willpower, or spirituality. This misleading belief is not only false but often leads to avoidance techniques I call Band-Aid solutions. In this episode, I show you how to stop relying on these quick fixes and…
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In this week's episode, Andrea takes us on a heartfelt walk in the country to discuss the importance of recognizing and remembering your value. Learn how to move from needing validation to wanting it, and make powerful, courageous decisions that align with your true worth. Andrea shares personal stories, thought-provoking questions, and inspiring e…
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Modeling Safety and Consent with Tami Schwendiman
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In this episode, Lindsay Poelman interviews self-compassion coach Tammy Schwendiman about her experiences and takeaways from Lindsay's advanced trauma-informed coach certification program. The episode unfolds as an organic conversation highlighting the importance of creating safety in coaching, Tammy's personal growth, and her coaching journey. The…
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Start your Coaching Career Now! One certification with everything you need.
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In this Part 2 of this 2 Part series, you’ll get a sneak peek into Lindsay's "Become a Coach" live masterclass. Join Lindsay as she shares invaluable insights on what it takes to become a trauma-informed coach, the importance of nervous system awareness, major mistakes coaches make today in the coaching industry (and how to sidestep them via my cer…
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187. Worthiness Wounds Part 2: Protect and Provide
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To protect and provide is a beautiful energy that can be used for so much good in our world, regardless of gender. However, in the presence of worthiness wounds, these values can quickly turn toxic, and I show you how in this episode. Hear what worthiness wounds are, why they hurt, and how they might be showing up for you if you identify with the v…
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How to Reclaim Your Life After Infidelity | Ep #150
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Do you wonder what will actually work for you in moving forward after the infidelity? With so much conflicting information, it can be quite confusing. In this episode, I go into depth about the 5 milestones that, if practiced, will work for anyone, in any situation. Commitment to the process is what will get you strong results. These milestones are…
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Unlock Financial Freedom: Time to get CERTIFIED as a Trauma-Informed Coach!
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In this Part 1 of this 2 Part series, you’ll get a sneak peek into Lindsay's "Become a Coach" live masterclass. Join Lindsay as she shares invaluable insights on what it takes to become a trauma-informed coach, the importance of nervous system awareness, & how to build a thriving coaching practice by 2025. Whether you're considering a career change…
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The working backwards process is all about figuring out what you’re buffering from. The value lies in going further back than you might typically be used to, to get to the root of why you self-sabotaged. By uncovering the root cause of your self-sabotage, you unlock the keys to building lasting change. I walk you through the keys to using the worki…
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Do you ever wonder what you should be focusing on after infidelity? This episode details the three areas that couples need to dive into in order to have a chance at building something better than what was there before -- or to go their separate ways as peacefully as possible. Tune in to check in with where you are, what to lean into and what to let…
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Creating Safe Spaces: Insights from Our First Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification
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A Love Letter to My First Trauma-Informed Coach Certification Cohort In this heartfelt episode, your host, Lindsay Poelman, reflects on the journey and experiences of the first graduating class from their full trauma-informed coach certification program. The episode serves as a love letter to the cohort, expressing gratitude for their participation…
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Let’s talk about shame-free commitment. Whether your goal is to quit viewing porn completely, view it a couple of times a week, or heal your sexual shame, the why behind it is an essential component of your journey to quitting porn. Your feelings are the fuel for your quitting journey. I show you how to ditch the shame and focus on building shame-f…
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One of the biggest struggles in the aftermath of infidelity is not knowing what to do. Do I just wait on him to see what he does? How can I ever let this go? What if it happens again? Can I ever trust him again? All of these questions lead to endless rumination and winding up more confused than ever. In this episode you’ll learn an effective strate…
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If you’re currently on a journey towards quitting your pornography habit, chances are you’ve experienced denial along the way. Denial is a defensive state where you might refuse to accept or look at the truth, and while this is a common human experience, shame and guilt often come along with it. Learn a shame-free perspective on denial and examples…
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In this episode I go deep and personal with my journey since the ten year anniversary death of my first husband on July 9th. Many struggle in the aftermath of infidelity with how to let go. They find themselves un-intentionally sabotaging new relationships because they are still focused on all that went wrong. I did the same thing, and share in thi…
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183. Worthiness Wounds Part 1: The Conditioning
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In this Worthiness Wounds series, I’ll be speaking specifically to men and the worthiness wounds I’ve observed. A worthiness wound is the wound of shame and never feeling good enough, believing you have to do or be something more to be worthy. It’s not your fault if you resonate, but you’re the only one who can heal them, and I’m showing you how. L…
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After infidelity, you may believe your relationship is forever damaged. While you can never go back and undo it, there is an opportunity to build a wiser, stronger relationship than before. Whether you stay or not, the reflecting and internal introspection that can happen as part of the healing process carves out wisdom in us that can transform our…
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182. What to Do When Everyone Around You Takes a Shame Approach
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If you’re learning new skills related to your porn use, they’re changing your life, and you’re feeling the benefits, but other people don’t get it, you’re not alone. Many people find themselves in situations where they feel relentlessly attacked by shame messages. While it might feel like it’s hindering your healing process, the truth is your power…
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181. Ask a Coach: The It’s-Not-Working Mentality
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Coach Kat is on the show this week to address the it’s-not-working mentality, where you feel stuck and like nothing has changed. Maybe it feels like you’ve been doing the work for months, only to keep viewing porn. Perhaps this plateau is tempting you to give up, but the truth is the breakthrough you’re looking for is right around the corner. Liste…
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As a follow-up to episode #138, “Losing Strategies,” this episode will cover “Winning Strategies.” There are five skills that, when used (and practiced!!), can make a massive difference not only in your relationship, but in how to view yourself. Self-respect is based on how we view ourselves, so growing our skills of being more relational will refl…
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180. Ask a Coach: How to Become Shame-Resilient
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This week’s Ask a Coach question is one many of you can probably relate to: “Does the shame I feel after slipping up and viewing porn ever really go away?” While we can learn to move through shame in different and more useful ways, I don’t know that it’s possible to completely get rid of it. The good news is that while shame will continue to show u…
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179. Ask a Coach: 5 Tips for Your Learn and Move On Worksheet
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A common theme we see frequently in our Ask a Coach feature revolves around our Learn and Move On worksheet. Clients fill in their Learn and Move On before sending it in for feedback, and because it’s such a vital part of our process, Coach Kat is here to share five ways you can make it more beneficial to you. Learn five practical tips for making t…
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For most people, any kind of infidelity or affair is quite a life-changing blow, but the reality is that not all affairs are the same. In this episode, I go through several different types of affairs so you can educate yourself on what it is you are dealing with. Knowledge can be painful to hear, but in the end it will empower you to know what acti…
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178. Pornography, Sexual Health, Sexuality, & More: Q&A
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We’re diving straight into listener questions for a special Q&A on healthy sexuality. We tackle a variety of thought-provoking questions, from a listener who feels disconnected from his sexuality and believes it's controlled by his spouse to concerns about whether masturbation causes erectile dysfunction. Plus, we hear from someone who has overcome…
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177. Ask a Coach: “What if Something Is Seriously Wrong with Me?”
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If you've been working on quitting porn for a long time but still keep viewing pornography, you might be asking, "What if there really is something wrong with me?" There are a few things we need to unpack in order to answer this question in a productive way. So if you have been trying to quit but you're still turning to pornography, and you're star…
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