Best Niseema Dyan Diemer Podcasts (2024)

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Home: It's a Feeling 57:55

2y ago57:55

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The feeling of home is as universal as it is personal. Home can be a place of safety and refuge, or chaos and instability. No matter which, home is the place you identify with in some way, it carries meaning, memories and shapes your identity. Homesickness is a powerful feeling that something just isn't right, coupled with a longing for things to b…

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Hygge: The Danish Art of Feeling Good 57:59

2y ago57:59

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This week Kevin and Niseema talk about the Danish word "Hygge," which is a way of creating comfort and ease in your life. It is amazing how many ways we can create more comfort and ease in our daily rituals, from how we wake up in the morning, to how we live our day, to how we go to sleep. In the fall/winter season, there are so many ways to add pl…

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The Vagus Nerve Connection 58:00

2y ago58:00

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This week, Kevin and Niseema talk about the Vagus Nerve, a major nerve in the body that begins at the brain-stem and travels all the way through the vital organs to the sacrum. The Vagus Nerve helps control several muscles of the throat and voice, plays a major role in regulating the heart rate and keeps the gastrointestinal tract in working order.…

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The "Good Child" Syndrome and Resilience, Part 4 57:59

2y ago57:59

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In our final show on Resilience, Kevin and Niseema talk about how "programming" in childhood can lead to inflexibility and a low level of resilience as an adult. Most often, children are programmed through negativity: "Don't do that. Don't touch that. Don't complain." This can force a child to create a "good child" persona that causes them to detac…

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Resilience: Strain and Stress, Part 3 57:59

2y ago57:59

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In Part 3 of our series on Resilience, Kevin and Niseema talk about the difference between "strain" and "stress." Notice what happens when we change a familiar word like "stress" into a more accurate description like "strain." Are you "strained out?" One of the most universal sources of stress is strain. It can be a physical or psychological strain…

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The Art of Resilience, Part 2 57:59

2y ago57:59

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In Part 2 of our series on Resilience, Kevin and Niseema talk about defense mechanisms and an internal mechanism called "The Engineer" which wants to keep us from changing. "The Engineer" will work to sabotage any kind of alterations you want to make, even positive ones. This week's show is centered around learning how to have a dialogue with, and …

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The Art of Resilience, Part 1 57:06

2y ago57:06

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We are kicking off a four-show series on resilience. In this time of COVID/post COVID stress and all that it entails, people's sense of resilience is very low. How are you doing with your resilience? Do you feel tapped out, that you cannot handle one more demand? Tune in as Kevin and Niseema talk about ways to refill your resilience tank to move fo…

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Love and Zen, Interview with Dr. Brenda Shoshanna Ph.D, Part 1 58:00

2y ago58:00

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This week Kevin and Niseema welcome Dr. Brenda Shoshanna, Ph.D, psychotherapist, Zen practitioner, speaker and author of the book, “Zen and the Art of Falling in Love.” Brenda shares with us her journey and understanding of how every person we meet can teach us how to love. In sharing this, she shows us ways that we can love without judgment, shame…

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What happens when "that" feeling goes? 58:00

2y ago58:00

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Falling out of love is a heartbreaking feeling. The expansiveness. warmth, and joy of being with your beloved is just gone. It may have happened suddenly or overtime, but there is no doubt that 'the loving feeling" is gone. This week Kevin and Niseema explore some of the reasons why what used be a "tuning in" to our partner, suddenly turns into a "…

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Love and Trust: Why We Fear Closeness 57:59

2y ago57:59

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This week Kevin and Niseema talk about the fear of letting people get close to you. How many people really know you? How many people do you feel close to? Closeness is often a trigger for most people. What happens to your body when people get too close? Kevin and Niseema explore the common fears that consciously or unconsciously keep relationships …

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Love's Memory 57:45

2y ago57:45

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This week Kevin and Niseema talk about research into "memory" and how our adult brains impose a memory on to our childhood brain. Statistics consistently show that the adult brain often creates a faulty "memory" of incidents that happened in the past. It's as if the brain takes a photograph of a past event and then distorts or enhances the photogra…

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Love's Essence 56:08

2y ago56:08

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Everything and everyone changes. What is revealed when the green leaves of summer turn so many varied colors? Each tree, each leaf, has specific traits to it. What if love's essence is an ability to see through the personality of our partner, to what is a completely unique constellation of traits that make them who they are. Kevin and Niseema explo…

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What Love is Not 57:59

2y ago57:59

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Love is a feeling, not a Hallmark card or a box of chocolates. It is deeper and harder than that. Love is not unconditional, it needs the right conditions to be present, to be felt. This week Kevin and Niseema talk about love and how it is the antidote to loneliness. In looking at the questions of the UCLA Loneliness Scale it becomes clear that a l…

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Loneliness and Your Personality Style 58:00

2+ y ago58:00

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In this final show on loneliness, Kevin and Niseema discuss the personality system called The Enneagram, and the nine different ways people hide their loneliness from themselves. What if all human beings could be understood as having one of nine personality styles? Knowing your own personality style might help you solve many problems in your life, …

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Loneliness: The Other Pandemic, Part 3 57:59

2+ y ago57:59

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This week, Kevin and Niseema talk about ways to recognize and cultivate “Companionship” and “Belonging,” the two themes of the Loneliness Scale questions, (see button below.) Did your parents have companions or feel a sense of belonging in their community or social circle? If not, you may have a high tolerance for isolation and loneliness yourself.…

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Loneliness: The Other Pandemic, Part 2 58:00

2+ y ago58:00

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In Part 2 of our series on loneliness, Kevin and Niseema talk about the idea of having a "high" or "low" tolerance for loneliness based on your family heritage or genetic makeup. When you look at your own background can you see whether or not you have a high or low tolerance for loneliness? Does this make it easier for you to talk about loneliness …

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Loneliness: The Other Pandemic 57:59

2+ y ago57:59

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This week Kevin and Niseema talk about that other pandemic, Loneliness. In the 1970's only 11% of Americans reported feeling lonely. That number has more than tripled to 36% of all Americans, including 61% of young adults and 51% of mothers with young children. More and more people are expressing their feelings about loneliness yet we still can't s…

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Declaring Your Independence 57:39

2+ y ago57:39

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Children learn to navigate their surroundings with little guidance except for the voices and actions of the adults who are responsible for them. These words, feelings, and behaviors shape who they become for better or worse. This Independence Day, join Kevin and Niseema as they explore steps outlined by Alice Miller, author of, "The Drama of the Gi…

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Listening to Ecstasy, An Interview with Charley Wininger LP LMHC 57:59

2+ y ago57:59

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This week Kevin and Niseema invite Charley Wininger LP, LMHC, author of Listening to Ecstasy: The Transformative Power of MDMA, back for his third appearance on the show to discuss why he calls MDMA, "The Chemical of Connection." Charley reads pivotal passages that describe the physical and emotional responses that MDMA creates, as well as its bond…

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Ambivalence: It's Not What You Think 57:59

2+ y ago57:59

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Do you find yourself being pulled in two directions at once? Do you have many feelings about one aspect or one situation in your life? Sometimes, when we have a number of feelings running through us at one time, it becomes hard to find our ground and difficult to make decisions. What you might be feeling is called ambivalence, feeling two things at…

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The Boy Crisis: An Interview with Dr. Warren Farrell 58:03

2+ y ago58:03

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In honor of Father's Day, Kevin and Niseema welcome Dr. Warren Farrell PhD, author of The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys are Struggling and What We Can Do About It. The crisis? More and more boys are growing up without fathers. This leads them to not only miss out on the father/son bond, but also to a higher likelihood of high school dropout, use of drug…

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The Fears of the Nine Types of the Enneagram 57:59

2+ y ago57:59

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Fears can be great motivators. This week Kevin and Niseema discuss 9 ways people use fear to protect themselves. When individuals spend time understanding what they are afraid of and how they adjust to it, they can liberate themselves from moments when the fear might be unnecessary. ----------------------------- For more information or support cont…

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Code Red Fallujah: A Doctor's Memoir at War 58:01

2+ y ago58:01

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The promise of having medical school paid for in return for seven years service in the Navy was an easy choice for Donnelly Wilkes when he started medical school in 1998. That all changed on September 11th, 2001. After just one year of residency in Family Medicine at Camp Pendleton, Dr. Wilkes was called to active duty in the Iraq War. Choosing to …

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HELP is a Four Letter Word 57:59

2+ y ago57:59

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Shame, rejection, helplessness, fear of failure, surrender. No wonder it seems so hard to ask for help. The inner dilemma that prevents you from making that call, sending that text, or leaning on that shoulder has all the hallmarks of a culture that prides itself on self-sufficiency. The real shock is that when help is received it can feel like, "W…

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A Mother's Journey Into The Science of Attachment, with Bethany Saltman, Part 2 57:59

2+ y ago57:59

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This week Kevin and Niseema continue thier conversation about Attachment Theory with Bethany Saltman mother and author of Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey Through the Science of Attachment. We continue talking about the Strange Situation Procedure developed by Mary Ainsworth, in the 1970s as a way to observe the attachment styles of children b…

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A Mother's Journey Into The Science of Attachment, with Bethany Saltman, Part 1 57:59

2+ y ago57:59

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Bethany Saltman, author of, "Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment," introduces us to the Strange Situation Procedure developed in the 1970s as a way to observe the attachment styles of children between the ages of 9-18months. In one stage of the procedure the mother/ primary caregiver and a stranger sit in a room wit…

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Trauma to Transformation, Richard D. Smith Interview, Part 2 57:41

2+ y ago57:41

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In this second hour of our interview with Richard D. Smith, we dive into how the systemic trauma of oppressed communities is reflected in feelings of powerlessness followed by rage. Lack of education, job opportunities, limited access to healthcare, and mental health programs has reinforced the idea that somehow Black, Indigenous, People of Color, …

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Post Traumatic Growth, Interview with Richard D. Smith, MA:Part 1 57:00

2+ y ago57:00

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This week Kevin and Niseema welcome guest Richard D. Smith, MA. He is a nationally recognized expert on trauma and healing for survivors of interpersonal and systemic violence. His father was murdered, his mother struggled as a single parent, and he experienced a childhood that was often chaotic, unstable, and frightening. By age 16, Richard was in…

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Learned Optimism 57:58

2+ y ago57:58

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"The main ingredient of success isn’t positive thinking it’s non-negative thinking," says Kevin following up on last week's show on Learned Helplessness. Do you have a sense of your explanatory style? Do difficult things ALWAYS happen to you? It turns out that shifting a helpless explanatory style to an optimistic or deserving explanatory style is …

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Learned Helplessness 58:00

2+ y ago58:00

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When things happen, do you first think, "this always happens to me," or, "next time I'll try another way." Your reaction to the way things happen to you is called your "self explanatory style." In his books, Learned Helplessness, and Learned Optimism, Martin Seligman, breaks down your explanatory style as being either "deserving," or "hopeless." It…

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The Art of Saying No 58:00

2+ y ago58:00

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Ask yourself, "What am I saying "YES" to that I want to say "NO" to but don't?" Saying "NO" is an important tool in setting boundaries for yourself, and establishing your own identity. We invite you to look at where you can say "NO" in your life that might help increase your feeling of being free while maintaining your mental and emotional health i…

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Hidden Wounds of the Enneagram, Part 3 58:00

2+ y ago58:00

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What do Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., The Dalai Lama, and Michelle Obama have in common? It is possible that in their younger lives they were encouraged to attune to the feelings and needs of others to the detriment of themselves. When these personality types are unbalanced, they can prove to be difficult and challenging partners because they become…

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The Hidden Wounds of the Enneagram, Part 2 57:57

2+ y ago57:57

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Our personality, temperament, and relational style are complex and sometimes can feel like a trap. The search for safety is one that starts from a young age, especially if the home you grew up in was somehow dangerous, unstable, or unsafe. The hidden wounds of the Investigator 5, the Loyalist 6, and the Enthusiast 7, reflect a deep, relentless fear…

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Hidden Wounds of the Enneagram, Part 1 58:00

2+ y ago58:00

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Are you someone who gives of themselves but never really feels like you can receive? Do you relish achieving goals and then feel a kind of emptiness? Kevin and Niseema explore the effects of childhood trauma on adult patterns of behavior and self defeating habits. Using the Enneagram personality typing system, they review the 9 Types and go into de…

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The Awakened Brain with Dr. Lisa Miller Ph.D., Part 2 57:29

2+ y ago57:29

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Our guest, Dr. Lisa Miller, Ph.D., author of, "The Awakened Brain: The New Science of Spirituality and Our Quest For An Inspired Life," returns this week to explain how depression can be the key to a spiritual awakening. Dr. Miller says that the hallmark experience of depression is marked by a loss of connection to self and others but it is also a …

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The Awakened Brain with Dr. Lisa Miller Ph.D Part 1 58:00

2+ y ago58:00

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Following up on the last week's show on Hygge, the Danish art of feeling good, Kevin and Niseema welcome Dr. Lisa Miller to talk about how the brain responds to Hygge and other pleasurable experiences. In her book "The Awakened Brain: The New Science of Spirituality and Our Quest For An Inspired Life," Dr. Miller shows us that when a person talks a…

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Hygge: The Danish Art of Feeling Good 58:00

2+ y ago58:00

58:00

This week Kevin and Niseema talk about the Danish word "Hygge," which is a way of creating comfort and ease in your life. It is amazing how many ways we can create more comfort and ease in our daily rituals, from how we wake up in the morning, to how we live our day, to how we go to sleep. In the winter season, there are so many ways to add pleasur…

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Love and Zen and Interview with Dr. Brenda Shoshanna Ph.D.,Part 2 58:00

2+ y ago58:00

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Kevin and Niseema welcome Dr. Brenda Shoshanna, Ph.D. back to discuss her book, “Zen and the Art of Falling in Love.” Following up on last week's show, Dr. Shoshanna talks about how everyone says they want to be in love but are addicted to the habit of staying separate. Brenda talks about the practice of "Zazen," which is simply sitting still, noti…

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Love and Zen: An Interview with Dr. Brenda Shoshanna 57:59

2+ y ago57:59

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This week Kevin and Niseema welcome Dr. Brenda Shoshanna, Ph.D, psychotherapist, Zen practitioner, speaker and author of the book, “Zen and the Art of Falling in Love.” Brenda shares with us her journey and understanding of how every person we meet can teach us how to love. In sharing this, she shows us ways that we can love without judgment, shame…

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Resilience and the "good child syndrome": Part 4 58:00

3y ago58:00

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In this week's show, Kevin and Niseema talk about how "programming" in childhood can lead to inflexibility as an adult and a low level of resilience. Most often, children are programmed through negativity: "Don't do that. Don't touch that. Don't complain." This can force a child to create a "good child" persona that causes them to detach from a fee…

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Resilience: Stress and Strain, Part 3 57:59

3y ago57:59

57:59

In part 3 of our series on Resilience, Kevin and Niseema talk about the difference between "stress" and "strain." Are you "strained out?" Notice what happens when we change a familiar word like "stress" into a more accurate description like "strain." Most of us have been dealing with a lot of strain since COVID began. How are you doing with your "s…

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The Art of Resilience 57:06

3y ago57:06

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Today kicks off our four-show series on resilience. In the time of COVID, people's sense of resilience is very low. How are you doing with your resilience? Do you feel tapped out, that you cannot handle one more demand? Tune into today's show where Kevin and Niseema talk about ways to refill your resilience tank. ------------------------- For more …

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Mindfulness and Neuroscience with Dr. Jen Wolkin PhD. 58:00

3y ago58:00

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New Year's Resolution #1 - Listen to more ocean waves and relax. This week Kevin and Niseema talk with Dr. Jen Wolkin PhD., Neuropsychologist, and author of the book “Quick Calm: Easy Meditations to Short-Circuit Stress Using Mindfulness and Neuroscience.” We start the show with the sound of ocean waves that helps illustrate how quickly we can achi…

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Love and Trust: Why We Fear Closeness 58:00

3y ago58:00

58:00

This week Kevin and Niseema talk about the fear of letting people get close to you. How many people really know you? How many people do you feel close to? Closeness is often a trigger for most people. What happens to your body when people get too close? Kevin and Niseema explore the common fears that consciously or unconsciously keep relationships …

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Love's Memory 57:58

3y ago57:58

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This week Kevin and Niseema follow up on the past two shows with Attachment Theory specialists Drs. Howard and Miriam Steele. Attachment Theory focuses on whether a child feels secure or insecure in their connection to, and "attachment to," the caretakers in their life. This early relationship influences the way a person will relate in their mature…

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A Secure Base: Attachment Theory and Parenting with Drs. Miriam and Howard Steele, Part 2 58:00

3y ago58:00

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“The greatest fear we have is not the fear of our own death but the death of someone we love.” Dr. Howard Steele PhD. This statement speaks to the depth of our need to feel connected and attached to others with whom we can feel safe and enjoy life. In this week’s show, Kevin and Niseema continue to explore "Attachment Theory" with Drs. Miriam and H…

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A Secure Base: Attachment Theory and Parenting with Drs. Miriam and Howard Steele Part I 57:50

3y ago57:50

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Was there one person in your childhood who you knew you could go to when you were in distress? You knew they would listen and allow you to have your feelings, providing comfort and support. This person represented a "secure base" in a world that may have been chaotic, confusing, and scary. It turns out that having a "secure base" during your childh…

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