Pokarlla Podcasts

What are the different way in which we harm ourselves? Self-harm can encompass physical and emotional components. It may involve things like addiction, or living with low self worth or love. We may not be living intentionally or in accordance with our own values and morals. We may also be used to putting others and the needs of others first.…

This episode looks at the different ways we can approach self-care, particularly embracing or embodying the following categories: emotional, physical, social, intellectual, spiritual and sensory.

What is "Me Time"? What might it look like? What feels good to you? What can "Me Time" help with? It sounds a little scary, how can I ease myself into it? How can I prioritise myself?

In this episode Pokarlla talks about "baby steps" and what is meant by that term. It looks at approaching periods of adjustment or transition by taking smaller steps or making slower progress.

In this episode, Pokarlla discusses the way in which we speak to ourselves. How can we begin to change negative self talk to positive self talk?

In this episode Pokarlla looks at periods of transition and how they can lead to growth. We examine the notion of "comfort zones", pushing through, dissolving blocks, being ok with unknown elements, goal setting and purpose and creating safety.

This episode explores some tools and ways of thinking that may help you to adjust and readjust.

Welcome to 2022! With the new year, comes the new year resolutions. Pokarlla talks about some of the different ways you can hone your goal setting process.

In this episode Pokarlla talks about some of the reasons why this time of year can be stressful. She discusses some things to keep in mind that may help.

A podcast episode exploring the definition and connotations of words like revenge and pettiness. Do we conceptualise emotions and words the same way as others do?

What is love? Are there different kinds of love? Why is love important?By Pokarlla

This episode explores honesty. What does it mean to be honest? Why is honesty important? How does honesty relate to accountability and authenticity? How can honesty help our relationships and interactions with other individuals? How can we be honest when it might feel hard (or scary)? How does honesty foster feelings of trust and safety?…

What does it mean to be selfish? What does selfishness look like? Is selfishness wholly bad? What can I do if selfishness is something that affects me?By Pokarlla

What is respect? What does it encompass? Why is it important? How can we show and display respect?

This episode explores jealousy. What is jealousy? What are the different emotions associated with jealousy? What causes jealousy? What does jealousy feel like? How can jealousy affect me? How can we combat or work with jealousy?By Pokarlla

What is integrity? How does integrity help us? How can we embrace integrity?By Pokarlla

This episode explores the different times when we may need to say no, why we might find this difficult and how to say no.

Opening up Communication is about being ok with communicating wants and needs, and listening to the wants and needs of others. It is about being vulnerable, having difficult conversations, communicating assertively, setting boundaries, holding space, practising the pause and introspecting on your own role in interactions. Having open communication …

This episode talks about holding space. What does it mean to hold space? Why is it important? It discusses how holding space allows vulnerability, creates safety, validates others and allows healing and growth. This episode will also talk about how you can hold space for someone else.By Pokarlla

In this episode we talk about what is meant by the term "Practising the Pause". We look at moments and circumstances when you might need to take a pause. I discuss how taking some time out can help you. Pausing can help you to avoid saying something you may regret, it assists you in being the best version of yourself and can reduce stress and anxie…

Mind Your Own Business. In this podcast episode we will talk about staying in your own lane, not taking things personally, taking personal responsibility and accountability, developing yourself and looking for areas of improvement, using your triggers for positive purposes, not minding the opinions of others and brushing yourself off and trying aga…

In this episode Pokarlla explores triggers. What is a trigger? Why can it be useful to identify them? How can we positively utilise them for our personal growth? What are some of the positive aspects of triggers? How can we respond to the triggers of others?

An episode about Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria, something that that may be experienced by individuals living with a neurodivergence like ADHD or ASD. RSD is intense, overwhelming and sometimes debilitating emotional pain that is caused by perceived rejection or criticism. While RSD is a "neurologically hardwired" response, there are a number of t…

This episode covers the green flags you can look out for in your relationships with others. Green flags are aspects of relationships that contribute to your life and you sense of being in positive ways. Aspects covered in this episode include: empathy, accountability, cooperation, safety, respect and boundaries.…

This podcast episode is about communication, and the differences between submissive, aggressive and assertive communication. It discusses the importance of integrity, authenticity and honesty, and why communicating in this way can help you to reduce feelings of anxiety or instances of miscommunication.…

This episode discusses reactions to trauma that occur on the anniversary that the original trauma occurred. It talks about some of the common reactions and somatic sensations that you may experience during your anniversary reaction and some things you can do that might help.

This episode looks at some of the things that make a good friend, and how you can encompass these things to touch and uplift the lives of others.By Pokarlla Kiara

This episode looks at why we should consider the types of people that we surround ourselves with and how they can influence us for better or for worse.By Pokarlla Kiara

This episode looks at this phrase and what it means in the sense of being a role model for younger people, but also in giving yourself the things that you may have needed as a child now that you are an adult.By Pokarlla

In this episode Pokarlla talks about knowing yourself in such a way that the projections of others do not contribute to the way you feel about yourself. You are the one who tells yourself who you are. You are the writer of your personal story; not others.

We are all of us different, and yet that makes us the same. A brief discourse born from a passing thought, on differences, sameness, personal boundaries and limits.By Pokarlla

In this episode Pokarlla speaks about healing journeys, and how often they can look different to what we might expect.By Pokarlla

Pokarlla chats to Travis about Counselling and his private practice "The Catharsis Society". Travis talks with Pokarlla about his journey towards becoming a Counsellor, aspects of Counselling like empathy, supervision, and session lengths, and about what he offers in both in-person and online therapy. Both Pokarlla and Travis talk about how their p…

A brief episode about persistence, perseverance, being kind to yourself and not being scared of your weaknesses.By Pokarlla

This episode looks at how we can take responsibility for our own actions, and how we can leave the responsibilities of others with them.

This episode looks at what we should we look for in our friends, and perhaps what we should avoid.By Pokarlla

This episode talks about the power of focus and attention when it comes to our thoughts. It talks about some strategies for dealing with anxieties and worries.

This episode focuses on the ways that we can be ok with ourselves during the process of healing .By Pokarlla

This is the second podcast episode recorded in honour of Heart Month. In this episode, Pokarlla talks about her experiences as a parent of a child with a congenital heart defect and the different coping strategies that helped her and her family.By Pokarlla

In honour of heart month, Pokarlla discusses her personal experience with her son Jax who was born with a Congenital Heart Defect. She highlights things she found both helpful and unhelpful on this journey.By Pokarlla Kiara

This episode looks at negative feelings like shame and guilt and how we can help ourselves overcome them. It talks about accountability and the opportunities for redemption and growth that these negative emotions can lead us to. It also describes different ways of forgiving ourselves.By Pokarlla Kiara

In this episode Pokarlla and Tarhlia discuss the topic "Choosing You". This episode examines at what it means to choose yourself, and make yourself a priority, why this might be difficult and why it is important. Tarhlia also reads us some of her poetry which can also be accessed here: https://tarhliam.wixsite.com/website…

Why are healthy habits important? What are some examples of healthy habits? How can healthy habits be best introduced? Pokarlla explores these questions with some help from her 10 year old son Dexter.By Pokarlla

What is a resolution? I talk about: personal growth and being the best you that you can be, lessons learned from 2020 and share some resolutions that you may not have thought about yet.By Pokarlla Kiara

This is Volume 3 of Conversations About ASD (Part 2). For the last few weeks I have had conversations about Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) with my sister Jarni Kiara. Both Jarni and myself have discussed different aspects of living with autism and how we both experience these aspects. Volume 3 is about Executive Dysfunction, Demand Avoidance and Di…

This is Volume 3 of Conversations About ASD (Part 3). For the last few weeks I have had conversations about Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) with my sister Jarni Kiara. Both Jarni and myself have discussed different aspects of living with autism and how we both experience these aspects. Volume 3 is about Executive Dysfunction, Demand Avoidance and Di…

This is Volume 3 of Conversations About ASD (Part 1). For the last few weeks I have had conversations about Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) with my sister Jarni Kiara. Both Jarni and myself have discussed different aspects of living with autism and how we both experience these aspects. Volume 3 is about Executive Dysfunction, Demand Avoidance and Di…

This is Volume 3 of Conversations About ASD (Part 1). For the last few weeks I have had conversations about Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) with my sister Jarni Kiara. Both Jarni and myself have discussed different aspects of living with autism and how we both experience these aspects. Volume 3 is about Executive Dysfunction, Demand Avoidance and Di…

This is Volume 2 of Conversations About ASD (Part 2). For the next few weeks I will be having conversations about Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) with my sister Jarni Kiara. Both Jarni and myself discuss different aspects of living with autism and how we both experience these aspects. Volume 2 is about Communication and Socialising. This episode (Pa…

This is Volume 2 of Conversations About ASD (Part 1). For the next few weeks I will be having conversations about Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) with my sister Jarni Kiara. Both Jarni and myself discuss different aspects of living with autism and how we both experience these aspects. Volume 2 is about Communication and Socialising. This episode (Pa…