Best Alex Iantaffi Podcasts (2024)

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'The First Gay Place That I Went Inside...' - with Alex Iantaffi from Gender Stories Podcast 56:58

27d ago56:58

56:58

The lyric to that very famous 80s TV theme song is 'sometimes you want to go where everybody knows your name'. Whilst I think that's true I also think there are times where you want to go where nobody knows your name and where there's absolutely no risk of running in to anybody that you even vaguely know. It's that type of space that gave this week…

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'It Didn't Feel Very Queer To Me' - with Ames Pennington 46:58

3h ago46:58

46:58

What do you do if you think the scene isn't a welcoming place for you? If you don't feel particularly excited to be in spaces that are pumping out Top 40 chart hits and offering jell-o shots for £1 a go? Well, you roll your sleeves up and you make your own night. And that's precisely what this week's guest did (with the help of some friends, of cou…

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241: Sex and Our Stress Response with Rachel Posner 31:22

2h ago31:22

31:22

Understanding Stress Responses and Mindfulness in Intimate Relationships In this episode of the Better Sex podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Rachel Posner, who discusses the importance of understanding and managing stress responses in intimate relationships. Rachel explains the body's stress mechanisms like fight, flight, o…

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'Full Blown Gay...' - with J3M 36:00

2d ago36:00

36:00

I sometimes rail against this notion of 'chosen family', and I always assumed that the reason I did this was because somewhere in the back of my head I was just jealous of other people who happened to find that and make that happen for themselves because that's not been my experience. But, I had a bit of a moment of realisation in this week's conve…

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240: Making and Keeping Agreements with Martha Kauppi 51:18

4d ago51:18

51:18

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes back guest Martha Kauppi for a vibrant discussion on the art of making and keeping agreements in relationships. They explore the importance of having explicit conversations to establish trust and understanding between partners. Topics include identifying when and what types of…

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Frighten the Horses, a memoir by Oliver Radclyffe 1:15:11

11d ago1:15:11

1:15:11

Oliver Radclyffe is part of the new wave of transgender writers unafraid to address the complex nuances of transition, examining the places where gender identity, sexual orientation, feminist allegiance, social class and family history overlap. His work has appeared in The New York Times and Electric Literature. He currently lives on the Connecticu…

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'I Wasn't Very Popular In Gay Male Spaces' - with Miah Jeffra 44:07

9d ago44:07

44:07

We’re going to get really cheesy this week... You probably already know that I love me some cheesy, poetic imagery. And this week I may have stumbled upon the cheesiest thing that you ever did hear. Now, we've talked about the importance of the dancefloor in finding community and being oneself, but we haven't ever spoken to someone who attributes t…

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239: Peyronie's Disease with Dr. Irwin Goldstein 38:24

18d ago38:24

38:24

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman discusses Peyronie's disease with Dr. Irwin Goldstein, a pioneer in sexual medicine. They explore the causes, diagnosis, and treatment options of the disease, and offer insights into both men's and women's perspectives on the condition. 00:00 Introduction 01:29 Guest Introduction 01:52…

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'Oh, Look, There's International Mr. Leather!' - with John Pendal 52:07

16d ago52:07

52:07

So, I will readily admit that I was a bit naive when it came to the world of leather pageantry. Obviously I knew that these leather competitions existed, and that they were loosely modelled on beauty pageants, but I kind of assumed that they weren't all that serious. I just thought that people showed up, had a bit of a laugh, took a few pictures an…

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238: Spicing up your sex life with Dan Purcell 44:25

18d ago44:25

44:25

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, Jessa Zimmerman is joined by Dan Purcell, creator of the app Intimately Us, to discuss how to truly spice up your sex life through intimacy and personal growth. Dan shares his personal journey and insights about overcoming sexual ruts, improving communication, and embracing eroticism in marriage. Together,…

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In Conversation with Eli Lawliet, Ph.D. The Gender Doula 1:08:20

24d ago1:08:20

1:08:20

Eli Lawliet, Ph.D., (he/him) is the dreamer and weaver of The Gender Doula. In addition to a decade of experience researching trans healthcare, law, policy, and history, he has formal training as a full spectrum doula, breathwork facilitator, and tarot reader, as well as many years of surviving the world of poverty wages and retail work. The broad …

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237: Understanding your relationship with Alex Iantaffi 40:07

1M ago40:07

40:07

More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast Special Collections of the podcast: Increasing Desire Episodes Eroticism and Excitement Episodes My Favorite Authors How Big a Problem is Your Sex…

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'Seeing These Beautiful Queer Faces' - with Terrence O'Brian Henderson 36:14

1M ago36:14

36:14

Are you one of those people that has a crystal clear memory of where they were and how they reacted when they found out about momentous moments in history? For instance, do you remember where you were on September 11? When you first heard of the Covid-19 outbreak? Most importantly, do you remember the first time you heard Beyonce’s ‘Single Ladies’ …

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236: The Transformative Handjob with Lee Jagger 43:47

1M ago43:47

43:47

In this episode of Better Sex, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Lee Jagger, a sex coach specializing in helping women with male partners. Lee shares her journey from an unexpected start in erotic massage to becoming an expert with over 2000 clients and developing 69+ techniques for pleasuring men. They discuss the importance of communicatio…

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'My Queerness Is My Strength' - with John Sizzle 44:31

1M ago44:31

44:31

I was gutted, understandably, when I found out earlier this year that my favourite queer bar, The Glory, was going to close. But I also had a bunch of questions, as it wasn't closing for the same reason that so many others do (£££). In fact, the owners opened a brand new venue, The Divine, within days of The Glory closing its door. So I needed to f…

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235: Porn Literacy with Diane Gleim 39:44

1M ago39:44

39:44

In this episode of the Better Sex podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman is joined by expert Diane Gleim to discuss the concept of porn literacy. Diane explains the importance of understanding porn as a form of entertainment and not education, recognizing its business nature, and being aware of the sophisticated filmmaking techniques used.…

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'The Seediness of New York' - with Richard Skipper 58:35

1M ago58:35

58:35

If you were trying to seduce someone in the audience when you were performing at a piano bar or at karaoke... what song would you sing? I imagine you'd go for something slinky and sexy, right? Or maybe something bombastic and exuding confidence? Well, not, it turns out, if you are this week's guest, the singer and story teller Richard Skipper, who …

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Creating the Communities and Content That Reflect Us with Justine Mastin 55:35

2M ago55:35

55:35

Justine Mastin, LMFT (she/her) is a pop culture psychology expert and so much more. She literally wrote the book on Therapeutic Fanfiction—Starship Therapise: Using Therapeutic Fanfiction to Rewrite Your Life—and she offered support to healers in The Grieving Therapist: Caring for Yourself and Your Clients When it Feels Like the End of the World. J…

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234: Overcoming Sexual Inhibitions with Martha Tara Lee 27:43

2M ago27:43

27:43

In this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman chats with certified sexuality educator Martha Tara Lee about overcoming sexual inhibitions, particularly in Asian cultures. They discuss the impact of cultural, religious, and educational backgrounds on sexual expression and provide practical advice to help individuals and couples enhance their s…

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'There Is No Word for Gay in the Samoan Context' - with Edward Cowley (aka Buckwheat) 49:53

2M ago49:53

49:53

One of the things that I get asked a lot when people find out that I do this show is 'well, why are queer spaces important? bars and clubs close all the time, why should we care about them just because they're queer?'. And there are lots of answers to that, but the one that I keep coming back to is that they aren't just businesses - they're communi…

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233: Talking to Your Doctor About Sex with Dr. Maureen Ryan 24:47

2M ago24:47

24:47

In this episode of BetterSex, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews nurse practitioner and sexual health expert, Maureen Ryan. Topics include the importance of discussing sexual health with medical providers, tips for patients to advocate for their sexual health, and the common issues like erectile dysfunction, low desire, sexual performance anxiety, and…

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'Maybe We Should Explore Polyamory...' - with Mehgan Sapphire from Sapphire's Earplay Podcast 49:28

2M ago49:28

49:28

It's time to talk all about the fine art of ho-ing. And who is going to guide us through this very important lesson? Why, it's Mehgan Sapphire, host of the Sapphire's Earplay podcast. Mehgan joined me to talk about her lost space, The Lexington, a San Franciscan lesbian bar that she went to when she was just a little baby gay in her college days. A…

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232: Repair after Relationship Rupture with Dr. Chelsea Burton 29:20

2M ago29:20

29:20

In this episode of BetterSex, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes therapist and sex expert Chelsea Burton to discuss the concept of relationship ruptures and how to repair them. The conversation covers both major ruptures like infidelity and smaller, everyday breaches of trust. Chelsea explains the importance of acknowledging and repairing these ruptures…

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Mental Health Advocacy and a Gender Neutral Future with Non-Binary Rapper Dean FM 48:34

2M ago48:34

48:34

Dean FM (Dean-Fraser Milford) is a Boston Massachusetts based non-binary rapper, activist and influencer. His music encapsulates eclectic thoughts that scat over percussive rhythms and exotic sounds. His performances exude drag culture and satiric expression. In 2016, Dean released his debut EP “Watch It”, which received local and national coverage…

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'I'm In San Francisco And Everyone's Dying From Sex' - with Daniel Nardicio 55:56

2M ago55:56

55:56

San Francisco in the 80s. If you know anything about queer history then you may already know that that wasn't the most joyous of times. And, yet, despite that... despite all that was happening in the world - heightened homophobia, and the really real fear of contracting HIV - people got on with their lives and they found and made joy. And that is e…

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231: Am I normal and other FAQ with Michael Castleman 36:16

2M ago36:16

36:16

Am I Normal? Exploring Common Sexual Concerns with Michael Castleman In this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes back Michael Castleman to discuss the most frequently asked questions about sex that he has received over the past decade. They delve into the pervasive 'Am I normal?' question, addressing the cultural confusion surround…

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'Looking Back Through This Queer, Non-Binary Lens' - with Holly Revell 49:30

2M ago49:30

49:30

One of the constant gifts of doing this show is the reminder of how privileged those of us who get to grow old are. It’s easy to forget this in a world saturated with messages glorifying youth, but youth isn't always that great (sure, I still have crippling social anxiety, but I'm MUCH better at masking it now!). So, getting the chance to talk to p…

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230: Sexual Behavior Analysis with Nicholas Maio-Aether 38:04

3M ago38:04

38:04

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews Nicholas Maio-Aether, a pioneer in sexual behavior analysis. They dive into the behavioral approach to changing sexual behaviors, emphasizing consensual goal-setting and positive reinforcement. Nicholas explains the methodologies used in behavior analysis, the importance of …

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Queer and Trans Pleasure: In Conversation with Dr Damon Constantinides, PhD, LCSW, CST 1:16:01

2M ago1:16:01

1:16:01

Damon Constantinides, PhD, LCSW, CST Damon is a queer trans man and sex nerd who loves being a dad, teaching and talking about queer and trans pleasure, and growing plants as a way to connect with magic and the sacredness of the earth. He is trained as both a clinical social worker and a sex therapist and has worked for more than 20 years in the fi…

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'I'm Really Lucky That I'm Gay' - with Eric Marcus from Making Gay History Podcast 54:23

3M ago54:23

54:23

I don't know about you, but I really like the idea of being referred to as a gay elder at some point in the future. The only part about it that worries me is that I hope I'm not expected to suddenly be wise or level-headed or clever or anything... And though this week's guest, Eric Marcus from the Making Gay History podcast, might not like being re…

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229: Overcoming Purity Culture with Esther Hooley 26:06

3M ago26:06

26:06

In this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman talks with Esther Hooley to address the impacts of purity culture on individuals and their sexuality. They explore how purity culture influences sexual scripts, the resulting shame, and how one can begin to heal and embrace their true sexuality. Esther discusses her book, 'Embracing Erotic Wholene…

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'Gays Aren't The Best At Catching' - with Recognition 57:28

3M ago57:28

57:28

I think what's so magical about a place like London is the promise of what the city represents rather than what it can actually meaningfully offer people... And, that might sound like a strange distinction, but for me London was always the place that I was going to run away to in order to become the person that I was meant to be. And it was here th…

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Gender Affirming Therapy: A Guide to What Transgender and Non-Binary Clients Can Teach Us 1:11:56

3M ago1:11:56

1:11:56

Laura Scarrone Bonhomme (she/her), is a Consultant Clinical Psychologist who specialises in Gender, Sexual, and Relationship Diversity. She provides assessment, psychotherapy, and training to other professionals through www.affirm.lgbt. https://www.linkedin.com/in/laura-scarrone-bonhomme-3749087a laurascarrone.com Skye Davies (she/they) is a Peer S…

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228: The Orgasm Gap Revisited with Dr. Laurie Mintz 29:25

3M ago29:25

29:25

In this episode of Better Sex, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, the topic of discussion is the orgasm gap between heterosexual men and women. Joined by Dr. Laurie Mintz, an expert who wrote 'Becoming Cliterate', they explore the reasons behind this gap, which includes the lack of clitoral stimulation for women and societal misconceptions ab…

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'All These Gay Men With No Shirts On...' - with Van Hechter 42:12

3M ago42:12

42:12

I love the kind of people that can go through a whole bunch of bullying, a whole bunch of othering, a whole bunch of shit in their life and still come out the other end and be like 'this is who I am, take it or leave it, I'm not changing for anyone'... And those are exactly the vibes that this week's guest, singer/songwriter Van Hechter, was puttin…

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227: The Cure for ED with Dr. Jeff Nuziard 38:54

3M ago38:54

38:54

Understanding and Treating Erectile Dysfunction with Dr. Jeff Nuziard In this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes Dr. Jeff Nuziard to discuss erectile dysfunction (ED). They delve into the misconceptions around ED, particularly the false notion that blood flow is the primary issue. Dr. Nuziard shares his personal journey with ED, b…

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