Best Commitment Phobes Podcasts (2025)

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Life in Your 30s Without a Plus One 46:07

2d ago46:07

46:07

I’m joined by my friend Emily Griminger to talk about dating in your 30s when your life doesn’t look the way you thought it would. Emily shares how leaving the corporate world to start her own company changed the way she dates, what it’s been like navigating weddings and big milestones without a partner, and why being on a different timeline than h…

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2025 In Review + BONUS Q&A! The Year's Ups And Downs & Your Juicy Qs Answered - Ep 431 1:39:52

2d ago1:39:52

1:39:52

Today's a special day, Shandies! We polled you over on Instagram about what YOU wanted your last episode of 2025 to be: A 2025 Year In Review or a classic Q&A? It was an even split, so as many of you requested, today we're doing BOTH! Join us as we go down memory lane and recap 2025 together, AND as we answer some juicy Q&A questions along the way!…

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What Every Women Needs to Know About Fertility in Her 20s & 30s 47:49

4d ago47:49

47:49

I’m joined by Dr. Courtney Alexander, OB-GYN and women’s health expert, to break down what women actually need to know about fertility, birth control, and reproductive health in their 20s and 30s. We talk about the biggest myths fueling anxiety around age, timelines, and “falling behind,” and why so much of the information online is doing more harm…

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Did I End It Too Soon? Dating Regrets & One-Sided Convos 43:16

5d ago43:16

43:16

Jake and I kick things off with life updates, including his big winnings at the casino, an influencer event I actually enjoyed, a running injury update, and a Taylor Swift debate. Then we get into listener questions about dating when conversations feel one-sided, wondering if you’re being too picky on early dates, and what to do when you end things…

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"How EMDR Therapy Saved My Dating Life" 50:33

9d ago50:33

50:33

Maddy, friend and former SOP intern, joins the pod to talk about surviving a break-in, navigating trauma in your early 20s, and how EMDR therapy helped her finally feel safe again. Maddy opens up about the night a man broke into her bedroom, why healing wasn’t as simple as “moving on,” and how hypervigilance shaped her day-to-day life, dating, and …

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LOVE FEST! Mel Owens & Peg Munson Are Shandies And They Came With Notes - Ep 430 1:11:33

9d ago1:11:33

1:11:33

It's Love Fest time again, Shandies!!! 🎉 We couldn't be more delighted to welcome The Season 2 Golden Bachelor himself—International man of mystery Mel Owens—and his lovely, multi-talented winner, Peg Munson! This is a particularly unique Love Fest, because unbeknownst to Shandy, Mel and Peg watched ALL the Dear Shandy recaps of their season! And t…

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What Your Work Life Says About Your Love Life 49:26

11d ago49:26

49:26

I’m joined by Emily Durham, recruiter, creator, and host of Clock In, to talk about the surprising overlap between careers and dating in your 20s and 30s. Emily shares how leaving corporate shifted the way she dates, why confidence at work affects confidence in relationships, and the patterns she sees in both job searches and love lives. We get int…

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Am I Working Hard Enough? 47:03

12d ago47:03

47:03

Jake and I catch up on life and our ongoing messiness at home before getting into a really honest conversation. I talk about seeing other podcasts share huge numbers and noticing my own growth has slowed, and how hard it has been not to compare myself. I also share what success feels like to me right now and how I am trying to build a career that s…

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How Losing Her Job Changed Her Entire Dating Life 51:30

16d ago51:30

51:30

I’m joined by my friend Jude Cohen to talk about dating in your 30s and rebuilding your life after everything falls apart at once. Jude shares how losing her job and leaving the corporate world completely shifted the way she dates and sees herself. We get into her best and worst dating stories, from Third Date Club to a friends-with-benefits situat…

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Q&A! Dating Despite A Dealbreaker & Was His Anniversary Gift Kinky Or Just Inappropriate? - Ep 429 1:14:34

16d ago1:14:34

1:14:34

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you and your podcast co-host disagree on whether or not to release an episode, should you compromise or stick to your perfectionism? If you know a relationship is doomed, is it still worth exploring for the experience of having "loved and lost"? If your entire family has near-daily Zoo…

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I Had a Surrogate…and Then I Got Pregnant Too 52:46

18d ago52:46

52:46

I’m joined by Alyssa Tucker, teacher, creator of @livefromsnacktime, and mom of two, to share her unexpected journey through infertility. After years of loss and failed IVF transfers, Alyssa and her husband pursued surrogacy, only for her to discover she was pregnant at the same time. We talk about IVF misconceptions, how surrogacy actually works, …

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Why Are Married Men Flirting With Me & Other Mixed Signals 44:35

19d ago44:35

44:35

We're recording from Westchester while recovering from days of Thanksgiving meals and leftovers. We talk about having both of our families together for the first time and how grateful we are that everyone gets along so well. Jake shares an update on his injury, and we chat about supporting each other’s plans and giving each other space. We answer l…

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LOVE FEST! Andrew Spencer & Alexe Godin Let Us Into The Chaos - Ep 428 57:27

23d ago57:27

57:27

HAPPY THANKSGIVING, SHANDIES!!! And what better way to celebrate thanks than with a double date?? That's right: It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Shandy is excited to be joined in-studio by Andrew Spencer and Alexe Godin from Season 10 of Bachelor In Paradise! Today Alexe and Andrew whirl into the studio despite Andrew's flight being delayed and Alexe having …

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What Dating as a 34-Year-Old Guy Is Really Like 55:42

24d ago55:42

55:42

In this Unfiltered, Harry comes back to talk about what dating, healing, and growing in your mid thirties has actually looked like for him this past year. We get into how friendships shift as everyone around you moves into new phases of life, what it feels like to be the single one in the group, and how he has learned to sit with discomfort instead…

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You, Your Husband and His Mother 55:39

25d ago55:39

55:39

I’m joined by Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, couples therapist, author of You, Your Husband, and Your Mother-in-Law, and host of Dear Dr. Tracy, to dive into the messy and emotional dynamics of merging families. You don’t have to be married for this to resonate; these patterns show up in every relationship, and every couple can benefit from understanding the…

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The Stories We Never Told About Getting Fired 54:31

26d ago54:31

54:31

We’re on week 3 of lockdown after Jake’s surgery and shockingly, we’re thriving. This week marks five years since we both got let go, so we’re diving into what those last few months looked like, what we felt in the moment, and how getting fired ended up being the turning point we didn’t know we needed. For the first time, I open up about why I was …

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What Moving On and Feeling Secure Actually Looks Like 49:33

1M ago49:33

49:33

In this Unfiltered, a returning guest shares how she finally got over her ex and why getting under someone else wasn’t the whole story. After leaving a five-year relationship, she had to rebuild her confidence, rethink her standards, and figure out who she was without him. She opens up about dating again in her 30s, friendship shifts, loneliness, a…

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LOVE FEST! Jeremy Simon & Bailey Taylor Brown Are Ready To Surprise You - Ep 427 1:14:09

1M ago1:14:09

1:14:09

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Shandy is excited to be joined in-studio by Bailey Taylor Brown and Jeremy Simon from Season 10 of Bachelor In Paradise! Today Jeremy and Bailey give us a peek into their relationship and how they navigated blowback from their Paradise season. We learn the ins and outs of their dynamic that you didn't see on TV, how they comp…

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Are You “Doing the Work” or Just Performing It? with Therapist Rebecca Marcus 47:43

1M ago47:43

47:43

Therapist Rebecca Marcus, LCSW, is back to talk about what it actually means to “do the work” in your love life. We unpack why awareness alone isn’t enough to break old patterns, how to tell the difference between real growth and just performing self-improvement, what to do if you’re doing everything “right” but still feel lonely, and whether it’s …

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Breaking News, Syracuse Recap & How Jake’s Really Doing 50:22

1M ago50:22

50:22

I’m fresh off a total bucket list moment, going back to Syracuse to speak at the launch of their new Center for the Creator Economy, and I’m bringing you along for the whole thing. I also share some big news with Jake live on the podcast, and his reaction does not disappoint. Jake talks about not leaving the apartment for 11 days after his surgery,…

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The Golden Bachelor S2: Finale | AFTER THE FINAL ROSE | Recap & Review - Ep 426 55:11

1M ago55:11

55:11

Shandy is back with their world-famous reality TV recaps! Today they're breaking down the Finale and After The Final Rose for ABC's The Golden Bachelor, Season 2! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://perelelhealth.com and use code SHANDY to get 20% off your first order! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for up to …

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Solo Q&A: "Help, My Best Friend Disappeared Into Their Relationship" 46:38

1M ago46:38

46:38

In this solo Q&A, I’m answering your dating and life questions — from moving cities for love to figuring out if you’re settling in your career. We get into what to do when your best friend disappears into a new relationship, how to tell if someone actually likes you, and the truth about not having it all figured out at 29. I also share my thoughts …

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The Love Story You Didn’t See on Love Is Blind 1:02:03

1M ago1:02:03

1:02:03

Kelly Chase (@chaselifewithkelly) opens up about what really happened after Love Is Blind, the trauma, the healing, and how she learned to love herself again. From people-pleasing to personal growth, she shares how therapy, mindset coaching, and deep self-work helped her rediscover her worth. We talked about rebuilding after being misunderstood, re…

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Is Having A Boyfriend Embarassing? 56:17

1M ago56:17

56:17

Jake’s been recovering from surgery with nonstop movie marathons, while I got upsold by a facialist and found myself spiraling about Botox because everyone around me seems to be doing it. I’m also on the hunt for a new hobby now that my running era has ended (open to suggestions). This week, I’m heading up to Syracuse to speak on a college alum pan…

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What If You Haven’t Been Loved the Way You Deserve Yet? 47:02

1M ago47:02

47:02

Heidi Friedman (@lovelessons104) went on 104 dates before finding the love of her life — and every single one taught her something new. A divorced mom of two (and now a bonus mom of two more), she opens up about realizing she was never truly in love with her ex-husband, rebuilding her confidence, and finally finding the kind of love she used to onl…

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The Golden Bachelor S2: Ep 7 | FANTASY SUITES | Recap & Review - Ep 425 41:33

1M ago41:33

41:33

Shandy is back with their world-famous reality TV recaps! Today they're breaking down Fantasy Suite week for ABC's The Golden Bachelor, Season 2! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://drinkolipop.com/SHANDY to get $2 off a 4-pack of Olipop! - Go to https://shopremi.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 55% off a custom nightguard plus a FREE gi…

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What Running The NYC Marathon Actually Felt Like 1:26:35

2M ago1:26:35

1:26:35

I trained for months dreaming of the NYC Marathon finish line… and instead found myself sitting on the side of the course having a panic attack at mile 6. In this episode, Jake and I break down everything — from the logistics and the high of those first few miles, to the moment everything changed, why I kept going, and what I learned from one of th…

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What Healthy Intimacy Actually Looks Like (& How To Built It) 56:04

2M ago56:04

56:04

Most of us never learned how to talk about sex—so we assume everyone else just figured it out. Sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her husband Xander Marin join me to talk about what really makes intimacy last, why communication in the bedroom matters more than chemistry, and how to start conversations about sex before it becomes a problem. We dive int…

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The Golden Bachelor's Theresa Nist Responds To Gerry Turner's Book Claims - Ep 424 1:24:45

2M ago1:24:45

1:24:45

Shandy is thrilled to welcome Theresa Nist for an EXCLUSIVE in-studio conversation. You know Theresa as the winner of the mega-hit season 1 of The Golden Bachelor. She wound up engaged to Gerry Turner, their televised wedding was watched by millions, but they announced their divorce only 3 months later. What *really* happened behind the scenes, aft…

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Love Is Blind S9: Ep 13 | REUNION | Recap & Review - Ep 423 1:08:40

2M ago1:08:40

1:08:40

By popular demand, Shandy is back to recapping Love Is Blind, Season 9! Today we're breaking down the Reunion! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://www.oneskin.co/HAIR and use code SHANDY to get 15% off! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY10FM and use SHANDY10FM for 10 free meals plus one free item for life! - Go to https://www.rocket…

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Why Men Are Getting Dating Wrong—And What Women Actually Want 59:14

2M ago59:14

59:14

Dating advice is everywhere, but most of it is useless. From ghosting after a “perfect” date to why playing hard to get always backfires, Logan Mahan—writer of Take It From a Woman at InsideHook—shares what women actually want, the mistakes men don’t realize they’re making, and the small shifts that can completely change your dating life. Follow Lo…

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The Golden Bachelor S2: Ep 6 | WOMEN TELL ALL | Recap & Review - Ep 422 33:05

2M ago33:05

33:05

Shandy is back with their world-famous reality TV recaps! Today they're breaking down the WTA of ABC's The Golden Bachelor, Season 2! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://mudwtr.com and use SHANDY for up to 43% off your entire order, free shipping and a free rechargeable frother! - Go to https://www.quince.com/shandy for free shipping and 3…

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Unlearning The Dating Rules That Are Keeping You Stuck 53:19

2M ago53:19

53:19

So many of us were taught how to be chosen instead of how to choose. In this episode, writer, filmmaker, and podcast host Rory Uphold (Crimes of the Heart) joins me to talk about unlearning the dating rules that keep us stuck, why self-trust is the most underrated green flag, and how to finally stop settling for people who breadcrumb you. We dive i…

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Jake’s First Kiss & Other Things He Never Talks About 45:12

2M ago45:12

45:12

Ilana is one week out from the marathon and feeling overwhelmed with everything happening at once. Jake asks how she’s holding up and shares how he’s feeling ahead of his surgery. We get into Jake’s dating history, the hilarious story of his first kiss, how his work schedule kept him from dating for years, and why we’re glad we didn’t meet any earl…

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How to Get Over A Crush 40:07

2M ago40:07

40:07

I’m breaking down the exact things that helped me get over crushes I was never even technically with. From muting people like it’s a form of therapy to distracting myself with run clubs, puzzles, and absurdly dramatic TV shows, I’ve mastered the art of an emotional reset. If you’re spiraling over someone who was barely in your life, consider this y…

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The Golden Bachelor S2: Ep 5 Recap & Review - Ep 421 42:22

2M ago42:22

42:22

Shandy is back with their world-famous reality TV recaps! Today they're breaking down Season 2, Episode 5 of ABC's The Golden Bachelor. Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.quince.com/shandy for free shipping and 365-day returns! - T…

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Love Is Blind S9: Ep 12 | FINALE | Recap & Review - Ep 420 49:13

2M ago49:13

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By popular demand, Shandy is back to recapping Love Is Blind, Season 9! Today we're breaking down the finale, aka episode 12. Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://perelelhealth.com and use code SHANDY to get 20% off your first order! - Go to https://drinkolipop.com/SHANDY to get $2 off a 4-pack of Olipop! - Shop at https://revolve.com/SHAND…

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Should You Stay or Should You Go? 52:32

2M ago52:32

52:32

Dr. Molly Burrets called off her own wedding—and it changed everything. She shares the story of what led her to make that difficult decision, the self-reflection and work she realized she needed to do afterward, and how she eventually married the love of her life. We dive into the fear of shame and embarrassment that often comes with calling off a …

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