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New Life Live! is America's #1 Christian counseling call-in radio program. Author and New Life Ministries founder, Steve Arterburn, along with his tag-team of co-hosts, offer advice and address questions concerning spiritual, relational and emotional issues within our culture today. Tag-team counselors: Dr. Jill Hubbard, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Chris Williams, Dr. Alice Benton, Becky Brown, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris and Marc Cameron. Call New Life Ministries at 800-639-5433.
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Topics: Forgiveness, Verbal Abuse, Caregiving, Autism, Video Games, Teens, Sexual Integrity, Isolation, Gender Identity Hosts: Becky Brown, and presenters at Intimacy in Marriage Intensive, Laura Mangin-McDonald and JJ West Caller Questions & More: Laura Mangin-McDonald shares how forgiving is not forgetting. At what point do I step in to help my m…
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Topics: Change, Finances, Secrets, Anger, Adult Children, Teens Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Jill Hubbard, JJ West Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jill Hubbard shares how troubles can be a precursor to change. I just lost my husband 2mos ago to liver failure because of his alcohol, and he had secretly taken out thousands of dollars of credit card debt i…
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Topics: Feelings, Counseling, Alcohol, Adult Children, Grief Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Marc Cameron Caller Questions & More: Marc Cameron shares about taking ownership for your emotions (others aren’t responsible.) How important is it to look back when you’re trying to get some traction for today? My therapist focuses on tools for…
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Topics: Sexual Addiction, Borderline, Adult Children, Feelings, Alcohol, Boundaries Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Jill Hubbard, JJ West Caller Questions & More: JJ West requests that every listener help get men to the Every Man’s Battle Intensive by telling their pastor about it. I want to try to have a relationship with my borderline adult daughter; …
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Topics: Self Worth, Sexual Addiction, Pornography, Depression, Autism Hosts: Becky Brown, and presenters at Intimacy in Marriage Intensive, Laura Mangin-McDonald and JJ West Caller Questions & More: JJ West shares about feeling inferior and that comparison is the thief of joy. My husband struggles with porn, strip clubs, and flirting with his ex-gi…
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Topics: Communication, Finances, Boundaries, Pornography, Blended Families, Engagement, Adult Children, Anxiety Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris shares about communication differences; be more interested in understanding rather than correcting. Is my husband a wolf in sheep…
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Topics: Screens, Remarriage, Christian Walk, Alcohol, Finances, Connection Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Alice Benton, Marc Cameron Caller Questions & More: Dr. Alice Benton shares the three parenting styles used to regulate their child’s screen time. My wife and I can’t come to a consensus about anything because she blames me for everything; how do I de…
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Topics: Shame, Guilt, Parenting, Communication, Teens, Brain Issues, Adult Children, Separation Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Caller Questions & More: Dr. Sheri Keffer shares about unhealthy shame and unhealthy guilt. We have been fostering a 15yo for a month and are not able to communicate with her; how do we break t…
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Topics: Leadership, Adult Children, Weddings, Miscarriage, Grief, Church Life, Teens, Bipolar Disorder Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jill Hubbard, Becky Brown Caller Questions & More: Chris Williams shares how we are all leaders, and it starts with leading our own internal world. My 27yo son is getting married and told me what not to wear to his wedding …
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Topics: Self Worth, Anxiety, Adult Children, Grandparenting, Drug Addiction, Adoption, Weddings Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Alice Benton, Marc Cameron Caller Questions: Marc Cameron shares the ways we cover up our insecurities with emotional masks. I went to see my daughter and her kids in Europe at Christmas, but she suddenly made me leave and won’t t…
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Topics: Trauma, Addictions, Halloween, Adult Children, Anger, Marijuana, Teens, Sexual Abuse Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jill Hubbard, Dr. Alice Benton Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jill Hubbard shares about trauma and how addictions and acting out come into play. I like to hand out Gospel tracts to kids on Halloween; what draws people to this holiday? …
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Topics: Compassion, Adult Children, Connection, Depression, Anxiety, Blended Families, Boundaries, Estrangement Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Chris Williams Caller Questions & More: Chris Williams describes what a benevolent witness is and compares it to hosting. My 28yo son wants to lie about his address to get a job; how can I conne…
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Topics: Perseverance, Counseling, Adult Children, Blended Families, Childhood Trauma, Abandonment Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Alice Benton, Marc Cameron Caller Questions: Marc Cameron shares a story about a marathon runner, Cliff Young, and his example of perseverance. How do I know if I have the right counselor for what I need? My husband is verbally …
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Topics: Habits, Anxiety, Christian Walk, Teens, Pornography, Aging Parents, Blended Families, Adult Children Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Alice Benton, Dr. Jill Hubbard Caller Questions & More: Dr. Alice Benton shares how unfished tasks cause the Zeigarnik effect, and how that affects our brain. I’m almost 50yo, don’t know why I serve God, and wonder if…
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Topics: Screens, Parenting, Sexual Integrity, Singles, Pleasers, Physical Abuse, Dating, Intimacy, Anger Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Alice Benton, Marc Cameron Caller Questions & More: Dr. Alice Benton shares a few tips on screen use by modeling parental behavior. Should I think I might as well have sex even though I’m not married? I’m a pleaser and I’…
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Topics: Teens, Sexual Integrity, Adult Children, Alcohol, Intervention, Marijuana, ADD Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jill Hubbard, JJ West Caller Questions & More: JJ West asks, “What does the soil of my life look like? Would I survive a dry season?” My niece is asking what to do about her 14yo son who masturbates loudly. My 53yo married son thinks becau…
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How do we deal with the unexpected in our lives? Something is happening; our cards are in the air, and we must decide what to do. How do we pick them up? We are responsible for what is in front of us. Treat it not as a nasty joke but as a game. Pick up the last one; where does it go? How do I pick up the unexpected challenges in my life and deal wi…
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Topics: Suicide, Emotional Abuse, Isolation, Communication, Intimacy, Counseling Hosts: Dr. Alice Benton, Dr. Jill Hubbard, Marc Cameron Caller Questions & More: You partnered with God to pull Glen from death last week; I’ll find a way to support you! Is there a connection between the trauma from my abusive marriage of 20yrs and me shunning people?…
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Topics: Caregiving, Betrayal, Fear, Failure, Drug Addiction, Grief, Life Change Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Chris Williams Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris shares about the struggles of being a caregiver for a spouse or family member. I went to Restore and am still struggling; how do I process this without looking at …
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Topics: Alcohol, Sex Addiction, Adult Children, Trust, Schizophrenia, Bipolar, Making Decisions, Aging Parents, Suicide Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jill Hubbard, JJ West Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jill Hubbard shares insights from Dr. Dave Stoop. I’m a functioning alcoholic and a sexual addict, and I’m starting a Celebrate Recovery 12-step group. Wha…
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Topics: Social Media, Parenting, Church Life, Betrayal, Father Issues, Grief, Same-Sex Attraction Hosts: Marc Cameron, Dr. Alice Benton, Dr. Jill Hubbard Caller Questions & More: Dr. Alice Benton asks, “Do we allow our children enough physical freedom and too much digital freedom?” Is it wrong to leave my church and go to another church that feels …
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Topics: Suicide, Hope, Emotional Affairs, Adult Children, Boundaries, Estrangement, Blended Families Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Alice Benton Caller Questions & More: Dr. Sheri Keffer reflected on the powerful suicidal call on June 5. My husband had an emotional affair but doesn’t seem to be getting any better; what caused my husba…
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Topics: Neighbors, Drug Addiction, Adult Children, Affairs, Verbal Abuse, Newlyweds, Anxiety Hosts: Dr. Alice Benton, Dr. Jill Hubbard, JJ West Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jill Hubbard shares about Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself. I stopped using drugs 28yrs ago but still struggle with feeling unworthy. My son is a recovering addict and has left …
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Topics: Habits, Caregiving, Making Decisions, Self Worth, Dating, Friendship, Depression, Suicide Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Alice Benton, Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions & More: Dr. Alice Benton shares What To Do To Change a Habit. After caregiving for my mom until she passed, how do I determine where I want to live? Why do I keep attracting uns…
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Topics: Christian Walk, Drug Addiction, Adult Children, Narcissists, Sexual Integrity Hosts: Dr. Alice Benton, Dr. Jill Hubbard, JJ West Caller Questions & More: JJ West shares about One-Anothering vs. Othering. How do I get my husband out of bed? When I try to get him to do something, he argues and then goes back to sleep. How do I heal my relatio…
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Topics: Drug Addiction, Childhood Trauma, Abandonment, Christian Walk, Childhood Abuse, Finances, Guilt Hosts: Marc Cameron, Dr. Jill Hubbard, Dr. Jim Burns Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jim Burns shares with parents How Drugs Are Different Today. I had to be a caregiver to my mom when I was a child, and now I care for my sister who has schizophreni…
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Why have so many of us lost the sense of belonging? Essentially, we belong to ourselves. We lose the ability to know that as children. Let's explore how we can re-find this wonderful and complete place within. How can we stop looking outside ourselves to others? When we do, we'll find a smoother, more peaceful path in life. "If we have no peace, it…
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Finding peace through cancer. How can we find peace, humor, and kindness as we travel through cancer treatment? Jill has had cancer for many years now; she shares her wisdom and suggestions for those with cancer. Jill asks, "Who are you suffering for, yourself or others." She shares that it is time for you to decide who is around you and stop tryin…
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"For the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself if I would want to do what I am about to do today, and whenever the answer has been no for too many days in a row, I know that I need to change something." Steve Jobs. If sometime during the day we don't have a smile on our face, we know that something needs to chang…
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A Sundance Maka Waconi: Circle of Life in South Dakota Jill and her husband's journey. The power of change and the adventure of transformational experiences. They decided not to follow a map but to follow their senses. They took no freeways or highways, just a sense that guided them. They used their senses and intuition on this fantastic journey. T…
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Relationship break ups. Relationship break ups. How to move beyond the pain. What can we do? How can we find greater wisdom and peace through this process? How do we navigate relationship break ups, family, or partners? Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy? This is a question we must ask ourselves when we face a breakup. It's time to…
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What is success, and what is failure? Why are we so focused on both? How do we succeed and fail? Does success bring us happiness? When we are dying, it is not about success or failure. We have to stop the comparison. Let's explore what success is in different countries and how success is so different in so many places for so many people. What is su…
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How to live, thrive, and find peace with dementia. Dementia is a process of losing our rational mind, and yet we can support the individual in moving into places beyond the mind. The person's essence we know is always there, but the person we love and know is often disappearing. How can we support them and find a place of acceptance and ease? Many …
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How to get through the holidays, tips for navigating these times, and find even more peace and joy. How to maneuver and enjoy the holidays. How do we deal with those we don't want to deal with? How do we enjoy the holidays even if we are alone? We can discover ways to take moments to refind our balance and inner harmony. How to re-balance yourself …
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Fear and how we can move beyond to freedom. How does fear control us, and what can we do to clear it? Handling the moment as it comes dispells fear. We release the need for what is happening to be different, we deal with it and then there is no fear. Fear feeds on itself, take the time to use tools to take yourself out "Expose yourself to your deep…
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The freedom to change my mind. We often get stuck in our lives because we think we can't change our minds or don't know how to do it. Let's explore how to change our minds when we get stuck in ideas or concepts that have been layered onto us as children and with which we identify. Perhaps we have become so identified with certain ideas in the view …
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According to quantum physics a particle vibrating due to your sound when you speak can affect a molecule inside a star at the edge of the Universe instantly. This phenomenon is known as quantum entanglement. The greatest illusion then is the illusion of separation. We are all connected, one humanity, alike in so many ways. How can we access the fee…
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It is only heavy because you are deciding over and over again to carry it. Embrace change, loosen up your sense of identity, and let yourself walk a new path. You do not have to ignore or erase the past; you just have to wholeheartedly embrace the present and move on. ~ Yung Pueblo We have our freedom in our hands, when we hold onto who we think we…
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Leslie Clark travels with the Toureg in the desert. Experiences a wedding, travels with rebels and finds herself alone in the sand dunes miles from anywhere. . A powerful journey. She experiences how the Toureg can travel through the dunes that shift yearly, with no GPS, not maps and with dangers everywhere. They always know how everyone is feeling…
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Pausing is key to increasing our ability to choose how we respond rather than dropping into robotic reaction. When we don't take a pause between a stimulus and our response we may wind up just reacting which limits our choices. There are so many benefits to taking a pause; it can recharge our energy: help us to gain access to our inner wisdom: and …
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Happiness is not a destination; it's the journey. When we are focusing on the end, the thing we want instead of the process or the journey, we suffer because it makes us stressed. We can have happiness anytime when we focus on the journey. When we are focused on the destination, like a car, money, we We only suffer when we react negatively to a sit…
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It's not what you do but how you react that matters. Often we can't change what is happening, but we can almost always have power over how we react. We chat about ideas and tools that can give us power over our reactions. We, as humans, tend to be robotic in our reactions to what is happening. Push a button, and I'll always react to the same experi…
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"The world is nothing but my perception of it; I see only through myself, I hear only through the filter of my story." Byron Katie, If we want to change our lives, we must change our perception. Let's open up our cage to see how else we can see something. We are not our story, but it does control us. Oor story can limit us or free us, depending upo…
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Tina Turner mastered her art and life; she moved beyond her pain and illnesses and accessed an inner world of peace and balance. She built a bridge between her outer life filled with, success, but also suffering and pain and found a way to access an inner world of peace and balance. We explore how she did this nad how she was able to keep this brid…
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Being happy is a very personal thing, and it really has nothing to do with anyone else.” Abraham Hicks Happiness lives within us! Being happy is very personal -and totally internal. Appreciation can be a pathway to happiness. Happiness does not come from the outside inward. Let's find our personal inner triggers to happiness, then we can find happi…
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Learning can be a great gift, and unlearning can be an even greater gift; transformational and freeing. "Recognize that unlearning is the highest form of learning.” Rumi. Why do we feel we need to keep filling ourselves with information? Why do we need so much learning? When we take away the unneeded learning, we become closer to who we are and acc…
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Dali Lama "Such my thumb." Jill shares the Tibetan perspective. Why do cultural differences matter, and why are they so hard to understand? We share our thoughts and experiences about cultural differences, their power, and why we can so easily misinterpret them. We explore travel and other chances to be in various cultures and their differences. Wh…
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"Enlightenment is a destructive process. It has nothing to do with becoming better or being happier. Enlightenment is the crumbling away of untruth. It's seeing through the facade of pretense. It's the complete eradication of everything we imagined to be true.” Adyashanti. Enlightenment is not about what we do or achieve or even find. Enlightenment…
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Fearless aging, let's explore how we can age fearlessly. When we are comfortable with who we are everyone else will be comfortable with who we are. Many cultures celebrate life stages, and in those cultures, aging is respected and valued. When you travel you see people eg, the natural indigenous cultures, you see those who are enjoying their life a…
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"I started to be free when I realized the cage was made of thoughts!" Unknown. We create cages for ourselves from our robotic thinking, we aren't aware that we are trapped until we become aware of our thoughts and their patterns. We can free ourselves, but how? Do you know what you are thinking right now? Many aren't, but it is that awareness that …
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