Best John Kim and Vanessa Bennett Podcasts (2024)

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How Our Attachment Styles Impact Our Relationships 21:08

2d ago21:08

21:08

John does a deep dive on the four attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant. He also talks about how understanding our own attachment style, and that of our partner and others, is crucial for fostering healthier relationships and more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choi…

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How To Create Inner Sanctuary with Vanessa Bennett and Taune Lyons 32:12

5d ago32:12

32:12

Today, John, Vanessa, and Taune explore the idea of sourcing safety within ourselves and how it affects our relationships and overall well-being.They also emphasize how building a sanctuary within is a lifelong journey that requires compassion, curiosity, and a willingness to explore our experiences, and much more. Use the discount code SANCTUARY t…

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First Blow Job, Sweet and Spicy Korean Cookies, & Food For Your Soul with Meredith St John 53:51

2h ago53:51

53:51

Today, John and Meredith explore the connection between food and wellness, as well as the importance of home-cooked meals. They discuss the role of food in their lives and the connection between food and culture, and explore the emotional and nostalgic aspects of food, as well as the importance of self-care and conscious eating. Follow John on Inst…

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Maybe You're Already There (Let Me Explain) 30:18

29m ago30:18

30:18

Today, John discusses the importance of seeing life through new lenses and the need for inner journeys to gain new perspectives. He also explores the idea of success, the impact of relationships and community on personal growth, and how to trust oneself and dream big. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your…

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Why It's Okay To Send Your Parents To Voicemail 21:40

1h ago21:40

21:40

Today, John reflects on the relationship he has with his mother and the dynamics that exist between them. He discusses the challenges of evolving and growing with family members and old friends, and the resistance that can arise when trying to create new tracks in these relationships. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Lear…

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My Coming to America Story 44:24

1d ago44:24

44:24

Today, John reflects on his personal journey and the sacrifices his parents made as immigrants. He shares stories of their hard work, determination, challenges, setbacks, and emphasizes the importance of embracing and sharing our own stories. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcast…

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No Sexual Chemistry with My Ex Husband But I Want My Family Back 30:10

15d ago30:10

30:10

Today, John gives advice to a listener who is torn between wanting to get her family, but lacking sexual desire for her ex-husband. He explores the concept of customization in relationships and the importance of prioritizing self-connection before seeking a partner, the need to question old relationship models and create ones that feel honest, and …

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Marriage Was Never About Love (Let Me Explain) 27:57

6d ago27:57

27:57

Today, John does a deep dive on marriage and explains how it has evolved and transformed, influenced by religion, societal norms, and the concept of romantic love. He talks about how marriage should be about creating a partnership that is based on choice, growth, mutual respect, and more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE …

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Leaving a Long Term Relationship 27:16

14d ago27:16

27:16

Today, John gives advice on how to emotionally prepare to leave a long-term relationship. He emphasizes the importance of building a better relationship with yourself, and creating a program or structure for yourself during this transition, including having a support system, engaging in somatic experiences, setting goals, and more. Follow John on I…

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How Do I Know If I'm Ready For a Relationship? 22:08

10d ago22:08

22:08

Today, John discusses the importance of looking at past memories through different lenses to gain a more accurate understanding. He also answers two listeners questions: how to know if you've done enough healing to be in a relationship? And how to accept that you and your partner may not be right for each other? Follow John on Instagram HERE Find o…

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My Singlehood Journey 22:12

25d ago22:12

22:12

Today, John shares his personal journey of being single and finding his authentic self after going through a divorce. He emphasizes the importance of connecting to one's solid self, living a life that feels honest, the significance of having a sense of purpose before entering another relationship, and more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out …

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15 Tips On How To Be Happy While Single 26:58

19d ago26:58

26:58

Today, John shares 15 non-generic tips on how to be happy while being single which includes: creating a personal sanctuary, learning to enjoy solitude, practicing random acts of kindness, developing a daily ritual, engaging in a creative project, and much more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad cho…

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How Do You Know If Your Previous Relationship Is Worth Revisiting? 19:45

18d ago19:45

19:45

Today, John answers three relationship questions: how do you know if a past relationship is worth revisiting? What holds someone back in a new relationship after a divorce? And how to deal with feeling insecure about a partner's past relationship? He discusses the need for self-work, healing after a divorce to avoid repeating unhealthy patterns in …

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Is It Wrong To Be Single at 38? Found Nudes In Boyfriend's Phone, Now What? How To Fight Healthy? 32:05

21d ago32:05

32:05

Today, John answers three listeners' questions: 1) Should I take it personally if I saw my boyfriend's ex's nudes on his phone? 2) Is it possible to be too comfortable being single at 38? 3) What to do when we love each other on every level but are toxic when things are bad? He gives advice on each question, emphasizing the importance of healthy re…

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The Importance of "Pecans" - Rewiring Yourself For Joy 26:30

23d ago26:30

26:30

Today, John explores the importance of finding joy in everyday moments and not putting too much weight on big things. He emphasizes the practice of rewiring oneself to focus on the present, appreciating the small things in life, and avoiding the trap of constantly wanting more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more …

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Healing & Repairing (The Self) 20:24

1M ago20:24

20:24

Today, John discusses the importance of healing and allowing the past to die in order to create new experiences and rewire the body and mind. He also emphasizes the significance of giving oneself corrective experiences to reparent the inner child, how to create a sense of safety, and provides examples of how this can be done in relationships and ev…

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How Curses Can Be Our Gifts 36:15

1M ago36:15

36:15

Today, John and Vanessa discuss various topics, including permission, late-night eating habits, ADHD, switching things up in relationships, and the concept of turning curses into gifts. They also explore the idea of self-acceptance, using their unique traits as superpowers, and more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn…

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5 Signs You're Settling In Your Relationship 29:57

1M ago29:57

29:57

Today, John and Vanessa discuss five signs you may be settling in your relationship. They also touch on the importance of personal growth, the impact of friends and family on relationships, overcompensating in other areas of life, subtle resentment, rationalizing mediocrity, and more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Lear…

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What If We're Still Living Together After We Broke Up? 17:19

1M ago17:19

17:19

In this episode, John answers two questions from listeners, and gives detailed advice on what they should do. What if I have feelings for someone who is now seeing someone else? Should I tell them? And how do I move on from my ex if I'm still living with them? Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choi…

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Rad Dads 2: The Importance of Adventure 1:37:22

1M ago1:37:22

1:37:22

In this episode, John interviews rad dads and talks about their experiences growing up with single mothers, the influence of male figures in their lives, the joys and struggles of being fathers, societal expectations and judgments surrounding parenting. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Vi…

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How To Fight Without Fighting (Part 3) 53:25

1M ago53:25

53:25

In this episode, John and Vanessa explore the concept of repair in relationships, and the importance of understanding each other's needs. They dive into the dynamics of communication, the balance of power in repair, and the role of self-awareness in relationships. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad …

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How To Fight Without Fighting (Part 2) 37:46

1M ago37:46

37:46

In this episode, John and Vanessa answer questions from couples, and discuss the importance of open communication and intentionality in relationships. They emphasize the need for couples to understand each other's love languages, make intentional efforts to meet each other's needs, using curiosity to navigate conflicts / understand each other's per…

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How To Fight Without Fighting (Part 1) 21:04

2M ago21:04

21:04

In this episode, John and Vanessa discuss the value of fighting in relationships and how to fight without actually fighting. They emphasize the importance of understanding before trying to be understood, shifting from a combative approach to a more empathetic one, being aware of one's own triggers / reactions during conflicts, and so much more. Fol…

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The 12 Principles of a Healthy Relationship 34:25

2M ago34:25

34:25

In this episode, John and Vanessa host a workshop for couples, and read off a list of twelve principles every healthy relationship must have. They talk about the importance of protecting the safety and security of the relationship, transparency and communication, supporting each other in distress, never threatening the existence of the relationship…

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Things To Look For When Investing In Someone (Part 3) 12:11

2M ago12:11

12:11

In this episode, John discusses the importance of investing in someone who has a life and the ability to rebuild it. He emphasizes that when two people have their own lives and passions, it creates a healthy boundary and stabilizes the relationship. He also highlights the significance of resilience, growth mindset, personal development in building …

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Things To Look For When Investing In Someone (Part 2) 12:21

2M ago12:21

12:21

In this episode, John discusses the importance of finding someone with a fire in their belly when investing in a relationship. He emphasizes the need to know where you're going before asking who's going with you, and shares his personal journey of self-discovery and finding purpose. He also highlights the significance of having a passion, but to be…

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Things To Look For When Investing In Someone (Part 1) 14:12

2M ago14:12

14:12

In this episode, John discusses the importance of taking ownership in relationships. He explains that someone who takes ownership is willing to accept responsibility for their actions and behaviors, rather than being defensive or blaming others. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podc…

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Turning Breakups Into Breakthroughs 23:57

2M ago23:57

23:57

In this episode, John discusses the process of turning a breakup into a breakthrough. He emphasizes the importance of reframing the story of a breakup, swimming past the breakers, healing emotional triggers, breaking up with oneself, letting go of attachments, and embracing rebirth. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn …

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Is Pornography Cheating, Can Long Distance Work, and We Don't Play Sports with Shaun Galanos 45:18

2M ago45:18

45:18

In this episode, John brings on Shaun (The Love Drive) to talk about how hurtful ghosting can be, what "mommy issues" look like in relationships, whether long distance relationships can work or not, the inability to say "I love you," why you keep attracting unavailable partners, if watching pornography is cheating, and more. Follow John on Instagra…

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Things I'm Currently Struggling With 32:06

2M ago32:06

32:06

In this episode, John reflects things he's currently struggling with. He shares insights on finding joy in simple moments, the importance of self-awareness and self-acceptance, challenges of parenting and the need for self-compassion, exploring and expanding sexuality later in life, the need for patience and trust in the process, and much more. Fol…

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Relationships: The Grit, Not The Shine 10:17

2M ago10:17

10:17

In this episode, John discusses the four pillars of a healthy relationship, embracing the realities of a relationship, and the beauty in the struggle. He emphasizes the importance of chemistry, maintaining separate identities, aligning on a common vision, and building a connection in a relationship. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about…

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My P*ssy Knows Things & My Wife Won't Give Me Blowjobs Anymore 12:09

2M ago12:09

12:09

In this episode, John reads a story, "My P*ssy Knows Things," that explores the impact of past relationships on present behavior and emotional well-being. He also dives into the concept of grieving the loss of a relationship, the importance of accepting and processing associated emotions, being resistant to therapy, the transformation that occurs w…

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Yoni Massages, Our Definition of Love, and Circumcision with Shaun Galanos 1:03:12

3M ago1:03:12

1:03:12

In this episode, John talks to Shaun Galanos (The Love Drive) about various topics including fear of missing out (FOMO), polyamory, dating rejection, and attachment styles. They also highlight the importance of communication, emotional regulation, coping with dating rejection, and redefining what rejection means. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find …

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Complements Calm Our Nervous System 31:02

3M ago31:02

31:02

In this episode, John debriefs with Sarah and Meredith about the most recent TAT retreat on the drive home. They all talk about what their role is, their revelations running the retreats, the lessons they've learned in each retreat, the importance of breath work, how therapeutic cooking is, how to calm down your nervous system, and much more. Follo…

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How Do You Know If You Love Someone? 15:09

3M ago15:09

15:09

In this episode, John talks about love. He defines what his definition of love used to be, and what it is now. He also talks about ways to know if you love someone, feelings to look for, how real love is about embracing conflict - not jumping ship the second things start to feel hard, and much more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about…

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How to Love Without Losing Your Mind with Todd Baratz 39:06

3M ago39:06

39:06

In this episode, John interviews Todd Baratz, a male sex therapist, about love and intimacy. They discuss the concept of 'losing your mind' when falling in love and the challenges that arise in relationships. Todd also shares his personal journey about how he became a therapist, talks about the changing attitudes towards sex and the stigma that sti…

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A Private Message To My Break Up Peeps 20:40

3M ago20:40

20:40

In this bonus episode, John has an encouraging message for those going through a break up. He opens up about break ups he's been through, lessons he's learned from each, and gives tips on how to break through your break up if you're currently going through one. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad cho…

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Ask Angry: I Found My Husband's Tinder Account & Should I Kiss My Friend? 30:52

3M ago30:52

30:52

In this episode, John starts with a list of "Johnisms" before answering listener's questions. John gives advice on what to do if you have feelings for a friend, how to rebuild trust in a marriage after it's been broken, and how to handle finding your significant other's secret Tinder account. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John H…

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Needing an Escape v.s. Needing to Escape 18:39

3M ago18:39

18:39

In this episode, John talks about poor habits, how we all have them, and how taking small steps towards breaking the habits is more successful than stopping the habits cold turkey. He also talks about being depressed when life feels "boring," and how to that leads to feelings of wanting to escape. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about J…

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Do a Life Audit 19:23

3M ago19:23

19:23

In this episode, John talks about how doing a life audit on yourself will help strengthen the relationship you have with your partner and others. He explains how the more you focus on yourself, the more you'll be able to bring to the table with others, and walks through the process of what giving yourself a life audit looks like. Follow John on Ins…

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The Science Behind Joy and Why It Needs To Be a Daily Practice 41:00

3M ago41:00

41:00

In this episode, John brings on Dr. MC McDonald to discuss the concept of awe and the science behind joy. They explore the importance of finding joy in small moments, activating the hope circuit in the brain, and also debunk some misconceptions about what brings joy, such as affirmations. The conversation also touches on topics like trauma, imagina…

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Ask Angry: Am I Avoidant, or Just Not Really Into Them? 17:19

3M ago17:19

17:19

In this episode, John answers a listener's question after they've emailed him for advice about their current relationship. He dives into avoidant attachment styles, and gives advice on how to know if you're attachment style is to blame for feeling "suffocated" in the relationship, or if you're only feeling this way because deep down you know that y…

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Divorce For Women in Their 40's, Conscious Uncoupling, and Self Pleasure as a Way to Expand with Luci Lampe 48:14

3M ago48:14

48:14

In this episode, John Kim and Luci Lampe discuss the concept of conscious self-pleasure and its impact on personal growth and relationships. They also explore how shame and societal conditioning can hinder sexual expression and the importance of approaching self-pleasure with presence and mindfulness. Luci Lampe is a mom of 4, trauma-informed sex &…

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How Tracing Old Love Definitions Destroys Our Relationships 22:18

3M ago22:18

22:18

In this episode, John explores the importance of redefining our definitions of love as we grow and change. He also highlights how our definitions of love are always changing, the challenges and beauty of love, and the importance of aligning definitions with our partners. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about y…

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How To Show Up In Your Relationship 15:51

3M ago15:51

15:51

In this episode, John talks about how to express your needs, and show up in your relationship when you're fighting. He discusses the importance of knowing what is healthy vs unhealthy ways of showing up during conflict, and gives examples of what each looks like. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad c…

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Is My Attachment Style Being Activated? 27:57

3M ago27:57

27:57

In this episode, John records a live podcast in his TAT Circle community where he answers listeners' questions, and does a deep dive on attachment styles. He talks about the honeymoon phase of a relationship, what's really happening when you feel like your attachment is being activated, and how to tell if it's your attachment style that's being tri…

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How To Want Loosely & Choose Better Thought Patterns 21:43

4M ago21:43

21:43

In this episode, John talks about thought patterns, and why we find ourselves stuck in negative thought patterns more than positive ones. He dives into different steps to take when you find yourself spiraling, and how to practice wanting things loosely. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Vi…

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Recovering From Codependency 16:29

4M ago16:29

16:29

In this episode, John and Vanessa talk about recovering from codependency. They talk about the steps you need to take, such as having awareness and setting boundaries, what recovering from codependency really looks like in your life and relationships, and how recovery doesn't happen overnight. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John …

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Common Reasons Why People Cheat 21:49

4M ago21:49

21:49

In this episode, John focuses on cheating and infidelity. He discusses common reasons why people cheat, including anger or revenge, falling out of love, feeling unappreciated, lack of commitment, sexual desire, and situational opportunity. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastcho…

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3 Ways to Elevate Your Partner and Relationship 29:11

4M ago29:11

29:11

In this episode, John does a deep dive on three different ways you can elevate your partner and relationship by being curious about your partner and their experiences, championing their story, and asking them how you can work on fulfilling their needs. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Vis…

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