Chinese save 45 percent of their income vs Americans only saving 5 percent, We are slaves of our habits. Change your habits to a better one. We often buy emotionally and justify rationally. Why does the word splurge means spending money vs having fun, going for a walk, getting together with friends and other healthier choices? Every dollar you save…

Some say you don't have to worry about saving since you might be dead by tomorrow. My question is, have you died over the past several years :) Most likely you won't be dead for the next several years as well. These are simple stats. There are a lot of good videos online about how to save. In this podcast I would like to get you thinking on making …

If you are the target of gossip: 1. Ask the news bearer to stop the gossiper from gossiping and ask the gossiper to come to you. Help the news bearer to be a gossip stopper with all the steps above. 2. Then ask for details and the exact words that were said behind your back, and facts, versus the news bearer's version of the facts. In order to bond…

There are 3 types of people: People who talk about people, people who talk about the news and people who talk about ideas. You can't consume gossip without bias and the presumption of your own experience. First and foremost important is to find out why one gossips: Is it to help/inform you about the absent person, Is it out of jealousy and want to …

Education is the foundation, experience is topping. For further improvement we need further education first. For making decisions in a field where there are no studies or stats to help me make the right choice, I follow this principle: I do not kiss ass because I need to, I do not kick ass because I can. I do it because it's right. After all we wil…

By Mo Nazari

By Mo Nazari

By Mo Nazari

By Mo Nazari

By Mo Nazari

By Mo Nazari

By Mo Nazari

At times we have to set goals to meet eg have to catch a flight you need to be on time otherwise you miss the flight. Other times there is no need to force yourself into a tight schedule and rather you need to change behavior and keep going, e.g. losing weight. The most important thing is the behavior change. as long as you see weight loss is happe…

Should you follow what you like or what you are good at? "liking or passion" are feelings and can be changed at any time. But on the other hand some of our abilities are simply due to how our brain is wired e.g. being good at memorizing stuff or understanding math and algebra, or hands on traits. We can't change these inherited traits as easy. How …

First one should decide what's their main purpose in life, a "mission statement", then the smaller goals can be aligned to get there. I hope the main purpose in life is to have a good life, be happy. In that case the following are some of the main contributors to happiness: Income ($85,000.00 yearly/household income), health, social connections, pu…

What are the things that kill your passion: 1. When you say "I don't care". 2. When you don't get good at something and don't succeed. Success fuels passion more than passion fuels success. 3. Lack of need. When you start feeling comfortable with where you are in life. You may need to create a new goal. To live a life full of meaning and value, oft…

You are not born with passion, you create passion. Don't find your passion, learn how to become passionate about the things that make your life better. What do we need to get passionate about? The things we NEED in life, such as work, cooking, cleaning, exercise, dealing with people, problem solving, physical and mental health, social skills, etc. …

Passion is what you want to do vs what you have to do. If passion takes control of you, it's an addiction. Passion should make life better. Toxic passion damages your life more than improving it. Passion is the spice of life. Life without passion is like food with no flavor, blah! If you get better at something there are more chances you become pas…

Some examples of making wrong connections: party with drinking, party or drinking with having a good time. At times we draw conclusions from extraordinary situations, not the most common ones. I say we should draw conclusion from the rules or exceptions to the rule. What happens most often vs what happened in one case scenario. I believe the root c…

At times we make mistakes e.g. driving into the garage door and call ourselves or others Stupid although it is a mistake or Accident. Wrong wordings result in wrong conclusions and wrong feelings. The most simple way to avoid making wrong conclusions is asking questions versus trying to come up with a random answer. What would happen if we didn't h…

At times we make mistakes e.g. driving into the garage door and call ourselves or others Stupid although it is a mistake or Accident. Wrong wordings result in wrong conclusions and wrong feelings. The most simple way to avoid making wrong conclusions is asking questions versus trying to come up with a random answer. What would happen if we didn't h…

It is true that when ice cream sales go up we have more shark attacks. This is because they occur during the warmer months. However the correlation between the two has nothing to do with the causation that the shark attacks are because of the ice cream sale. We make the exact same mistake in other aspects of life. E.g. we call people of a certain r…

Your game becomes better when you play with a good player. When you speak clearly or ask more detailed questions, you encourage the other party to be more clear as well. Although there can be some truth to the generalizations we make, we should always be ready to be proven wrong. Do the right thing regardless of the consequences. After all, we may …

When we speak inaccurately we think and conclude inaccurately, making life complicated Key to success of a business: 10% Competence, 10% Confidence, 80% Clarity Random talks result in random conclusions.By Mo Nazari

How do you describe yourself or someone you know? Do you talk more about the things they have inherited or the one they have chosen? e.g. their height, skin color, were they came from or about their behavior and interests and characters. I can understand that based on the circumstances the answer may vary, but which ones do you focus more on? Say i…

When you speak vaguely, you conclude vaguely. Don't make it your own or other people identity by wording it differently e.g. Were you born in Iran? vs Are you Iranian? Do you work in management? vs Are you a manager? Are a member of the union? instead of Are you a union worker? After all we are talking about our self or another human being who has …

Competition is the thief of joy. When you're competitive, then failure is crushing. Although we all fail over and over in our lifetime. It is said as humans, we are competitive by nature. Regardless, if it is nature or instinct, that doesn't make it right, your gut feeling is not necessarily right. We have changed a lot of other behaviors which are…

The way you think dictates the way you feel. Our value system exacerbates or suppresses our natural behaviors, e.g. if genetically or by nature we have anger or violence issues or maybe less empathetic and caring, if we have the right value system we can modify all these attributes towards becoming better or worse. I believe this is the main reason…

Does your success require others failure? Do we have to step on top of each other to rise or shall we help each other to rise? Intrinsic motivation: Doing something to get better for personal interest. We will keep doing this regardless of the outcome. Enjoy the process, celebrate the result, if there is one. Extrinsic motivation: Doing something t…

It is very unfortunate that we tell our children that they are the smartest, cutest and best, when they are not. Till they join the real world and figure that out on their own, which can be very frustrating. We have to teach our children that everyone makes mistakes and they are no exception. Failure is not falling down, failure is not getting back…

When providing feedback, good or bad, do not exaggerate it, be honest, clear and to the point. And please remember when providing feedback to talk about the one thing about the person you are talking about, not the whole person, his/her race, country, and continent When providing feedback to yourself, self assessment, again be to the point, it is a…

Advice and recommendations can be wrong and dumb. We have tons of them online. Another funny statement: Read between the lines. Isn't this encouraging to assume versus clarity! When receiving feedback to improve a behavior, it is supposed to be ONLY for that behavior and not the whole you. After all, we all make mistakes and have flaws. So we shoul…

There is a difference between feedback, comments, suggestions and order. Feedback is seeing what others see of you, it is about them not you. Feedback cannot be wrong. Comments are the opinions of others about you. Comments can be wrong or correct. Your mama lied to you when she said you're the best and smartest and cutest. We all make mistakes. Ma…

Depending on what you wanna do with the knowledge, knowing a bit can be worse than knowing nothing at all, specially if it makes you THINK you know enough. If the purpose of educating yourself on different subjects is to understand them better and being able to ask smarter questions, then it is good. But if the purpose is to act as if you know, the…

When remembering the Love languages: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Keep in mind only 1 of the 5 options is Gift, have ever asked what their preference is among the following 3 gifts? 1. Gift, 2. cash or gift certificates, or 3. spending time together, doing what they wish. Please do not ma…

What is a gift? and are we doing it right? Are we choosing the gifts and giving them at the right time? How do we change now? Gift meaning: (noun) a thing given willingly to someone without payment; a present. (Verb) give (something) as a gift, especially formally or as a donation or bequest. When giving gifts on occasions like Xmas, birthdays or v…

At times when you offer free help, it is thought you expect something back or there is something wrong. Sometimes we appreciate it after it's gone. And then again miss appreciating what we have. The main reason for employees to leave their job is lack of appreciation. But if someone appreciates your help do not ask to be compensated. Unless you rea…

When helping others make sure to have no expectation or simply clarify what you expect back, otherwise you leave yourself open for disappointment. It is said if you are not feeling well, go help someone. Yes, helping others make you feel better. When someone helps you, simply be grateful for what you are gaining and do not undermine it because they…

Gratitude: 1. When we help someone, do we expect gratitude and what does that look like? Financially, verbally, payback of a type, or none 2. When we receive help, do we express our gratitude and how it looks like? Financially, verbally, pay back or none? 3. Being grateful for what we have in life and not unappreciative sine we don't have some stuf…

We listen in order to; 1. Help out (as a Consultant or Technician). 2. Get help. 3. Have a conversation/Debate. 4. Listening to music or entertainment/movies. "Listen with the intent to understand, not with the intent to reply". Negotiation is more about listening, to see what the issue is so that you can address it. As well, it helps you to connec…

Questions should be open ended, not a "yes or no'' and should be unbiased. Question things and do not seek agreement or a certain answer. The more opinionated and the more ways to identity yourself, the more rigid you are and easier to be attacked and offended. Ask questions vs questioning. Try to understand others more than trying to be understood…

How do you feel when you ask questions? Do you feel smart or not so smart? What do you think of others who ask more questions vs some who think they know enough? There are stupid questions however after asking few stupid questions you learn how to ask smart questions. It's better to have a stupid question than making a smart assumption. It's our re…

Are you aware of any mistakes you are making currently? Do you do anything about them? How do you respond when someone points out your mistakes and will you take action to fix it? We should be aware that when someone points out your mistakes, it is simply referring to those mistakes and not you as a person. Seek feedback; the highlights, the good a…

How do you feel about people who have opinions about everything and anything? Confidence comes because one knows a lot or doesn't know much at all. Often the second one is the main reason. Ask a genuine question and be ready for any answer, try not to expect an answer you're looking for. Not any opinion counts, only the educated ones do. We should …

Do you need to have an opinion, and if so are you qualified to have an opinion? How do you develop an opinion? When flying we don't tell the pilot to "push that button." We don't do this simply because we are not experienced pilot for that specific plane. Then why do we allow ourselves to have opinions on economy, politics, how the country should r…

How much do you know before you allow yourself to develop an opinion? When one develops an opinion, one doesn't see a need to ask questions. Killing the curiosity makes one more closed minded. Ask the questions but refrain from developing opinions. Questioning helps the other party improve as well. I ask questions from the people who have the educa…

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