Being lost is the exact same as exploring. The only difference is a sense of adventure. Tommy and Dusty use their friendship to navigate all the topics that interest and confuse them: Why do politics make us hate each other? Should we teach children obedience or compassion? Are fedoras the worst kind of hat? Is happiness more about frequency or intensity? Weekly episodes and guests from all walks of life take their friendship on a constantly evolving journey to places they do not know ... YET!
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#47 - On Joe Rogan, Recorded Lives and The Value of Apologies
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The Lost Boys discuss the latest Joe Rogan controversy, the fear and accountability of having your entire life recorded, and what forgiveness and apology mean when it's hard to hide your flaws. Tommy's Recommendation: Weber's Horseradish Mustard Dusty's Recommendation: Knees Over Toes Guy LLWL: The only difference in being lost and being on an adve…
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#46 - Marathons, Patrick Mahomes and Loving Sports
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The Lost Boys reunite after a long and restorative winter break. Dusty talks about Running the Disney Marathon, highlights and lessons learned. With Tommy's Cowboys in the off-season and Dusty's Chiefs surviving a miraculous game, the guys ponder: Is being a sports fan worth it? Finally two great recommendations: Find Ourselves QoW: "Are any of my …
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#45 - Christmas Songs Draft, The Top 10 Holiday Tunes
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The Lost Boys draft their favorite Christmas songs, debate their merits, and deck the holes (of their ears) with boughs of holly. Find Ourselves QoW: "What have my past relationships taught me about myself? Good and bad?" Tommy's Recommendation: Succession (again) on HBO Max Dusty's Recommendation: 60 Songs That Explain the 90s on Spotify LLWL: The…
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#44 - Gratitude: Part II (One Year Later)
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The Lost Boys address Tommy's use of ranch on Mexican food before looking back on a year of podcasts. They ruminate on both odd and natural things that they are grateful for before hitting the weekly segments. Find Ourselves QoW: "Whose life seems most fulfilling to me? What does their life look like?" Tommy's Recommendation: Enjoy the holidays! Re…
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#43: Mike Mabunga Returns! - Distance Running, Achievements, and Peace of Mind
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Two of the three guys on this podcast set personal records at the City of Oaks Half Marathon in early November. Mike Mabunga finished in the top 100 out of 1,600+ runners. The guys discuss what physical exhaustion means to them, and why running is unique amongst exercise options. Find Ourselves QoW: "When do you feel most helpful to others?" Tommy'…
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#42 - Beards, Energy Drinks, and Getting Worse to Get Better
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The Lost Boys both turned one year older in the last month. They discuss trends and preferences that have crept in, and how the simpler things have become more appealing even as the lives they're responsible for become more complex. Find Ourselves QoW: "What do I need help with currently? Who can help me? How can I help myself?" Tommy's Recommendat…
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The Lost Boys joined a team to row 285,381 meters (over 6 marathons) in 24 hours to raise awareness and funding for cancer research. This podcast was recorded during the 24th hour of the effort, and includes guests and Row24 team members Mike Morales and Quint Coward. If you'd like to donate to The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society through Row24, fundrai…
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#40 - Urgency vs Importance, and Oh The Places You'll Go
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The Lost Boys discuss the Dr. Seuess classic, Oh, The Places You'll Go, before getting into how to divide their lives between what matters long-term and how "urgency" prevents us from working on what matters. Find Ourselves QoW: "What am I putting off that feels important? Why am I avoiding it?" Tommy's Recommendation: Take your kids to a pumpkin p…
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#39 - Row24 Is Upon Us! How much does charity work REALLY help?
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Tommy and Dusty talk about Row24: an event where they will keep a rowing machine going for 24 straight hours to raise money for The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society. Why do something so monotonous, difficult and weird? Why not just ask for money? Does $15,000 really make a difference in curing cancer? Opinions rage. Want to donate to Row24? CLICK HERE F…
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#38 - How do you know if you're a good dad?
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The Lost Boys talk about self-discovery through physical trials before discussing the primary struggle of the well-meaning parent: How much do you owe your kids? Is it better to be wholly devoted to the child's well-being, or should parents be focused on becoming their best self even if it means less time with the kids? Find Ourselves QoW: "I want …
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#37: Trent Tallent - Enduring Principles from Ironman Training
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Trent Tallent is a man of many, well, talents. Talking with The Lost Boys, he focuses primarily on his experience in endurance training and what it's taught him about commitment, results, and the long-term effects of choosing difficult experiences. The Lost Boy who writes these episode summaries will add some personal commentary in saying that this…
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#36 - Why You Should Run a Marathon, and Competition vs Winning
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Tommy almost gets in a fight while coaching a youth basketball game. Dusty tries to convince Tommy of the life-changing power of running 26.2 miles. Find Ourselves QoW: "Are any of my insecurities hurting anyone else by accident?" Tommy's Recommendation: Get a massage (His recent visit: The Now) Dusty's Recommendation: What I Talk About When I Talk…
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#35: Garrett Gore - College Baseball, Finding Faith and Resilience in Tragedy
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Garrett Gore played 4 years of Division 1 baseball at University of North Carolina, including two trips to the finals of the College World Series. Today, he's a sports agent third, father second, and husband first. The Lost Boys chat with Garrett about prioritizing principles, and how that has granted stability even through the most trying of times…
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#34: Jon Ensign - Thoughts on Afghanistan, Historical Context, and Soldiers vs Politics
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The Lost Boys are joined by former Marine Officer Jon Ensign who spent time in Afghanistan. They discuss the withdrawal of American troops from the territory, and Jon gives some personal insight and historical context to the current events. Find Ourselves QoW: "Who do I feel most myself around? Why?" Tommy's Recommendation: Vivo on Netflix Dusty's …
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#33 - Leaving the Past Behind, Meaningful Purchases vs. Regretful Purchases
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The Lost Boys debate an Aubrey Marcus Instagram post that says the past is dead and one should only live in the present. They go on to talk about couches, sneakers, marathons and light bulbs. Somehow, it all fits together.. Find Ourselves QoW: "What purchase has meant the most to me recently? What is a purchase that I could have done without?" Tomm…
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The Lost Boys talk about not being a slave to their personal ideologies, what spiritual beliefs are worth holding onto no matter the evidence, and how it all relates to achieving goals. Find Ourselves QoW: "What's one small step I can take today towards a goal that feels out of reach?" Tommy's Recommendation: Brené with Tim Ferriss and Dax Shepard …
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#31 - Should Richard Branson use Billions of $$$ to go to space, feed the hungry, or just pay his taxes?
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The Lost Boys debate about whether going to space has any merit. Should society be able to tell billionaires how to spend their money? Find Ourselves QoW: "Who do I envy? Why do I envy them?" Tommy's Recommendation: The Harry Potter Movies, maybe you've heard of them. Dusty's Recommendation: Animal Kingdom (a family crime drama streaming on Amazon …
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#30 - What is real wealth? Is the pursuit of wealth unhealthy? Why should I care?
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The Lost Boys--coming in at a combined weight of nearly 380 pounds!--talk about the national obsession with wealth. What is it based on? Does wealth make us better or worse people? Is it more moral to lean socialist or capitalist? They end on an uplifting Question of the Week about creating space and being present. Find Ourselves QoW: "What's the b…
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The Lost Boys talk about checking out from work completely, how to create a recurring feeling of joy instead of resentment, and ace their weekly segments. Find Ourselves QoW: "What is the most fun I can remember having recently? What was I doing? Who was I with?" Tommy's Recommendation: Luca on Disney Plus Dusty's Recommendation: Brave New World by…
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#28: Ryan Varga - HRV and the Healthy Balance of Life vs. Metrics
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Ryan Varga is a lifestyle photographer who's done work for brands like Lululemon. He talks to Tommy and Dusty about breathing practices to improve Heart Rate Variability (HRV), a metric used gauge the health of a person's nervous system. The guys also talk about meditation, and when measuring health becomes counterproductive. Find Ourselves QoW: "W…
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#27 - Talking to Famous People, Why Jealousy is Helpful, and "Love is Hard"
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Tommy and Dusty discuss some insights from the book "Raising an Adult" and explore some idioms around envy and addiction. They also share stories of poorly managed run-ins with celebrities before discussing some significant lessons each has learned about love. Find Ourselves QoW: "What did the people who raised me teach me about love? What lessons …
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The Lost Boys shake off the rust from a week of vacation to discuss whether dolphins are superior to people, when it's okay to quit on your goals, and why to remind yourself: "You are enough." Find Ourselves QoW: "What insecurity is currently holding me back the most?" Tommy's Recommendation: The app CHIPR, and traveling with your kids. Dusty's Rec…
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#25: Zach Westerbeck - Overcoming Anxiety, Brain Health, and Why Getting Help Makes Us Happy
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Zach Westerbeck speaks, writes and advocates for mental health. Zach most often works with 18-24-year-olds, and his book, You're Not Alone: The Only Book You'll Ever Need to Overcome Anxiety and Depression, can feel like an introduction to your own brain. Dusty and Tommy talk to Zach about why we forget that the brain is part of the body, Zach's ow…
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#24 - Sensitive Dads & Corporate Emotional Training
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Tommy and Dusty discuss their awareness and defensiveness about trying to raise children. Tommy bought an Apple Watch. Dusty had a spat with his wife. They both share lessons from recent, corporate emotional training given to them by Ph.D.'s and authors, including Brene Brown, Dr. Robert Kegan, and Emily and Amelia Nagoski. Find Ourselves QoW: "Wha…
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#23 - Seeing Yourself Clearly and the Responsibility of Knowledge
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Tommy and Dusty have a brain dump. Topics include: 90s Jim Carrey as a role model for humor, what to do with conviction about problems too big to fix, and why knowing yourself well matters. Also, how do you bring the best version of you into more of your life? . Find Ourselves QoW: "What's a non-negotiable in my life?" Tommy's Recommendation: Get a…
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#22: Jon Ensign - On Being a Marine, The Value of Taking Risks, and Common Sense
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Jon Ensign was a Marine Officer for four years. He talks with Tommy and Dusty about his military life in Afghanistan, ranging from the everyday mundane to the harrowing intensity of combat. In a broad-ranging discussion, Jon shares how preparation for and recovery from his experiences changed his perspective on humanity, deepened his gratitude for …
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#21 - Derek Chauvin Verdict, The WeWork Documentary, and How to Recognize Broken Systems
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Tommy and Dusty work through their initial feelings about the Derek Chauvin trial. Then they discuss Adam Neumann, the former CEO of WeWork, responsible for one of the fastest and most dramatic rise and falls of a company the world has ever seen. Why do we fall for charismatic leaders? How do we defend agains tour own gullibility? What can be done …
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#20: Quint Coward - CrossFit Quarterfinalist on Why Fitness is Worth the Effort, Plus: The Daunte Wright Shooting
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In 2021, nearly 30,000 men entered the Men (35-39) Division of the CrossFit Open. Quint Coward outperformed 29,500 of them and claimed a spot in the CrossFit Quarterfinals. Quint talks about his 7-year CrossFit journey, how he commits to routine and nutrition to reach a high-level of performance, and what level of happiness and ability his fitness …
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#19 - Talking to Strangers and Intermittent Fasting
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Tommy and Dusty talk about the first four days of Tommy's commitment to intermittent fasting before discussing some financial ideas originating from last week's podcast with Matt Pittman, and some lessons from Malcolm Gladwell's book, Talking to Strangers. Find Ourselves QoW: "Are any of my insecurities hurting anyone else by accident?" Tommy's Rec…
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#18: Matt Pittman - On Financial Freedom, Happy Sacrifices, and Doing What You Love
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Matt Pittman is a real estate entrepreneur who has a passion for helping people work past the intimidating complexities of economic opportunities and unlock themselves from financial stress and fear. Tommy and Dusty talk to him about how he decides to take chances and make decisions in business while also picking up some money-related parenting and…
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#17 - Guns in America and What to Teach the Kids
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Tommy and Dusty get a little more lost than usual in the wake of another American shooting. They discuss American pride versus guilt and the difficulty of balancing a pro-gun reality versus a non-violent dream. The guys also discuss their personal game plans for taking down a sushi dinner, and what their kids must learn before they turn 18 and fly …
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#16: Hannah Ostoj - On Functional Nutrition, Food As Medicine, and Holistic Health
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Are you getting hydrated when you drink a La Croix? Questions like these are why we all need a Hannah Ostoj in our lives. Hannah is a functional nutritionist with a deep knowledge and appreciation for the individual's unique relationship to their food. Join Tommy and Dusty for a really fun conversation with Hannah about fasting, hydration, food ide…
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#15: Sandy Roberts - On Running, Grieving Well, and Leading with Vulnerability
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Sandy Roberts is a podcaster, pastor, realtor, husband and one of the forces behind Sir Walter Miler. A great runner, Sandy's best mile time is 4:01.21, less than 2-seconds from joining the Sub-4:00 Miler Club, an achievement more rare than climbing Mt. Everest. In this episode, Sandy shares his past joy, determination and frustration that pivots a…
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Tommy and Dusty chit chat about some self-care habits (1:45) before jumping into a list of positive outcomes brought about by pandemic(14:45). Find Ourselves QoW: "What do I need to get off my chest?" (1:13:00) Tommy's Recommendation: Therapy Dusty's Recommendation: Irresistible on HBO Max Please rate and review the podcast, and share it with anyon…
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#13 - Rush Limbaugh, the silliness of current events, and rewriting history
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Dusty and Tommy discuss the death of Rush Limbaugh and whether following current events in the news matters, or if the business of journalism has erased the mission of journalism. Then, they grapple with the some emotional reactions to America's ugly past, and how it feels to "rewrite history." Find Ourselves QoW: "In what ways do I want to be like…
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#12: Grace Casey: On Fixing our Inputs, Transracial Adoption and Remembering to Play
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Grace Casey is the woman behind Marrow Design. Grace speaks with Tommy and Dusty about managing life after brain surgery, the complexities and joys involved with the transracial adoption of her two children, and how brokenness is an incredible opportunity for blessing. She shares how she controls inputs to evolve her perspective, and why she emphas…
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With Tom Brady heading to another Super Bowl and Mat Fraser retiring after 5 years as a CrossFit champion, Dusty and Tommy discuss what it must be like to be the best in one's field. Is it worth it? Finding Ourselves QoW: "What do I keep doing that keeps hurting? Why do I keep repeating this behavior?" Tommy's Recommendation: Yellowstone on Peacock…
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#10: Mike Mabunga - On Traveling the World and Making Room for the Unexpected
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Mike Mabunga left the tech industry in 2018 to travel the world. He started in Europe, made his way across southeast Asia with plans to land on the coast of Australia. Talking with Tommy and Dusty, he shares lessons of self-discovery, empathy for others, and why braving new events is so beneficial. Find Ourselves QoW: "What's the most exciting impr…
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#9 - Skeptical or optimistic after the Biden/Harris inauguration?
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Dusty and Tommy explore emotions around this week's presidential inauguration. Is a new president good, bad, or business as usual for individual American's? How does the first female vice-president impact our nation? Find Ourselves QoW: "What is one truth I've recently come to terms with?" Tommy's Recommendation: Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to…
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#8: Jeremy Mohler - On Trauma, Modern Masculinity, and the Importance of Knowing Your Roots
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Jeremy Mohler is a writer who actively advocates for public institutions that work for all of us, not just the wealthy few. His writing has appeared in the Washington Post, USA Today, Jacobin, and elsewhere. Jeremy is also a mindfulness coach. His podcast, Meditation for the 99%, takes meditation out of faraway monasteries, expensive retreat center…
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#7 - What Does Being An American Mean Anymore?
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Tommy and Dusty reunite after the historic events of January 6th, 2021. They attempt to unravel the complicated emotions and implications of a tragic day. In other news: Dusty's baby girl arrived on January 5th! Find Ourselves QoW: "How would I describe my relationship with myself?" Tommy's Recommendation: Disney and Pixar's Soul Dusty's Recommenda…
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#6 - How to Build an Accountability Mirror to Achieve Your Goals (Dusty Solo)
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With Tommy in life-altering shoulder surgery, Dusty braves a solo podcast to explain the why and how of utilizing an accountability mirror. Dusty has used an accountability mirror eery day for 104 straight weeks and gives it full credit for the following: Running the Chicago Marathon Decreasing his Screen Time by 90min a day (giving him back the eq…
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#5 - On New Beginnings, Structuring Annual Goals, and Why Intimidation Never Goes Away
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A friend's engagement gets Tommy and Dusty thinking about how they proposed to their own wives, and what is special and unique about the insecurity and hope of that moment. On the topic of new beginnings, they discuss goals 2021 and the methodology for achieving those goals. We're Not Really Strangers question of the week: "Who intimidates me? Why …
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#4: Ryan Varga - On Photography, Why Art is a Skill, and the Value of Craft
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Ryan Varga is a lifestyle photographer living in Denver Colorado. He's done work for brands like Nike and Lululemon Athletica. He's developed this avenue of creative expression while working a full-time job in the tech industry, and is currently exploring his own identity through the craft. Tommy and Dusty talk to him about why having a creative ou…
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#3 - The Best Christmas Movie of All Time
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Tommy and Dusty compare their personal Top 5 Christmas movie lists in a holly-jolly episode, eventually settling on a consensus pick for the best Christmas movie ever made. Finding Ourselves Question of the Week from We're Not Really Strangers: "What can I be kinder towards myself for today?" Tommy's Small Business Recommendation: Sola Coffee Dusty…
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Tommy helps Dusty commemorate the 4-year anniversary week of his leukemia diagnosis (and the subsequent postponement of his wedding). Discussion includes rebounding from trauma, how lows are necessary for trauma, and the importance of not letting ideas of a past self define one's present and future. To wrap, Tommy & Dusty tackle one question from t…
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Tommy and Dusty explain what you can expect from Looks Like We're Lost. Then, in honor of the Thanksgiving holiday, they discuss their daily gratitude practices and why thankfulness has improved their quality of life. Questions of the week: Tommy: Is there a recent gift or action that has created an immense amount of gratitude in your life? Dusty: …
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