#48 - On the Origins of Emotional Attachments and Codependency

A Way Beyond the Rainbow

In a series of episodes on emotional attachments, dependency and codependency, my friend Amina joins me to discuss the origins and characteristics of these themes as well as relevant and practical healing and recovery work.
In this episode, we talk about the origins of attachment styles in adulthood, the four styles of adult attachment, and we introduce the topic of codependency. Why am I anxious in my relationships with others? Why am I avoidant of commitment and intimacy? What is codependency and where does it come from? These and other questions are addressed in this episode.
References used and resources mentioned in this episode:
- Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody
- Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattle
- No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover
- How To Do The Work by Dr. Nicole LePera
- Ross Rosenberg’s videos on codependency and self-love deficit disorder pyramids
- An explanation of Adult attachment styles

Chapters

1. #48 - On the Origins of Emotional Attachments and Codependency (00:00:00)

2. Episode Introduction (00:00:39)

3. Adulthood Attachment Styles and Trauma Bonding (00:03:53)

4. Four Categories of Adult Attachment Styles (00:28:42)

5. On Codependency (00:42:29)

6. Ending Remarks (00:57:25)