#61 - On Sexual Abuse (Part II)

A Way Beyond the Rainbow

*TRIGGER WARNING: Episode discusses themes of sexual abuse, assault and rape*
This is part II of a 2-episode series on the topic of sexual abuse, assault and rape.
In this episode, we discuss the process of defining and processing sexual abuse experiences and outline stages of healing, practical work and different coping strategies. We also cover the topic of rape, as well as the intricacies involved with disclosing sexual abuse experiences to loved ones. We also offer tips to parents, spouses, family members and friends of individuals who experienced sexual abuse or rape.
What are some barriers that prevent sexual abuse survivors from healing and recovering? What are the different stages of recovery, and what are practical recommendations to help me heal? Should I disclose my sexual abuse trauma to my spouse, family or friends, and how can I do that? These and other questions are explored in this episode.

References used and resources mentioned in the episode:
- Dr. Jim Hopper’s website
- Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse, by Mic Hunter
- Trauma and Recovery, by Judith Herman
- The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse, by Laura Davis (book and workbook)
- Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing, by Jay Stringer
- Sexual Assault Resource Guide from HealthLine
- Recommended books and films from the "1in6" website

Male-oriented websites, support groups and resources: "1in6" website, Male Survivor website, Mankind Initiative (UK), Dr. Richard Gartner’s website, Living Well website, British Columbia Society for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

For males and females:
- Sexual Assault Demonstration Initiative: Online support groups and general resources for survivors of sexual violence
- S.H.E UK
- Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN)
- The Survivors Trust (UK)
- International support: Handbook of International Centers for Survivors of Sexual Assault and Harassment
- National Domestic Violence Hotline (USA)

For parents and families: Stop It Now organization, books and films for parents

Suicide Prevention Resource Guide from HealthLine

Chapters

1. #61 - On Sexual Abuse (Part II) (00:00:00)

2. Episode Introduction (00:00:38)

3. Barriers to Healing (00:02:23)

4. Defining and Processing Unwanted Sexual Experiences (00:06:01)

5. Hunter’s Stages of Recovery (00:15:38)

6. Herman’s Stages of Recovery (00:39:14)

7. Practical Tips and Advice (00:43:38)

8. "Should I disclose to others? How do I do that?" (00:50:35)

9. Important Considerations for Incidents of Rape (01:01:56)

10. To Parents, Families, Spouses, Friends and Communities (01:05:02)

11. Final Words (01:11:54)

12. Ending Remarks (01:14:42)