Exploring the Root of Your Anger: What Lies Beneath | 96
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In this episode, we're continuing our conversation on the topic of anger and exploring its roots. We'll be addressing the underlying emotions that drive our anger and sharing stories and strategies to help you process and manage this powerful emotion in a healthy way.
Anger is an emotion that can often feel overwhelming and uncontrollable. But have you ever stopped to wonder what lies beneath the surface of your anger? What are the root causes that trigger this powerful emotion?
In this episode, titled "Exploring the Root of Your Anger: What Lies Beneath and How To Process Anger for better mental health." we're going to get to the heart of the matter. We'll uncover the hidden layers and dive into the underlying emotions that fuel our anger. We'll be discussing how past experiences, societal expectations, and even hormones can contribute to feeling like a pressure cooker ready to explode. This isn't just about venting our frustrations but understanding the deeper reasons behind our anger.
We'll be exploring the impact of anger during menopause, a topic often overlooked but so important to address. Our personal stories and experiences will shed light on the challenges and transformations that arise during this season of life. We'll also be sharing insights and strategies on how to process and manage anger in a healthy way. Recognizing the patterns, practicing self-care, and seeking God's guidance are all vital steps in finding emotional freedom.
Join us, Lori K. Snyder and Lisa Pinney, as we embark on this inner journey, unraveling the layers of anger and discovering what lies beneath. It's time to release the pressure, find healing, and thrive.
We explore how impostor syndrome can lead to negative thoughts and self-doubt, as well as the impact of past experiences and others' opinions on feeling like an impostor. They discuss the difficulty in recognizing and accepting one's own truth, which can result in feeling insecure and questioning oneself. The hosts emphasize the importance of making a stand for oneself, which often leads to anger or frustration.
The episode takes a unique turn as we discuss how anger during menopause is a topic that is not often discussed in relation to women. We share personal experiences of increased anxiety, anger, and feelings of defeat during menopause. We felt alone and had unfounded anger towards our husbands. We highlight how menopause can bring up unresolved feelings and emotions that were not dealt with previously, making it a transformative time where individuals are forced to pay attention and make necessary shifts.
Throughout the episode, we emphasize the importance of processing and recognizing secondary emotions. We discuss how commonly taught techniques to manage emotions and change negative thoughts may not work with emotions like anger, as they need to be processed on a deeper level. We encourage listeners to sit still, practice the pause, and pay attention to thoughts and feelings. We explore the connection between emotions and organs, emphasizing the importance of taking care of the soul and body as part of holistic wellbeing.
The episode also addresses societal expectations placed on women and the suppression of anger that often comes with it. We discuss the potential negative consequences, such as facing resistance and questions about authority when women assert themselves. However, we highlight how speaking up and expressing one's truth can be empowering and something to be proud of.
We explore the need to recognize patterns, process emotions, and bring them into the light. We stress the importance of addressing natural concerns and taking care of natural needs before seeking spiritual answers. Connecting with God can help fulfill emotional desires and provide comfort, strategy, and guidance in taking bold steps of faith.
In closing, we thanks the guest for her insight and discuss plans to address prolonged anger and its consequences in a future episode. We stress the importance of processing emotions, as suppressing them can lead to destructive behaviors such as lashing out or taking anger out on others. We share personal experiences of suppressing their own emotions in the past and highlight the importance of being honest with oneself and finding healthy ways to sit with emotions and be kind to oneself. Overall, this episode provides valuable insights on processing anger for better mental health.
Topics covered:
- Impostor syndrome and its impact on mental health
- The connection between past experiences and feeling like an impostor
- The difficulty in recognizing and accepting one's own truth
- Insecurity and self-questioning
- The link between standing up for oneself and experiencing anger or frustration
- The need to process and recognize secondary emotions
- Common techniques taught to manage emotions and change negative thoughts
- The often overlooked topic of anger in menopause
- Unresolved feelings and emotions arising during menopause
- The speaker's personal experience with increased anxiety, anger, and feelings of defeat during menopause
- Feeling alone and projecting anger towards a spouse
- Viewing menopause as a transformative time for necessary shifts
- The impact of accumulated emotional baggage during menopause
- Comparisons to Invasion of the Body Snatchers and being pregnant with twins
- The role of hormones in triggering emotional changes
- The importance of self-care and compassion during menopause
- The suppression of anger in women due to societal expectations
- Facing resistance and questioning authority when asserting oneself
- The power and empowerment in speaking up and expressing truth
- The need to feel and acknowledge anger as an emotion
- Processing anger on a deeper level rather than just capturing thoughts
- Practicing stillness and paying attention to thoughts and feelings
- Recognizing and focusing on helpful emotions
- The positive impact of speaking one's truth
- Unhealthy coping mechanisms in unhealthy relationships
- Recognizing patterns and processing emotions
- Bringing emotions and thoughts into the light
- The consequences of withheld care and justified anger
- Addressing natural concerns before seeking spiritual answers
- Connecting with God to fulfill emotional desires
- Appreciating insights and discussing prolonged anger in a future episode
- Acting out and self-harm as a result of unprocessed emotions
- Anger directed outwardly as a result of a perceived chance of winning or taking control
- Suppressed anger when feeling helpless
- Seeking comfort in knowing that God is always present
- Listening to God for comfort, strategy, and guidance in taking bold steps of faith
- Recognizing anger as a secondary emotion
- Using anger to create space or achieve resolution, but not as a solution
- Justifiable reasons for anger and the accompanying underlying emotions
- Destructive expression of anger and inappropriate outlets
- The need for honesty and feeling safe in expressing emotions
- Metaphor of canning and a pressure cooker to describe bottled-up emotions
- Past expression of emotions through passive-aggressive behavior or directed towards children
- Importance of sitting with emotions and being kind to oneself.
Learn how to invite God into your distress and find healing through processing your emotions.
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Listen to our previous episode on processing anger: https://loriksnyder.com/understanding-and-processing-anger-a-pathway-to-better-emotional-health/
Connect with Lisa Pinney https://www.wholenessinpractice.com
Lisa Pinney is the developer of a new app, called The Get Attuned app, which is a tool that allows its users to privately take care of their emotions at home. It is now available in the Google play store, and soon to be in Apple app store.
Connect with Lori K. Snyder
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