Advice we would give our younger self about love
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In this episode on Me and my Therapist, we discuss: Things I wish I had known about love when I was younger
Via the topics discussed in this episode, you will learn:
- The love blueprint
- the rules of the mind as they apply to love
- our fundamental needs as they apply to love
- What is the Ick, and how it impacts dating
- Generational trauma
- The benefits of not playing mind games in dating
- how our childhood experiences form our core beliefs in regard to love
- The no-contact rule, and how it can be toxic in dating
- An introduction to attachment styles
- The psychology of intermittented reinforcement
- Love addiction
- Self love
- The power of forgiveness
- Liberating in love
- the importance of choosing to love
Topics Discussed:
- What I wish I knew 1:
- Sometimes we mistake attraction for familiarity
- We are attracted to what is familiar
- We learn our love blueprint in our early years
- Are you attracting similar partners because of our love blueprint
- Stockholm Syndrome
- Familiarity breeds contempt
- The Ick isn't always back - The Ick is the unfamiliar
- How the Ick impacts relationships
- Making the unfamiliar familiar
- Lean into people who are consistent and loving
- Generational trauma in relationships
- Reviewing my early childhood experiences
- Getting clear on our core beliefs and questioning them
- What I wish I knew 2:
- You can't force someone to love/like you
- The danger of playing the chasing game
- Vulnerability is healthy in a relationship
- Attachment styles
- Why the no-contact rule can be toxic
- The importance of being communicative and open
- Not getting the text back - How to deal with the anxious emotions
- Effective communication
- How to stop being manipulative in dating
- What I wish I knew 3
- Don't equate passion with love
- How love chemicals can cause us to think we're in love
- The rollercoaster of highs and lows of emotions in dating
- Intermittent reinforcement - A study with rats
- The danger of dangling the carrot in dating
- Love addiction
- The importance of being consistent in dating/relationships
- What I wish I knew 4
- Value the importance of consistency
- The importance of being consistent in dating/relationships
- What I wish I knew 5
- You can only love another to the degree that you love yourself
- The Power of self worth
- Empowering others to value themselves
- Behavioural patterns that arise from a lack of self-love
- What I wish I knew 6
- The importance of spending time alone
- The importance of finding yourself
- Not relying on a relationship as a crutch for self-worth
- Doing things for you and getting to know yourself
- When two people meet needing each other, they become half people
- Becoming whole
- Having alone time helps you to establish what you truly want
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