Advice we would give our younger self about love

Me and My Therapist

In this episode on Me and my Therapist, we discuss: Things I wish I had known about love when I was younger

Via the topics discussed in this episode, you will learn:

• The love blueprint
• the rules of the mind as they apply to love
• our fundamental needs as they apply to love
• What is the Ick, and how it impacts dating
• Generational trauma
• The benefits of not playing mind games in dating
• how our childhood experiences form our core beliefs in regard to love
• The no-contact rule, and how it can be toxic in dating
• An introduction to attachment styles
• The psychology of intermittented reinforcement
• Love addiction
• Self love
• The power of forgiveness
• Liberating in love
• the importance of choosing to love

Topics Discussed:

• What I wish I knew 1:
• Sometimes we mistake attraction for familiarity
• We are attracted to what is familiar
• We learn our love blueprint in our early years
• Are you attracting similar partners because of our love blueprint
• Stockholm Syndrome
• Familiarity breeds contempt
• The Ick isn't always back - The Ick is the unfamiliar
• How the Ick impacts relationships
• Making the unfamiliar familiar
• Lean into people who are consistent and loving
• Generational trauma in relationships
• Reviewing my early childhood experiences
• Getting clear on our core beliefs and questioning them
• What I wish I knew 2:
• You can't force someone to love/like you
• The danger of playing the chasing game
• Vulnerability is healthy in a relationship
• Attachment styles
• Why the no-contact rule can be toxic
• The importance of being communicative and open
• Not getting the text back - How to deal with the anxious emotions
• Effective communication
• How to stop being manipulative in dating
• What I wish I knew 3
• Don't equate passion with love
• How love chemicals can cause us to think we're in love
• The rollercoaster of highs and lows of emotions in dating
• Intermittent reinforcement - A study with rats
• The danger of dangling the carrot in dating
• Love addiction
• The importance of being consistent in dating/relationships
• What I wish I knew 4
• Value the importance of consistency
• The importance of being consistent in dating/relationships
• What I wish I knew 5
• You can only love another to the degree that you love yourself
• The Power of self worth
• Empowering others to value themselves
• Behavioural patterns that arise from a lack of self-love
• What I wish I knew 6
• The importance of spending time alone
• The importance of finding yourself
• Not relying on a relationship as a crutch for self-worth
• Doing things for you and getting to know yourself
• When two people meet needing each other, they become half people
• Becoming whole
• Having alone time helps you to establish what you truly want

Me and My therapist Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/meandmytherapist_/
Lauren Violet Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/laurenviolet_/
Molly Scarlett Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/molly.scarlett.therapy/
Molly Scarlett Therapy Website - https://www.mollyscarletttherapy.com/