Episode 9: Coach Jareem Dowling, Assistant Men’s Basketball Coach, Kansas State University, Part 2

The Just A Mom Podcast

Season 4, Episode 9 Show Notes: "Coach Jareem Dowling"

Introduction: In the first part of this episode, we've delved deeply into Coach Jareem Dowling's life, uncovering a powerful journey filled with moments of reflection, tragedy, and resilience. Coach Dowling's story underscores the significance of mental health awareness and the unwavering support of a community, both in times of triumph and struggle.

Admission to a Mental Hospital

• At the suggestion of his brother and medical professionals, Jareem is admitted to a mental hospital. He shares his initial fears and experiences within the hospital.
• He discusses scheduled activities and classes designed to help residents cope with their mental health challenges.

Discovering Common Ground

• Jareem shares his surprise at discovering fellow residents, including NFL players, doctors, and judges, seeking help for their mental health.
• This revelation fosters camaraderie and reduces feelings of isolation.

The Turning Point

• Despite initially wanting to leave the mental hospital, Jareem's condition deteriorates after discharge. He discusses his decision to accept help offered by mental health professionals.

Coping Mechanisms and Openness About Mental Health

• Jareem Dowling discusses using exercises and coping mechanisms to manage his mental health.
• He emphasizes his openness about mental health and how it allows him to make choices that promote well-being.

The Ongoing Journey of Mental Health

• Jareem highlights the importance of continuous efforts in mental health recovery.
• He reflects on accumulating hospital bills during his struggle with mental health.

The Power of a Support System

• Jareem acknowledges the role of friends and family in supporting him during difficult times.

Progress in Addressing Mental Health

• The conversation explores progress in addressing mental health in the medical community and society.

Using Personal Experiences to Help Others

• Jareem shares how he uses his personal experiences to connect with his players and educate them about mental health.

Pressure on Student-Athletes and Mental Health Support

• The pressure on student-athletes and the importance of mental health support are discussed, especially in the context of collegiate sports and the introduction of NIL.

Navigating the Challenges of a Basketball Career

• Coach Reem discusses the often-overlooked side of pursuing a career in basketball.
• He highlights the importance of recognizing the mental toll that comes with pursuing a basketball career and the need for long-term well-being.

Preparing Athletes for Life Beyond Basketball

• The focus shifts to preparing young athletes for life after their sports careers.
• Coach Reem's approach of nurturing players to become good, productive citizens is emphasized.
• The role of Coach Tang and the staff in supporting players is discussed.

The Importance of Kindness and Empathy

• The significance of kindness and empathy is highlighted.
• They discuss the three-times rule and the impact of small acts of kindness.

Not Judging Happiness Based on Smiles

• Coach Reem dispels the misconception of equating smiles with happiness.
• He shares a personal story about his brother, emphasizing the importance of genuinely asking how someone is doing.

Seeking Therapy and Overcoming Stigma

• The conversation touches on the stigma associated with seeking therapy.
• Coach Reem admits his initial reluctance to attend therapy sessions but reveals how it has become a safe space for him.

Focusing on Relationships and Kindness

• The focus shifts to the importance of nurturing relationships with good-hearted individuals.
• Coach Reem expresses his gratitude for the many people who have supported him.

Final Thoughts and Gratitude

• The episode concludes with Coach Reem expressing gratitude to Susie for creating a platform to share his story and raise awareness about mental health.
• Susie reciprocates the gratitude and looks forward to meeting Coach Reem in person.