Did They Quit: Nicotine?

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Episode Notes [00:00] The Importance of Questioning [01:21] Introduction to Curated Questions [02:20] Meet Kevin Kelly [03:56] Kevin Kelly's Mentor: Stewart Brand [05:33] The Role of Questions in Intellectual Traditions [06:47] Disequilibrium and Growth [10:21] Embodied Questions and Exploration [11:11] Balancing Exploration and Exploitation [11:50] The Inefficiency of Questioning [15:53] The Abundance Mindset [18:39] The Inevitable and Quality Questions [19:26] Hill Climbing vs. Hill Making [22:28] The Challenge of Innovation [24:13] The Beauty of Engineering and Innovation [24:34] Navigating the Frontier of New Technologies [25:33] The Role of AI in Question Formulation [26:43] Challenges in Advancing AI Capabilities [29:11] The Long Now Foundation and the 10,000 Year Clock [29:56] Transmitting Values Over Time [31:03] Ethics in AI and Self-Driving Cars [33:26] The Art of Questioning [34:04] Photography: Capturing vs. Creating [36:12] The Inefficiency of Exploration [38:36] Daily Practice and Long-Term Success [40:17] The Importance of Quantity for Quality [43:22] Final Thoughts and Encouragement on Questioning [46:24] Summary Takeaways Resources Mentioned Wired Magazine Whole Earth Review WELL Hackers Conference What Technology Wants by Kevin Kelly The Inevitable by Kevin Kelly Cool Tools Project Long Now Foundation Stewart Brand Socratic Method Koan René Descartes Conde Nast Vouge Olivetti Typewriter Trolley Problem Terry Gross Lex Friedman Tim Ferriss KK.org Kevin2Kelly on Instagram Recomendo Newsletter Excellent Advice for Living Beauty Pill Producer Ben Ford Questions Asked When did you first understand the power of questions? Can I do that? Can that be something that you can learn? How did questions function differently between Eastern versus Western intellectual traditions? What role do you think embodied questions those we explore through doing rather than thinking play in developing wisdom? What's on the other side of the hill? What happens if you go to the end? What's the origin of this? How should one think about the exploratory in one's life? Is there anything that you would add to your list of 15 statements that define what makes a quality question? Is there a qualitative difference between the questions humans are asking and the questions our AI systems are beginning to formulate? What do you think would help them get there? Any idea on a forcing function on how we get them [LLMs] to ask the better questions so that they might improve in that direction? What were some novel questions that broke your brain at the time in thinking about this 10,000-year clock or beyond? What's it good for? What would you use it for? What else could you do over the long term for 10,000 years? How do you transmit values over time? How do you evolve values that need to change, and how do you make a difference? How do even know what you don't want to change? What do you want to continue? What's the most essential aspects of our civilization that we don't want to go away? What are the rules? What is the system? How do you pass things along in time and not change the ones you don't wanna change, and make sure you change the ones that are more adaptable so they can adapt? What do you think about questioning itself as an art form? How has being a photographer influenced the way you question reality, visually compared to verbally? Are you a photographer that takes photos or makes photos? What will happen? What will happen next? What are your right now questions that you are wrestling with or working with in your life? Can someone else do what I'm trying to do here? Am I more me in doing my art or more me in doing the writing? Do you have any other thoughts or encouragement about questions that we haven't explored? What makes a good question? How do you ask a good question? What questions do you dwell on to be in purposeful imbalance? What is your practice in embracing the inefficient nature of questions to achieve breakthroughs? What are the new hills you can build and frontiers you can explore? How can you use your curiosity and humanity to pursue questions that trend toward the fringes?…

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The next person we're checking in with this week is Ely Kreimendahl – host of one of our favorite podcasts, Shame Spiral. How did things turn out for Ely? Was she able to quit nicotine?

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Did They Quit: Nicotine?

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The next person we're checking in with this week is Ely Kreimendahl – host of one of our favorite podcasts, Shame Spiral. How did things turn out for Ely? Was she able to quit nicotine?

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#Society #Relationship #Lifestyle #Podcasting Education #Self-Improvement #Not Sorry LLC #Sorry #Self Help #Chaplaincy #Feminist

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Should You: Get a Divorce? 37:20

4 days ago37:20

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This week we have a special episode on the topic of divorce. Vanessa calls her friend, couples and family therapist Colette Potts , to discuss common issues for couples, infidelity, and the practicalities of divorce. Next week, we're back to our regular format with Mauricio! The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Remain Childless? 29:11

11 days ago29:11

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There's certainly been a theme with our submissions lately! Just like our guest from Should I: Have a Child?, Emily feels pulled in two directions about having kids. She can imagine a very full life for herself either way. As she nears the end of of her biological opportunity for kids – is she ready to shut the door on that possibility? This week, Mauricio and Emily discuss how to make a decision for the future when it feels like that decision can never be changed. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Expand My Business? 30:02

18 days ago30:02

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Brandon runs a successful restaurant group with his husband. Things are stressful, it’s a lot to manage, and they just got a great offer to open another restaurant in a hip part of town. Brandon is seriously tempted, but he’s also suspicious of his own temptation. Does he want to expand for the right reasons? This week, Mauricio and Brandon explore how various stories from our past influence our motivations for the future. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Invite My Dad to My Wedding? 36:15

25 days ago36:15

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Natalie has been ‘low-contact’ with her dad for a while now – she doesn't reach out or put any effort into the relationship, but hasn't totally cut him out of her life. Her upcoming wedding is putting some pressure on that resolution. If she does invite him, and he makes a scene or disappoints her, it will hugely impact the joy of the day. But if she doesn't invite him, that feels like a big line in the sand about the future of their relationship. This week, Mauricio and Natalie explore how we continue to repeat the patterns from our childhood, even as we make progress on healing. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Change The Way I Talk About My Health? 38:29

5 weeks ago38:29

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In the course of Sarah’s life, she often finds that she has to talk about her migraines. But the reactions she gets from people are frustrating and sometimes really hurtful. Can she take another approach to these conversations? This week, Mauricio and Sarah discuss the large and small ways that chronic illness interrupt life. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Have a Child? 31:53

6 weeks ago31:53

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Our guest this week has always wanted to have a kid. He’s also aware that having a kid will totally transform his life! Is he willing to give up parts of his life to make room for a baby? This week, Mauricio and our guest explore how to make space for aspects of our identity that sometimes compete. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Quit Being an Atheist? 29:39

7 weeks ago29:39

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About five years ago, River left Christianity. He felt constrained and needed space to explore and ask questions. Recently, he has been thinking about a return – but can he bring everything he learned on the outside back in? Or would he have to hide the new parts of himself to belong again? This week, Mauricio and River discuss the joys and drawbacks of religious community. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Continue to Travel to See Family? 25:42

8 weeks ago25:42

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Meghan lives with her partner and daughter in Costa Rica, far away from the rest of their family. They travel frequently to see their family, but it always feels like a huge effort to do so. Should they quit traveling so much? Or would that deprive themselves and their daughter of necessary family time? This week, Mauricio and Meghan discuss the duty we feel towards family and how to balance that with our own self-care. Mauricio mentioned our unlocked Real Talk perk on Patreon, you check it out here . The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Quit My Bookclub? 29:51

9 weeks ago29:51

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Elizabeth Rowe 's bookclub reading has started to feel like homework. She loves to read, but after a long day of work she wants romance and adventure and fantasy. Her bookclub, on the other hand, wants Tolstoy. Should she leave the club? This week on the show Mauricio and Elizabeth discuss the importance of community space. Elizabeth Rowe is a leadership coach. She's teaching an upcoming class for Not Sorry called Discerning Success. Sign-up here! The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Start Charging for My Work? 28:29

10 weeks ago28:29

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Ray is graduating with a Masters of Divinity this year but they know they don't want to pursue a traditional path towards ordination. They do want to continue providing spiritual care and counseling to their community. But should they be charging for that work? Shouldn't care be accessible to people who need it, without being a financial burden? On today's episode, Ray and Mauricio explore what it means to have a calling and the complicated web of care, disability, and capitalism. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Have a Life Partner? 33:20

11 weeks ago33:20

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Anna knows she wants to be a parent and she doesn't want to do it alone, but she's never particularly wanted a life partner. Should she reconsider that position for the sake of raising a child? On today's episode, Anna and Mauricio explore Anna's relationship to partnership and uncover some of the deeper anxieties at play for her. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Modern Friendship with Anna Goldfarb 32:32

12 weeks ago32:32

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Anna Goldfarb is a journalist and self-titled 'friendship expert' who is the author of the recent book Modern Friendship: How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections. This week she joins Vanessa to talk all about why we make friends, why we lose them, and how to keep them. Next week, we're back to our regular format with Mauricio! The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Settle Down? 31:09

13 weeks ago31:09

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Devon always said that when she moved back to Ohio, she would start planning for the future. She'd think about all the big things: about finding a partner, about whether she wants kids, about buying a house, about planning for retirement. But now that's she's finally moved home, she's been avoiding all those big topics. Is she avoiding them because she doesn't want them? Or is she avoiding them because it's scary to begin? This week on the show Mauricio and Devon talk about how to stay flexible and also build roots. The Real Question is a Not Sorry Production Find us at our website | Follow us on Instagram -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Start A Sabbath Ritual? 29:40

14 weeks ago29:40

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Serena, like all of us, wants to spend less time scrolling on her phone. She wants to make more time for community and deep conversations and joy. She wants to have some kind of sabbath practice. But what does that look like when you don't have a religious tradition to dictate the terms? This week on the show Mauricio and Serena walk step-by-step through designing a sabbath ritual. -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Go Back to Church? 27:46

15 weeks ago27:46

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Daniel Schroeder's dad is Methodist minister, so he grew up in the church. But about 10 years ago, after he graduated college, he stopped going. Now, after all this time, he's wondering if it's time to go back. This week on the show Mauricio and Daniel discuss the process of coming out and how to carve out a sense of individual identity within your family. Daniel is the host of Let's Ask Taylor Swift , our newest podcast at Not Sorry. Every other week he and Vanessa Zoltan dissect a Taylor Swift song and apply it to their lives. -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Change My Checklist for Dating? 27:06

16 weeks ago27:06

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A lot of us have a checklist for dating – things we're specifically looking for (or not looking for) in a partner. After a string of unsuccessful dates, Katie is re-evaluating her checklist. Are these things she really needs? What if they're getting in the way of her finding the right person? This week on the show Mauricio and Katie discuss how past relationships can continue to influence you long after they're over. -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Marry My Girlfriend? 24:07

17 weeks ago24:07

24:07

Leading up to the election, Marina and their girlfriend started joking about marriage. Once the idea was in the air, the question became more and more real. Sure they're young, sure they haven't been together that long, but they really love each other. Plus, heading into a conservative administration, LGBTQ+ rights aren't guaranteed. Is now the time to get married? This week on Should I Quit? Mauricio and Marina discuss when you should rely on the wisdom of your parents and when you should follow your instincts. -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Pursue Acting Professionally? 32:02

18 weeks ago32:02

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About a year ago, Evie completed a Master’s course in acting. But actually pursuing acting professionally feels like a whole different thing – like she’d have to really commit to it as her life’s dream and struggle for years and maybe still not ever make it. Thinking about that, Evie’s not sure if she good enough or feels passionately enough to commit to trying. This week on Should I Quit? Mauricio and Evie explore what counts as a dreams and when you should pursue it. -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I: Take an Art Class in 2025? 27:35

19 weeks ago27:35

27:35

It's a new year and we're bringing you a new season with a new host! Today Mauricio is entertaining a very special guest – Vanessa Zoltan. Maybe you've head of her? Vanessa is reflecting on what she wants for 2025 and is wondering whether she should take an art class this year. Art used to be a big part of her life and she misses it! But does she truly have the motivation to leave the house regularly, especially in the evening when she could be resting? -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I Quit: Final Reflection 11:45

20 weeks ago11:45

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That's a wrap on Should I Quit ! Today Vanessa shares what she's learned over the past two years of making this show. In exactly a week we'll be back with our first episode of the new season with Mauricio. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Did They Quit: Being a Stay-at-Home Parent? 10:39

20 weeks ago10:39

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It's our final 'Did They Quit' of the year! We're wrapping things up with the lovely Sophy. We originally talked to Sophy in April about how her career intersects with her caretaking responsibilities. Tomorrow: a final reflection and goodbye (for now!) from Vanessa. -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Did They Quit: Making Political Donations? 9:26

20 weeks ago9:26

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As promised, we're following up today with the other half of Pantsuit Politics : Beth Silvers. Back in March Beth decided she was going to stop making political donations beyond the local level. Was she able to stick to those convictions through the election? -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Did They Quit: Cussing 6:47

20 weeks ago6:47

6:47

Today we're checking back in with Sarah Stewart Holland from Pantsuit Politics to find out if she quit cussing. -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Did They Quit: Waiting for a Partner to Have a Baby? 8:32

20 weeks ago8:32

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Merry Christmas and Happy Channukah to those who are celebrating today! Today we're checking back in with Katie, our guest from Should I Quit: Waiting for a Partner to Have a Baby? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Did They Quit: Trying to Date Without the Apps? 9:07

20 weeks ago9:07

9:07

Today, we're checking back-in with Meghan from Should I Quit: Trying to Date Without the Apps? -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Did They Quit: Halifax? 11:10

21 weeks ago11:10

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Before we end 'Should I Quit', we're checking back in with some past guests. How did things turn out for them? Did they quit what they wanted to? Today, we're talking to Kaitlyn from Should I Quit: Halifax? -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Let's Ask Taylor Swift: Tim McGraw 31:39

22 weeks ago31:39

31:39

Not Sorry has launched its first new podcast since 2020! Let's Ask Taylor Swift is co-hosted by Vanessa and podcaster, writer and cultural critic: Daniel Schroeder. In each episode Daniel and Vanessa will focus on one song from Taylor's discography, asking themselves, each other, and you— the audience— what it is about Taylor's music that resonates so much with fans. In our first season, every episode will look at the lead single from one of Taylor’s albums. We're sharing with you our first episode on Tim McGraw, but we've also just released our second episode on Love Story in the Let's Ask Taylor Swift feed. If you enjoyed this episode, go subscribe! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I Quit: Breastfeeding? 31:56

23 weeks ago31:56

31:56

Julia has three toddlers at home. Her first child stop breastfeeding recently and it was a gradual process of feeling out when he was ready. But with her younger twins, breastfeeding has been harder – it's been making her sick. Should she stop breastfeeding them now to save herself from future illness? Or is it important to extend the same opportunity to her younger kids that her first child had? This week on Should I Quit? Vanessa and Julia explore how much of yourself you should give to parenting. If you'd like to attend one of the pilgrimages Julia is staffing next year, you can join her reading: Persuasion in Dorset in April Remains of the Day in the Cotswolds in July And Upstream in Montana in August -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I Quit: Being Car-less? 26:26

25 weeks ago26:26

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Zoe was always proud of the fact that she didn't own a car. It reflected her environmentalist values and helped her stay more deeply in community. But after a recent move to Colorado, it's clear that a car would make her life a lot better. So she's wondering: when is it important to stick to your values even when it's hard? And when it is okay to revise your values to make your life easier? This week on Should I Quit? Vanessa and Zoe explore how keep yourself from complacency. -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I Quit: Trying to Get a PhD? 27:40

27 weeks ago27:40

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Shannon recently withdrew from her PhD program – with two young kids and a full time job, it wasn't the right time. Now, a few weeks out from the decision, she's asking herself: what's the plan? Does she set aside her dream of getting a PhD? Or should she plan on going back? If so, when? This week on Should I Quit? Vanessa and Shannon explore how to make slow decisions. -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I Quit: My Ethical Phone? 25:24

29 weeks ago25:24

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Megan believes in doing the ‘right thing’ even when it’s a little inconvenient, so she bought herself an ethical phone. This phone is supposed to be 'forever' – the answer to our cultural habit of constantly buying new technology every few years. This phone is also really annoying. But is it annoying enough to give up on her ideals and switch to a ‘normal’ phone? This week on Should I Quit? Vanessa and Megan discuss which small actions matter and how to stick with them. If you’re interested in reading more about the ethics of mining cobalt, we highly recommend this piece from NPR: https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2023/02/01/1152893248/red-cobalt-congo-drc-mining-siddharth-kara Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Announcement: New Season Coming Soon 8:08

30 weeks ago8:08

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After two years of Should I Quit?, Vanessa is moving on to other projects. The Real Question is sticking around though, with a brand new host and a new question! If you'd like to submit a final question for Should I Quit? or be one of the first voices in our next season, you can submit here . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I Quit: Trying to Be Close with my Dad? 25:33

31 weeks ago25:33

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Stephanie used to call her dad every day. Then she realized: she was the only one putting work into their relationship. If she stopped calling, they stopped talking. So now, they don't really talk. But their relationship (or lack thereof) has been hanging over her head. Should she put the work in to try to fix it? Or is it time to just let go of the hope of a close and reciprocal relationship with her dad? This week on Should I Quit? Vanessa and Stephanie discuss how to have honest, loving and realistic relationships. -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I Quit: Befriending Men? 25:28

33 weeks ago25:28

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Andrea keeps having this problem: as soon as her single guy friends get a serious partner, it feels like she can't be close friends with them anymore. This doesn't happen with her female friends. It feels gendered, and it hurts. Is this going to keep happening? Should she stop investing in relationships with single, straight men? This week on Should I Quit? Vanessa and Andrea explore the unspoken rules and fears among single friends. -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I Quit: Buying Home Goods? (with Micaela Blei) 24:39

35 weeks ago24:39

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We're thrilled today to be joined by story-telling coach Micaela Blei – the co-teacher of our upcoming memoir writing class . Micaela enjoys making her home beautiful. She's good at scouring thrift stores and finding just the right touch to bring everything together. She's also a little bit ashamed of how much time and attention she puts into buying home goods. Is she making her days at home easier and better through small improvements? Or is she frivolously spending on un-important things? This week on Should I Quit? Micaela and Vanessa discuss how to know if our self-soothing techniques are positive or over-indulgent. If you enjoyed hearing Vanessa and Micaela on this episode, you can sign-up for their class: https://notsorryworks.com/writing-workshops-2024#memoir -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I Quit: Trying to Date Without the Apps? 24:19

37 weeks ago24:19

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Megan has always hated the dating apps. She's tried them – they're awful! Recently, however, she's been wondering if she should suck it up and give them another try. Is online dating truly the best way to find a romantic partner? Or should she continue waiting and hoping to meet someone 'organically' in the world? This week on Should I Quit? Vanessa and Megan discuss how to be clear-sighted and intentional while dating. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I Quit: Fighting My Acne? 23:33

39 weeks ago23:33

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Hope Rehak has been trying to treat her acne for the last 20 years. She's bought all kinds of things to 'help' – pills, shots, serums, and creams – but nothing has really worked long term. Is it finally time to just accept her skin for what it is? This week on Should I Quit? Vanessa and Hope discuss the struggles and limits of body positivity. If you enjoyed listening to Hope today be sure to check out her Substack, Obsessions this Week , and her upcoming screenwriting class ! -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I Quit: Wanting to Get Married? 26:02

41 weeks ago26:02

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For most of their life, Kat had a plan: move in with someone, get married, have kids. But recently they’ve been re-evaluating. They live with a long-term partner and are very happy. Would being ‘married’ change anything? Or do they just want marriage because that's what society has guided them towards? This week in Should I Quit? Vanessa and Kat explore why we want the things we want and how to ask for them. -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I Quit: The Plan B for My Radical Life? 26:15

43 weeks ago26:15

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Elizabeth Oldfield wants to live radically in her faith. She wants to transcend traditional ideas of financial stability and community responsibility. However she can’t quite quiet the pragmatic voice in her head that’s tethering her to more conventional values. Is that voice helping protect her? Or is it holding her back? This week on Should I Quit? Liz and Vanessa dig into the question of security and how much we can protect our future selves. Be sure to check out Liz’s podcast The Sacred and her new book, Fully Alive: Tending to the Soul in Turbulent Times . -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I Quit: Buying New Books? 23:02

45 weeks ago23:02

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Charlie James can't stop buying books. Every time they’re in a bookstore, there seems to be a new book calling them, a new trove of knowledge ready for them to explore. But Charlie's not reading books as fast as they’re buying them. Should they quit buying books and focus on their ‘To Be Read’ pile? Should they get rid of the books they already own? This week on Should I Quit? Vanessa and Charlie discuss what it means to be a ‘reader’ and its relationship to consumerism. if you want to check out Charlie’s comedy work, you can find them @nonbinarycowboy on TikTok , Instagram and X . -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I Quit: My Relationship with My Mother? 28:23

47 weeks ago28:23

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It’s our last episode with Mauricio Bruce filling in as a guest host! This week on the show, our anonymous guest shares about the difficult relationship she has with her mom. Things have been painful for a long time and she feels like now is the time to ask: at what point should she put up some stricter boundaries? This week on Should I Quit? Mauricio and our guest discuss what to do when people want different things from the relationship and how to protect your happiness. Mauricio is a transpersonal therapist, chaplain, and the co-leader of our What Matters program . You can learn more about What Matters at: https://www.literarychaplaincy.com/what-matters Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Special Edition: Storytelling and Taylor Swift (with Margaret H. Willison) 14:05

48 weeks ago14:05

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Vanessa is joined for a small bonus conversation by Margaret H. Willison, faculty on our upcoming Taylor Swift Pilgrimage on Cape Cod . They explore why Taylor's music is such a rich text for sacred reflection and share the things they're most looking forward to on this trip! If you're interested in joining us in November, you can sign up on our website ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I Quit: Waiting for a Partner to Have a Baby? 27:09

49 weeks ago27:09

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We’re continuing our short series with Mauricio Bruce filling in as a guest host. Mauricio is a transpersonal therapist, chaplain, and the co-leader of our What Matters program . This week on the show, our guest Katie shares with Mauricio about her desire to be a mom. She’s nearly 34 years old and she feels like the clock is ticking. The problem is she hasn’t found a life partner yet. She’s wondering: is it time to think about becoming a single parent? This week on Should I Quit? Mauricio and Katie discuss what to do when things don’t fall into place like you hoped they would. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Should I Quit: My City? 26:03

51 weeks ago26:03

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For the next few weeks on the podcast, while Vanessa is traveling, we have the wonderful Mauricio Bruce filling in as a guest host. Mauricio is a transpersonal therapist, chaplain, and the co-leader of our What Matters program . On our first episode with Mauricio, our anonymous guest is struggling with a tough decision about moving. On the one hand: She loves the currently city she is in. She feels the most herself, the most comfortable, the most at home, that she has felt in a long time. On the other hand: Her father is dying back home in Alaska. Should she give up her wonderful life (and the future she's building) to go be with her father? This week on Should I Quit? Mauricio and our guest discuss what we want to do versus what we feel we need to do. -- This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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The Best Advice Show: Deciding with Nell Wulfhart 7:01

1 year ago7:01